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“How Do You Stay Filled with the Holy Spirit?”

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A wife asked me this question. It is a very good one! He is our power source to be the godly women God commands us to be. This could be a book in and of itself. But, let’s talk about a few basics:

1. The Holy Spirit is a gift that is given to everyone who follows Christ as Savior and LORD. First I must have a relationship with Him. Jesus must be my God, my Savior and my LORD.

“If you love me, keep my commands. And I will ask the Father, and he will give you another advocate to help you and be with you forever— the Spirit of truth. The world cannot accept him, because it neither sees him nor knows him. But you know him, for he lives with you and will bec in you. I will not leave you as orphans; I will come to you. Before long, the world will not see me anymore, but you will see me. Because I live, you also will live. On that day you will realize that I am in my Father, and you are in me, and I am in you. Whoever has my commands and keeps them is the one who loves me. The one who loves me will be loved by my Father, and I too will love them and show myself to them.” John 14:15-21

Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God, and that you are not your own? For you have been bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body. I Corinthians 6:19-20

And who has also put his seal on us and given us his Spirit in our hearts as a guarantee. 2 Corinthians 1:22

verses about “filling of the Spirit”

2. I must be willing to turn away from every sin in my life and turn to Christ instead. If I have a relationship with Him, then there is a constant process of searching my heart for sin (and asking God to search my heart for sin) and being willing to get rid of it.

Any sin has to go. No matter how precious a specific sin is to me, even if I really love my bitterness, gossip, unforgiveness, greed, pride, self-righteousness, lust, or hatred and cherish it, it has to go if God says it is sin. I cannot hold anything back from God. I have to be willing to lay my entire heart and soul bare before Him and to lay still as I allow Him to search the darkest corners of my soul with the blazing light of His Word. If He places His finger on something and says it cannot stay, I must be willing to get rid of it right then and there. If I hold on to sin, I forfeit the power of God’s Spirit. I grieve His Spirit and cannot be filled to overflowing with His power again until I repent (turn 180 degrees from my wrong doing and turn to Christ). I cannot have both sin and God.

If I had cherished sin in my heart, the Lord would not have listened. Psalm 66:18

And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, with whom you were sealed for the day of redemption. Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you. Ephesians 4:30-32

If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness. 1 John 1:9

Search me, God, and know my heart; test me and know my anxious thoughts. See if there is any offensive way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting. Psalm 139:23-24

If we deliberately keep on sinning after we have received the knowledge of the truth, no sacrifice for sins is left, but only a fearful expectation of judgment and of raging fire that will consume the enemies of God. Anyone who rejected the law of Moses died without mercy on the testimony of two or three witnesses. How much more severely do you think someone deserves to be punished who has trampled the Son of God underfoot, who has treated as an unholy thing the blood of the covenant that sanctified them, and who has insulted the Spirit of grace? For we know him who said, “It is mine to avenge; I will repay,” and again, “The Lord will judge his people.” It is a dreadful thing to fall into the hands of the living God. Hebrews 10:26-31

verses about repenting

3. I must be willing to praise, thank, and exalt God alone in my life. He must be my highest purpose and my greatest Treasure.

I will extol the LORD at all times; his praise will always be on my lips. Psalm 34:1b

But you are holy, O you that inhabit the praises of Israel. (American King James) Psalm 22:3

Rejoice always, pray continually, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus. Do not quench the Spirit. Do not treat prophecies with contempt but test them all; hold on to what is good, reject every kind of evil. I Thessalonians 5:16-22

Teach me your way, Lord, that I may rely on your faithfulness; give me an undivided heart, that I may fear your name. I will praise you, Lord my God, with all my heart; I will glorify your name forever. For great is your love toward me; you have delivered me from the depths, from the realm of the dead. Psalm 86:11-13

verses about praising God

4. I must desire God far above everything and everyone else. I must understand that Christ is sufficient for me, I can be content if I have Jesus. If I have Him, I have EVERYTHING!

Yet I am always with you; you hold me by my right hand. You guide me with your counsel, and afterward you will take me into glory. Whom have I in heaven but you?
And earth has nothing I desire besides you. My flesh and my heart may fail, but God is the strength of my heart and my portion forever. Those who are far from you will perish; you destroy all who are unfaithful to you. But as for me, it is good to be near God. I have made the Sovereign Lord my refuge; I will tell of all your deeds. Psalm 73:23-28

Declare what is to be, present it– let them take counsel together. Who foretold this long ago, who declared it from the distant past? Was it not I, the LORD? And there is no God apart from me, a righteous God and a Savior; there is none but me. Turn to me and be saved, all you ends of the earth; for I am God, and there is no other. 45:21-22

One thing I ask from the LORD, this only do I seek: that I may dwell in the house of the LORD all the days of my life, to gaze on the beauty of the LORD and to seek him in his temple. Psalm 27:4

