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I Love Y’all So Much!

April at Folly Beach, SC
April at Folly Beach, SC

I just have to stop and tell you how much I appreciate each of you and how very dear you are to me.

I can’t help but cry tears of joy and amazement just to think about what God has done these past 3.5 years since I started this blog. Some of you that I met hereΒ are some of my closest friends and strongest prayer partners now. Some of you soon will be – if you aren’t yet. πŸ™‚

I’m so thankful for the opportunities God has given me here. I can’t believe He lets me be part of His work in so many lives. What an honor. I long for Him to greatly increase and me to greatly decrease. I want this to be ALL about Jesus and His glory. I would be content with obscurity. And yet, God has given me this particular ministry and platform to reach His daughters (and sons). It is a joy. It is also a heavy responsibility. I long to uphold the Gospel and guard it against attack and perversion and I long to handle the Bible rightly in God’s sight. I am in awe as I look back to see all that God has done here in so many lives. I am filled with thanksgiving to God for His incredible generosity in allowing me to be part of your lives and part of His work somehow.

When God opened my eyes to begin this journey to become a godly wife 6.5 years ago, I only wanted God to change me. I only wanted God to heal Greg and to help me be the wife Greg needed and that God wanted me to be. I still can’t believe that Greg asked me to share what I have learned with other women. That moment is one I will cherish for the rest of my life.

I can’t begin to count the miracles we have shared together here.

What impacts me the most is the honor of getting to know so many of you. I love to hear from you. I love to hear your stories – the good ones and the bad ones. I grieve with your pain and I often weep with you over the hurt in your lives and in your marriages. I rejoice and celebrate with you when God brings victory and healing. I pray for you fervently and for your husbands and children.

I learn with you and I learn from you. You sharpen me. You help me to grow. I draw inspiration from you. I LOVE seeing how God uses you to bless, to teach, to encourage, and to exhort other women and how God’s power, truth, and love ripples out across the world in such beautiful ways. I still have so very much to learn! I can’t wait to see all that God will continue to show us together.

I’m so thankful that God has given us a place to share, to grow, to learn, and to love one another in His Spirit of unity here. What a blessing for me to get to know each of you more and more and to hear your heart for Christ and for your marriages. What a blessing for me to watch you reach out to each other to pray for, to love, and to encourage each other.

What a privilege it is to me that our brothers in Christ sometimes share here and that God is bringing healing and restoration to so many of them. What an honor it is to me that God is so active and at work in our midst and that there are so many who are seeking Him with all their hearts. What an incredible treasure it is to me that we get to know each other from around the world and that we can stand together, united in prayer and the love of Christ – able to support one another, to praise God together, to love God together, to thank Him together, to trust Him together, to be refined together, and to mature in Christ together.

To me, this place is a sweet haven for our souls. I pray that it might be exactly that for you, as well.

Sometimes ministry can be very challenging. Two weeks ago was a particularly difficult week with comments. Some of you saw how much opposition I faced and prayed for me – often. How can I ever thank you enough for praying for me and with me?

I know the enemy wants to take me, my husband, our marriage, our family, and this ministry down. I know he wants me to mishandle opposition and God’s Word or to respond in the power of my flesh rather than the power of God’s Spirit. I depend on Christ every moment. I need Him desperately! Sometimes, attacks and opposition can be very draining. Sometimes I need encouragement, too. God always sends one of you to encourage me on the hard days in exactly the way that will most inspire me. He is so good!

  • Thank you for your love, your support, your kindness, your friendship, and your prayers!!

One of the things I look forward to most in heaven is the chance we will have to meet each other face-to-face. I can’t wait to put a face with each name of each person I have met here. I can’t wait to hear all that God has in store for each of you. I can’t wait to rejoice together over the miracles of God and the way His purposes will be accomplished in each of our lives for His greatest glory! Thank you for walking with me on this incredible journey with Jesus!

Above all, love each other deeply…” I Peter 4:8

81 thoughts on “I Love Y’all So Much!

  1. What a wonderful, heartfelt post. It is amazing to see how we all can bless each other. I don’t think I could ever repay God and April for what they have done in my life. I feel this blog of April’s was a hand of an Angel reaching down and pulling me out of a pool of quicksand as I took my last breath. Now that I am on solid ground, I am learning to find safety and love in God. Even though my husband is not close to God or aware I am even on this blog, he has asked me to teach my daughter how to “do whatever it is I am doing” so that she can be a good wife too.

    We have a mountain to climb before my dh and I are whole again, but that comment just proved to me that I am on the right track. I already knew that in my heart, but I was glad to know it showed “outside of me” as well.

