I have had a request to share how my husband and I met and a little more about our dating history. There was a strong Christian boy when I was in 9th grade who had asked me to be his girlfriend that year. My twin sister and I had made a rule with our Daddy… Continue reading How I Met My Husband
Category: Christian Marriage
How to be a Lonely, Frustrated, Angry, Overwhelmed, Worried Wife
It takes a lot of work and commitment to do the things I am about to describe. But I promise you that if you carefully follow these steps, you will be successful at achieving your goals of having an unfulfilling, lonely, frustrating marriage. And I should know! I practiced many of these very skills for… Continue reading How to be a Lonely, Frustrated, Angry, Overwhelmed, Worried Wife
A REAL Helpmeet Suitable for Him
Sometimes we wives think we are helping our husbands when we are actually trying to control him like we talked about yesterday (check here if you missed it!). That was one of my biggest mistakes. I REALLY believed I was being helpful – but my husband saw me as being prideful (always “right”) and controlling.… Continue reading A REAL Helpmeet Suitable for Him
But He Needs My Help!
That’s what I used to think. I am “helping” him! That sounds noble and godly, right? That is what I told myself. Many women believe their husbands couldn’t survive in the world without them doing things for him and telling him what to do and critiquing him constantly and keeping a running account of all… Continue reading But He Needs My Help!
Respect 101 – From the Archives
So, husbands/men need respect in marriage. Women need love. (based on the commands of the Bible, and also experience!) For many years I tried to give my husband LOVE not RESPECT – and it didn’t work very well! I tried to ask him what he needed from me – and he couldn’t really tell me. It was… Continue reading Respect 101 – From the Archives
What Does Jesus Want Me to Do in My Marriage?
Marriage is HARD. Really – I would even say it is impossible – in human strength and effort alone. Men and women are SO different. We think and feel entirely differently. We have different priorities and needs many times. We approach things from completely opposite perspectives. We have very different strengths and weaknesses. Marriage is… Continue reading What Does Jesus Want Me to Do in My Marriage?
Receiving Your Husband’s Generosity Graciously
I learned a LOT about being a wonderful recipient of my husband’s attention, compliments, efforts and gifts from Laura Doyle’s “The Surrendered Wife” and from her book, “Things Will Get as Good as You Can Stand – When You Learn that it is Better to Receive than to Give!” RECEIVING AND FEMININITY Receiving well is… Continue reading Receiving Your Husband’s Generosity Graciously
A New Leader is Born
CHANGING THE DOMINANT WIFE/PASSIVE HUSBAND DYNAMIC When a wife has been trying to control the marriage and making most of the decisions and the husband has been unplugged for many months, years or decades – it takes TIME and practice for her to step down and learn to be a great follower and it takes… Continue reading A New Leader is Born
Are We Responsible For Our Spouse’s Happiness?
Last week over at the Peacefulwife Blog, one person left the following comment: I have found it ironic that husbands are not responsible for our happiness as wives (something I am learning) but they measure their success as husbands by our happiness. For a long time this trapped me. I felt like “If he wants… Continue reading Are We Responsible For Our Spouse’s Happiness?
The Blessing of Having a Husband Who Won't Pray with His Wife
WHAT??!!! Did you read that right? Surely, I’ve GOT to be kidding! Let me start by saying: I believe that husbands SHOULD pray with their wives. I believe it is their God-given responsibility to do so – if they are believers in Christ. I believe husbands will be accountable to God for their spiritual… Continue reading The Blessing of Having a Husband Who Won't Pray with His Wife