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Prayer Day – Desire



Some things I hear frequently from wives who feel unloved is that they wish their husband desired them:

  • “I want him to WANT to be with me.”
  • “I want to be his highest priority!”
  • “I don’t want him giving attention to anyone else that should rightfully belong to me.”
  • “I wish he wanted to talk to me.”
  • “I wish he wanted me sexually.”
  • “I want to connect with him spiritually and emotionally.”
  • “I want him to pray with me.”
  • “I wish he would email me/call me more.”
  • “I wish he would tell me how much he loves me.”
  • “I want to share my heart with him and I wish he wanted to hear about what matters to me.”
  • “I want him to come up to me and hug me and want to hear my heart.”
  • “Why doesn’t he want to spend time with me like I want to spend time with him?”

Here is something that is MIND BLOWING:

God feels the same way about us!

  • He wants us to want Him more than anything.
  • He wants us to desire to connect with Him spiritually and emotionally.
  • He wants us to want to talk with Him.
  • He wants us to hunger for His Word.
  • He wants us to enjoy communicating with Him.
  • He wants us to really know Him – not that we can know Him fully – but we can grow in our knowledge and love for Him as He reveals Himself to us in His Word.
  • He wants us to long for His presence.
  • He wants us to be one in Spirit with Him, to abide in Him.
  • He wants to fill us with His Spirit.
  • He wants us to care about what is important to Him.
  • He wants our attention – and He doesn’t want us putting other things/people above His rightful place in our hearts.

We cannot pray effectively and powerfully unless and until we have a DEEP, insatiable, permeating, abiding HUNGER and DESIRE for God.  Not for His blessings.  Not for “stuff” He can give us.  But for HIM.

As the deer pants for streams of water, so my soul pants for you, my God. Psalm 42:1

  • I desire to do your will, my God; your law is within my heart. Psalm 40:8
  • My soul yearns, even faints, for the courts of the LORD; my heart and my flesh cry out for the living God. Psalm 84:2
  • One thing I ask from the LORD, this only do I seek: that I may dwell in the house of the LORD all the days of my life, to gaze on the beauty of the LORD and to seek him in his temple. Psalm 27:4


Thank You that You desire to have a relationship with us. How unfathomable that You are mindful of US!?!?  How incredible that You know us and that You, the Creator of the Universe, the King of all Creation, the sovereign, holy, all-powerful, all-knowing, wise and mighty Lord would want us to know You, to have a relationship with You and to be near You.  THANK YOU for providing the blood of Jesus to cover our great sin debt that we could never repay on our own. We deserve to be separated from You forever by our mountains of sin.  But You have provided a way for us to come near – by the gift of Jesus’ sacrifice on our behalf. It is ALL Your work and Your doing.

We confess that we are not even able to produce faith or desire for You on our own. On our own, we are spiritually dead. We cannot see or hear or speak of spiritual things unless You bring us to Life.

How we pray that You might instill in our hearts a DEEP, unquenchable thirst, longing and desire for You.  May it be that there is nothing in heaven we desire except for You and nothing we desire on earth but You.

Let us pray with fervency, with supernatural faith, with unshakable trust in You and with supreme desire for Your Spirit, for Your indwelling us, for Your presence, for Your power in our lives, for Your will to be done and for Your glory.  Let us lay aside our own desires and let us determine to love what You love and hate what You hate.  Thank You that You are able to change our desires to match Your own.

Let us be women who desire You with ALL our hearts, minds, souls and strength. Let us delight in Your Word and enjoy and savor each Word You have prepared for us in the Bible. Let us anticipate our time with You each day with JOY. Let us cling to Your promises and Your Spirit and truth. Let us forsake the world and its wisdom and its ways. Let the things of this world become less and less important to us. Let the things of God become more and more exciting and interesting and necessary to us as You refine our faith and build our faith and make us more and more like Christ.

As we pray for our husbands and for ourselves and our families, let us primarily pray out of a desire for Your will to be done and Your glory to be accomplished – no matter what that means or costs to us personally.

Let us lay down our desires for wealth, health, long life, things, human feelings, entertainment, idols (things we shamefully put above You in our hearts), fame, power, glory, human honor, human achievement and worldly wisdom.

Let us desire only You. We totally submit ourselves to You. We hold nothing back. We receive Your Spirit! Flood us with Your power. Make us holy and set us apart for Your use.  You are our prize!  You are our reward! You are MORE than enough to satisfy us. We will be content in You alone. You are all we need! We trust You to provide for our physical needs today. But even more than we need our physical needs met, we desperately need You every single moment of the day.

