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Prayer Day – Praying with Respect



I am going to be unavailable for emails through this coming Monday.  Thanks for your patience and understanding. 🙂

You are welcome to fast with me as we pray today for our marriages and marriages of believers around the world and as we pray for God to send a Great Awakening and powerful move of His Holy Spirit to draw many to Himself.  This world so DESPERATELY needs Jesus!


The first respect issue we must properly understand is that we must approach our holy, omnipotent, sovereign, omniscient, righteous, mighty God with trembling, reverence, fear and awe.

  • Has not my hand made all these things, and so they came into being?” declares the LORD. “This is the one I esteem: he who is humble and contrite in spirit, and trembles at my word. – Isaiah 66:2
  • But I, by your great mercy, will come into your house; in reverence will I bow down toward your holy temple. Psalm 5:7
  • Therefore let us be grateful for receiving a kingdom that cannot be shaken, and thus let us offer to God acceptable worship, with reverence and awe, Hebrews 12:28
  • The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge. Proverbs 1:7
  • The Lord opposes the proud, but gives grace to the humble. James 4:6

If I approach God flippantly, or disrespectfully, as if I have the right or position to order Him and command Him and as if He must submit to me – I am not approaching God with a proper spirit of humility and contrition. 

I must rid myself of every trace of pride and humble myself, realizing Whose presence I am in and my actual relationship to God.  He is holy, powerful and wise.  I am none of those things.  I must see myself as tiny, weak, foolish and powerless next to this AWESOME God.

The only proper position for me to assume before God is to be on my face in reverence before Him.

I have no rights to demand anything of Him.

I have the duty, responsibility, blessing and joy of surrendering and yielding all of myself to Him, being fully submitted to Him. Now I seek His will, not my own.


Instead of bringing a long list of demands/commands to God for Him to zap and change my husband to be what I want him to be, I humble myself and only approach God with reverence for God and respect for the position of God-given spiritual authority my husband has over me.

I go THROUGH my husband’s authority over me, I don’t try to go around it anymore.

  • I thank God for my husband.
  • I praise Him for my husband’s strengths.
  • I thank God that He is able to use even my husband’s weaknesses/sins for my ultimate good, to make me more like Christ.
  • I do not complain to God about my husband, but rather, I lift my husband up, asking God to give him godly wisdom, divine protection,  God’s direction, God’s power, God’s spiritual blessings and God’s favor.
  • I stand in the gap for my husband against the enemy’s attacks.
  • I speak highly of him to God.
  • I am on my husband’s team and God’s team.
  • I do not look down on my husband, but recognize that we are of equal worth and value before Christ and that we are equally sinful on our own at the foot of the cross.
  • I see him as a fellow traveler on this road who has his own journey to make towards God – and I desire to bless him on his journey, not to set any stumbling blocks before him.
  • I see my husband through God’s eyes of GRACE.
  • I have access to God’s forgiveness and mercy for myself, and I allow my husband access to forgiveness and mercy from me.

Then my prayers of faith open the floodgates of heaven to accomplish God’s will, His purposes and His glory in my husband’s life in God’s power and in His timing.

Another way to show respect for our husbands’ God-given spiritual authority over us as we pray is for us to cover our heads as we pray in accordance with I Corinthians 11:3-16.  When I discovered this New Testament practice it was such a help for me – a tangible way to remind me to have the proper attitude before God. I needed ALL the help I could get with learning to respect Greg and God. Respect and biblical submission does not come naturally to any of us – it sure didn’t for me! You can read about when I wrestled with this passage here.



We praise and magnify Your holy Name together. You alone are God, there is no other. You alone are sovereign. You alone have all wisdom. We come together to praise You and to tremble in awe and reverence before You. You are worthy of our highest praise. You are worthy of our greatest devotion and sacrifice. You are worthy of our obedience. Make us a holy people, set apart for Your purposes and Your glory!

We lift up ourselves as wives and our fellow wives to You, Lord.  Transform our hearts, minds and souls by the power of Your Spirit and Your Word working in our lives. Let us become the women You command us to be as Your disciples. Make us more and more like Christ! Open our eyes to any sin and let us humbly repent. Flood us with the power of Your Spirit. Let this generation rise up to become a godly generation by Your power. We are in DESPERATE need of Your power in our lives and in our midst! We can do nothing apart from You, Jesus. Cleanse us. Stir Your people with Your Spirit. Bring a Great Awakening this year among Your people around the world that we might cast off worldliness and ungodliness and sin and that we might live holy lives that please and honor You.

