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Why Should I Trust God? Why Should I Submit to His Lordship?

Mile High bridge at Grandfather Mountain
Mile High bridge at Grandfather Mountain, NC

People have legitimate questions:

  • Don’t I really know what is best for me better than anyone?
  • Why would I yield control of my life to God?
  • How do I know I can even trust God?
  • What if God wants to hurt me?
  • Who is God?
  • It’s too hard to stop trusting myself and to trust God instead.

According to Scripture – we have two choices about who controls our lives:

1. Our sinful flesh – the result is always the same -> death on every level

2. God’s Spirit – the result is always the same -> life and peace on every level

(Galatians 5:13:25, Romans 8:9-14)

God never expects us to trust Him blindly without reason. He reveals Himself to us in nature and in the Bible so that we can get to know Him and so that we can see that He is completely good, trustworthy, and faithful. If you are struggling in your faith, I invite you to do a study of God’s attributes and who God is. The more clearly you see exactly who God is and the more clearly you see exactly who you are – the easier it is to realize that the wise thing to do is to trust God, not ourselves. The more you know God and how good He is, the more you want to know Him. 🙂

Now this is eternal life: that they know you, the only true God, and Jesus Christ, whom you have sent. John 17:3

The best way to learn to trust God and have faith in Him is to read about Who God is, study His attributes and His Word. I would highly suggest listening to Wayne Grudem’s podcasts Systematic Theology “The Attributes of God.” Or, watch David Platt’s Secret Church series “Who Is God?” Or, you may want to search John Piper’s site www.desiringgod.org for “attributes of God” or “character of God” or “who is God.” You may also have a section in the back of your Bible that outlines the nature of God.

When we are studying the attributes and character of God, it is important to keep in mind that He is ALL of these things ALL the time. We cannot separate out the qualities and character traits we like and ignore the ones we don’t like. We must accept and reverence God for who He really is and how He presents Himself to us in Scripture. We don’t get to change him – thankfully! We just get to worship, love, and obey Him.

He is:

HOW DOES MY SUBMITTING TO CHRIST APPLY TO MY BEING A GODLY WIFE?

It is the very foundation, my dear sisters!

If I cannot fully submit to Christ as my Lord and I cannot trust and reverence God, it will be impossible for me to honor, respect, and submit to my husband in the ways God commands me to as a believer in Christ. The only way for me to become the woman God desires for me to be is for me to know Him and to fully yield control of my life to Him in wholehearted love, trust, worship, and respect. (The same would also be true with our brothers in Christ, relating to their being godly husbands.)

The way I treat my husband (and all other people) is a tangible indicator of the way I treat God.

“The King will reply, ‘Truly I tell you, whatever you did for one of the least of these brothers and sisters of mine, you did for me.’” Matthew 25:40

God counts the way I treat Greg as if I am doing whatever I am doing for and to Him. If I truly love and honor God, I can do nothing but truly love and honor Greg and obey God’s commands for me as a woman and wife. This is ALL about my walk with Christ and His power working in me as I yield to Him. My ability to be a godly wife is a side effect of my strong, vibrant, healthy relationship with Christ Jesus as my Lord. My primary purpose is to love and please God. Only from this platform can I truly love and bless others. If I love God – I WILL obey Him (John 14:22-24) and I WILL love others with God’s 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 kind of love (1 John 4:7-21) . That is the inevitable fruit of my love for Christ and my faith in Him.

Once I am fully submitted and yielded to Christ as Lord of ALL in my life, then His Spirit has freedom in my life to take control. He empowers me to walk in obedience and holiness in ways I could never possibly live on my own in my own strength as I “abide in Him” the way a branch abides in the vine (John 15). He also casts out all of my fear by His perfect love (1 John 4:18) so that I trust His sovereignty to lead me through my imperfect husband and I rest peacefully in His arms. My trust, when I submit to and respect my husband, is ultimately not in my husband – but in Christ! That is the only way that I can have the gentle, peaceful, still, calm spirit that is so beautiful in God’s sight. My trust is in Christ Jesus, His love, His goodness, His power, His will, His glory, and His sovereignty. My trust is fully in Christ to lead me through my husband and to direct the circumstances of my life for His good purposes, for His ultimate glory, and for my best interests – to conform me more and more into the image of Christ (Romans 8:29-30).

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Here is a worship song that conveys an attitude of total surrender and joyful submission to Christ as Lord – enjoy! Best if you can sing it at the top of your lungs. 🙂

18 thoughts on “Why Should I Trust God? Why Should I Submit to His Lordship?