I pray for our husbands, that You might work to accomplish Your will in their lives by Your power for Your glory. Help us to live in obedience to You, that we might get out of Your way so that our husbands can best hear You.  Use us to bless our husbands. Give them Your wisdom to accomplish Your purposes – even when we don’t understand what You are doing at the time. We trust You, we love You and we long to serve You and please You alone!

In the Name, power and will of Christ.


Quotes from E.M. Bounds – “The Necessity of Prayer”

  • To be filled with God’s Spirit, to be filled with God’s Word, is to know God’s will.
  • Prayer has everything to do with molding the soul into the image of God… That person who does not pray cannot possibly be called a Christian. By no possible pretext can such a person claim any right to the Name or its implied significance. The person who does not pray is a sinner, pure and simple. For prayer is the only way in which the soul of a person can enter into fellowship and communion with the source of all Christlike Spirit and energy. Therefore, a person who desk not pray is not of the household of faith.
  • It is not in our power, perhaps, to create fervency of spirit at will, but we can ask God to implant it. Then it is ours to nourish and cherish… The process of personal salvation is not only to pray, to express our desires to God, but to acquire a fervent spirit.
  • The indispensable requirement for all true praying is a deeply seated desire that seeks after God Himself, and remains unsatisfied until the choicest gifts in heaven have been richly and abundantly granted.
  • The absence of this holy desire in the heart (for God) is reasonable proof that there has either been a decline in spiritual joy, or that the new birth has never taken place. “Blessed are they which do hunger and thirst after righteousness: for they shall be filled!” Matthew 5:6
  • Two things He will not tolerate – insincerity and lukewarmness.


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27 thoughts on “Prayer Day – Desire

  1. Hi April,

    I just dont know what to say… I’m not happy at all today. I’m having terrible pain in my tooth, I went to the dentist all alone in the morning and my husband dint accompany me.. He dint do anything to make me feel better and I’m soo mad at him… Only for the last few weeks I’ve been trying to get my focus on God and not on him. But in the situation I am, I dont know why is God being so hostile to me. Ive not had food for the past three days except three four glasses of fruit juice.

    Dentist said that I have a bad infection, which was due to a bite caused in my cheek and aggravated because of low immunity. She says no proper diet, no exercise and stress had led to low immunity and this is a sign that something is wrng with my body and wanted me to get all the test done..

    And I messaged what doctor said to my husband and he responds its all because you dont brush properly and dont eat well!! I couldnt stop myself from crying, he doesnt understand the stressful life I have 12 hours work, unable to get up in the mornings leading to not cooking and not exercising and overall im accommodating his crazy schedules on weekends. I’m so full of emotions that I just want to tell him, hes the reason for my health!! HE never helps me with any house chores!

    And yes hes not Jesus , but these is not something big that i’m asking of him. The feeling of loneliness has always been there through the last four years in this marriage!

    And coming to desiring God, is he a tyrant? In all my struggling he wants me to be respectful to my husband and submit to him, be content and to love him alone?/ Hes seeing me struggle so much, yes i know I’ve made mistakes, ive been pleading for forgiveness and this is too much of a punishment for me to take for my sins…. Im unable to eat and only if i eat well, will the infection subside! What can I do in this circumstance!!

    1. Vinodhini,

      Were you able to get antibiotics?

      My precious sister – when you are feeling better physically – I think it would be a better time to try to think about these things.

      God is not a tyrant.

      You have deeply wounded your husband, too. You have shared the things you have said to him with me. You are BOTH wretched sinners who BOTH desperately need God.

      You are expecting your husband to be responsible for your health and happiness – he is not responsible for those things.

      You can ask him for help – but – right now, I am concerned that he is so wounded that he may not be able to care.

      When you are feeling better – we can talk more about this, my sister!

      It is possible you can share that you are overwhelmed and that you need help in a respectful way. But you cannot demand and dictate to him what to do – that will not get you good results.

      This infection is not a punishment. Not that I know of.

      These things happen. They are part of life. You will need antibiotics to make the infection go away my precious girl!

    2. It is hard to think clearly when you feel badly. I just want to add another voice in that says I agree, it is best to concentrate on getting well THEN deal with all of these thoughts and feelings.

      Could you ask your doctor if some vitamins might help you? Of course we all need to eat properly but vitamins can help fill in those gaps.

      Praying for you.

    3. Take care of yourself. Eat sardines or other easy healthy things for dinner and if he doesn’t like it, who cares? What is more important? Your health or his taste buds. Salads, avocado, brown rice, and plain beef or chicken are all easy healthy foods.

  2. Vin,
    God is able to heal u, just ask Him, and put everything in God’s hands, not in your own hands and not in your husbands. God can handle it, and I’m sure ofthat. You may be having some Expectations of your husband, I know I did. I feel a lighter weight since I let the expectations go. April has as post on expectations from our husbands, search bar that.
    April, I love the quotes about prayer, can u tell me the name of that book.
    Love u April IS thank God for your willing heart to do so much, can u add me back to the prayer team, was going through a lot then now I’m better and healing from my own hurts.:-) God bless u.