    My work partner approached me to find out where I draw my strength from and how I can handle my situation with Grace. I pointed up and smiled. She asked me to help her find him too. Wow, as a spiritual baby, that was a bit intimidating, but I won’t shy away. However, I gave her the link to this Blog and suggested reading Love and Respect and For Women Only.

    April, you have touched more lives than you know about as others see the overflowing blessings and joy that come from knowing God. He is the light, but you are a beacon. I pray every night with gratitude for what God has done, will do and can do, but also that you are blessed. Thank you so much.

    1. LMSdaily115,

      God is so awesome. This is one of the things I love about Him. I know I could NEVER repay Him for the “billions of sin dollars” worth of debt I owed Him that Jesus paid the price for in my life. I could NEVER give enough or do enough to give Him back a fraction of all that He has done for me in His mercy, love, and grace. But He allows me to get to be this pipe through which His love, truth, mercy, grace, and power flows into your lives. How miraculous! How unfathomable that God can take me, this little lump of clay – and let me be part of the holy work He is doing in other people’s lives?!?! It’s just crazy!

      Then, He will take your life and heal and change you and do miracles in your life. And then He will flow through you to many other people. And then He will flow through them to still others. SO BEAUTIFUL!

      I pray that what God has been doing in your husband just this week might greatly encourage you. It sounds to me like you are in the right place doing what God desires you to do and that you are already getting to see some results of God working in your husband’s heart. How miraculous! I praise God that your husband wants you to teach your daughter what you are doing. What an incredible blessing!

      And I praise God for the way He is shining through you at work, too. This just makes me smile and cry happy tears o joy.

      Thank you for praying for me. I pray for God’s continued healing and the power of His Spirit to continue to conform you and your husband and children into the image of Christ for His greatest glory. I can’t wait to give you a big hug one day – whether it will be on this earth, or in heaven – you are precious to me!

    1. Godlywifetobe,
      It is so good to hear from you! I hope you will let me know how you are doing and how I can pray for you when you get a chance. πŸ™‚

      Much love, my beautiful sister!

  2. I just wanna say thank u! I came across your blog when I was down n out last year. My husband and I were having a bad time. I read your posts and realized I was part of the blame.
    We are doing so great now and I just want to say thank u!
    God Bless!
    Kris

    1. Kris,
      I’m so thankful to hear that you and your husband are doing so well now! PRAISE GOD!!!!!

      Thank you for sharing – you are an encouragement and a blessing to me. πŸ™‚

    1. Madame Avoirdupois,

      You are most welcome here, my friend. πŸ™‚ Thank you for the encouragement. It’s wonderful to meet you! There are actually a number of atheists who read my blog and find it to be a blessing.

  3. Wonderful post, April. Thank you for it. As a brother in Christ, I’ve been hesitant to comment on your blog the few times I have, so I’m especially grateful that you mentioned us as well.

    God has given you great wisdom and insight. I pray that you will always remain faithful, and that you will continue to grow in wisdom, knowledge, and grace.

    1. Carlos,

      LOTS of men read my blog, too. Y’all are welcome here. πŸ™‚ My calling is to be a Titus 2:3-5 wife – but, I love my brothers in Christ, too. I am thankful that God uses me to encourage and bless many of you. It is an honor.

      Than you so much for the prayers and encouragement!!

  4. Galatians 6:9
    Let us not grow tired of doing good, for in due time we shall reap our harvest, if we do not give up.

    You’re a blessing to so many. Persist!

  5. April, it’s difficult to find the right words for what’s in my heart. I will simply be forever grateful for your friendship and this ministry, for the opportunity to draw close to my spouse as I draw closer to Him in unbelievable ways. May God bless you over and again for all you’ve given to us.

    1. Refined,

      You always put such a smile on my face and in my heart. It has been such an honor to get to walk beside you on this road. I know that it has been a very difficult journey at times in the past year or two for you. And I know there is still much to learn for all of us. But I’m so thankful that God brought us together and that we can be sisters together and friends.

      I praise God for what He has done and is doing and will do in your life and marriage! πŸ™‚

  6. Thank you, April! Your blog is such a blessing to married couples. Every time I feel myself slipping up, I say to myself, “better check in with Peacefulwife” πŸ™‚ It is so great to be on this journey with you, sister!

    1. Mrs. G.,

      It is GOOD for all of us to have reminders to look to Christ and to His truth and His Word and to focus on our own responsibilities before God. I know God blesses me just by having me write for my sisters. I need these reminders, too – teaching gives me an incredible opportunity to learn in ways I probably wouldn’t have otherwise. I’m glad we can bless one another.

      You are very precious to me, my beautiful sister!