But if we have food and clothing, we will be content with that. I Timothy 6:8

I know how to get along with humble means, and I also know how to live in prosperity; in any and every circumstance I have learned the secret of being filled and going hungry, both of having abundance and suffering need. I can do all things through Him who strengthens me. Philippians 4:12-13

I must go on boasting. Although there is nothing to be gained, I will go on to visions and revelations from the Lord. I know a man in Christ who fourteen years ago was caught up to the third heaven. Whether it was in the body or out of the body I do not know—God knows. And I know that this man—whether in the body or apart from the body I do not know, but God knows— was caught up to paradise and heard inexpressible things, things that no one is permitted to tell. I will boast about a man like that, but I will not boast about myself, except about my weaknesses. Even if I should choose to boast, I would not be a fool, because I would be speaking the truth. But I refrain, so no one will think more of me than is warranted by what I do or say, or because of these surpassingly great revelations. Therefore, in order to keep me from becoming conceited, I was given a thorn in my flesh, a messenger of Satan, to torment me. Three times I pleaded with the Lord to take it away from me. But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me. That is why, for Christ’s sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong. 2 Corinthians 12:1-10

verses about sufficiency of Christ

verses about contentment

5. I have the “control knob” that determines how much of God’s Spirit fills me. 

Being filled with the Spirit is a gift from God if I am a disciple of Christ, but it is also a command. It is something I have a choice to do or to not do. I can choose to grieve God’s Spirit. I can choose to hold on to sin. I can choose to allow my sinful flesh to have control, or I can ask God to fill me with His Spirit and invite His Spirit to have full control.

Do not get drunk on wine, which leads to debauchery. Instead, be filled with the Spirit. Ephesians 5:18

What agreement is there between the temple of God and idols? For we are the temple of the living God. As God has said:“I will live with them and walk among them, and I will be their God, and they will be my people.” Therefore, “Come out from them and be separate, says the Lord. Touch no unclean thing, and I will receive you.” And, “I will be a Father to you, and you will be my sons and daughters,” II Corinthians 6:16-18

You, my brothers and sisters, were called to be free. But do not use your freedom to indulge the flesh; rather, serve one another humbly in love. For the entire law is fulfilled in keeping this one command: “Love your neighbor as yourself.” If you bite and devour each other, watch out or you will be destroyed by each other. So I say, walk by the Spirit, and you will not gratify the desires of the flesh. For the flesh desires what is contrary to the Spirit, and the Spirit what is contrary to the flesh. They are in conflict with each other, so that you are not to do whatever you want. But if you are led by the Spirit, you are not under the law. The acts of the flesh are obvious: sexual immorality, impurity and debauchery; idolatry and witchcraft; hatred, discord, jealousy, fits of rage, selfish ambition, dissensions, factions and envy; drunkenness, orgies, and the like. I warn you, as I did before, that those who live like this will not inherit the kingdom of God. But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law. Those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires. Since we live by the Spirit, let us keep in step with the Spirit. Let us not become conceited, provoking and envying each other. Galatians 5:13-26

verses about living by the Spirit

6. I must abide in Christ, in His Word, and in prayer.

“I am the true vine, and my Father is the gardener. He cuts off every branch in me that bears no fruit, while every branch that does bear fruit he prunes so that it will be even more fruitful. You are already clean because of the word I have spoken to you. Remain in me, as I also remain in you. No branch can bear fruit by itself; it must remain in the vine. Neither can you bear fruit unless you remain in me. “I am the vine; you are the branches. If you remain in me and I in you, you will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing. If you do not remain in me, you are like a branch that is thrown away and withers; such branches are picked up, thrown into the fire and burned. If you remain in me and my words remain in you, ask whatever you wish, and it will be done for you. This is to my Father’s glory, that you bear much fruit, showing yourselves to be my disciples. “As the Father has loved me, so have I loved you. Now remain in my love. If you keep my commands, you will remain in my love, just as I have kept my Father’s commands and remain in his love. I have told you this so that my joy may be in you and that your joy may be complete. My command is this: Love each other as I have loved you. Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one’s life for one’s friends. You are my friends if you do what I command. I no longer call you servants, because a servant does not know his master’s business. Instead, I have called you friends, for everything that I learned from my Father I have made known to you. You did not choose me, but I chose you and appointed you so that you might go and bear fruit—fruit that will last—and so that whatever you ask in my name the Father will give you. This is my command: Love each other. John 15:1-17

verses about abiding in Christ

76 thoughts on ““How Do You Stay Filled with the Holy Spirit?”

