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Am I “Too Chatty” with My Husband?

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Ladies,

This is another one of those topics where the key is balance. It is entirely possible to be way too talkative. It is also entirely possible to be way too quiet. Of course, what you talk about or avoid talking about also matters.

When there are many words, sin is unavoidable, but the one who controls his lips is prudent. Prov. 10:19 CSB

How I used to hate that verse! Probably because I talked almost non-stop. But – now I recognize it is very true. I believe that it can be wise to look at my motives and expectations every now and then if I find myself wanting to talk a lot.

Note – I am going to be speaking in generalizations, by necessity in a post like this. Your relationship may not always follow every generalization and that is totally fine!

WHY DO I WANT TO TALK WITH MY HUSBAND?

Some Not-So-Productive Reasons

If these are the reasons I want to talk with my husband, I need to go to the Lord and deal with any sin or wrong motives in my heart first. Then I can consider talking with my husband when I have taken care of my spiritual issues and I am filled with the Spirit rather than controlled by my flesh.

 

Some Great Reasons

  • I want to bond and connect with words for awhile. But I realize he may not bond this way and I know how much listening and talking he can realistically handle and I respect that.
  • There is important information I need/want to share with him.
  • I am looking to him for his wisdom and advice about an issue I am having.
  • I want to brainstorm with him about some plans.
  • I want to hear about things that are important to him.
  • I want to learn more about his perspective, masculine world, and mindset.
  • I have some legitimate concerns to share respectfully with him.
  • I want to humbly, respectfully, prayerfully confront him about his sin.
  • I want to ask him respectfully for something.
  • I want to talk with him to process my feelings and thoughts about something.
  • I feel lonely and want to feel closer to him – but I know that my primary security and contentmentย is in the Lord.
  • I want to build him up, bless, affirm, respect, and honor him.
  • I want to connect with him spiritually – if he is open and receptive to that, but if he is not, I can handle that graciously.
  • I want to enjoy his company and be his friend.

A FEW MORE THINGS TO KEEP IN MIND

  1. When I want to talk to someone, I need to remember my audience.
  • Avoid topics he doesn’t really like.
  • Respect his preferences if he doesn’t want to talk about the news or something that is upsetting to him.
  • Focus more on things he enjoys.

2. Everyone has different preferences about how much they like to talk and listen.

  • If he is an introvert, you may want to keep conversations brief. He may actually enjoy some silence.
  • If he is an extrovert, he may enjoy longer talks, especially about things he likes.

3. There are times when it may be better not to have a deep, emotional, intense discussion.

  • One or both of you is sick, very hungry, or in significant pain – the flesh is weak.
  • You are hormonal.
  • It is late at night.
  • One or both of you is completely exhausted.
  • There is a very stressful situation.
  • He is watching his favorite football team.
  • He is working on a plumbing problem and trying to concentrate.
  • He doesn’t seem receptive.
  • You are in “flesh mode.”

4. Men sometimes associate talking with painful things like:

  • “There is a problem.”
  • “You are the problem.”

Not with:

  • “We are connecting and bonding.”

If you can make talking with you a pleasant, friendly thing, he may enjoy it more. ๐Ÿ˜‰

5. If you just want him to listen, not to solve any problems, let him know that up front.

Give him a respectful heads up about that he is helping you by just listening for 10 minutes while you process your thoughts verbally. Most guys (not all, but most, in my understanding) don’t have this need and will feel like they need to fix things if we are sad or upset. If they know that just listening does help us feel better, and we show that we feel better after they listen, that can encourage them to want to listen more often.

6. A lot of men don’t really enjoy hearing every detail about our hobbies, friends, family, shopping experiences, etc…

We can sometimes easily overload them with a lot of minutia that may not be particularly engaging to them.

7. Men and women tend to talk differently.

  • Women tend to bond by talking face-to-face with words.
  • Men tend to bond by doing things together shoulder-to-shoulder, not face-to-face.

Face-to-face can feel rather emotionally intimidating to men at times. If you are watching them constantly, it can make them feel emotionally “naked” or extra vulnerable. They tend to bond just by being together and having shared experiences, or they may love to bond through sex with their wives. Just because he doesn’t bond in the same way doesn’t mean he doesn’t want to bond with you. Try to do some things that help you feel bonded and some things that help him bond his way.

For details about the research behind these tips, check out Shaunti Feldhahn’s best-selling book, “For Women Only.”