  3. April I thank you for this beautiful post this morning. it is exactly what I needed to read. On my way to work I was thinking about how I wish my husband would just walk up to me and grab me and hold me because he wants to not because I want him to. I don’t know if that day will ever come but in the meantime I’m going to do my best with the Lord’s help to concentrate only on Him and nobody else. I am praying and fasting all day and I am so glad that you chose this day every week for all of us wives to pray for each other and our husbands. You have truly been an inspiration in my life.

    1. LTL,
      That is such an answer to prayer – I just desire God’s Spirit to flow through me and to blast with His love, power, strength, truth and energy into the lives of every wife who reads here. I long to see us as God’s women turn to Him and become the women He desires us to be for His glory! 🙂

      I see Him doing that very thing in you.

      So beautiful!

      Thank you for praying with me. Prayer for ourselves, our husband, God’s people and for the lost is so powerful when we are in unity and abiding in Christ and asking for His will. 🙂

  4. Vin,
    One more thing!! Cut a piece of fresh garlic, and put it in your mouth where the pain is. And bite into it jut a little and give it 5 minutes or so and it will heal the pain. Garlicis a natural healing substance, its very potent and can kill bacteria. I put it on my tooth once when I had a tooth fall outb/cof a cavity, it was in a lot of pain one day, I ate on a garlic
    And let it sit in my mouth, the pain from my tooth ache went away in less than 3 minutes.

  5. Vinodhini, I just want to also say that if you are only drinking fruit juice for this many days, your blood sugar may be unstable which can make your thoughts and emotions unstable as well. Is there a way you can buy some good flavored protein powder (from health food section of a store) and mix that with a juice or milk or water, or even blend it with fruit to make a smoothie? That way you are getting some nutrition in your body. That can immediately help you feel better emotionally, although, you’ve got to treat the infection in your tooth as well! And, over time, as you eat better in general, you will probably feel better and handle stress better too.

    What April said is probably hard to hear, but it is true. It might be more accurate for you to say that the way you have been THINKING ABOUT and RESPONDING to your husband is making you sick. Worry, anxiety, depression, discontent can certainly wreak havoc on our immune systems. God allows us to go though difficulties, whether it be in marriage, a child, tragedy, etc. YOUR response is the only thing you can control, and HOW you respond to the difficulty can greatly affect whether it makes you sick or not.

    Most of us women want the things you want from our husbands, and I think most of them are ok things to want in a marriage. But, what I’m learning is that God doesn’t always give us those wants… because He has a greater good in mind. These difficulties have definitely grabbed your attention. Maybe Jesus is trying to tell you to take your focus off of this situation of your marriage and turn your eyes to Him. THAT is not only the only way to peace, but also a sure way to boost your immunity and better deal with the stresses you do have in your life. With your eyes on the Lord–the all powerful and all-knowing Creator, you will then have full access to everything you need to become like Him and grown in Him. Regardless of any change your husband does or does not make from there, you will be equipped to live a life pleasing to the Father, responding with His supernatural love that overflows from your heart.

    1. HisHelper,

      I think you explained that much more clearly than I did! Thank you for seeking to encourage our precious sister in Christ in this time that is so difficult and painful for her.


  6. Thank you my dear precious sisters!!

    Probably you’ve just started your day, and I’m assuming most of you are fasting and praying on Thursdays. I wish to join this prayer club as the Lord leads me. Please keep me in your prayers.
    Im almost about to hit the bed! I want to get some rest and get my tests done tomo.

    I did take antibiotics, but the pain doesnt seem to go away. And I dont have an infection in my tooth, but the infection is because of a bite because of the abnormal tooth. Thank you for all your suggestions and advice.

    After a bad year of fighting and arguing with my husband the entire last year (In the last two arguments he infact physically trashed me because i was telling me how useless he was in my life and I dont need him in my life) And all of the hurt on both sides is still there…

    I wanted to start the new year with new hope and my motive for this year was to have PEACE and to cast all my cares on him. And I strongly believe it was Gods will for me to find April’s blog.

    But all of a sudden, for the past few weeks the health issues that have cropped in my family is making me backslide. May be as many suggest I need to first get well and get up more stronger in the Lord!

    Thank you dear sisters for your prayers

    Vinodhini/Vin 🙂

    1. Oganya,

      I would love to have you on my prayer team! I usually handle things via email. But it seems I am still only receiving emails and my sent emails are not getting out. You may send me an email – and I will add you to the list. Whenever I am able to email again, I hope to get it to you as well! 🙂

  7. April,

    Thank you for the reminder of how much we hurt God when we don’t put Him first and spend time with Him and let Him know how important He is to us.