  7. Good morning all!! Thank you for your beautiful words April! There is so much of God’s love poured out here. I’m reading through the book of Acts and its reminding me that we persevere in love. It can be so hard sometimes when we come under persecution but there is a higher calling of endurance to pursue the peace and love of Christ!

    Love to you all….

    1. Melanie,

      That is my prayer – for God’s Spirit to pour out freely and abundantly here and that His love and unity might be most evident. πŸ™‚

      Thank you for the encouragement and for your faithful prayers, my dear sister!

  8. My dear sisters (and brothers here),

    Almost two years ago April reached out a spiritual “hand” to me when I felt heartbroken over something my husband said. She reminded me what it means to forgive someone and HOW to forgive what I thought would always darken my relationship with my husband. I could feel God’s love in her words and kindness. I also began to read her posts and realized I needed to make big improvements–and began trying hard to rely on only God for total security, acceptance, and love. I realized I had set myself up for sadness because I had unrealistic expectations of my husband, and that I expected him to heal wounds from childhood only I could face and resolve.

    What a difference it made to start living in the present, and to extend grace to my husband, instead of expecting him to be perfect. It was hard work to change, and I still must work on it all the time, but with God’s help and April’s unfailing beacon of light on His Word, I think and speak now in much healthier ways and my husband and I are at peace, content, and joyful in service to each other and others.

    Each day it means so much to read not only April’s very encouraging posts, but also to have your fellowship via your letters. I love it that we have this “sweet haven” of sisters! It truly is a safe place, one I treasure and count among my greatest blessings. So I send my deepest thanks, not only to April, but to all of you, for the fellowship and love I find here each day.
    Elizabeth

    1. Elizabeth,

      I decided to go back and read our first correspondence. Made me smile. God has done so very much in your life and heart! Wow! How I praise Him!!!!!! Thank you for sharing a bit of your testimony here, my beautiful sister in Christ. You are such a blessing to me every time you comment. I can just see and feel God’s Spirit, His love, and truth in you in powerful ways.

      I’m so glad you enjoy the fellowship with the other sisters and brothers here, too. Such an incredible blessing and, I think, a tiny foretaste of heaven!

      Much love to you!

  9. Miles apart across nations!! what an impact you made on my life!!! Thanks April πŸ™‚ May God bless you and use mightily in the days to come!!!

    Lots of Love
    Vinodhini

    1. Vinodhini,

      I’m so glad to hear from you! How are you, my beautiful sister??? How are your babies? Please let me know how I can pray for you.

      You are so very dear to me.

      Sending you a big hug way across the oceans!

  10. What a wonderful post! I know God has used this site to teach many things throughout the past few months. He has taught me a lot. Even though I’m not married (just dating) I can tell he is preparing me for the future, and I have already seen the benefits in my relationship with my boyfriend. Sometimes I will be struggling with something and I will get an email about your new post or come across something on this site that will be exactly what I needed to hear! Whenever I have a question about something or am looking for some wisdom I go to your site because I know it will have reliable, biblical information.

    You inspire me and I hope one day God will use me for a similiar ministry. Much love!

    1. Rachel,

      You are always welcome here – and, of course, at my other blog – http://www.peacefulsinglegirl.wordpress.com. And you are always welcome to comment on either blog. πŸ™‚

      I’m so excited to see God teaching women these things BEFORE they get married! WHAT A BLESSING!!!!!!!!! I am praying for a godly foundation for you in your walk with Christ and in your future marriage, if it is God’s will.

      I pray He will direct your steps and use your life for His greatest glory, my sweet sister!

  11. April
    I would so love to have you as a prayer partner and help me with my walk with Our Savior. I am slowly strengthening my walk and trying to put everything in God’s hands. You are a true blessing!

    1. Kim,

      Would you like to join my prayer team? I send weekly emails out with prayer requests for my ministry – and I would be happy to pray for you, as well. πŸ™‚

      Much love to you!

  12. Like so many on here, God used this blog to open my eyes to the kind of wife I was being, and with April’s help and clarity (and her humility in always being transparent about her own failures and lessons) I began to change my ways and respect my husband for the first time in 22 yrs of marriage!!!
    There are so few Godly role models and so many bad examples in the world and in our churches, and I long to be the kind of wife and mother who shines out for Jesus and brings Him glory, just like you are, my dear sister April.
    This blog has helped me get on the right track, because no one else has EVER said this kind of stuff to me!! And in the UK especially, the church blends in so well with society that it’s hard to tell the difference!! πŸ™

    When Jesus got hold of my life about 12 years ago, I turned it around and began to live for Him. Then after another 4 years I had this awesome moment where I really fell in love with my Saviour and the Bible and even more importantly, realised for the first time ever how precious I was as a daughter of the King of Kings! From that moment on, God changed my life drastically and I now have a ministry with young people (even though I’m the oldest youthworker I know, at 45 haha!) and I am blown away by what He has done and is doing.