  1. HI April, The Holy Spirit has become my most amazing companion yet the road to meeting Him in this way was through my wife separating from me three months ago which led to very strong repentance on my behalf. There has been a very active and thorough journey since then where the Lord has taken me all over to deal with sin at its very deepest levels to bring me to the most extraordinary life in God I would not have thought possible by breaking down some very significant emotional walls and when He does it they come down and stay down. I would need a very large book to describe how God has met me, healed me, delivered me, and brought me to a world of love and life I never knew existed. But as with others I’m sure it is from constant pressing in to God, committed hours of prayer and seeking Him and I am only just getting to know the Holy Spirit through this time.
    I would never have chosen this path, it has been painful for me and remains much more painful for my wife but He is sovereign and so, so loving but the Lord is now first in my life and to answer your question about how to stay filled with His Holy Spirit I just have say for me it is straight out Repentance with a capital R – let everything go, absolutely everything, constantly, daily, hourly if you have to, don’t let anything get in the way and it seems like He is waiting to come rushing to your side. There are so many miracles going on in my life I feel like I am in Acts some days but I still see my wife in so much pain which keeps me looking to Him for that most precious miracle of seeing her find this same relationship with the Holy Spirit!!

    1. Gary,

      Wow!!! I am so very thankful for your willingness to share your story. What an amazing God we serve. I am grateful that He takes us through trials if that is what it takes for us to really know Him and to truly repent. Your story reminds me a lot of my own. I remember spending the first 6 weeks after God woke me up to my sin repenting every day all day long. I felt like I needed industrial sized spiritual dump trucks to take away the massive amount of sin God was revealing to me each day for which I needed to repent. I had to go repent to almost every person in my life, as well. It was painful. And humbling. But SO WORTH IT!

      I pray with you for God’s Spirit to work in your wife’s life as well. How incredible that He is working so powerfully in you. I would love to hear more some time when you are ready to share. 🙂 I never get tired of hearing what our God does in people’s lives. I am sure your wife sees the changes in you, too. I pray that He will reach her and work in her to draw her to Himself. I pray for His greatest glory in each of your lives individually and as a couple!

      Much love, my precious brother!

      1. April, it was pretty much six weeks of having sin revealed to me also, very, very specifically and it did feel like spiritual dump trucks were being used. I’d love to share more but there are so many overwhelming aspects to it especially just how extraordinarily intricate and detailed the circumstantial and interpersonal connections He allows and involves to bring me to this place. The church is an absolutely amazing body which works within His equally amazing creation and NOT ONE thing is beyond His sovereign touch!! Thank you so much for your prayers, I am so seriously committed and excited to being a husband now ….just lacking my wife at my side for the moment but if He can deal with me then helping my wife will be a walk in the park for Him!!

      2. April,

        Something you mentioned here made me curious. If you’re not comfortable sharing, that’s fine, but I was wondering: Who did you need to repent to? And what about? Was it the disrespect thing that you’ve spoken about before? And how did you go about that? I ask because I made a mistake yesterday that I felt awful about… the Lord convicted me for doing it. Yet, when I asked forgiveness from those who heard me utter my mistake (it was a spoken mistake… an inappropriate comment), the people sort of wrote it off. They forgave me, of course, but they also seemed like it wasn’t that big a deal. Did this happen to you as well? If so, how did you handle it? I don’t think God necessarily wants me to wallow in remorse, because Satan can begin to use that to create negative self-talk that’s damaging, but at the same time, I felt like I was let off a little too easily and wanted to say, “No, it wasn’t OK… I shouldn’t have done that.” 😛

        Thanks again for all you do by sharing this blog with us! 😀

        1. Jenn,

          I had to repent to my husband, of course, but also to his parents, my parents, my brother, my sister and my sister’s husband. I had been controlling toward all of them, and disrespectful toward all of them. I was prideful and self-righteous. I tried to tell them all what to do. I was resentful, bitter, and unforgiving. I went to each of them and humbled myself and said basically, “I realize now that I have been very disrespectful to you. I have also been prideful, self-righteous, controlling, and unforgiving. I have participated in gossip against you. I thought I knew best what you should do in your life. I was very wrong. I hope you can forgive me.” They all forgave me quickly – which shocked me.

          If you have apologized, and they forgave you – that is what is required of you. You could say, “No, it wasn’t OK. I shouldn’t have done that.” At the time, if you feel you should. But, the main thing is that you apologized and repented. Their response is between them and God.

          Much love to you!

      3. I have been working on repentance and making God Lord of my life and I revisit your video on this topic. Can you elaborate more on giving up your dreams? I always thought the Lord gave us the desires of our heart. I love so much how your work has helped me so much and making such a change for me and my walk with God. Monica

        1. Monica,

          Great question!

          Yes, Scripture says, “Delight yourself in the Lord and He will give you the desires of your heart.” But, what you may not realize is this – God changes our desires to match His own when we delight ourselves in Him. Whatever delights Him becomes our delight. His passions become our passions. We begin to hate what He hates and love what He loves. And we will want His will and His glory more than anything else because that is what He wants.