We lift up our husbands to Your throne room in heaven, Lord! We stand in the gap, pleading that You might remove and tear down every stronghold that is in their lives and our lives and in Your church around the world. Free people from the power of Satan and sin. Let our men become the men of God You desire them to be. Let them hear Your voice and have willing hearts to submit themselves fully to You. We trust You to draw them to Yourself without our help. We are not the Holy Spirit. You are! You don’t need our verbal prodding or coaching or preaching. Help us to live out godly lives by Your power and help us to obey I Peter 3:1-2 when our husbands seem far from You.  Let us get out of Your way so that You can work without us making things more difficult for our husbands spiritually. Use us to bless our husbands. Let us have gentle and peaceful spirits. Let us respect our husbands in ways that are meaningful to them. Let us honor them and learn to understand their perspective. Let us do what is right and not give way to fear. Let us put all of our power and strength behind our husbands and all of our trust in You. Give us the power to be meek – to have our strength under control and bridled – to be used for GOOD  – for GREAT GOOD in our husbands’ lives instead of destruction. Give our husbands Your wisdom and direction as they seek to lead our families and represent Christ in our homes. Let us make their assignments from You a joy. Use us to teach our children to honor and respect their fathers. Help us to build up the authority of our husbands and our children’s fathers. Help us to set a godly example of biblical submission to Christ and to those in spiritual authority over us – our husbands, pastors, church leaders, bosses at work, government leaders, etc.  Help us to have a friendly facial expression with our husbands most of the time and a pleasant tone of voice. Help us to stop the nonverbal disrespect of eye-rolling and making hateful faces and sighing in frustration. Change our hearts! Let us see the good in our husbands. Help us to focus on the Philippians 4:8 things and not complain or argue.  Let Your will be done in our marriages and our families as it is done in heaven. We completely submit ourselves to You, Jesus!

In the Name and power of Christ!



I would ask that we keep the prayers and requests about marriage and about the gospel being spread to the world.  Thank you so much!

28 thoughts on “Prayer Day – Praying with Respect

  1. I am praying along with everyone today. Thank you April for that wonderful prayer! I would like to request prayer for our financial situation. My husband has now been release to work after the accident he had in April. I am praying that God will lead him to the perfect job for him and our family and that I will stay out of His way and my husband’s way and not be anxious about money. In the past, I would have totally controlled the situation even as far as finding jobs online and applying for him. Thankfully, I have learned better. Nothing good ever came from that! I am stepping back and believing that God will provide for us.

    1. Daisy Mae,

      I pray for God’s direction, leadership and provision for just the right job for your husband. I pray he might be able to provide for the family to meet the family’s needs and that he might be able to use all of his skills and talents and abilities in this new job for God’s glory and to bless everyone he comes in contact with. I pray for you both to grow in your faith and trust in God and for His will in every aspect of your lives.

      In the Name and power of Christ,

      Much love!

  2. Amen. I find it immensely encouraging to be reminded of the imperishable inheritance, kept safe in heaven for us. April, thank you once again for finding such a gentle, yet direct way to expose and challenge, where we are women and wives can improve the way we approach our Heavenly Father and the way we deal with the God given authority in our Husband. I feel so blessed to be fed the words you share…..

    1. Manuska,

      It was my lack of understanding of these things that kept me far from God for many years. I had no idea why God didn’t answer my prayers. I was praying for God’s will – but my attitude was so demanding and disrespectful – that God did not hear my long prayers.

      I want us all to be right with God and be able to abide in Him and be full of His power and His Spirit and to approach Him in the ways that honor Him so that we might be able to be the women He desires us to be.

      Much love to you!

  3. I’m having a difficult time with y husband because every time he goes on a snowboarding or hunting trip with his friends they go to a strip club. He is a non believer and does not understand why strip clubs or having a subscription to playboy is wrong. He also very frequently goes to hooters with his friends very often. He knows how it makes me feel but does it anyway. What is a Godly way to handle this? I feel extremly betrayed.

    1. Kara,

      Until your husband has Christ as Lord – I doubt that he will understand why this is wrong. Check out “When My Spouse is Wrong”

      I am SO sorry for your pain!

      You can tell him, “This hurts me.” But – I would suggest being sure that you become the godly wife God desires you to be, showing respect whenever possible for what he does right, cooperating with his leadership if he is not asking you to sin/condone sin, making him feel welcome when he comes home, etc… because as you obey I Peter 3:1-6, God can more clearly speak to his heart.

