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“Misconceptions and Fears I Had at the Beginning of This Journey” – AND A CELEBRATION!!!!!!!

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I am amazed and in total awe of God to share that this blog has reached a milestone today of

1 million hits.

WOW!!!?!?!?!?!
I just have to get on my face before my God and thank and praise Him!  He blows my mind!
I started blogging on January 17, 2012.  I knew NOTHING about blogging or teaching women.  I am still learning every day!  I gave the numbers to God and said, “Please just bring me anyone You want to read each post.  This is Your blog, Your ministry, Your message.  I want to exalt You alone.”
Last fall, Greg had a little celebration for me on the blog when we hit 100,000 views.
I don’t look at the numbers a lot – it can be so easy to think that “more numbers = better” and I know God doesn’t work that way at all.  So I seek to leave all of that in God’s hands and let Him do His thing.
But –

This milestone is one I want to share with the sole purpose of giving praise and honor to God!  It is definitely a GOD thing, not an April thing.

I am extremely thankful that God is willing to use me in some way to reach others and I pray that every word might honor Jesus.  My own wisdom is worthless, only His wisdom is worth our time and energy.
Please pray that God might empower me and Greg to be faithful to Him and to each other, to withstand the attacks of the enemy and to accomplish each task He desires us to do.  It is my prayer that my life might bring God the greatest possible glory – no matter the personal cost to me.
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She started this journey 12 months ago – but only REALLY “got it,” in many ways, this past August.  I think what she has to share is very fitting as part of today’s celebration!  This wife is one of hundreds that I know of whose life God has radically changed.  I am so blessed to get to have a virtual front row seat to see His beautiful work in her life and marriage. 🙂

Misconceptions I would share with a new wife starting on this journey.

1.  I was afraid I would have to ‘dumb down’ acting as if I were a woman without a thought in her head.  This was not going to work for me.  I know I am smart and have ideas I can contribute.
TRUTH—–I can share my thoughts and ideas with my husband and he will most likely appreciate them.  I just need to share them as potential ideas and let him make the decision on what to do with them from there.
2.  I feared my husband would never show me he loved me again, without me pushing him to do it and letting him know what I needed.
TRUTH—-once I let go of him and decided to freely accept whatever he offered or didn’t offer, he became much more tender and affectionate with me.
3.  I feared that if I let my husband have a larger part in the finances, I would have less money for things I would like to have.
TRUTH— While there have been times my husband has asked me to spend carefully or not at all, he is actually much more laid back in what I buy.
4.  I believed I had to be a ‘plastic’ woman with no feelings at all to do this.  That I would have to always, as you said, sit and smile no matter what.
TRUTH- I am more in touch with my emotions than ever.
5.  I feared many things would fall apart without me keeping them together.
TRUTH- My husband actually has more initiative than I dreamed and has really been stepping up to the plate, especially with home maintenance.
6.  I feared that I would never get what I wanted again, whether it was a choice of restaurants or something much bigger.
TRUTH- My husband is actually much more willing to give me what I want.
7.  I feared there would never be any emotional closeness between us.
TRUTH- I can share all of my feelings with him, as long as I do it in the right way. He is actually more in tune with me now and my needs.  Sometimes he takes control when he sees I need rest and I love that.  He will freely tell me my hormones are talking in a loving way instead of an argument resulting from me being hormonal.
8.  I feared he would make huge mistakes with our finances and we would face total financial ruin.
TRUTH- He has actually proved to be very capable and made very logical choices with our finances.  Many times, he chooses differently than I would have but I can almost always see his way is better.
9.  I feared our marriage would die if I didn’t hold the reins.
TRUTH- It is growing and flourishing daily.
10.  I feared he would become harsh with our children.
TRUTH- He has become an even more loving and compassionate father.
11.  I feared he would become stingy.
TRUTH- He has never been more generous.
He is more comfortable leading me and I am very comfortable following.  Do I always get my way?  No, but I often do.  I have learned to lean on him and take direction well.  Each time I do, I am blessed by another layer of peace in our home and between us.
I NEED my husband to handle certain situations and to advise me at times.  I feel weightless as opposed to before I began this journey because he is carrying more and more weight and I am carrying less and less.  I am really free to just concentrate on myself, my part time job, my children and my interests.

