22 Ways to Destroy Intimacy and Trust in Your Marriage

Photo by Christian Fregnan on Unsplash There are many things we can do, sinful things, that will hurt our husbands and erode the intimacy we all long for in our marriages. This is not a complete list, but it may be a blessing to just ponder these things prayerfully. 1. Insult your husband out loud […]

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When You Want Your Husband to Initiate Sex

Photo by Edward Cisneros on Unsplash It’s beneficial for wives to know that this is a pretty common issue. They are not alone. In my research, my understanding is that for 40% of couples, the wife has the higher sex drive. Of course, this dynamic changes even in an individual marriage over time. Men tend […]

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Withholding Sex

Photo by Nik Lanús on Unsplash First, let’s define “withholding sex” so that we are on the same page. Withholding sex would mean – I purposely won’t have sex with my husband when I am actually able to.  (This applies to both spouses, but I only write for women, so I will be addressing only […]

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Thriving in a Marriage without Sex If Necessary

Before we get married, we tend to think to ourselves, “Wow, once we are married, I’ll get to have sex with my guy any time I want! It will be AWESOME!” There is often (but not always) a beautiful honeymoon period where both husband and wife are delighted in being together and enjoying sex together. […]

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Let’s Talk about Sex!

Photo by Rhema Kallianpur on Unsplash Lord, I thank You for creating men, women, marriage, and sex. Thank You for Your good design. I pray for Your healing for the sex lives of my readers – so that their marriages might be vibrant, healthy, and most of all, that Your Name might be greatly glorified […]

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Twenty Simple Ways to Enjoy Your Man

We are sometimes so busy, it can be easy to get caught up in lots of other things and to forget to really enjoy the moment with our husbands, our children, the Lord, and other people we love. * If we are not conscientious about enjoying our men, we can completely miss the best parts […]

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One of Your Most Powerful Gifts As a Woman

  A smile costs you nothing, but it is such an incredible blessing to those around you. You may not see your own facial expressions, so it is easy not to think about them much, but those around you definitely notice them. This week, I’d love to challenge and encourage you to: Seek to give […]

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“Are Particular Sexual Activities Wrong in Marriage?”

ABOUT MY APPROACH TO THIS POST: I haven’t stated my personal convictions about specific sexual activities in marriage for a variety of reasons. One reason is that last year, God convicted me that Romans 14 admonishes believers to keep our personal convictions about “disputable matters” private. The sharing of personal convictions tends to cause a […]

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Even Once My Marriage Is Healed – I Still Can't Go Back to My Old Ways

Even now, almost 7.5 years into this journey, I know I can’t possibly revert back to the way I used to interact and think about Greg, myself, and God.  I can’t cling to Greg in an unhealthy way. I must be sure I don’t idolize him. I need to continually take every thought captive for Christ […]

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"Placing My Higher Sexual Appetite under God’s Control" – a guest post

I appreciate both wives today sharing their stories about this difficult topic. So thankful for all that God is doing in our midst! Whether I am the higher drive spouse or the lower drive spouse at the time – God calls me to learn to be more selfless, giving, patient, respectful, and understanding. He can […]

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