SCRIPTURE:

Verses about talking too much

Verses about the wisdom of silence

COMING UP:

I hope to share on these topics in the next few weeks:

  • What to do when you really need another outlet for talking.
  • How to tell if you are too quiet with your husband.

 

SHARE:

What wisdom has God given you about this topic that may be a blessing to other wives? What struggles do you have in this area?

 

Much love!

RELATED:

Being Married to a Man Who Doesn’t Talk Much

Being Married to a Man Who Is Emotionally/Spiritually Shut Down

“We Need to Talk!”

Husbands and Emotionsย – multiple post links

A Silent Husband Shares His Heart

I Wish My Husband Would Pray with Me More

When Your Husband Needs Space

A Fellow Wife Thinks about Giving Space

How to Ask Your Man for Things Respectfully

How to Be a Safe Place for Your Husband Emotionally

 

47 thoughts on “Am I “Too Chatty” with My Husband?

  1. Your posts continue to painfully and thankfully challenge me!! I have come to realise that my mouth has indeed a whole will of it’s own! Arrrrrrrghhhhhh!!! :))))) X x

    1. Isaiah6510,

      This is definitely challenging! It is the stuff that the Lord challenges me with for myself. May He empower us to have His victory over our mouths, words, and thoughts! We sure need His power to do this!

  2. I love the list you gave of good reasons to speak to our husbands. In reading that list, I thought it would be wise for me to let my husband know my motive prior to speaking with him. Other than the one about confronting sin, because I feel like that would close him up to even listening at all and would not be gentle. Thank you, this was very informative. It is also very timely. I am in celebrate recovery and I picked up a chip for my โ€œmouthโ€ just a few days ago. ๐Ÿ™‚

    1. Heidi,

      Hopefully the one about confronting sin would only be necessary very rarely in most cases. I don’t think we have to confront every single sin we see in our husbands, necessarily. And if our husbands are feeling really disrespected by us, they probably won’t be open to hearing a rebuke from us until they see us change a lot. I know that was true in my own life.

      I’m glad this was a blessing – it would have been super helpful for me about 9 years ago when I started this journey and had ZERO clue what I was doing!

    2. Congrats on your chip Heidi!

      Stay strong in Celebrate Recovery! Yea!

      (PS. Not super familiar with Celebrate Recovery – thinking it is like AA when the chips commemorate a time of growth in a certain area. Forgive me if I spoke amiss.)

      Much love!

  3. It always seems these post align perfectly with what I’m going through or thinking lately!
    As far as this topic goes this is a huge thing i’ve noticed lately – when i talk less, and just walk with my husband, sit with him, or just be with him and smile he will come to me more, love on me or hug me/ask how i am doing. When i am talking talking talking is when i feel he disconnects a bit and seems further or distant. So weird to me, and def not ideal for a woman and talker like me but i’m learning theres actually lots of freedom in just being quiet more. Mainly bc of motives like mentioned above. A lot of times i find myself trying to manipulate my husband with my words and this is wrong! Where when I’m just with him, focused on christ and joyful I end up drawing him near.
    I guess that’s what girl friends are for!

    1. niki,

      Aw! This is awesome! I found the same things to be true in my relationship with Greg. And yes, we do need girl friends! It’s awesome to have a husband. It is awesome to have some great girl friends, and it is awesome to have the Lord to confide in, too. One man can’t meet all of the emotional/verbal needs we have sometimes, but that is okay.

  4. Great post. I’ve learned that my husband needs silence in the morning. He is not a morning person and needs time to wake up and get his head on straight. If I have something I need to talk with him about, I wait until late morning or afternoon, and I usually ask if he can spare me a few minutes to talk before I dive in. Sometimes he can and sometimes he can’t. If he can’t he always lets me know that he wants to talk with me later when he is available. LOL, what I find interesting is that he doesn’t do this with me, and I wish he would!

    1. Istrovas,

      That is really important information. I’m so glad the Lord has given you this wisdom, I’m sure it makes communication a lot better. Yes, I am sure we all have our preferences. ๐Ÿ™‚

  5. God sometimes has a wonderful way of giving us a taste of our own medicine. Recently, I had to drive to a conference with another woman. She was chattering the whole time while I was trying to drive in heavy traffic. And talking about really dumb things like purses. Gave me a taste of what it must feel like to be a husband sometime and made me much more cognizant of giving my poor husband’s ears a rest.