27 thoughts on ““Misconceptions and Fears I Had at the Beginning of This Journey” – AND A CELEBRATION!!!!!!!

  1. April and Greg,
    I praise God for this exciting milestone in your ministry and ask that He would continue to bless this message of Biblical Headship and Biblical Submission. What an incredible blessing to learn this Truth!
    Grateful for His Grace,
    Martha

  2. Wow! April, what an amazing milestone! You with God’s help helped so many people yet you are so humble in spirit. I am one of those women and I KNOW God led me here. I would never ever be where I am at in this painful yet humbling journey without your help and prayers. You have been right here for me during the times i have had meltdowns, to bring me back into reality when i have let Satan get inside my head and misconstrew my thoughts. It has been such an incredible experience I sometimes want to tell my husband all about it because I am so excited about what I know God is going to do in our lives. I don’t really know WHAT He is going to do in us through this experience but I do know it is gonna be huge and I will give Him all the glory, honor and praise for it. I pray for you often and thank the Lord for you and your spiritual insight and that of your husband as well. I read his blog on occasion. Thanks so much April for your tireless work and desire to see other wives come full circle in this painful learning experience. You are blessed to have a front row seat to see all God is doing and I feel very very blessed to have found you and your blog!

    1. LTL,

      I never imagined when I began this journey all the amazing blessings God had in store. I just wanted to learn to be a godly wife – whatever that meant! I remember feeling SO FRUSTRATED because I felt like I was having to “reinvent the wheel.” I’m extremely thankful that God is able and willing to use me – a little jar of clay – to pour out the blessings of heaven on others.

      I never get tired of talking with wives about these things. How can I keep these riches to myself!!?!?!? I long to see every Christian wife full of God’s Spirit, honoring Him in total submission and full of His peace, purpose, joy, faith and power. I long to see every wife know what it means to be a woman of God and to have the tools and examples she needs to live that out in reality every day. I want to see us all be able to live our lives ON FIRE for Christ and with no regrets. I want God to empower all of us to be faithful – that we might leave a godly example for our children.

      I am SO EXCITED about what God is doing in you, LTL! I know He has just begun!

      Much love!

  3. Ten out of eleven of those misconceptions begin with “I feared…”.

    You have become a living example of “Perfect love drives out all fear” as stated in the first epistle from John.

    Think about that: you have been on a journey where God has been planting his perfect love in you. This is a fulfillment of “Be perfect even as your heavenly Father is perfect.”

    Certainly worth celebrating every bit as much as one million hits.

    Choosing trust over fear unleashes the power of God to transform our lives. As Christ said, “Fear is useless. What is needed is faith.”

    1. Unwobblingpivot,

      The fears this wife had are similar to those of many others before they begin this journey. I had many fears at the beginning, too. I had to wrestle with each one, and decide if I could trust Christ or my fear. I’m so thankful He gave me the power to choose to trust Him.

      God’s love absolutely cast out my fear and this wife’s fear. And I pray He will do the same for many, many others! Living in trust and faith in Christ is the most amazing place to be in the universe!

      Thanks for the comment and encouragement!

  4. April, If I wanted to tell someone about your blog, which one would you advise them to read 1st? There are SOOOO many that have helped me that I don’t know where to start 🙂

    1. CM,

      Well, it kind of depends on the wife’s situation and where she struggles. But, I tried to put some of the basics on my home page at the top. My “About” page or the posts about disrespect, respect and biblical submission are probably good places to start for wives who are already believers in Christ. 🙂