  1. Hi April 🙂
    that is quite a thought, that God counts our attitude and behaviour towards our husbands as being towards Him! I think I needed that reminder; when we get irritated with our husbands, it’s easy to see the situation as being just us and them closed in to a little exclusive bubble, where what is said, thought and felt is hidden but according to this, in fact, there is always a Third Party involved in every exchange. Hmmm. That is a sobering though! Thankyou for this.

    1. Patricia,

      Yes – that was one of the most sobering thoughts I had ever had on this journey. I have to be able to look past my husband’s shoulder and see Jesus. How would I treat Him? I have to remember that I will stand accountable for my thoughts and attitudes, and every careless word – and seek to allow God to love Greg (and others) through me.

      I John always gets me – that if I don’t love my brother, I cannot love God. And if I love God, I WILL love my brother – those two things are inseparable. I don’t think we “get” that enough in our Christian culture and even in our churches today.

      You are most welcome!

  2. That’s the chore of it. I do trust God and He is my Lord but somehow I still have some fear deep down inside and I really don’t trust my husband. I am dealing with deep fears that may come from trauma of my early childhood with authority figures. I’ve prayed so many time about it, but still dealing with it. That’s why it’s so hard to submit to my husband because of these fears. Though, now I am aware of it and try to not let fear (and his best friend “control”) take hold of me and make me react so terribly as I did in the past with my husband. I don’t know any magical formula; just trying to not let it get to me when my husband take big decision without telling me or consulting me. I’m getting much better at it with time. That’s a whole process….

    1. Sonadewonderful,

      There are times when we cannot trust our husbands. There are times they are not trustworthy. But we can always trust God. The only magic formula I know of is total submission to Christ and being filled with His Spirit. But that does not mean that any of this will be easy or pain free. Your particular situation is rather complicated on both sides. My prayer is for God to bring you both to Himself and to bring healing to you both individually and then also as a couple.

      I do pray you can both have a godly mentor to help you work through this.

  3. Hi April, what a blessing your website is! 🙂 I just found it a couple of hours ago, and have read several of your posts. I’m praising God because it’s an answer to prayer. I love the Lord so much, and seek to honor Him, and His divine wisdom spoken through you is helping me. I’ve been married a little over 8 years. My husband and I do ministry to the homeless and often forgotten. He leads worship at 2 churches, and I sing with him sometimes, but my heart is for prayer~ mostly praying scripture based prayers for the Body of Christ overall, and for people’s salvations. Thought I would introduce myself a little since I’ve never met you online. May the Lord continue to bear much fruit for His Kingdom and glory through you and your family. I made a note to keep following your blog.
    Amber Paulsen
    http://amberpaulsen.blogspot.com/

  4. I agree about how we treat our husband’s is how we treat God. And vice versa is what it ought to be: how we love and adore God should come through just the same in how we love and adore our husband’s. God gave me this revelation our first year of marriage. And when would treat God one way (love and adoration, spending time with Him) and then turn around and treat my husband totally opposite, I was being divided. Double – minded even. This is such a good reminder. And just an update. It’s only been twenty four hours since I changed some things I was doing that I shouldn’t have been. I was much more quieter today, and really watched my tone and my “demands and commands” with hubby and tonight we had the most intimate time and HE INITIATED AND PURSUED! Thank you Lord and thank you peaceful wife for the encouragement to love and respect our husbands.

    1. Niki,
      Wow! That was REALLY, REALLY fast. Sometimes it takes years for a husband to feel safe with his wife again after feeling very disrespected for a long time. I praise God for what He is doing in you both and pray for His greatest glory in your individual lives spiritually with Him and in your marriage.

      Thank you for sharing! I love hearing what you are learning and I am thrilled that you are both enjoying the benefits of God’s design already.

      1. I agree. I feel so blessed. I have an extraordinary husband that forgives so quickly and looks forward to the bright future. But I’m still gonna carry on with this new way of handling myself. I have a question… So I’ve been finding that in areas where I want to fight for what I believe but I don’t because of wanting to give him his leadership back, I don’t know where the boundary is. Ya know? Like medical decisions.. I mean I guess I’m asking where is the mutual decision making? Or is it just that in the end he has the ultimate say?

My grandmother is on hospice and won't be with us much longer (11-30-16). I will get to comments when I am able to but I need to be with family right now. Thanks for understanding.

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