          God may give you what you want right now. Or He may not. Either way, He wants to see that you are willing to give up what you want in order to please and love Him above all else. He may just test you – like He did Sbraham with Isaac. He asked Abraham to sacrifice Isaac, but then stepped in to rescue Isaac and to allow Abraham to keep his son. Or, He may ask you to give up something permanently, with no hope of receiving it back – like Ezekiel’s wife.

          He must be first in our hearts, no matter what the cost. Read what Jesus says about the cost of being His disciple. If we love anyone or anything else more than we love Him, we are not worthy of Him.

          Much love!!!

  2. April, I especially enjoy the biblical organization you impose on a particular subject. It’s so nice to see all these familiar verses grouped together, and to be reminded how important it is not to let the “anxieties of life” crowd out spiritual things and our closeness and reliance on God. These days so many things can feel threatening if we fail to keep them in the perspective of God’s promises. But when God’s peace and spirit are with us, earthly problems shrink into manageable proportions and our ability to deal with them grows. I still struggle with being at peace despite not knowing exactly how something will work out ahead of time, but then remember that if I knew that there would be no need for faith. My husband is a wonderful source of strength in that regard, for his faith is phenomenal. I’m growing in mine, and all these reminders help. 🙂

    1. Elizabeth,
      You have such an amazing gift for writing and explaining spiritual truths powerfully and beautifully. Wow. Amen!!

      You know how I learned to have peace in the midst of uncertainty? God kept forcing me into situations over and over again where I had no control and where I was afraid of what the outcome would be until I was able to learn to rest in His peace in the midst of the unknown no matter what the outcome would be. 🙂

  3. April,

    I just love you. You are an awesome teacher. I love how God is using you. I love how your post bring about conviction and peace. I need to draw much closer to Christ. I have many Idols and cherish my sin because I feel its my right to be mad, hateful. I’m big on people pleasing and everything else. I want to do what God says to do. I repent daily. I have so much hidden sin I don’t know where to find it. I pray God searches the heart of me and finds it. This is an awesome post thank you!

    I also notice that when I get around people who are sinning (especially at home/work) they start to rub off on me. If I have planned to be positive 10 negative people come my way and I join them. I know that these are small test that I continue to fail.

    I am still working on my faith. I could be doubtful Thomas at times. I am at the cliff and I keep saying “Jesus just push me over!” and he replies “You have to jump your self.” lol a few more steps to fully trust God. I just have to take them. But I feel a great fear tugging on my heart. ugh Work in progress I know through Christ all things are possible. 🙂

    1. Shy,

      I too am very much a work in progress, and just wanted to encourage you to keep trying, no matter how much imperfections cause you to despair. There are times when I feel the way the apostle Paul did in Romans 7:14-25, where he said in so many words, miserable man that I am, who will rescue me from the body undergoing this death? For when I wish to do what is good, what is evil is present in me. . . . He knew so well the struggle to do the right thing. This is the struggle against our sinful nature, and God’s spirit can help us just as it did Paul to keep pursuing a righteous life pleasing to him. The fear you speak of is something I must wrestle with, too. Fear that I’m not pleasing enough to God for him to want to give me as much of the spirit as I need to have complete faith. Fear that somehow our material needs might not be met when I lose my job, etc. I know this isn’t true and that we’re trying to lead a life of service to others and be receptive to God’s direction in this way, and that I can trust God fully, but then actually doing it is what I’m striving to work on. God knows I need to have things written on the wall, so to speak. 🙂 This is where my husband is my complement. It is much easier for him to trust completely, and I am trying to practice the same kind of faith. Considering what the scriptures say daily is such a help to me! Best wishes to you, too, and much love to you.

    2. Shy,
      That conviction and peace is totally a God thing, not an April thing. It is my most fervent prayer that God might speak powerfully through me by His Spirit and His truth.

      You have been far from God, yes. We all have been. I sure was when God opened my eyes to my MOUNTAIN of sin 6 years ago. It takes time to see, confess and repent of a whole mountain of sin. Just keep going. Keep shoveling out and confessing what God shows you as He reveals it. It is ok to go slowly so that you don’t miss anything. Yes, just keep asking God to show you any sin. He will!!

      Yes, people who are sinning can be a big temptation. There may be some people you can’t be around for awhile until you are stronger. Or, you may need to pray for God’s wisdom. He will always provide a way out of temptation.

      You do have to jump yourself. Exactly! It has to be your choice to have faith and to trust. There is always a great wrestling with your fears as you begin to live by faith. That is normal. But as God removes your sin, His love will melt away all your fears. You will have to deal with each of them and wrestle with them. But God’s love will ultimately triumph!!

      I love you, too, my precious girl! I am glad you are on this fast and that you are focusing on God. You have much healing to do. And our God knows exactly how to heal you. )

  4. Elizabeth,
    Thank you so much for your encouraging words. They are appreciated. I’ve been on a 31 day fast from talking to males and it is really exposing my Idols an lack of self control. Even though I have not broken my fast I’m pretty sure my fast is breaking me.