    1. Marked Wife,
      I have experienced the same thing. Funny how I had no problem talking constantly, or bossing other people around, or trying to control or criticize them. But if someone did that to ME?!?!?!? Oh, man! That was the worst thing ever! It is sobering to be on the receiving end of my own behavior and to experience it from the other end. Great reminder NOT to do that again!

  6. I have struggled with this! I have known my husband since we were little kids and in high school is when we fell in love. I sometimes feel more like we are buddies than he is a grown man that goes out everyday, works hard and comes home! I have to check myself and make sure I invest in him and his day instead of overloading him with all the stuff that happened at my work. This is something I’ve really tried to work on but sometimes don’t know how to go about it! Thank you for your words and encouragement!!!!

  7. Love this! I think I do well in this area but I wasn’t always doing well. I agree about the For Women Only book, it is really good and there is a men’s book too if your husband is interested.

    I just wanted to point out what you said about men preferring side by side. For us that translates to us talking sitting next to each other on the couch while the TV is on but we’re not really watching it. I actually prefer not face to face too although I know most women do.

    1. Kathleen Bailey,

      That book was such a help to me early in my journey when Greg just couldn’t really articulate his thoughts to me very well. It opened my ability to understand how different his thoughts and perspective could be. Yes, there is a book, For Men Only, for the husbands, as well.

      Yes, that is how we often talk, too. Sitting side by side in bed with him watching TV. I am free to bring things up almost any time these days. But I try not to overload him. And I try not to talk when he is watching something that is really important to him.

      Thank you for sharing your thoughts and how you prefer not talking face-to-face. There is less pressure shoulder-to-shoulder. ๐Ÿ™‚

  8. I have learned that introversion and extroversion are not necessarily indicative of a husband’s preferences with talking. My boyfriend is very introverted (at least on the Myers-Briggs personality test) in general, but very extroverted with me specifically. Sometimes I would feel guilty that I am talking “too much” but he actually wants to hear everything! I feel like this is more of an unusual scenario but I would encourage wives with introverted husbands who want a lot of conversation to give him that conversation without feeling guilty about it. ๐Ÿ™‚

    Love,
    Flower

      1. Flower,
        Very good point!

        My husband is introverted, but with me, he sometimes will talk for an hour about his day or a project at work. I am really one of the only people he talks to a lot. So I try to be available, receptive, friendly, and responsive. ๐Ÿ™‚

    1. Flower,

      Yes, if a husband/boyfriend enjoys lots of conversation, that is great! There are many factors involved in how much talking/listening someone can do at that season in his life.

  9. Uh oh. I felt a little zing when i read the line about explaining my perspective so I can show him I am right. That one hit a bullseye with me. Without going into a ton of detail here, several years ago my husband and I had a huge fight and our perceptions and opinions of the situation differed greatly. Although we eventually agreed to disagree and things are back on track with us, that old fight pops up on a rare occasion and I canโ€™t resist restating my stand on the matter.

    Thank you for posting this. This is yet another one of your posts that has me thinking about examining areas in my spritual life that could use some refining.

    1. Happily Gave Up,

      Guess how I can describe that situation so well? ๐Ÿ˜‰

      Yep. I spent many years doing exactly that. But what I thought of back then as just “innocently explaining” myself to him, was really me being contentious. My husband is an intelligent guy. He understood what I was saying pretty early on in the explanation. If there seriously are important things I have left out, yes, I may need to share things respectfully. But usually, when I want to go on and on explaining myself it is not because my husband doesn’t understand. It is because I think he is wrong and I am right and I want to make him change his mind and agree with me.

      A 5th grader at my daughter’s school has a t-shirt that says, “I’m not arguing. I’m just explaining why I’m right.”

      Ouch.

      It is a healthy thing to explore each other’s viewpoints and perspectives. It is great to explain things to a degree. To share. But there is this point where it becomes arguing and contention. That is definitely not cool.

      I’m glad this post was a blessing. It is one that I needed about 30 years ago when I was a teenager. Could have spared me and other people I love quite a lot of grief if I had understood some of these things back then.

      Thanks for sharing and much love to you!

  10. I’ll have to review this and re-read it a couple of times. Initially this does look like a blog post I would love to use in pre-marital counseling. Thank you so much for thoughtfully engaging a very real issue in every marriage– communication!

    1. deeplygrateful,

      Thank you for the feedback. I pray God will use this post to be a blessing to many. May Christ be greatly exalted in our motives, thoughts, and words as we allow Him to transform our thinking. ๐Ÿ™‚

      1. Just re-read it. I have made multiple copies of it to give out when doing pre-marital. I definitely think you hit the nail on the head with the face to face versus shoulder to shoulder conversations. Thank you once again. Would you mind if I shared this on my personal blog page? If so, is there a preface you would desire to have?