    But amazingly, because no one had ever said, I didn’t realise I had a whole area in my life where I was not “sorted” at all!! My marriage!! And because my lovely husband isn’t a Christian yet, I just blamed him for everything! Ugh I hate how I’ve been, but I say all this to give God glory but also to give April the credit she deserves in speaking out so boldly and plainly for a different way in marriage – God’s way.

    Heavenly Father, please bless April richly in her ministry, may she keep her eyes firmly on Jesus the author and finisher of her faith, and may she know all the comfort, strength and boldness she needs as she faces daily battles on the front line. Watch over her husband Greg, and her children, and give them all they need to live for You and bring You glory. May others on here support and encourage April, and not drag her down. Keep her safe from the enemy’s attack in the shelter of Your wings Lord. Thank you that one day we will share joyful fellowship in heaven. In Jesus name, Amen.

    Thank you to everyone else who shares on here too, and may we all continue to bless each other xxx

    1. Sunshine,

      Wow.

      Such a blessing.

      I grew up in the church, accepted Christ when I was 5 years old, had pretty decent parents who were believers, my mom respected my dad and submitted to him – and yet – I STILL MISSED SOME OF THE MOST IMPORTANT PARTS of godly femininity and godly marriage and what it even means to have Christ as Lord. How is that possible!?!? I don’t know. I was blind and deceived – but I praise and thank God He opened my eyes 6.5 years ago and didn’t leave me in that miserable state. It is ALL Him. That is for sure. There is nothing good in me on my own whatsoever.

      I had never heard people talk about this stuff, either. I didn’t “get” what respect was or what submission was. I absorbed so much poison from the world that was contaminating my thoughts, my faith, my femininity, and my marriage. In my view, we haven’t really had many Titus 2:3-5 wives to teach us in many churches and in many of our lives. And we don’t talk about so much of this truth of God’s Word in church. I’m so thankful for those who paved the way for me – Dr. Eggerichs for writing Love and Respect. Nina Roesner for writing The Respect Dare. And so many others who wrote books about godly femininity and godly marriage – because I was so clueless. I needed all of the mentoring I could get! Books were really my only source of mentoring. It was just God, me, the Bible, and about 30 books in 2.5 years and hours and hours per day of studying, journalling, wrestling, and praying. I felt like I was reinventing the wheel to understand this stuff, or learning Chinese without a teacher. It was PAINFUL and SLOW.

      Our culture has veered so very far from God’s path and His wisdom and design – even in the church – we don’t realize how far we have wandered away. To hear God’s design and His truth sounds so foreign and “wrong” to us at first because of what we have been marinating in all of our lives. How I praise God that He has provided a way for us to return to Him and to live the lives He calls us to live – even in the midst of such darkness around us.

      This message is not a popular one. I sure don’t do this because everyone will like me. I do it because God has called me to do this and I cannot NOT do it. I have to share this treasure with my sisters (and brothers). I can’t possibly keep it to myself. I long for God to use me to be a lighthouse to shine a warning to those who are about to hit the rocks and destroy their lives and marriages. I long to see God heal many people by His Spirit’s power and to see marriages and families healed, as well. I long to see this generation rise to become a godly generation, a faithful, holy, and obedient generation that God uses to spread His gospel around the world. My prayer is for a massive movement of God’s Spirit to bring a great awakening to His people in every one of His churches around the world and to bring many lost souls to Himself!

      I love what God is doing in your life, my precious sister. Praying for God to draw your husband to Himself, as well. What a joyful day that will be!

      Thank you for your prayers! Thank you for your encouragement. Thank you for sharing your story. I think there is so much power as we all share our stories and hear how God has worked in many lives. Each one sparkles and shines for Christ in its own unique way. Each one gives great glory to God.

      Much love to you!!! You are very precious to me!

  13. April, I echo all of the other comments already posted. You have been an incredible blessing to me personally on a number of levels. I am honored to be able to join in prayer with you and for you, and can’t wait to see what else God has in store for your ministry, for your family, and for you! You are SO LOVED!!!

    1. M,
      Aw! Thank you, my sweet sister! What a blessing to get to know you and to pray together. I am excited to see all that God has in store for you and for the other women and men here. I trust you know how much I love you and how dear you are to me. πŸ™‚

  14. I don’t have a lot of flowery words today but I can’t not express my gratitude for your ministry and how it’s touched my personal walk with Christ, our marriage and our family. You’re a precious blessing!

