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The Smiling Challenge – 5 Minute VIDEO


I would like to issue you a little challenge this week, my friends!

Whenever you go in the room where your husband is –

please smile at him.

  • Not to change him.
  • Not to get any specific results from him.
  • Just to bless him.

Stay close to God. Be in His Word daily. Lay your life fully before Jesus and give yourself 100% to Him as The Lord of Your Life. Let His joy flood your soul as you seek to obey Him and please Him and as you are overcome with gratitude for all He has done for you.

Let that joy shine and radiate from your face. πŸ™‚

Rejoice in the Lord always, I will say it again, REJOICE! Philippians 4:4

Focus on the Philippians 4:8 things in your life:

Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirableβ€”if anything is excellent or praiseworthyβ€”think about such things.

Bless your husband Β with some REAL smiles this week. You know the kind of smile that lights up your eyes and your entire face. Yep. That’s the one I am talking about!

You probably have NO IDEA the power your smile has over that man. When you are genuinely happy (or better yet, joyful in Christ)  – he feels like more of a success as a man and as a husband. Your smile draws him to you. It is PLEASANT to be around someone who is smiling and welcoming.

Bless your children with some real smiles, too! They will thrive when they see you radiating love and joy.

Let me know how you do! πŸ™‚

33 thoughts on “The Smiling Challenge – 5 Minute VIDEO

  1. I love this, April!
    I once asked my husband to share with me one thing I could do better that would please him. My husband usually takes a while to respond to questions like this one or else he dodges an answer with something like “You do everything fine.” But THIS time, he looked right at me and replied, “Smile. Your smile is all I need.”
    Now I smile every time me enters the room and greet him from work with smiles and hugs. I smile up at him frequently when we are out and about in public. He responds so positively to my happy relaxed countenance. Accept the smile dare, ladies! It’s so easy and rewarding.

    1. Hi April-Thank you for this challenge. I am going to try this- your video has confirmed some valid points for me. my husband of 27yrs-may 28th!!(same as your anniversary) has always said that the first thing that attracted him to me was my smile and what you said in your video about “that smile” we have that lights up our face- I have smiled at my husband genuinely and watched his face light up as he smiles back at me-what a look of love! I realize I have been too consumed with “stuff” that its been a while since I smiled at my dear husband and young adult children.Thank you Thank you- I will let you know how this week goes. I thank Jesus for you and what He is enabling you to do . blessings to you!

      1. fam6,

        Aw! I love this! It makes me smile to read about your husband’s response when you smile like that. SO PRECIOUS!!!! I can’t wait to hear back from you about this week. Praying for you, my sweet sister!

        1. Hi April- Another comment for the Smiling challenge!! Last night the door bell rang-it was my husband coming home from work with a beautiful yellow glad flower and fresh rhubarb in his hands ! he picked them up on his way home from a country stand. ( I really wanted some fresh rhubarb for baking)he has done this before but after I answered the door and smiled from my heart and gave him a huge hug and tons of kisses, and told him how happy he makes me( I have not been telling him this until reading your blog about how much it means to our husbands that they make us happy) so true!!!!. he said later out of the blue” I love so much to see my wife smile-it blesses my heart”. I know how hard it is to smile when I dont get the affirmation or have nothing to smile about-but I am learning to use the beautiful smile that God has put in my heart to bring His love to those I love. I am doing it in baby steps to make sure it is real from my heart. Thanks April for letting me share this.

  2. I totally agree that a smile is a very important thing! I am the kind of person who is very focused and sometimes when I am really concentrating on something in my head, for some reason, I look like I am mad or upset. When my children were young, they would ask me why was wrong! My husband was constantly saying to me, “smile, Babe!” I really didn’t understand what everyne was talking about, so I decided to look in the mirror one day when I was deep in thought…..yuck! I looked horrid! I really did look mad…and very unhappy! :(. I realized I needed to change that! My husband started helping me with this by saying, “smile!” when he would see me with that icky frown on my face. I started to intentionally smile. I had to really work at it! But now I smile a lot. As a matter of fact, I rarely ever hear him say, “smile, Babe!” When I smile at my husband and he smiles back, something beautiful happens! You lock eyes and you feel this soul connection….it really draws you close in an incredible way. It really is a powerful thing!

