HAPPY THANKSGIVING TO YOU AND YOUR FAMILY!
Some tips for family get-togethers:
– Smile and look at your husband when he is talking and listen to him with interest.
– Don’t interrupt him.
– Don’t correct his story-telling.
– Don’t tell him how to drive unless he specifically asks for you to be the navigator. But even then, don’t critique his driving skills.
– Let him decide what to eat and don’t lecture him or give him THE LOOK!
– Don’t pout if he goes to talk with the men and leaves you with the women.
– If people get nosy and start asking things you don’t want to answer, “When are you having a baby? Are you ever going to get pregnant?” or other personal questions – smile and look at your husband and let him field those questions. If he’s not there, then smile and say something to deflect the question, “Children are a blessing, aren’t they?” “We’ll be sure to let everyone know if we have any news.” And change the topic sweetly.
– Praise him genuinely in front of others.
– Do NOT criticize him, speak negatively of him or use non-verbal disrespect (eye rolling, sighing, looking impatient, scowling, daggers in your eyes).
– Do NOT join in with other wives bashing their husbands!!!! Even if your husband never knows about it, putting your man down in front of other people is extremely disrespectful and it will taint your ability to respect your husband.
– If people want you to agree to something or commit to something, check with your husband first, or if he is there, look at him and let him answer.
– Uphold your husband’s parenting decisions (ESPECIALLY in front of others!).
– Smile and enjoy the blessing of being with your husband and family.
– Do not complain or argue – that ruins your witness for Christ and it can ruin the whole atmosphere for everyone.
– Do not be a martyr! Ask for help if you need it! If you can’t make a certain dish without feeling resentful – don’t make it!
– Don’t correct his manners.
– Don’t correct his pronunciation.
– Don’t insinuate he doesn’t make enough money.
– Be content with him and what you have.
– Find your strength, joy, identity and purpose in Christ!! Then you won’t feel compelled to drown your husband with your needs that only Jesus can fulfill.
– Let your husband make his own decisions. Don’t try to force him to do things your way. You may politely ask for what you would prefer – but then cooperate with his decision (unless he is asking you to sin).
– Make sure there will be some of your husband’s favorite dishes if possible.