I had to email you personally and tell you how grateful I am for your insight. I came across your article, “I Want to Follow my Husband. What if He Doesn’t Lead? How Can I Inspire His Leadership?” (From PW – this is basically the same post that I have posted the past 3 days – “My Husband Won’t Lead in Our Marriage” part 1, part 2 and part 3), and I believe it was sent to me by God, Himself. I was looking for answers as to why my husband is the way he is.
We have only been married for 4 1/2 years and I have been so unhappy, unforgiving, and full of resentment toward my husband. I hated the fact that he was so passive, indecisive, and immature in regards to his responsibilities and our family. I started feeling like I had to be the husband to myself.
- He’s a good man. He’s faithful, he’s a wonderful provider, he’s patient, and calm.
- I’ve always had a problem with letting go of control out of fear that something will happen or things wont go well. At the same time I have craved peace. A peace that comes from total submission to God and to my husband; the ability to trust someone with my life and it’s well being.
As I went through the list of critical truths, I found myself guilty of thinking, speaking or feeling 99% of the things listed. Before reading the list I had started to contemplate divorce. I believed that I simply could not be with my husband anymore. How deceptive Satan can be when you close yourself from the truth. After reading the list I felt embarrassed, broken, angry, ashamed, and a call to repentance.
From the bottom of my heart I thank you. It was a tough pill to swallow but it was deeply needed.