    1. Eliza,

      This makes me smile! πŸ™‚ I love that you looked in the mirror and finally saw what your family was seeing. Such a beautiful description of the power of smiling at our husbands. Thank you for sharing, my sweet sister!

  3. A comment from FB that a wife has graciously allowed me to share:

    I have been married 16 years and I found April’s website about 2 1/2 years ago. Smiling at my dh was one of the first things I focused on during my journey of trying to become a peaceful wife.
    My dh found it very confusing in the beginning because I had not been happy for a long time. I made a conscious effort every day to just smile no matter how I felt not expecting anything in return. Some days it was hard because it was not always reciprocated but I continued.

    Over time it got much easier and it is almost second nature now! It also felt very awkward in the beginning because I wasn’t really happy on the inside! But I think the forcing myself to smile more didn’t only bless my husband it also helped me to feel better and have a more positive attitude about things.

    My dh has now begun to say things like how he just wants me to be happy! I now smile so much sometimes that my cheeks hurt! Our kitchen and living room are divided by a wall and sometimes in the evenings while I am cooking supper and he is watching his car shows I simply peek around the corner and say pssst to get his attention followed by blowing him a kiss and smiling at him as I walk back to the kitchen. Its kind of silly but he loves it! Sometimes he’ll even come join me to help in the kitchen.

    I really think smiling is contagious! If you do it enough everyone around you will join in! Even my teenage daughter can’t help but give in to my smiling craze!

  4. April, I never fail to be amazed at the wonders a simple smile works. It’s even better when it’s “just because.” Thank you for this counsel. πŸ™‚

  5. I have been smiling when I am driving or doing chores for the health benefits. If you smile big enough to make your eyes squinted a little, your body thinks that you are happy and it just makes everything go in the right direction. This is a good challenge, very simple and a smile shows our husband we approve of him and that he makes us happy. That will probably make him want to do more things in that direction.

  6. Thank you for posting this. I have tried it and quit when I didn’t get the response that I was hoping for. Now I know that when I smile around my husband, it has to be for God.

    I read that the first 30 seconds when the husband/wife gets home are crucial. If there is a hug or if there a scowel, that can set the tone for the evening. This is very true for me.

    I am going to train myself to be thankful and smile as often as I can. My marriage is in a very critical spot, so this may be a challenge. I am tired of holding on to anger and hurt. I am regretful that I took my husband for granted.

    Satan wants me to be angry, miserable, fearful, inpatient, critical, joyless, manipulating, toxic, etc. God wants me to be loving, kind, respectful, joyful, etc…regardless of what the state of my marriage is and regardless of what my husband chooses to do.

    1. Betsy,

      I know things have been very hard – it sounds like for both you and your husband. It brings such joy to my heart to see the way God is already beginning to transform your heart and mind and to show you the enemy’s evil plans vs. His good plans.

      Thank you so much for sharing! I pray for healing for you both in Christ!

  7. In theatre we teach that “feeling follows form.” This is really true, that if you smile first–the happy form–you will begin to feel the same. πŸ™‚ Great advice!

  8. Your posts always come at just the right time for me, April. My father is visiting from out of town. Just five minutes before reading this, I was talking with him and he said, “don’t frown”, and put his thumb on my wrinkled forehead. He’s done this my whole life so I’ve always thought it was funny. But I had kind of a bad day today, and my response was, “hmmmm, how do you go through life without frowning anyway?” Then I opened this and watched your video. I think God is trying to tell me something!

  9. Hey April,

    I don’t know if you remember me but I wrote in a few times on my journey of being separated from my wife after thirty years being married. Initially I went head on to get to the bottom of my troubles which had resulted in so much pain for my wife. I have not held her responsible for any part of this separation.

    The reason for writing today is to actually say that my wife came and saw me today and actually smiled and chatted with me today for the FIRST time in ELEVEN MONTHS. so if you want me to tell you the effect that had on me!!