        1. deeplygrateful,
          I’m glad this is helpful. ๐Ÿ™‚ That is a blessing to me. Yes, you may share the post. If you would just share something like:

          This is a guest post from April Cassidy, blogger at http://www.peacefulwife.com and author of “The Peaceful Wife – Living in Submission to Christ As Lord.”

          ๐Ÿ™‚

  11. Well, you just ran over me with a mack truck! Hooley dooley! I talk a lot too and i need to cut back. My husband calls me through out the day expecting a conversation. Just upbeat and positive and small talk. He doesnt like silence. And neither do i. But i get stuck for conversation. So im not sure how to handle it. And all of my children have learned to be talkers. And constantly ask questions. How do i encourage them to talk less? Will print this out for sure!

    1. Anon M,

      It is not wrong to have positive, upbeat small talk. And if your husband loves to have conversations with you, that is awesome! You can still invite the Lord to guard your mouth and motives.

      You are homeschooling your kids, of course they have a lot of questions! That is a good thing. But you can prayerfully seek the Lord’s wisdom about this. It may be that you can practice having some quiet time where they practice being silent for a bit. Particularly if they do seriously talk non-stop. You can also work with the older ones about motive.

      <3

  12. Hey April,

    Would you be willing to write a post about righteous anger and when to refuse to compromise? Not in the context of with husbands or boyfriends, more specifically with people who aren’t your husband! ๐Ÿ™‚ I have been focusing on respecting my boyfriend and other people so much that I want to be sure that I can properly “switch mindsets” and not back down if there is a problem or wrong or unfairness that needs to be addressed if it affects either myself or those under my protection. I am very interested in this topic in general, but also specifically when it involves disciplining another person’s kids. I’m talking about things like:

    1. your neighbor demands that you no longer let your cat out because he’s allergic, even though the apartment complex permits cats and permits letting them out

    2. your sister’s child bites or punches your child, but she refuses to discipline him

    3. a stranger’s child physically hurts your child in a park, but his mom won’t discipline him

    4. 2 and 3, but the child hits you instead of your kid

    5. your housesitter steals from you

    6. your child’s teacher wrongs your child

    7. your boss makes up lies about you

    etc. etc. Stuff like that. I realize the obvious Christian response is, “forgive them,” but what do you do BESIDES forgive them? Jesus Himself took a stand for things, like calling the Pharisees out, driving the money changers out of the temple (with a whip!), and stopping people from stoning a woman who had committed adultery. And yet righteous anger is obviously not an okay response to every unfair situation! So stuff like when should you have righteous anger and how should you display it in a God-honoring way, how do you keep from being too respectful and backing down when you’re trying to defend yourself or someone under your protection, etc. Thanks! ๐Ÿ™‚

    Love,
    Flower

    1. Flower,
      1. I would respectfully remind my neighbour that regulations are not being broken. And while i am sorry they are allergic. No one forced them to live there and if they want the regulations changed or reviewed, they need to speak to the person in charge.
      2.If my sisters kid did that to my child, it can be dealt with without a smack. You need to make it clear to both mother and child that it will not be tolerated. That you would still like to see them, but they need to understand that there are certain ground rules that need to be laid out. And then establish some firm but fair ground rules and stick to them. Or make it clear that this is how you would deal with it if it was your child. And if their child is left in your care, they need to agree to let you carry out appropriate discipline while they are there.
      3. I would move to another part of the park or to another venue to continue play. If that childs behaviour continues, they will build a reputation for themselves.
      4. I would never give any child even a hint that they had a chance at hitting or striking out at me.
      5.Confront them. If you have proof and they still deny it, have them charged. (Depending on what it was they stole) but i wouldnt invite them to house sit for me again.
      6. Im not sure what you mean by ‘wrongs’ your child. I would confront the teacher for further explination. Question my child and if the teacher was genuinely being as fair as possible under the circumstance and your child is just having a pout, id tell them life is not fair and they need to put up wih the consequences. On the other hand after taking the first two steps and praying about it, i would confront the teacher in a meeting with the head of the school and try and come to an agreement.
      7. The overarching idea is, biblically, you are to live a life above reproach infront of everyone. Refer to 1 Peter 2 v 11-21 if they are asking you to do something illegal or making innapropriate advances to you etc there are steps to take to protect yourself. I wouldnt allow myself to be alone with them and id record every incident.
      April may have a different opinion to mine. But thats how i would look at it. ๐Ÿ˜Š

    2. Flower,

      It looks like Anon M did a pretty amazing job, but I will go ahead and share some thoughts, myself, too. ๐Ÿ™‚

      With all of these things, we must be in a spirit of submission to Christ as Lord, seeking to honor Him in how we respond. And we may need to take time to pray and seek the Lord’s guidance and wisdom.

