Let’s imagine that you have just folded a lot of laundry and you would like your husband to put his laundry away while you try to put the rest away.
It’s totally fine to ask your husband for things, in most cases. But there are some self-sabotaging ways for a Christian wife to ask and there are some healthy ways to ask.
6 Ways NOT to Ask Your Husband to Put Away Laundry:
“You know, it wouldn’t kill you to put your clothes away yourself.”
“What are you, an idiot? Why hasn’t it occurred to you that you need to put your own laundry away? What am I? Your maid?”
3. Playing the Martyr:
“No, don’t worry about me. I have nothing else to do. It’s not like I’ve had a headache all day or anything. I’ll put your clothes away myself while you sit and relax.”
“You’d better put your stack of clothes away… NOW.”
“If you don’t put your clothes away in 5 minutes, you’ll regret it.”
6. Giving a Choice Instead of Making a Request, Then Getting Upset If He Makes the Wrong Choice:
“Wouldn’t you like to put your clothes away?”
(He says, “No, thanks,” because he thought you offered him a choice.)
“I asked you to put your clothes up. You never help me!”
6 Ways TO Ask Your Husband to Put Away His Clothes
(With a smile and a friendly tone of voice, and possibly with a dash of friendly humor, sweetness, affection, or even *gasp* flirting.)
1. Honey, would you please take your stack of clothes to the closet? Thanks!
2. Babe, when you get a chance, it would be the sweetest thing if you would please put your clothes away. Thank you!
3. Hey, Honey, I have your clothes folded and ready for you to put them in the closet when you get a second sometime today. Thanks so much!
4. If only a handsome laundry fairy would take these clothes to your closet, it would really make my day!
5. If you get a chance to take these clothes to the closet, you would be my hero! (Sweet kiss and hug.)
6. If only there were a strong, tall, handsome man around here who would be willing to carry this heavy stack of laundry to the closet for me. I would be forever grateful!
“Outdo one another in showing honor.”Rom. 12:10
Remember, if he can’t help or he won’t help, it’s important not to freak out. Respond graciously and continue to seek to honor the Lord in the way you speak to your husband.
What suggestions do you have for healthy ways to ask your man for something?
How does the way you approach your husband change the way he relates to you?
How do you feel when people use these different approaches with you?