    1. A Fellow Wife,

      I love you dearly, my sweet friend! Just the fact that I get to watch God work in your life blesses me greatly – and to see how He has impacted so many through some of the stories and posts you have shared – blows me away. πŸ™‚

  15. April,
    I found you a few days ago and immediately was filled with peace after reading your blog about when your husband, in my case fiancΓ©, sins against you. Your honesty about how needy you used to be really hit home with me. I am extremely needy and have been working on learning to use the power of the Holy Spirit to comfort me. I also watched a few of your videos. You are so beautiful on the inside and out!

    Roxann

    1. Roxann,

      It is wonderful to meet you! How I praise God for what He is doing in your heart, my dear sister. πŸ™‚ I’m here if you need to talk about anything or if you need prayer.

      Much love to you!

      1. April ,
        Thank you so much for your individual attention. Our relationship is facing many rather large challenges. My main prayer has been from Ephesians 3 15-21. That SB and I would be filled with Holy Spirit and know the love of God. SB is a new Christian. And I had definitely fallen away for some time and really had never been at the point where there is absolutely no choice but complete surrender. SB deals with extreme insomnia so maybe a Prayer for him to rest peacefully in the arms of Jesus with no worries would help.

        Thank you so much,
        Roxann

  16. Reading these responses brings tears to my eyes! I think you know by now what a blessing you are to me. Specifically, one of the biggest lessons I’ve learned from you is what it means to be a spirit-filled Christian. I’m not talking the stuff of charismatic gifts as I used to think of, but of the being filled with the fruit of the spirit and walking in them…love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, self-control, and gentleness. I’ve never met you in person but just the way you write your posts and respond to people and live your life and speak in your videos has demonstrated what it means to be filled with the spirit. I’m so glad for your example!

    1. B,

      Obviously, this is a total God thing, not an April thing. I can’t take credit for any good in myself at all. But I am so thankful for God’s Spirit and for what He has done for me. I want everyone to get to experience the Treasure that Christ is!

      Much love to you, my dear friend and sister!

  17. So many times, I felt helpless in my marriage with no one around to share with, and so often, I wrote to you April desperate and you’ve always be there for me, encouraging me, loving me despite the distance (well, I’ll be happy to see you in heaven too).
    You helped me understand what is respect for my husband. Yesterday, we celebrated our 3rd year anniversary. I’m little bit sick right now but normally, I planned we’ll spend a night away this next Saturday. I pray it will be a great time but no expectations! Yesterday, we had a power break so we ate with our son with candles. I thought “well, my husband wouldn’t have probably the idea to do it so God did it”. πŸ˜‰
    Then we just had a time to talk little bit and even play before going to bed. Was a long time it didn’t happen.

    We’ll still have quite a lot of things to work, but since I relinquished control and realized the main problem is on my side, things start to change slowly .

    Yesterday he even said “Now, you agree with everything”. It did encourage me. So thank you so much April, you have been and is a tremendous blessing in my life. God bless you richly for that as your family as well. Big hug. Sonia

    1. Sonia,

      Happy Anniversary to you and your husband!

      I’m glad you had a good night as a family. That is something to savor and cherish. πŸ™‚

      I think you both have plenty of issues to work through with God, but you can only yield yourself – so I am really thankful that you are seeking to yield yourself fully to God and seeking to respect your husband – even though I know that it can be extremely challenging. I hope you know that you don’t have to act like you agree with everything – but – I do think you can avoid arguing or trying to control him. Praying for God’s Spirit to fill you and to empower you to be the wife He desires you to be. Praying for healing for your husband and your marriage, as well, my sweet sister!

      Much love!

  18. April, your blog and your friendship has meant so much to me too. I can’t even put it all into words. Your peacefulness comes through on your posts and I can tangibly feel it when I read them. You have helped me tremendously, in some many areas of my life. Most importantly, with my walk with Jesus. I get so excited when you have a new post, because I just know that there will be gems in it. (And I really cannot wait until your book comes out!!!!) If we never meet on this earth, than I am with you wholeheartedly, looking forward to meeting you in Heaven. Sending you big hugs!!!!

    1. blesseddaughterofaking,

      That is really neat that God allows the peacefulness to come through in my writing – it can be really hard to communicate things like that without hearing someone’s voice and seeing their expression and demeanor. What an answer to prayer that God’s Spirit might minister and flow through my writing to speak His truth to my readers. I’m so glad to hear from you and I love hearing what God is doing in your life!

      Thanks so much for the encouragement, love, friendship, prayers, and support!

      Much love to you!