      1. I come from a family with a lot of allergies. Including having a son who is allergic to cats. Are there other cats that go outside at the apartment complex? Is the neighbor coming into direct contact with the cat? I guess my first approach would be, “I’m so sorry to hear that you are allergic to cats. That sounds so frustrating. Would you mind telling me a bit about how severe your allergy is and what you think might help the most?” And then, when you have that information, you may be better equipped to decide what is best.

      2. First, I would want to know the situation. Is this a baby under the age of 1 year old? Is the child a special needs child? Is there a specific reason she doesn’t address the issue? Is she afraid to discipline her child? Is she afraid to upset her child? Has her husband given her specific instructions and she is trying to honor him? It would be helpful first to try to understand what is going on in her mind. If she is afraid to discipline her child, then it may be that you can talk with her or share resources with her that may be helpful – if she is receptive.

      In a situation like that, if the child who bit is old enough to understand discipline, and once you understand the issues, a mom could say something like, “I love you so much. I want to get to be together as much as possible and I want our kids to get to play together. I know that kids sometimes do stuff like this. It is unavoidable at times that something will go wrong. But – I want both of our children to be safe. If my child does something hurtful to your child, I will address it right away. And if your child does something to hurt my child, I expect you to address it right away.”

      If she still will not address the issue, then you may have to set limits lovingly and respectfully like, “Okay, this makes me so sad. But until you are willing to address this hitting/bitting issue, we are not going to be able to have play dates.”

      3. You can certainly respectfully request that a mom in the park address the issue with her child, but if she will not, leave and go somewhere else. I am personally aware of a number of similar situations where the offending child’s mom got mad at the wounded child’s mom for even asking her to address her child’s hitting issues. And the mom beat up the other mom who asked her to discipline her child. There are some crazy people. You can’t discipline another mom’s child at the park. But you can remove your child. If the injuries are severe enough, you can also involve the authorities.

      4. Same approach. ๐Ÿ™‚

      5. If you have solid evidence that the house sitter stole from you, you can first confront him/her respectfully and firmly. “It seems that X is missing. I wanted to give you a chance to respond and let me know what happened.” If they lie, and you know that they stole, then you can go to the police, if you feel it was a significant enough issue.

      6. This depends on how serious the wrong was.

      – If the teacher sexually assaulted the child, threatened the child, or did something illegal or immoral, go to the police and the principal immediately.
      – If the teacher is being hateful or incompetent – address the teacher first (Matt. 18:15-17 style). Seek to understand the teacher’s concerns. Speak respectfully to the teacher and of the teacher to your child (which can be very challenging at times). If the teacher will not fix the issue, go to the administration. We had to do this last year for our son with a teacher for a number of reasons. It is REALLY tough to watch your child be wronged. Thankfully, it is an opportunity to demonstrate to your child how to treat those in authority with respect and how to address problems and wrongs correctly and then how to move up the chain of authority until the issue is settled. If the administration won’t handle it, then other options will have to be considered prayerfully.

      7. This depends on your work situation. Do you work for a small mom and pop place where your boss is the owner and answers to no one else? Do you work for a corporation where there is someone above your boss? Ideally, first you would take your concerns to your boss directly. Of course, it depends on how severe the lies are, exactly how you would handle this. Is he/she doing anything illegal or immoral? What is the reason your boss is lying about you? Is your boss a professing Christian or not? Then, if you work for a corporation, you may be able to go above the boss’s head if necessary. And you would want to document as much as you could. There are times when lawyers may have to be involved.

      You can also pray. And fast. And get other believers to pray with you. If it is a spiritual attack, that can be the best way to handle things up front. Praise God. Trust Him. Seek Him. Invite Him to do something amazing in the situation. Invite Him to work in your boss’s heart.

      Much love!