    Makes me think of this scripture.

    Anyone who falls on this stone will be broken to pieces; anyone on whom it falls will be crushed.”matt 21:44

    I can trust Christ and let him break me; or my sin will get me crushed to pieces, my choice. Should be easy huh. <3 🙂

    1. Shy,

      Your feelings right now i believe are very common to anyone who has committed to doing something unaccustomed and difficult.A smoker who quits realizes afterward what a stranglehold it has on his orher life. You are probably realizing now that your need to talk to men is similarly unhealthy. But in every case, there is at least one huge hump to get over, and then its much easier after that. Hang in there, keep praying, and know that this experience will really allow you to see yourself, your needs, your motivations, and much more with amazing clarity.

  5. Awesome! (of course) Wonderful points, and the way you wrote them and such good references. 😀

    For almost the past 9 years it’s been very hard not to be “distracted” in certain ways from my line-of-sight with God, distracted by worldly concerns. 🙁

    Not that I was perfect back then, either, but I used to be more on the right track which I’m slowly getting back to–April reminds me so much of those wonderful times. I’m so excited. 🙂

    But focusing on God allows for the continuous supply of His holy spirit.

    1 Corinthians 12:14
    For in one Spirit we were all baptized into one body—Jews or Greeks, slaves or free—and all were made to drink of one Spirit.

    Scraping the decaying world out of ourselves in all sorts of capacities, allowing God’s spirit to take its place in our hearts.

    Sometimes I hold out my arms and ask God for the Holy Spirit and I can just feel it falling on me. Just asking God for it with the heart of a child. That perfect, exquisite, unmistakable taste of the Holy Spirit that is the perfect match for which every heart longs!

    And then there is the gift of tongues! The pure spiritual prayer, from the Holy Spirit within us to God. That was a matchless gift, blessing, and weapon God gave me when I was 21 and when nonsense is under my skin I have to stop and think “why am I not doing that?” Prayer in tongues cleans you out!

  6. I went to a variety of spiritual people, and the rebuke I got time and time and time again was: I was guilty of passing judgment on myself, beating myself up, hating myself. Of course, there’s a lot of real hatred out in the world (for us to protect ourselves from and fight off).

    Several times it happened, where a woman prayed over me, I hadn’t said a single word, and she gave me a strong look, “you’ve been passing judgment on yourself. God wants you to stop beating yourself up–just repent of a sin quickly. Your His child.”

    That opens the door to absolutely everything, because it gets in the way of our ability to accept God’s love (even when we’re asking for it) and power and pass on love to others. I got that rebuke probably hundreds of times when I was interacting with believers back then–there was a lot of other circumstantial nonsense going on too. But I wasn’t even consciously realizing I was doing that and struggled to catch myself.

    1. JC,
      I’m glad that you see that self-hatred isn’t at all what God desires for us. It is so destructive! Only the enemy is happy to see us loathe and beat ourselves up. I’m so thankful for life-giving rebukes from loving believers. Others can sometimes see our blind spots and their words of godly wisdom can spare us so much pain and help us get on track with God again.

      1. It can be real complicated I find. Repenting of sin in general is usually a lot more complicated than simply quitting.

        I was meditating of the birth of Jesus on Christmas. I just had a thought in my heart returning to me, how much I love Jesus, but I thought about how Jesus asked Peter “do you love me?” 3 times because Peter let Jesus down and how that hurt Peter. I wanted so badly to tell Jesus how much I loved him that I felt in my heart, and I know he has every reason to ask me “do you love me?” at least a thousand times. 🙁 Jesus gave me SO much and I felt like I let him down.

        The fruits of repentance for self-hatred are many. One of them is being protective of oneself, I realized (“love always protects”) and I sure am busy on that front–like anyone is with his/her set of threats in life.

        Then “the accuser” masquerades as a good conscience. God tells us to acknowledge Him in everything we do. Just recently I was at a fork in the road and I had to make a moral choice, and I had to make one decision on it or another. I reasoned it through (all my time belongs to God in any case) and made a tough decision but guilt was upon me no matter what. I asked God for positive reinforcement (“if I’m doing something right, please help me understand that I am so I know I should keep it up”). God was so good and merciful, Lord give me peace on this decision or confront me for the alternative: I spoke to God through my moral choice, and time and time again God struck me with the Holy Spirit so hard that I was forced to quit speaking, a forceful pouring of His Spirit that imparted a powerful peace and tranquility. Time and time again He did this as I spoke, reasoning through my decision before God, until I had to acknowledge that I was being harassed by the accuser who wanted me to feel guilty no matter what I chose to do, not a loving rebuke from God, and I was no longer to listen to those words from the Devil trying to take me down. It’s something I could know by now from all my experience, but God was gracious enough to help me in this way.

