Stages of This Journey – Part 1

Each wife’s story and each marriage is unique.  I write primarily for wives who tend to be dominating, controlling, “overly-helpful,” perfectionistic and disrespectful in their marriages.   Most of us don’t realize that we are doing these things and aren’t purposely doing them.  Many of us start out thinking we HAVE to act the way… Continue reading Stages of This Journey – Part 1

“Is It ALL My Fault?”

My precious ladies, while it is true that a husband who feels disrespected by his wife is likely to act unlovingly toward her – there are MANY other reasons that a husband may be unloving toward his wife. Some of those reasons have NOTHING to do with what his wife does or does not do.… Continue reading “Is It ALL My Fault?”

An Exercise in Gratitude

Greg and April – celebrating Greg’s birthday last week Whatever we “feed” will grow. If I focus on the bad in my husband – I will have no problem finding bad things to meditate on. That is what I did for 14+ years.  I was really good at it. If I focus on the good… Continue reading An Exercise in Gratitude

New Stories to Share

I never get tired of hearing about and sharing what God is doing in people’s lives.  That is the greatest joy I get to experience doing this work for God.  I am so very blessed to have a front row seat to watch Him changing people and bringing glory to Himself in women’s hearts and in their… Continue reading New Stories to Share

“My Wife Would Bless Me If…”

From a husband who reads my blog: 1.  My wife’s default response to a suggestion or request (I rarely make demands) would be to say “Sure, no problem” rather than being met with a litany of reasons why my request is unreasonable. 2. When I try to make things more efficient to lessen her load… Continue reading “My Wife Would Bless Me If…”

Respecting Your Husband around Extended Family

Some suggestions  to consider for honoring your husband at family get-togethers (you are welcome to share tips on these issues that work in your marriage!): – Smile and look at your husband when he is talking and listen to him with interest. – Don’t interrupt him. – Don’t correct his story-telling. – Don’t tell him… Continue reading Respecting Your Husband around Extended Family

A Wife’s Path to Peace

A wife’s response to  “But I’m right!  I’m the better leader.  I should be in charge.” A SISTER IN THE LORD: Wow. I saw myself (thankfully how I used to be) in your post. I, too, saw myself as always right and the better person in my marriage. The fact that my husband and I… Continue reading A Wife’s Path to Peace

Why Do I Have to Change First?

Greg and me on our wedding day – May 28, 1994 We are continuing the series of FAQs that I hear from wives.  This has to be one of the most common questions I hear. He’s the one who is being so unloving!  He’s the one who is far from God.  He should have to… Continue reading Why Do I Have to Change First?

He Doesn’t Deserve My Respect.

We continue our series this week into FAQs.  If you have a question that I have not addressed, please let me know! 🙂 This seems like more than I can handle (part 1) When do I get to the “peaceful” part? (part 1) I don’t want to lose my voice in my marriage. (part 2) I feel like… Continue reading He Doesn’t Deserve My Respect.

But I’m Right! I am the Better Leader. I Should Be in Charge.

This seems like more than I can handle (part 1) When do I get to the “peaceful” part? (part 1) I don’t want to lose my voice in my marriage. (part 2) I feel like I am losing myself. (part 2) I feel so lonely. (part 3) I don’t know how to say things respectfully to my husband, so… Continue reading But I’m Right! I am the Better Leader. I Should Be in Charge.