  19. God just recently brought me to your blog. It has been amazing already. God has brought my husband and myself out of a very dark place into a ministry for marriages and families. That in itself was way outside our comfort zone and He has promised to be right there all the way, for His glory. His words through this forum has been huge to me, I thank you for your obedience, even when it gets tough. God has blessed abundantly through you. Thank you. Your sister in Christ, Juliah

    1. Juliah,
      It is wonderful to meet you! How I praise God for the miracles He has done in your life and marriage! WOOHOO!!!!!!! And now He is using you and your husband to minister to others. God is SO very good! Thank you for your words of encouragement and for sharing a bit of your story. I would love to hear more when you have time – if you feel led to share!

      Much love!

  20. April, your love, patience, kindness, and guidance are a gift to me. The forum you have created for sisters (and brothers) to share and grow is a blessing to so many. I appreciate the way you lovingly guide and counsel, with wisdom that comes from your dedicated study of the scriptures. God is working through you. May He continue to bless you, your family, and your ministry.

    1. Becca,

      Thank you so much, my dear friend and sister! I am so thankful for what God is doing in your life. Seeing Him change people makes it all more than worth it. Please keep me updated on how you are doing. I’m always glad to hear from you!

  21. So thankful for this blog and for the ways God has used it (and you, April) in my life. I started my respect journey after reading a particular book that God used to really open my eyes to the damaging things I was doing in our marriage. But, the message behind that book and the motivations for changing weren’t pure and God led me to this site about a year after I read that book. I kind of waffled between that book and this blog for a while and it soon became apparent that it was time to let the book go – even though I’m still thankful for God leading me to it. So, God has used your voice to remind me (all of us!) that we do this for God, not for our husbands, not for ourselves. That we need to find our security in Him alone, that we need to find our all in Him alone.

    Thank you!!!!!!! sooooo much. I’m so grateful God sovereignly has you here with this blog for all of us at this time. Grateful for the way He’s brought you through and is now using you to help your sisters and brothers. Also, I think it’s so interesting how you have described yourself as being a Type A personality — it sounds like you have a low need for sleep, high energy, etc. Obviously, the perfect person for a blog like this! I know there is more sacrifice/time/effort/tears/prayer/love than we could know from this side of the blog – from you and Greg….but thank you. Tell Greg thank you, too. Seriously. He is sacrificing a lot to let you do this. That is recognized and greatly appreciated.

    “I always thank my God for you because of his grace given you in Christ Jesus. For in him you have been enriched in every wayβ€”with all kinds of speech and with all knowledge – God thus confirming our testimony about Christ among you. Therefore you do not lack any spiritual gift as you eagerly wait for our Lord Jesus Christ to be revealed. He will also keep you firm to the end, so that you will be blameless on the day of our Lord Jesus Christ. God is faithful, who has called you into fellowship with his Son, Jesus Christ our Lord.” (1 Corinthians 1:4-9) (good verses for you & all of us who are found in Christ!)

    Oh, one other thing….that “convictions” post with all of the comments. I know it was hard, but I think that was one of the most well-behaved kinds of conversations I’ve seen on the internet. And, even though I didn’t agree with certain points of view, I still was blessed by that whole conversation and the different posts. In many different ways….So, even when things “look” not great, we can know that God is still working. πŸ™‚ (I know you already know that, just wanted to encourage you!)

    1. Jennifer,

      There was a book in my life that I am very thankful for, as well, but it was not based on Scripture. I had to delete a lot of parts in my mind and add the Truth of God’s Word to it. The motivations described in that book were not always God-honoring. I think that is a really important point – because, as believers in Christ, our motives count greatly in God’s eyes. If our motives aren’t right, we are still in sin and that is a BIG TIME problem!

      I’m so thankful that you are learning to find security in Christ alone and to experience Him as your all-in-all! THAT is such an answer to countless prayers of mine!

      True, I do have a low need for sleep and am pretty high energy! πŸ™‚ How’d you know? This blog does consume a lot of my time – sometimes balancing things gets a bit dicey – but the needs are SO VERY GREAT. There is MUCH prayer, there are MANY tears, and all of my heart that goes into this blog – with a fervent desire that it might exalt Christ alone and accomplish the work of His kingdom. I am extremely thankful for Greg’s wholehearted support of this blog. You are right, he does sacrifice a lot so that I can do this, too. I will definitely share your words with him. πŸ™‚ Thank you so much.

      The convictions post comments were all very respectful. I am extremely thankful for that. Sometimes comments are hateful or full of vulgarity – and I cannot approve those. But the women who did oppose me were very loving and respectful – I think it is a great opportunity to showcase that we can love one another as we disagree. We can still have unity in Christ. These are important topics, and I pray that somehow, God is still exalted, even in the long discussion.