        The fight of faith is a good fight! 🙂

        And it’s such a treat to see others’ journey in faith too!

        1. JC,
          Love this! Thanks for sharing – I especially love the way you brought your choice to God and begin to recognize the voice of the accuser vs. the voice of God. What an incredibly important distinction that we might have wisdom to know the difference!

          Much love,
          April

          1. Yes, the accuser is relentless!

            James 1:5
            If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask God, who gives generously to all without reproach, and it will be given him.

            I think part of how this plays out in practice almost looks like, “trust your own wisdom” in a way. Not so much that we’re trusting ourselves but that, if we are asking God for wisdom or thirst for righteousness, that God makes good on His promise to do so and gives it to us.

            Paul’s comments are so true, that when he still sinned, “it is no longer I that do it but the evil within me.” God really, really did change us. And the Devil would want to convince us that God wasn’t powerful enough to change us, and can get us in a place where we second-guess such a thing which cripples our power.

            If we’re stuck in a place where we just never trust that God gave us the wisdom we asked, what then? That’s what I should have known in my case: that God did give me the facilities to reason out a moral decision such as in that case, but God went and gave me something extra: powerful feedback with his exquisite spirit as I exercised wisdom that God had long-since imparted to me. 🙂

            I’m going on and on–but I’m just excited about such things! 😀

  7. Thanks for helping me to understand that I can’t hold on to any of my old habitual sins and expect to be empowered by The Holy Spirit. We often get so comfortable with our bad habits that we stop seeing them as sin and simply accept them as a way of life. I now see that I must put everything away in order to receive the empowerment I need to withstand future temptations. I’ve repented and asked for forgiveness for my savored sins and must believe that I will receive the self control needed to have the victory. It’s a hard one to get my brain wrapped around though, I can’t be sinning and receive Gods power, but I can’t stop sinning without it!

    1. Linda,
      I didn’t understand this until 6 years ago, although I had accepted Christ at age 5. I had so many “pet” sins that I didn’t even count as sins because I felt so justified. Yikes! No wonder I didn’t have God’s peace and joy before!!

      Thank you very much for sharing! I am so glad that God is working powerfully in your heart! I am very excited to see what He has planned for you. 🙂

      1. I think I have pet sins to. April I’m confused about boundaries. If someone sins against me and I forgive them but no longer want them in my life if that truly forgiving them? How do we forgive but tell someone we don’t want to see them ever again?

        1. Shy,
          Forgiveness is a command that Jesus gives us in all circumstances as believers. Trusting someone else again is not a command. Just check out the boundaries set up in church discipline in Matthew 18:15-17. There are absolutely times when we cannot allow unrepentant people freedom and access to our hearts and lives.

          I don’t know if you would need to say you never want to see them again. But you can pray about what God might have you to say. And you can say something like, “I have a lot more healing I need to do. Right now, our relationship is too toxic for me.” Or, “I forgive you. And I love you with the love of God. But it will take a lot of time to rebuild trust. Right now, I am not ready to begin doing that with you.” Or “I will let you know if/when I believe I would be able to try to rebuild a relationship and trust…”

          Much love to you!

          1. These are some awesome replies I will use them! I will watch the video tomorrow I’m half sleep lol. ♡♥zzzzzz

  8. Hi April beautiful writing. I loved it. Very soul satisfying. Thank u for writing in my blog also. do u have another email or way of contact. I could use ur help and i feel like writing the questions on your blog entries isn’t correct or efficient. Thank u.

    1. April,
      Right now, I am available here and on my YouTube channel. Although, I check the blog comments much more often than Youtube. I have been a bit slower than usual at answering questions on the blog the past week and a half becuae both of my children and myself have had the flu. This week, I will be tied up at times wtih family Christmas celebrations. But I will answer as soon as I am available.

      Much love to you!

  9. Along the lines of letting go of our sins…how do you respond to your husband, or your parents, when they ask your opinion about how to respond to something, without coming across holier-than-thou – when their approaches ARE sinful?

    My parents and husband are all Christians, very active in church, serve, lead, etc. However, when it comes to being wronged by someone, they do have a tendency to talk about vengeance. For example, my husband was falsely accused of something. Now that the situation has been cleared up, he’s joked about getting back at the accusers. (To be honest, I’m not entirely sure he is joking.) My parents have essentially encouraged him. I want to point out that it is biblically wrong, but I feel like their hearts would be hardened against the truth and they would feel like I’m being a “goody two-shoes” or trying to act like I’m better than they are…when I know full well that I mess up more often than not, too. I’m not sure how to respond in these situations. Usually I try to be quiet, but sometimes they will ask my opinion, and sometimes it just really bothers me that they are discussing something I feel is so very wrong.

