“I Feel So Alone Spiritually in My Marriage”


Here’s the honest truth, my precious sisters – we will ALL feel this way many times if we are looking to our husbands to meet our spiritual needs. Whether my husband is an unbeliever or he is a famous, godly pastor, I will face times – maybe even years or decades – of feeling like I am spiritually alone.

But here is the great news!!!!!

I’m never alone spiritually! Not when I have Christ Jesus!

Jesus promised, “Never will I leave you, never will I forsake you.” Hebrews 13:5

Am I willing to lay down my expectations of my husband and let God work in my husband’s heart and life? Am I willing to  release my husband to God’s hands and His Spirit instead of trying to make my husband into a godly man myself? Am I willing to accept my husband as he is and where he is even if he does things differently than I want him to?

Truthfully, as long as I have Jesus Christ, I can be content with where I am and where my husband is.  I can be content in Christ – knowing He is working in me to conform me to be more and more like Himself and that He is working in my husband, too. His timetable may be a lot longer than mine – but that is okay.

For I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances. I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. I can do all this through him who gives me strength. Philippians 4:11b-13


I may not have the emotional and spiritual connection I long for with my husband – but God can give me much more emotional and spiritual connection than my husband ever could. Jesus alone can meet all of my deepest needs. If I am looking to my husband to meet my deep spiritual and emotional needs, I will always be disappointed. Even if my husband initiated prayer with me 3 times a day and does everything I think I want him to – he cannot fill me up! If I am looking to my husband for fulfillment and to meet my ultimate spiritual and emotional needs – I am not looking to Christ as I need to. He must be on the throne in my life! He alone is my Real Love and Real Life. He alone can connect with me emotionally and spiritually all the time. No human can do that! When I depend fully on Christ and look to Him alone, I will NEVER be disappointed!

I love the words of the hymn, “On Christ the Solid Rock I Stand” by Edward Mote

My hope is built on nothing less
Than Jesus’ blood and righteousness;
I dare not trust the sweetest frame,
But wholly lean on Jesus’ name.
On Christ, the solid Rock, I stand;
All other ground is sinking sand.

If I start looking to a person – my husband, a pastor, a friend, a mentor – any human – I will be in trouble! “I dare not trust the sweetest frame!” I must look only to Jesus, His blood, His truth, and His righteousness. He alone is my hope! He alone is my purpose, my identity, my peace, my joy, my power, my strength, my Lord!

You are not alone today, my precious sister (and brother), if you have Christ. I believe that Kari Jobe’s song below might be a great encouragement to you. I love to sing it out loud to my Lord.