      I pray for wisdom for you! And I pray God might open your husband’s eyes. Remember that your greatest power is not in a lot of words in a situation like this – but in your being filled with God’s power and His Spirit and responding to your husband in a way that honors Christ.

      Praying for you!

      1. Thank you so much for taking time out of your day to help me. The blog post “when your spouse is wrong” was very comforting. I am going to read the recommended scripture and continue to pray about my role as a Godly wife and give my husband to God to change his heart. Thank you so much!

  4. Please pray with me and my family. we are trusting God for his divine direction in our lives. My husband is not working at the moment, he was running a business that is not doing well thus he opted to close it down for the time being. My husband is an awesome man, he is very hard working. I am working but I have the feeling that God may be calling me to a different direction. Its not clear to me what He wants. Pray that my husband gets a stable job or gets another direction in business and that I also step out to where God wants me to be.
    Love you all

  5. How would a reverent way to pray look like? Would you kneel, or would it be okay to sit on a chair, or stand up with raised hands.
    To cover my head makes praying complicated and often I pray as I go, to cover alsways feels not right and to cover in church is okay. But we are also instructed not to pray so as to be noticed. How can I be both reverent and not noticed.
    When alone at home it is not a problem and helps me to set prayertime seperate, if not alone I draw attention and this seem to conflict. In church sometimes I am worried that although I do this out of reverence for God and to remind me of calling as a wife it also can be seen as if I would think better of myself. I draw attention with it and was not the instruction not to draw attention?
    Thanks for your blog I walked with it for over a year now although far from really living it yet

    1. Tabitha,
      There are times when I am in the car or somewhere that I pray without covering my head. That is something you can certainly pray about.

      It is important to watch your motives and be sure you are obeying God just to please God not out of pride. I pray other women might find the passage in I Corinthians and that there might be a new movement for women today to obey God in this way.

      Much love!

  6. I would like to ask for prayer for my family. My husband is a man of God that has become stuck in sexual sin. It started out with just flirting, but progressed to multiple affairs, him filing for divorce, yet still living in our family home, and him continuing this disrespectful behavior and more in front of our kids (2 months-12 years). I believe that God is asking me to stay in my current circumstances and need prayer to have faith to trust God and continue to be a godly wife.

    1. Trisha,

      Of course we will pray! How I pray that God might open his eyes and he might repent and turn to Christ humbly in broken contrition. There is nothing but misery for all involved on this path he has chosen. 🙁 I pray for God to give you wisdom and power and strength to abide in Him and to live in obedience to Christ and to bless your children and set a godly example for your family.

  7. Hi April!

    I have followed your blog for almost two years now and this is the first time I have posted a comment on the page. I’m a young wife. I’m 22 and have been married to my wonderful husband for almost three years. It is so encouraging to be able to go to this website and see how God works in lives and to get better understanding of this whole thing.

    In the short three years we have been married it has had so many up and downs but I know God has a great plan for the two of us. When I first started reading this I thought to myself “I can do this!” but I quickly learned that it is not I but My God who will lead me through this. I believe he led me to your page the day I stumbled upon it two winters ago. God has used you and your blog so many times I can’t even count. Thank you for listening to him and sharing your stories and your heart. God reveals something new to me everyday… in the way I’m addressing my husband or how he expresses himself to me.

    I will continue on this journey for all the years to come, I know that it will be hard but I will look back one day and see how God has worked and how He has endured. Pray for me April! That God would use me to reach my husband and that I would always be a solid help-mate for him instead of a hindrance. Thank you again my sister. Your confidence in Christ is beautiful and Greg is a lucky man! Praying for you my friend.

    1. Shelley,

      It is so wonderful to meet you! What a blessing. Your story has put the biggest smile on my face. Nothing brings me greater joy than to hear that my sisters (and brothers) in Christ are growing, learning, seeking Christ first, loving Him, honoring Him, and growing in their marriages, too. Yay!

      Thank you so much for sharing.

      I pray that You will empower and equip Shelley to be exactly the woman and wife You desire her to be. Let her draw ever closer to You. Hold her tight to Your heart. Let her learn to hear and obey only Your voice. Let her love what You love. Let her recognize the enemy’s voice and resist him, running back into Your arms every time. Let her recognize any lie in her heart and rebuild her life on Your truth alone. Use her to be a wonderful blessing and gift to her husband. Let her do what is right and not give way to hysterical fear. Let her faith grow much stronger. Let her intimacy with You go deeper and deeper every day. Let her discover all the treasure that You are! Use her to shine brightly and to bring the greatest glory for Your kingdom!

      In the Name and power of Christ,

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