    1. M.,

      This would require a lot of prayer and sensitivity to God’s Spirit. It is possible that you may just gently, softly want to quote the line from Romans 12 about “do not take revenge, my friends, but leave room for God’s wrath.” Or, you may just humbly, softly say something about how much we all need the grace of God. Or you may suggest that you are praying for those people and for God to work in their lives for His glory.

      If they are far from God, they may get upset. They may not listen. I Peter 3:1-6 may be the most powerful approach. But, if they directly ask, you can certainly say that you don’t like the thought of taking vengeance because vengeance belongs to God, and leave it at that and pray God will work in their hearts.

      Much love to you!

  10. Dear April,

    God bless you, I don’t know what to say… God bless you richly because you have created a home for us all.. where we are welcome to share our experiences with an aim of improving our lives and most importantly snatching our homes back from the enemy.

    I have come to realize that his primary aim is to use us (women) to destroy our homes. The bible is church a great reference because there isn’t any experience or any emotion that has not be mentioned. The bible is like a cheat sheet and if we can read/meditate/apply it to our lives we would be one step ahead of the devil and the demons always trying to distract us. The bible is like someone telling you the answers ahead of a test, it has told us how sneaky the enemy is, how he engages our emotions and uses our minds to rage war and before you know it…the good one has been blessed with is snatched away.

    I have found and listened to some videos along this journey and i find myself slipping back here and there. The most painful thing about slipping back for me is that I have to take another lap; start again. God help me kill my flesh and burn every pride in me. If we can be at our best behavior at work, in front of our boss, people of authority, how then is it that we can let ourselves loose at home? Home is where we ought to be at our best.

    Some of us have more work to do than others in different areas and it is my honest prayer that God touches every single woman who is struggling, fighting demons, women who have lost the trust of their husbands because they are so unstable, women in emotional pain.. I pray God will touch us and change us like he radically changed you.

    Here are videos that have really blessed me and I thought I share it and am sure they will bless you all too..

    God Bless

    A MUST WATCH

    SUBTLE DECEIT- Td Jakes

    MANAGING EMOTIONS BY Joyce Meyers

    EXPOSING STRIFE Part 1- Joyce Meyers

    EXPOSING STRIFE Part 2- Joyce Meyers

    1. I Choose to Respect Him,

      YES! The enemy DOES want to use us and anything else he can to destroy our husbands, our homes, our families, our churches, our walk with Christ, our husband’s walk with Christ, our children’s faith in God, our children’s understanding of godly marriage, and EVERYTHING else that God created to be good.

      I am so thankful for what God is doing in your heart!!!

      Thank you so much for sharing these videos.

      May God continue to richly bless your walk with Christ, your husband, your marriage, and your family for His greatest glory, my dear sister!

      1. Hello April,

        I had a quick question. I am studying what it means to have a meek, gentle and quite spirit. I have watched your video on you tube- having a quite spirit, does that mean we cant speak? and I am looking at some posts on here as well. I wanted to know if it possible to have a bubbly, upbeat, proactive type personality and still have a meek and gentle spirit.

        How does one strike a balance with this?

        Thank you

        1. I Choose to Respect Him,

          Great question! 🙂

          Having a quiet spirit doesn’t mean we can’t speak. Other translationS of “quiet spirit” are “calm,” “peaceful,” or “undisturbed.” Basically, it means that in our deepest soul, we are not freaking out or getting worked up and anxious and trying to force our way, we are living in genuine and supernatural peace as we trust in God.

          “Does Being a Biblically Submissive Wife Mean I Can’t Share How I Feel and What I Need?”

  11. I meditate on Christ’s sacrifice for me to remember that I’m not garbage to God. 🙂

    I considered, too, that we are God’s “investment.”

    When someone puts time, money, or energy into something, that person will put more work and effort in to preserving his investment.

    Since God invested His Son into us–how could He have paid a higher price?–then He has all the interest in the universe for taking care of His investment in every way! 😀

    Lately I’ve been making a special effort to starting the day with dedicating my day to Christ in prayer, asking for the Lord to move me however necessary. All I have to do is hold up my hands and I can feel the Lord pouring His spirit onto me, its peace, power, purification–though there’s a lot to purify!

    It can be a struggle to wrestle with thoughts, taking them captive and making them obedient to Christ.

    And I’ve found incredibly edification in my writing my book–really hard work, but it’s healing and purifying power on me is just amazing.

  12. Im afraid i grieved the holy spirit…..i was saved about 13 months ago,i strugglef with alcohol and drug addiction and sexual sins ( lust ) for 25 yrs.after being saved i was able to defeat and conquer all my drug and alcohol habits,even sexual sin ( but only a few months for the sexual sin ) i been clean for 10 months,but been struggling with srxual sin since,i cant seem to beat it,now i dont feel the holy spirits presence anymore and feel its too late to repent and be forgiven and filled again.