    Last night, I had not read my bible yet…. I was laying on the couch reading another book I am really enjoying…. I felt that little tug at my spirit that I should read my bible… but sadly, I put that off… thinking, “Lord, it is 15 till 10. I have to get ready for bed in 15 minutes, how much quality study time can I really have anyways?” I could have had 15 minutes worth. 🙁

    But today is a new day and a new chance to do things differently.

  8. I think in low times it is helpful to remember that we are in a spiritual battle. It is good to remember where are fighting actually comes from and what is instigating it. The whole Ephesians 6 passage on spiritual warfare is within the context of guidance in our relationships, culminating with “For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places.” We have an adversary who studies us and takes advantage during those weak moments. When I am in pain, tired, stressed or sick and I experience such a barrage of hateful or condemning thoughts towards myself or others, then I try to remember where that is coming from. Satan will ultimately get us to question God’s goodness. That’s where all this anger and hatred and discouragement will lead to. If these are your thoughts in the middle of all of this pain, hold fast to the promises God has made. He loves us far more than we can ever imagine.

    Here is a list of 20 Cans of Success I was given that helps me refocus during the tough times. I hope it and the Word of God will be a source of strength and comfort during those times for any of your readers as well.

    1. Why should I say I ‘can’t’ when the God says I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength (Phil. 4:13)?
    2. Why should I worry about my needs when I know that God will take care of all my needs according to His riches in glory in Christ Jesus (Phil. 4:19)?
    3. Why should I fear when God says has not given me a spirit of fear, but of power, love and a sound mind (2 Tim. 1:7)?
    4. Why should I lack faith to live for Christ when God has given me a measure of faith (Rom. 12:3)?
    5. Why should I be weak when God says that He is the strength of my life and that I will display strength and take action because I know God (Psa. 27:1; Dan. 11:32)?
    6. Why should I allow Satan control over my life when He that is in me is greater than he that is in the world (1 John 4:4)?
    7. Why should I accept defeat when God says that He always leads me in triumph (2 Cor. 2:14)?
    8. Why should I lack wisdom when Christ became wisdom to me from God and God gives wisdom to me generously when I ask Him for it (1 Cor. 1:30; Jas. 1:5)?
    9. Why should I be depressed when I have hope and can recall to mind God’s loving-kindness, compassion and faithfulness (Lam. 3:21-23)?
    10. Why should I worry and be upset when I can cast all my anxiety on Christ who cares for me (1 Pet. 5: 7)?
    11. Why should I ever be in bondage knowing that there is freedom where the Spirit of the Lord is (Gal. 5:1)?
    12. Why should I feel condemned when the God says there is no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus (Rom. 8:1)?
    13. Why should I feel alone when Jesus said He is with me always and He will never leave me nor forsake me (Matt. 28:20; Heb. 13:5)?
    14. Why should I feel as if I am cursed or have bad luck when the God’s Word says that Christ rescued me from the curse of the law that I might receive His Spirit by faith (Gal. 3:13,14)?
    15. Why should I be unhappy when I, like Paul, can learn to be content in all my circumstances (Phil. 4:11)?
    16. Why should I feel worthless when Christ became sin on my behalf that I might become the righteousness of God (2 Cor. 5:21)?
    17. Why should I feel helpless in the presence of others when I know that if God is for me, who can be against me (Romans 8:31)?
    18. Why should I be confused when God is the author of peace and He gives me knowledge through His Spirit who lives in me (1 Cor. 2:12; 14:33)?
    19. Why should I feel like a failure when I am more than a conqueror through Christ who loved me (Romans 8:37)?
    20. Why should I let the pressures of life bother me when I can take courage knowing that Jesus has overcome the world and its problems (John 16:33)?


  9. Thank you all for your prayers.

    I’m doing better today, but my reports suggests that I’m low on Vitamin D and Thyroid (T3). My dentist says she would extract one teeth today, im scared of hospitals and surgery and pain 🙁

    Once i treat my infection and tooth pain, I will then get working on my health to have a healthy diet, a little bit of exercise maybe and to avoid everything that stresses me.

    And I know all of this will fall in place if I have stronger relationship with Christ! May be this is going to be my turning point. These two days were a lot uncomfortable and a lot of soul searching stuff… There are a lot of buried dreams and hurts all along.. I thought I was done with all that, but the deeper I search the deeper the hurts,

    Continue to pray for me, t I believe God is working on me to make me who he wants me to be!

    I’m feeeling soooo good being part of all you lovely woman who share Christ!

    Love to all!!!
    Vin (I’ve got a nice name sounds good 😀 )

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