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TAKE THE QUIZ – Are You a Peaceful Wife?

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I would not have described myself as “un-peaceful” years ago as a wife. But, as I reflect on my heart and approach over nine years ago, I only had fleeting moments and flickers of peace. Peace seemed to last only a few minutes – or sometimes – only a few seconds. I really hadn’t ever experienced a continual stream of peace before. I didn’t even realize that was possible.

I was a Christian. I received Christ at the age of five.  I thought I was a strong Christian woman, wife, and mom. I went to church multiple times per week and read my Bible every day. I prayed constantly. I only listened to Christian music. I could quote tons of Bible verses. I wanted so much to impact the world for the Lord and to be a light to those around me. I wanted to be the best possible wife and woman.

Sadly, the fruit of my life did not reflect my intentions or the fruit of the Spirit. I really didn’t understand what was wrong or how to fix it.

The Quiz

Let’s do a bit of a self-evaluation together and see how you are doing with being a Peaceful Wife:

  1. Do you ever feel like you have to take charge in your marriage because your husband can’t or won’t lead?
  2. Do you ever find yourself feeling or acting impatient with your husband?
  3. Do you feel like you have to be the “adult” in the marriage?
  4. Do you notice your mind racing with worry and all of the possible “what-if” scenarios that could happen in the near and distant future for your marriage?
  5. Do you find yourself upset because your husband is not making you happy and is not the man you want him to be?
  6. Do you tend to feel like you are really the only one who knows what is truly best for your marriage and that if things don’t go the way you believe they should, everything will be a disaster?
  7. Do you sometimes grapple with holding onto grudges, unforgiveness, or bitterness against your husband?
  8. Do you feel like if only you had a better husband, or better circumstances in your marriage, you would finally be able to feel real peace and happiness?
  9. Does your husband feel disrespected, controlled, mothered, or smothered by you sometimes?
  10. Does your husband not seem to appreciate all of your helpful suggestions and shut down or get angry when you give him advice?

How did you do?

If you answered, “yes,” to any of the above questions, you are not alone. In my experience, a lot of wives struggle with a lot of these same issues. I know when I began my journey, I was filled with anxiety, worry, doubt, fear, bitterness, resentment, loneliness, and discontentment.

Being a Peaceful Wife doesn’t come naturally. But if you are looking for peace as a wife – and as a woman – you have come to the right place! Be encouraged. Help is on the way! I have such great news to share:

All of us have an invitation to live a life of constant peace.

Real peace begins when we allow the Prince of Peace to sit firmly on the throne of our hearts and lives.

I have personally been on this journey for over nine years now. And no, I am not the perfect woman, wife, or mom. But I am not who I was. I am not where I was emotionally and spiritually years ago. God is changing me. Growing me. Transforming me to be more and more like Jesus. Not by my heroic efforts or human wisdom, but by the power of His Spirit and His Word.

That is what I long for every wife, and woman, to find.

book-on-table-optimizedI’d like to invite you to check out the resources I have for you here:

Weekly blog posts to encourage wives on their journey. You are welcome to subscribe via email to receive a new post in your inbox to nourish your soul each week.

A Peaceful Wife Blog Facebook page with extra encouragement.

Videos and skits for wives on my Youtube channel, April Cassidy.

The Peaceful Wife – Living in Submission to Christ As Lord

Note – My book is most relatable to wives who tend to be “Type A,” driven, perfectionists, and “fixer” type personalities. If you are in a marriage where you tend to be shut down and your husband tends to be more controlling, angry and/or emotionally/verbally abusive, or you just need some extra help growing spiritually in your marriage, please check out this resource – Nina Roesner’s eCourse “Becoming a Woman of Strength and Dignity.” 

6 thoughts on “TAKE THE QUIZ – Are You a Peaceful Wife?

  1. Thank you once again for sharing truth with us ‘type A’ personalities. I would also share that ‘Type A’s’ can also learn a lot from the Strength and Dignity course. We are blessed by you and by what God is working thru in you. Love you!!!

    1. Stef,

      I have been reading through the first 7 sessions this week in Strength and Dignity – and I agree! I think any wife (and maybe a lot of single women, too) could benefit from the Strength and Dignity eCourse. 🙂 Thanks for sharing!

  2. God help me

    I feel sad my answers are YES in all bullets….I still pray for God to break me more by the day. My marriage is just 6 months but i seem to have less self control and fail to handle disagreements / arguments…..

    I can try for sometime BUT without realising it I find myself blowing out and fail to accommodate his angry, proud, rude and sulking attitude whenever we disagree or try to express my feelings. I admit I have some controlling attitude.

    I can’t say I am better than him but WE ALL NEED MORE GRACE and POWER OF THE HOLY SPIRIT. Fruit of the Spirit to spring forth through my life. I need more of WISDOM, LONG SUFFERING and GENTLENESS, HUMILITY.

    I have always been crying to God, repenting, praying for forgiveness, regretting every time I mess up. Praying not to mess up again and again. Praying for me to change, my husband to change and my marriage to resemble the relationship between CHRIST and THE CHURCH….We are all Christians though with different backgrounds…..So sometimes we view things in a different levels. I am not trying to push somethings just praying for divine intervention and God’s mercies.

    I FEEL DISCOURAGED AND HOPELESS AT TIMES…..BUT….I REFUSE TO LOSE HOPE IN PRAYERS, BECAUSE GOD IS MY ONLY HOPE!!

    Luke 18:27
    And He said, The things which are impossible with men are possible with God.

    2 Corinthians 12:9
    And He said unto me, My grace is sufficient for thee: for my strength is made perfect in weakness. Most gladly therefore will I rather glory in my infirmities, that the power of Christ may rest upon me.

    LOVE YOU ALL……Pressing on towards the journey to become “peaceful and Godly wife”

    1. Ny,

      Being a newlywed can be quite a rude awakening. I know it sure was for me! But I didn’t have anyone to help me make any sense of the turmoil we were experiencing – so it just went on and on for over 14 years.

      I’m so glad that you are reaching out to the Lord and reaching out for help. That is awesome!

      Would you be interested in talking a bit about what is going on?

      Much love!

Thanks for joining the discussion! Let's keep it classy and respectful. I'm so glad we can walk this road together.

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