      Thank you for the encouragement. Yes – God is absolutely at work!

      Much love to you!

  22. Very well spoken April : ) The world seems so against God & marriages & family. It is so wonderful to be able to come to your blog & see that we are not alone & to get strength to persevere in our fight : )
    You have brought so much to my awareness & I thank God that He chose to speak through you & that you said “yes”!!!

  23. Such a sweet post, April. Thanks for being such an encouragement to us, and I hope I am able to be an encouragement to you as well. I haven’t been on as much (homeschooling has gone CRAZY as we’re playing “catch up”), but I do think of your posts often and refer back to the ones I’ve read when dealing with frustrating situations. πŸ™‚

    Love you!!!

    1. Much love to you, as well, blessedout! It is wonderful to hear from you!! πŸ™‚ I hope you will be done with the homeschooling stuff soon and can all have a bit of a break. πŸ™‚

  24. I found this blog 2 years ago in a desperate search for something to hold onto in the midst of a low point in my marriage. It wasn’t what I wanted to read. Because the truth hurts. I’ve never heard the truth spoken from Scripture about God’s roles for men and women and for marriage. This didn’t just open my eyes, but it opened my heart as well. April, you have answered me when I’ve written to you with questions. You’ve encouraged me in the Lord. Your blog posts drive me to Him. Thank you for being obedient to His calling in your life. May God continue to bless you richly with His loving presence and peace as you trust and obey Him.

  25. Dear April,
    Along with everyone else here, I can’t thank you enough for your message of faith and truth about our relationships with God and our husbands. I keep retuning and refreshing by visiting your site. I would love to be your prayer partner. Thank you!

  26. April,

    I have been reading your blog since mid March and have wanted to comment but never had the courage. You have been a God send. After 15 years of marriage and 3 children my husband decided he was done. It was a complete surprise to me becuase I thought we were doing better. We just bought a house and were about to move in to our new home. He is military so I was in a different state waiting for sale to complete (kids were in school) he was in hotel because he had to report. I came to unpack in our new home and he told me he did not love me and was done. I was devastated and left, the next morning he called me to ask if we could work on it so I pulled kids out of school and moved into our new home.

    He has been mostly gone training since this happened. I have given gim his space and am trying to be a respectful wife. He finally came back on Friday and I thought we would finally get an opportunity to work on our marriage and he decided he doesn’t want to work on it. He left on Sunday without saying anything and I don’t know where he is staying. I asked if we are separated and he didn’t reply. I has come home 2 times to check on kids and to make sure he is providing financially but doesn’t speak about the fact that he has left the house. I am waiting on the lord and only have the strength to do so because of everything you have taught me. I have surrendered to the lord and your blogs have been a huge reason I have learned so much of what God commands. I have also been reading Love and Respect.

    I am in the biggest battle of my life and feel like I have a sister in Christ with you. Hoping I can speak with you one day and pray with you too. The work you are doing for the kingdom of the father is amazing. I know I was directed to your blog by God and and so grateful for it. I cannot describe how much of a blessing you have been in my life.

    Love,
    Your sister in Christ

    1. Oh, Wifeinneed, I am so sorry for what you’re going through. And so grateful that you obviously have peace and trust in God during this. I just wanted you to know that I will pray for you when I get through typing this. It’s no accident that God led you to this blog (I know you know that already!). Praying for His wisdom for you in your particular situation, praying that Jesus will shine through you to not only your husband, but your children and many others even as you go through this difficult time. And praying, of course, that God will bring reconciliation and a re-birth of your marriage.

      Psalm 34:18: “The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.”

      1. Jennifer,

        Thanks for the prayers and scripture. God led me here, I found blog when I googled how to let my husband go. Then I began to read every blog April has written. I was so angry that I wanted to give up. I thought I waited through 4 deployments, countless trainings, moved all over the world, left my family behind, got my bachelor’s degree, took care i four children and have done everything for him. I am a good wife and he is doing this to me? Then God showed me my sin and I felt horrible. I am a wicked sinner and did not realize that I was idolizing my husband and I did not put God first among many other sins. I repented and am growing in my relationship with Christ and warp speed. I am so blessed to bea child of God and have him guiding me.

    2. Oh goodness! Jennifer – I’m so glad you commented to Wifeinneed – I somehow missed commenting to her.

      Wifeinneed,

      My apologies! I try to never let a comment slip through the cracks like this!

      How my heart breaks to hear that you thought you were doing better and that this came as such a shock.

      How is your walk with Christ going, my precious sister?

      How are things going this week?

      I am very glad to walk beside you on this road – but how I grieve over the pain you must both be experiencing and for your children.