      1. Flower,
        I actually have a section on the issue with someone else wronging our children in my next book The Peaceful Mom! And God gave me the opportunity to go through that very thing with our son’s biology teacher while I was writing that chapter. So I got a chance to practice what I was writing for months! ๐Ÿ™‚

        1. Thanks April and AnonM for the replies! What you have written is helpful and very applicable to the specific situations that I discussed. I would also be interested in something more general about righteous anger. And I am wondering, is not disciplining another person’s kids actually forbidden by scripture? (Obviously you would want the kid’s parents to handle the discipline, and you should go first to them and ask them to discipline their own kid, but if they refuse and their child continues their behavior, is it actually commanded by scripture that you must either do nothing or avoid the situation?) The advice was certainly helpful, but I was looking more for an idea of what righteous anger looks like and how it is expressed. I was also looking for advice on how to deal respectfully with conflict without agreeing with the other person. Do you just keep repeating yourself and politely insisting that the situation be addressed?

          There are some other situations I was thinking of that related to people disciplining another person’s kids.

          A teacher at the school my dad works at was physically assaulted by a 7th grader. The teacher had his back turned and the student attacked him from behind in his classroom without any warning. The teacher reacted instinctively and flipped the kid over his shoulder onto the ground in self defense. Note that this student had no disabilities of any kind; he was simply aggressive and disobedient.

          In middle school, one of my friends was getting bullied (kicked, shoved, and called names), but it was always when teachers weren’t around so nothing could be proven, even though there were various attempts by my friend’s parents to address the situation. The bully didn’t stop until my friend’s older brother (who was an instructor at the mountain where the bully took snowboarding lessons) intentionally sat on the lift next to the bully and threatened him that if he ever laid a finger on his brother again, he would be dealing with him.

          So I get that you want to might want to start off more meekly, but surely there are situations where a stronger approach is necessary in order to ensure that a situation gets resolved?

          Love,
          Flower

          1. Flower,

            A parent has a large degree of authority to discipline his/her child. A teacher has some degree of God-given authority to discipline his/her students. A principal has God-given authority to give consequences and certain kinds of punishment to his/her students. A police officer has some God-given authority to deal with illegal activity and assault.

            I do not have authority from God over other people’s children unless it is given to me by the child’s parent or by God because I am a leader in that child’s life in some way.

            If they don’t deal with it, and it is bad enough, you remove yourself from the situation. When they want to get together again, you again state, respectfully, what you need to happen. If they refuse to do it then, you don’t get together.

            Self-defense is different from disciplining other people’s children. If someone is truly attacking our children and putting them in harm’s way, and we can’t leave, and the person won’t stop when we ask them to stop, yes, we may have to physically defend our children. It is our job to protect our own children. That is also a very different thing from disciplining someone else’s child. And we may have to call the police, at times.

            But in general, we should seek to go through the channels of authority in that child’s life.

          2. Flower,

            The book Boundaries by Drs. Cloud and Townsend may also be very helpful to address how to rightly handle times when we are being sinned against. This topic can easily be a whole book!

          3. Hi April,

            Thanks for the reply and additional clarification! I still would be interested in a general post or any resources you know of about righteous anger and defending yourself (or others) respectfully without capitulating to another person’s unreasonable demands. Do you have anything like that? ๐Ÿ™‚ Or was the Boundaries book recommended for that? I wasn’t sure if you meant it for that or the issue of disciplining someone else’s kids. Thanks!

            Love,
            Flower

            1. Flower,
              The Boundaries book can be helpful about dealing with unreasonable people in general, so can Leslie Vernickโ€™s resources on conflict and dealing with toxic people. โค๏ธ

              1. Flower,

                If the childโ€™s parent is present, I should appeal to that person first. If no parent is present – I can tell the child not to hit or bite my child or myself.

                But I donโ€™t get to spank another personโ€™s child to discipline them. Or put them in time out.

  13. I really fall for the balance situation in being chatty because it hits me directly, thank you very much for your post about being chatty. I always created a fight when I my husband shows signs of boredom to my stories, he will tell me nicely that he is tired but still I get angry because even though he is tired he can spend hours to chat with others but not me.

    1. Tereram,

      It can be frustrating to find a good balance for both husband and wife. Sometimes ministers can get all “talked out” before they get home. But that is tough on a wife and family at times.

      Praying for God’s wisdom and healing for you both, precious sister.

  14. I found this very beneficial. It helped me understand the struggle between me and my husband when it comes to communication. When I communicate with him, it’s usually for a not so productive reason. I’m looking forward to additional post.

Thanks for joining the discussion! Let's keep it classy and respectful. I'm so glad we can walk this road together.

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