I’m trying something a bit different today. This is a fictional story with a very real kind of situation many wives face daily. Let me know what you think!
BEEP! BEEP! BEEP!
The phone on the nightstand screamed to life waking Allie out of her pleasant dreams. It was time to start another day.
Time to get herself showered, dressed, and ready for work. Time to get the three children ready for school. In an hour, it would also be time for her husband, David, to leave to start the day at his grueling job.
As she stumbled into the bathroom and flicked on the light, wincing from the brightness, she immediately noticed her husband’s dirty socks on the floor 2 feet away from the hamper. Again.
She also saw that the toilet seat was left up, something she had politely asked David to try to avoid doing. And she couldn’t help but see that David’s sink had thousands of tiny little hairs left everywhere from where he had forgotten to rinse the sink out last night when he shaved right before bed.
The old Allie would have lost it. She would have marched right into their bedroom, shaken her husband awake, and demanded that he get up right then and put the toilet seat down, rinse the sink, and put his dirty socks in the hamper where they so obviously belonged.
That old voice in Allie’s mind beckoned to her. Enticing her to return back to her old ways. It was a bit tempting.
But Allie had a spiritual awakening, of sorts, six months earlier. She realized that she often acted toward David in ways that didn’t match up with what she said she believed about Jesus.
She began to understand that the way she thinks, speaks, and acts is a choice as a believer in Christ. And that the way treats other people reveals the depth of her love for Jesus.
She has been discovering that when she yields her heart fully to the Lord and gives Him control, He can give her the ability and power to act in Christlike ways that she doesn’t have apart from Him. She doesn’t have to cave in to the guilty pleasures of screaming and ranting like she used to.
Even better, she doesn’t have to live with the regret of lashing out and saying hurtful things to her family.
She is beginning to see now how much damage her harsh words caused her husband, her marriage, and her children. She had no idea for so many years earlier in her marriage that when she lost her temper, there was a steep price for everyone in the family to pay.
Lost intimacy. Lost joy. Lost happiness and fun times. Forfeited sweet memories.
It’s not that Allie couldn’t simply ask David for what she would like for him to do to help her out. She definitely could. But right now, he was asleep. And honestly, these three little things were not that big of a deal in the grand scheme of eternity. She knew that he didn’t purposely try to upset her.
He was in a hurry when he was getting to bed last night. He shaved just for her because he knew she would enjoy his kisses a lot more if his face wasn’t so scratchy. He wanted to get to spend some extra time cuddling with her and watching their favorite show together. They got started a bit later than planned.
Allie purposely veered away from that old voice and decided to think about the day before and all the good things her husband had done for her and the kids.
Why, just yesterday, her car battery had died. He was her knight in shining armor when he came as soon as she had texted him and jumped her car off and let her take his car so she could pick up the kids while he took her car to get a new battery.
And last night, when their 7th-grade son, Dillon, was struggling with Algebra I homework, her husband put aside his plans for the evening and spent two hours coaching their boy through polynomials.
She was sure it would have taken her at least an hour to brush up on the concept herself. But her husband cheerfully and patiently worked with their boy, calming his anxiety, and helping him understand. He was such a good teacher.
In fact, that was why her husband was a bit late coming to bed. Because he was trudging through Algebra with Dillon. But even though David was tired, he stayed up a bit late snuggling with Allie, smiling at her, and looking so content and happy to be with her.
He had started to let his guard down around her again. He looked like he was starting to feel safe with her emotionally, again. For several years, he used to just sit in the den watching TV by himself at night. But now, he enjoyed being with Allie and sharing precious times together.
As she thought about it, David seemed much more interested in physical intimacy in recent months, too. What a huge answer to prayer that development had been! She hadn’t realized how much her abrasive words and caustic attitude had turned him off in the past.
Allie decided to offer a prayer of thanksgiving to God as she thought about the sweet, loving, and kind things David had done for her and their children. And to thank God for what a gift David was in her life.
And then, she focused on a praise song to start her day. As she hummed, “Behold Our God” quietly to herself, she quickly picked up the socks and put them in the hamper, rinsed out the sink, and lowered the toilet seat. Surely she could have a selfless servant’s heart, just like Jesus did.
She decided to choose joy, peace, and thankfulness as she started a new busy day.
She let gratitude overwhelm and flood her soul. Gratitude for Jesus and the way He was healing her and her marriage. Gratitude for David and their marriage. Gratitude for her dear children.
Then before she left for work, when David was awake, she gave him a huge hug and a passionate kiss before she sped out the door. She whispered to him, “Thanks again for being my hero yesterday with the car battery thing. And thank you SO much for helping Dillon. Oh! And I really enjoyed our time together last night, too.”
Maybe she would mention the sock, sink, and toilet seat thing in a week or so if they continued or if it really bothered her. But she also started to realize that, some things just aren’t a super big deal. She decided to focus more than ever on the things that really will matter in the long run.
And she prayed on her way to work,
Thank You for helping me not get hung up on a few little things that really don’t matter much. Thank You for helping me remember the heroic things David did for me just yesterday. Thank You for giving me the power not to respond in my old flesh but to respond in the power of Your Spirit.
I yield my life, my marriage, and my family to You. I want nothing but Your greatest glory. I want to be as close to You as possible. Make me much more like Jesus. Heal us all by Your power, Your truth, Your Word, and Your Spirit. Thank You that You promise to complete the good work You began in us all. I rest in Your promises and in Your love today.
Make my life beautiful for Your Name’s sake.
Can you relate to Allie’s situation? Why or why not?
Is this story encouraging? I’d love to hear your thoughts.
What are some things the Lord has shown you that have blessed your life and marriage? Any pearls of wisdom you’d like to share?
My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, 20 because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires. James 1:19-20
Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things. Phil. 4:8
We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ. 2 Cor. 10:5