      Lord,

      Thank You that You will never leave Wifeinneed and You have promised You will never forsake her. Thank You for Your sovereignty and that somehow, even if her husband intends this whole thing for evil – You are able and willing to use it for good – according to Your promise to those who love and trust You in Romans 8:28-29.

      Empower our dear sister with Your Spirit. Let her see with Your eyes, hear with Your ears, love with Your heart, and wait patiently on Your timing. Give her the wisdom she needs for each step of the way. Use her to bless her husband. She cannot change him. But we know You can reach him. I don’t know the pain in his heart or what he has seen and experienced. I don’t know his relationship with You or if he has any trauma from war. But You know his heart. Christ died for him – and You love him dearly. Draw him to Yourself, Lord! Make something beautiful from this mess. Empower our sister to walk in peace, trusting in Your sovereignty, love, and provision. Use this time to help her to grow in her faith like never before and to accomplish Your good purposes in ways we cannot begin to fathom.

      We surround her with love and prayers on her behalf, Father.

      In the Name and power of Christ,
      Amen!

      Much love to you!!! I am sending you the biggest hug ever!

      1. April,

        My walk with Christ is good. I am learning so much about scripture and what God intended. This trial has made me cling to God more than ever before in my life. This week God answered a prayer and he gave me a part time job. I was about to leave our home and go to my mom’s house in another state and prayed that God would show me if I should stay or leave and he gave me this job and a great church family to lean on. I don’t feel so alone here now.
        I don’t know how my husband’s relationship with Christ is, I know he is a believer and accepted Christ in his heart but I also know he has been pulling away from God. I am praying that God softens his heart and he becomes a godly man to lead our family. He has been home a couple of days but said he was only staying here a few days. I don’t know his plans or ask him, just waiting on God and praying that he will stay.

        1. Wifeinneed,

          I really hate what is happening to you – I can’t begin to imagine the pain and the logistical problems and issues with your sweet children. But I am thrilled about what God is doing in your heart and life! I praise God for the job you got. I pray for His wisdom for you every moment, and for His provision and that you might know you are completely surrounded by His love and sovereignty. I’m also very glad you have such a strong church family to lean on. Are you talking to anyone or receiving counseling at all?

          I pray that God might intervene in your husband’s plans and in his mind and heart and get his attention. I pray that God might bring him to conviction and repentance. I pray for spiritual healing for him alone and for you alone first, and for healing and reconciliation for your marriage and family in God’s timing and for His greatest glory!

          1. April,

            I am going to a counselor but she is not giving me biblical advice and I no longer feel comfortable going to her. I also started going to counseling with pastor at my church and feel that is best for me. I am going to pray and see what God guides me to do because I have an appointment scheduled with counselor soon and need to decide if I am going to continue to go to her. Also my 14 year old is having a very difficult time with this situation and has lost respect for my husband. Please pray for him, he is filled with anger and disrespect.

          2. Wifeinneed,

            I agree, if she is not giving biblical advice – that is not the place to go! I am sure this would be extremely difficult on your son. I am praying for you both and for God’s Spirit to heal each of you and to give you wisdom for every step He desires you to take to move toward spiritual wholeness and toward Himself.

  27. April, your blog is AWESOME and I can’t wait to read your book. While Eggerich’s Love and Respect book first opened my eyes to my wrong thinking and acting towards my husband, your blog has been a mainstay in my own peaceful wife walk. Thank you so very much!! God bless you and your family!
    My wonderful husband and I just celebrated our 32nd anniversary and we are so excited that this year we will welcome our first grandchild. My prayer is that our happy, respectful and loving marriage will be a shining example to our grandchildren of what God can do when our hearts are open to Him.

    1. W.,

      How I praise God for what He has done and is doing and will do in your life! Thank you very much for sharing a bit of your story. Congratulations on 32 years of marriage and your first grandchild on the way!!! πŸ™‚ HOW WONDERFUL!

      I join with you in praying for God to empower you and your husband to set a godly example to your children and grandchildren and everyone around you of marriage and that He might use y’all to draw many to His Kingdom!

  28. April, your always on my heart. I appreciate your ministry very much. Been following your blog 1 1/2 yrs. Now and it’s been such a blessing! I think you are the genuine ideal godly wife that I would hope I could be, it provokes me to a godly jealousy. I praise the Lord for all that he’s done in you and your marriage. Anyhow, just had to share with you. Thanks : )

    1. Amy,

      I certainly can’t claim perfection. I still have much to learn myself. Anything good in me is totally due to Jesus. That is for sure!

      Thank you for the encouragement. I am excited about what God is doing in your life. It is always wonderful to hear from you, my beautiful sister! πŸ™‚

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