    1. Alphonse Crescenzo,

      There is much hope in Christ, my brother! Please check out the resources available to you at http://www.xxxchurch.org. 🙂 You can turn completely away from this sin and turn fully to Christ. You can’t have victory in your own strength, but as you get rid of your sin and allow Him to empower you, you can walk in His victory over sin. 🙂

      1. The guilt is killing me im in tears….all i can see is Jesus on the cross knowing i put him there 😢 and hebrews 10:22 and 2 peter 2:20-22 come to mind….i love Jesus,but idky im struggling in this one area….i overcame and conqured so much in such a short time ( only by his grace ) all glory to God,but backslid into sexual immoarilty and feel trapped…..i cant do this without him but feel all alone.
        Thank you sister for replying.

        1. alphonse crescenzo,

          The voice you are listening to right now – is it the voice of God or the enemy, my brother? What does God’s Word say? Will God ever leave you? Yes, you can lose fellowship because of sin. When you realize you have sinned, turn completely away from it and hate the sin. Turn completely to the Lordship of Christ.

          Would you be interested in talking about how you believe you can be made right with God?

          A great resource would be Absolute Surrender by Andrew Murray.

          1. I keep hearing ( i will not leave you nor forsake you – and believe – and turn to me and be healed ) and i know i can lose salvation….and yes nothing i need more than to be made right with God.

          2. alphonse crescenzo,

            When we don’t understand the truth about God, ourselves, salvation, or anything else – when we build our lives on worldly wisdom or anything but God’s truth – our lives fall apart. But as we know God and His power, He gives us the ability to build on His truth alone and to build on the Rock that will not be shaken.

            Here is an interesting assignment, if you are up for it. Check out this post about common lies we tend to embrace about God, ourselves, and others. Let me know if you see any of these things in your thinking.

            Much love in Christ!

          3. Im up for it sister,will check it out right now….and much love also,will get right back to you and thank you from the bottom of my heart.

          4. alphonse crescenzo,

            You are most welcome. We are all in desperate need of Christ. We all stand on equal ground before the cross. I know exactly where I would be if not for Jesus and what He has done in my life. Let’s approach Him together. There is much healing available for you there. 🙂

            In Him
            April

          5. Thanks april,you are a blessed child of God may he bless you richly..
            I found a few not many lies i sometime believe,just a rundown.
            Things i believe – lies about perfectionism/people pleasing.
            One i dont try to plz ppl God is judge.
            #7 i cant relaz and enjoy intimacy with God or others,only when i fall,cuz of guilt and shame – and been falling alot 😢
            #8 my value is in what Christ did for me on the cross….like i said before,it was only by his love and grace i was able to conquer all i have so far,with cigarettes,drugs and alcohol,and did that by believing in what he did on the cross.
            #9 we all make mistakes,if we say we have no sin the truth aint in us.
            #10 i believe,know i do love ppl,but sometimes struggle with social anxiety 😢
            #11 no God is key,i can do all things threw Christ
            Lies about God
            #10 sometimes,but know its really not true.
            #21 i know God wants me to be happy,but i find it hard sometimes,mostly after i fall cuz the pain and seperation it brings.
            Lies about self
            #2 sometimes i admit,i feel worthless and unworthy,again after i fall.
            #8 Sometimes feel as though God cant forgive me,but i feel his reassurance,hard to explain,like you dont hear an audible voice but know what hes saying.
            #9 struggle forgiving myself at times.

            This actually helped more than i expected it to,i need to get back to where i was,i only overcame all this by believing ( faith ) that anythinh is possible w God.idky i do what i hate but do it anyway….i hate myself for my sins,i need to believe again,and trust in him and his promises,that he’ll finish the work in me he started,im crying cuz i know im nothing without Christ…..i dont wanna lose him cuz hes all i really have,i never knew what love was til i experienced his.
            Thank you so much April,i ask you say a prayer for me tonight.and God bless you 😇
            P.s my email addy is ( alphonsecrescenzo@gmail.com ) stay intouch,can use some more christian friends,and ill give you my testimony when you have time bout what brought me to Christ in the first place.

          6. alphonse crescenzo,

            I’m glad this was helpful. Here are a few posts that may be a blessing, my brother. I pray you will listen to God’s voice and kick out the lies of the enemy and seek to allow Him to empower you to live in holiness and purity. We can’t do this in our own strength, but when we have His Spirit, we can live in victory over sin. We are no longer slaves to sin!!!! Romans 6

            I invite you to search my home page for some things like:

            – insecurity
            – security
            – idol/idolatry
            – happiness
            – responsible for myself spiritually
            – how to stay filled with the holy spirit
            – identity in Christ

            Much love in Christ to you! I’m so glad you want to turn away from sin which only destroys us and that you want to live a new life in Christ. I hope you will also reach out for help from a trusted godly mentoring man or pastor if you need to.

My grandmother is on hospice and won't be with us much longer (11-30-16). I will get to comments when I am able to but I need to be with family right now. Thanks for understanding.

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