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Navigating Social Media in Ways that Honor Christ and Our Husbands

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Ladies,

I would like to encourage you to keep private relationship stuff private and off of your public Facebook page, Twitter account, Instagram, etc…

I personally believe it is wise to post things on social media like:

  • interesting, fun things you are doing
  • sweet pictures
  • positive comments
  • encouragement
  • funny little insights you may have that would bless other people
  • kind observations
  • respectful things about others
  • good things about your husband and family and friends

There are some things that I believe are NOT wise for us as women who are disciples of Christ to post on social media like:

  • PDA – unless maybe just a sweet pic of you and your husband kissing
  • rants about how angry you are at your man or anyone
  • crass/foul language
  • insults
  • jokes with sexual innuendo or explicit content
  • the details of a fight you have had with someone
  • a list of your man’s or your ex’s faults and sins (or anyone else’s)
  • personal/private conversations
  • complaints
  • arguments
  • pictures of you doing something that could be misconstrued or that may have the appearance of evil

There are SO MANY REASONS why it is wise not to post these kinds of things Рemployers may choose not to hire you based on what they see.  NOTHING you post on FB or any of the social media sites or even things you text on your phone are ever deleted from the server.  There are people who could dig these things up and use them against you in the future.

You cannot take back destroying someone’s reputation on FB. ¬†The damage that we can cause to others on social media is astronomical. ¬†I don’t believe it is ever appropriate to “air our dirty laundry” in public. ¬†That is EXTREMELY disrespectful to anyone, and it does not honor God.

Our husbands need to be able to count on us not to bash them in front of others – but for us to be loyal to them, not sharing negative things about them – but speaking of them respectfully in public.

Go to a godly mentor if you are having a lot of trouble in your relationship – an older, spiritually mature woman who lives out God’s Word and is a prayer warrior or a godly Christian counselor. But other people do not need to know about the arguments, fights and issues you are having with your friends, family or husband.

I believe that God’s Word gives us a beautiful standard of how to use our words that we can apply to EVERY area of our lives – ¬†even ¬†social media!

TIME FOR A HEART CHECK:

Am I using God’s standard in how I speak to others in person and on social media??? ¬†Ask God to help you see areas that He wants to change…

29 Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen. 30 And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, with whom you were sealedfor the day of redemption. 31 Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. 32 Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you. 5 1 Follow God’s example, therefore, as dearly loved children 2 and walk in the way of love, just as Christ loved us and gave himself up for us as a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God.

3¬†But among you there must¬†not be even a hint of sexual immorality,¬†or of any kind of impurity, or of greed,¬†because these are improper for God‚Äôs holy people.¬†4¬†Nor should there be obscenity, foolish talk¬†or coarse joking, which are out of place, but rather thanksgiving.¬†5¬†For of this you can be sure: No immoral, impure or greedy person‚ÄĒsuch a person is an idolater‚ÄĒhas any inheritance¬†in the kingdom of Christ and of God.[a]¬†6¬†Let no one deceive you¬†with empty words, for because of such things God‚Äôs wrath¬†comes on those who are disobedient.¬†7¬†Therefore do not be partners with them.

8¬†For you were once¬†darkness, but now you are light in the Lord. Live as children of light¬†9¬†(for the fruit¬†of the light consists in all goodness,¬†righteousness and truth)¬†10¬†and find out what pleases the Lord.¬†11¬†Have nothing to do with the fruitless deeds of darkness,¬†but rather expose them.¬†12¬†It is shameful even to mention what the disobedient do in secret.13¬†But everything exposed by the light¬†becomes visible‚ÄĒand everything that is illuminated becomes a light.¬†14¬†This is why it is said:

“Wake up, sleeper,
    rise from the dead,
¬†¬†¬†¬†and Christ will shine on you.‚ÄĚ

15¬†Be very careful, then, how you live‚ÄĒnot as unwise but as wise,¬†16¬†making the most of every opportunity,¬†because the days are evil.¬†17¬†Therefore do not be foolish, but understand what the Lord‚Äôs will is.¬†18¬†Do not get drunk on wine,¬†which leads to debauchery. Instead, be filled with the Spirit,¬†19¬†speaking to one another with psalms, hymns, and songs from the Spirit.¬†Sing and make music from your heart to the Lord,¬†20¬†always giving thanks¬†to God the Father for everything,¬†in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ. ¬† – Ephesians 4:29-5:20

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Bitterness is Contagious and Toxic

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8 thoughts on “Navigating Social Media in Ways that Honor Christ and Our Husbands

  1. This is SO important. Thank you, April, for the reminder. Let’s not regret anything we say in cyberspace. We may forget all about something we posted a year or more ago but the internet NEVER forgets.

  2. Hi April
    I have enjoyed your blog tremendously!! Thank you for your daily advice and encouragement! I am going through a very very challenging time with my husband right now and your blog is something I look forward to reading every single day!
    Question: are you attending the Allume convention by chance? My good friend will be attending and I was hoping to have her meet you!…So she can give you a big hug for me!! ūüôā
    Keep doing what your doing. You are being God’s hands, feet and voice. There is nothing better!
    Jill

    1. Jill,

      I’m thankful God is blessing you through me. That is a huge answer to prayer! I pray that it will all be Him doing the speaking, not me.

      I pray for God to give you the power and wisdom to handle this situation for His glory. Praying for you to have the time you need with Him and for His will in your life, your husband’s life and your marriage!

      I don’t know what the Allume convention is, or where or when. But you are so sweet!

      I look forward to the day I can hug your neck!!!! ūüôā

  3. I don’t know what it is about people when they get on social media that makes them think, they can act an behave anyway they want, ways that they would never behave in even semi private situations. I think your suggestions are wonderful and we all should follow them.

  4. April thank you so much for you blog. In reference to social media and what seems to be the worlds addiction to it, my only thought is for people to consider how much closer they would be to the Lord if they spent as much time in prayer and with their face in God’s book. As those verses you posted from Ephesians make very clear God has all the answers and advice we could ever want. I know people who say they are using their Face book account to minister to others. The one thing that baffles me though is that is the very same person you can go to to find out what is going on in every bodies life.

My grandmother is on hospice and won't be with us much longer (11-30-16). I will get to comments when I am able to but I need to be with family right now. Thanks for understanding.

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