  5. When we totally submit ourselves to the Lord, he will indeed use us as his willing vessels to help reach out to others who are hurting, lost, deceived, disappointed, heartbroken and so much more. And in the reaching out, we are filled to overflowing with his presence and we realize what sacrifice and obedience really mean – it is indeed being set free by the son of God in that we let go of the temporal to magnify the eternal and that translates to our precious Savior giving us a taste of Heaven on Earth. You are one of those precious chosen vessels, a gift given from the Almighty, you are very precious to his own heart, his namesake. Thank you for sharing your valuable resources that come from his benefits and riches. You are truly a blessing and those who have come broken in spirit searching for encouragement, have received it through God’s Word because their hearts have been tendered and they have come to understand the Beatitude lifestyle, especially Poor in Spirit and Mourning. God is faithful and these testimonies prove that over and over to our humanness that often needs that extra confirmation. Blessings as you continue that the well will continue to be fresh and free-flowing…………..

    1. Wanda,

      Thank you so much for your encouragement! I pray that God might flow through me to whomever He wishes. I long so much to exalt Him alone and to be found faithful in His eyes. I pray that this may always be a place brimming over with Living Water.

      Yes, being poor in spirit and mourning over our sin – that is the place this journey must begin! With a contrite, repentant, humble heart and a desire to abandon our wisdom and our ways and seek God alone. 🙂

  6. Thank you for putting in the time to do this. It is a daily blessing to me. I am no where near where I want to be. But, I am way closer than I was thanks to the scripture, and advice I have read on your blog. There are a lot of ways in todays world the internet can harm our souls. What a blessing to find one that feeds my soul. Thank you WTBLSarah.

    1. I am learning to expect God to show up in miraculous ways and answer my prayers.  I am hoping that I can sincerely learn to be a submissive wife, to show my husband the respect and appreciation he deserves.  My prayer is that my children will see it lived out in me and change the way they also respond to him

  7. Congrats, April..to God be the Glory. I am glad that you except your calling and help those who are lost in this journey. I say much any more but I still get your blog emails. Its becoming second nature for me check my emails to see what God has to say today

  8. Congratulations! I came across this blog less than a week ago but I wish I had known about it earlier, as I started my daunting journey as a young Christian African wife. All the same, I thank God because His timing is always perfect. I pray this blog continues to grow and continues to help, encourage, strengthen other wives out there. I will tell ALL I know about this blog. (I luv this blog! I read it everyday and I learn something new everyday!) Thank you so much for taking your time to do this, April. May the Good Lord richly bless you and your husband.

    <3

    1. Cynthia,

      It is a pleasure to meet you! 🙂 I am thrilled about what God is doing in your heart and I can’t wait to see what His plans are for you and your marriage. 🙂 Much love to you!

  9. April,

    Congratulations! To you, your husband, your children, and your extended family & friends who have supported you in and through this journey!

    God is truly using you to bless & teach his daughters out here in places you may not ever know ;)!

    I pray God continues to use your husband also in his blogging to bless & teach husbands to learn how to love their wives as Christ loves the Church….so we all come to the fullness of Jesus.

    Ephesians 4:11-12 (KJV)
    11 And he gave some, apostles; and some, prophets; and some, evangelists; and some, pastors and teachers;
    12 For the perfecting of the saints, for the work of the ministry, for the edifying of the body of Christ:
    13 Till we all come in the unity of the faith, and of the knowledge of the Son of God, unto a perfect man, unto the measure of the stature of the fulness of Christ:

    Much love,
    Linda

  10. Congrats to you my precious friend and mentor!!! !! So so thankful for you. I have been on this journey with you for 15 months. Some days were extremely painful, some days were pure joy and each day you were there to encourage me, pray for me and cheer me on. I truly don’t think I would be who I am today….a peaceful wife… Without God and you!!! I’m praying for you. May you may be full to the over flowing with Gods blessings, wisdom and grace!
    Sending you a big hug!!

  11. Awesome! Congrats! With any ministry we must do that- give it to God and let him work through us. I have to remind myself of that often! Thank you for the reminder.

My grandmother is on hospice and won't be with us much longer (11-30-16). I will get to comments when I am able to but I need to be with family right now. Thanks for understanding.

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