    I could write a book here on what I have learned but I guess the most significant thing for me as a man is not to be a Christian but to be a follower of Christ. I went from being unrighteously compromising to uncompromisingly righteous, from being a passive shame based pew sitter to being so excited in God its ridiculous! I’m probably talking to somebody about Christ everyday, I’m at our prayer room at church at 4.30 for an hour or two before work and again around 9 or 10 at night and i do this most days of the week because I am so keen to know more, hear more and let everyone else know the transforming power of God. He wants 100 percent but when you do He starts looking after you right back….I have had so many miracles its getting funny…..I badly sprained my ankle a couple of weeks ago and needed crutches and then it healed literally in minutes!! I didn’t really believe in miracles – Believe in them! whether its marriage, sickness, family, work, God is right there. We were badly, badly in debt and now we are well on our way out….shame has gone.
    Its a hard road initially, very hard. it is hard facing your own cowardice as a husband. But as your eyes come off your circumstances and turn to God I began to really understand how much the Lord is for me and how much value He puts on bringing us as close to Him as we allow Him.

    There’s been such significant changes in me I can’t even begin to tell you but these changes are so profound, so exciting and He never leaves you…..there is still more to go but repentance of sin was so long ago and now its a life of sanctification and a brand new way of living…..Bless you April…your blog has been a lifesaver through this journey and by the grace of the Living God I will be able to write and say everything is now well….!!

    1. Gary,


      Of course I remember you. πŸ™‚ How I praise God for what He has done and is doing in your life!!!!!

      I would love to hear anything you’d like to share. This is AWESOME!!!!!!!!!!!

      Thank you so much for letting me know. πŸ™‚ I never get tired of hearing about the miracles God does in people’s lives. πŸ™‚

  10. Love you, April. I’ve been doing this since I read about the power of a smile on your blog. It works and it is powerful πŸ™‚

  11. You’re right, a smile is pleasant. It’s so much nicer to be around happy people.

    A behavior I find myself in, is that if she’s in a foul mood, I am more drawn to hanging out in the garage or the office upstairs. It usually compounds the problem, but it’s a natural reaction. A scowl or frown will repel. A smile is like a bug light, we’re helplessly drawn in. Just don’t zap us. lol


    1. AnonyMan,

      I love that! “A smile is like a bug light, we’re helplessly drawn in.” πŸ™‚

      I do hope you are going to let me quote you on that one!!! It made me smile a huge smile, myself.

      Thank you so much for sharing your masculine perspective with us. You are a blessing to our discussions and help us understand our husbands and brothers in Christ better.

      1. Haha, by all means, what I write is yours for the taking. I’m glad you found it worthy of repeating.

  12. I knew how powerful this smile is from dating a man years ago who practiced this.
    I thought it would be an easy challenge. Not so much.
    I have to keep it in mind and be very intentional, but will still keep trying because it is magic to my husband and a silent witness to God.

    1. Tena,

      It gets easier with practice and as we focus on our blessings, things for which to be thankful, praising God, and trusting Him. πŸ™‚

      But it does not come naturally to our sinful nature, that is for sure.

      I know your beautiful smile will bless God and your husband! πŸ™‚

  13. April, Thanks so much for all that you write and the encouragement you bring to so many wives/marriages. This blog has tremendously helped me. I am so encouraged and hopeful of what God can do in my marriage. Gonna start smiling today but I know it has to be genuine for me. My husband and I have been seriously struggling and I certainly don’t want to seem fake or like I am acting happy. God has given me a lot of peace and joy finally just this week after a 9 month long struggle of faith and trust in Him and my husband. I have a lot to be thankful for and I’m going to start down a road of positive thinking instead of the negative/depressing one I’ve been on. I pray that the son-shine will come out through my smile and that I will be a blessing and encouragement to my husband and children! Blessings everyone!

    1. Hopeful,

      WOOHOO! Love this attitude and your sincerity of heart and you love for God and faith in Him. That is AWESOME! Praying for you to be a great blessing to your husband and children, my dear sister! Let us know how you are doing!

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