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Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life,

what you will eat or drink;

or about your body, what you will wear.

Is not life more important than food,

and the body more important than clothes?

The pagans run after all these things,

and your heavenly Father knows that you need them.

But seek first His kingdom and His righteousness,

and all these things will be given to you as well.

Therefore, do not worry about tomorrow,

for tomorrow will worry about itself.

Each day has enough trouble of its own.

Matthew 6:25,32-34

One of the most freeing concepts Jesus offers us, in my mind, is the concept of living in today.  Not zooming ahead to tomorrow, next week, next month, next year, 10 years from now… but just focusing on living in this moment today and trusting God for our needs today, then leaving tomorrow in His capable hands.

Of course I believe we are to be godly stewards and to be responsible with what God has given us.  I don’t believe it would honor God for us to blow all our money on today and make no financial plan for tomorrow at all… but my faith is not in my finances.  My faith is ultimately in Jesus Christ.

I don’t know what will happen later today – much less 5 years from now.  Only God knows the future.  And He knows how to get me to the place where He wants me to be.  I don’t know the way!  He will give me the light I need today for my steps today.

WORRY AND ANXIETY

I used to worry constantly.  Back when I trusted myself instead of God.  I was all the time trying to figure out how to MAKE things happen right in the future and how to avoid bad things and make sure to do everything RIGHT all the time so I and my family would be “safe.”

I didn’t realize that I was picturing the future WITHOUT God.  Of course, that makes sense to me now, because I was living in the present without His Spirit having control in my life – so that would be the way I would picture the future, too.   I was trying to figure it all out on my own and in my wisdom and power.  It was an illusion.  I didn’t have control in reality.  And it was depressing and very stressful picturing trying to figure out every possible scenario that might happen and trying to be sovereign and make everyone and everything in my life go the “right” way in my view.

Worry is such a slap in the face to Jesus.  It means I don’t trust Him.  I HAVE to choose one or the other.  I can worry and try to control things myself, or I can have faith in Jesus and have intimacy with Him.  I cannot have both faith and worry!

Without faith it is impossible to please God, because anyone who comes to Him must believe that He exists and that He rewards those who earnestly seek Him.  Hebrews 11:6

I used to have such weak “trust muscles” as Laura Doyle calls them in “The Surrendered Wife” (not a Christian book, but a helpful book and practical book for figuring out how to relinquish control and how to begin to respect ourselves, our husbands and how to trust.)

When he asks, he must believe and not doubt, because he who doubts is like a wave of the sea, blown and tossed by the wind.  That man should not think he will receive anything from the Lord; he is a double-minded man, unstable in all he does.  James 1:6-7

FAITH

Jesus commands me not to worry and not to live today obsessing about my needs being met in the future.  He wants me to see that He is here with me now, and He will be with me tomorrow.  And He is ABLE to meet my needs.  When I trust Him, I know that He can and will use all things for my ultimate good and His glory.  THAT must be my goal!  To seek God’s will and His glory in everything in my life.

Then, I can relax and rest in the love of God – and SAVOR the gifts of today with contentment, gratitude, joy and peace.

ONE WIFE’S STORY OF COMING TO LIVE IN REAL FAITH (This wife’s husband just left her a few weeks ago suddenly and without much warning – and she has not heard from him since)

It’s SO hard to explain things because there are so many unanswered things. I am in a scary place with my future and a week ago, I wrestled with myself and God. I said that either I believe all that He tells me in the Bible (including that He provides for me, He protects me, He loves me, He will Never abandon me …. ) or I don’t believe all He tells me.

(From Peacefulwife – this is EXACTLY the place I had to come to 4 years ago, also!)

I came to a point in that painful time with Him, where I said “I am going to believe that You are who You say You are. I have been walking with you over 25 years and have held on to fears, control, worry, doubt. I don’t want to have that anymore. I want to believe with calm assurance that You are who You say You are.

Something in me broke.

In a moment, the excruciating pain in my chest and the heavy pain in me was gone. I don’t have any answers but have told God that I will trust Him to provide for my every need from now until the day I die. I asked for His forgiveness for so many things. I cry as I write all this. I am so thankful that He loves and takes care of me.

FROM PEACEFULWIFE

This kind of brokenness, humility and decision to put our faith in Christ is EXACTLY what Jesus longs to see in each of us.  NOW – He can start powerfully working in this precious wife’s heart in ways that He couldn’t before because of her lack of faith and her trying to be in control.

I can’t wait to see what God has in store for her!!!  And I can’t wait to see what He has in store for you!!!!!

11 thoughts on “Focus on TODAY

  1. Wow how amazing that you should post this in my today ! God is using you to touch the other side of the great Atlantic ! The Holy Spirit is on my case all the way from the USA how I love the family of God! Thank you sister x:) He never ceases to amaze me how he speaks in ways we never expect , when we look for the writing on the wall , it comes in the form of writing in a blog. I am Humbled by The Lord and you today as I read this, break me more lord and remove the idols of fear and insecurity.

    1. pumbapp,
      How wonderful to meet you! I am thrilled to hear that God is speaking to you through this post today. That makes me smile. 🙂 Please let me know if you need anything! Praying for God’s greatest glory in your walk with Him and your marriage. 🙂

  2. Dear April

    You are a blessing. I have been following you for a while, reading your blog through my gmail address. I have a physical file of your articles. My , am a transformed woman. I blog both peacefulgirl and peaceful wife. Am divorced and dating a divorced man, four years my junior(36 & 32). His divorce was primarily due to E.D. Male vitality issues and in Africa its quite an issue! Am divorced because I had married hastily and later discovered the ’godly’ man I had married had left his wife and 3 children in our country. I repented, made peace with the woman involved, it was a short lived marriage( a year old). My boyfriend is very godly, he challenges me. He is catholic, cool, calm and composed. His actions speaker louder than his words. He advertises his faith brilliantly( actually unknowingly) time and again, I have been tempted to join his faith. Am Pentecostal, very charismatic and a teacher of the word at my local assembly. Prior to my divorce, I had suffered a huge fire loss( house burnt down) car, and all my worldly possessions, a week prior to the fire loss, I had lost my job. It was the same time I discovered about my then husband former life. It was a terrible wilderness, friends and family forsook me, I literally lived in prayer centers and I was in a continual fast(forced HA HA HA). This is where I got to develop a truly deep relationship with God. I had known my current boyfriend in my previous job; he was our service provider – auto-mechanic services. There was a slight attraction when I first met him, but I put it off immediately, then I was very much married and faithful to my husband. Later, when I suffered the above mentioned loss, he encouraged me a lot, actually he used to text ‘praise and worship’ in your wilderness. To cut the long story short, we I landed my current job, he was the first to congratulate me and assist me financially settle down.(He is still a service provider with my current employer). Your blog has helped me on respect issues. My dressing has improved, I no longer wear my short tunics, and he is thoroughly impressed; I practice more feminine tasks, like am knitting him a scarf. My issue is, due to the sexuality issue, he totally avoids my company. ( I repented for fornication) we once tried to be sexually involved, it failed badly and wounded his male ego badly, this is when he disclosed his problem. I introduced him specialist doctors in our capital to no avail. Since then he avoids my company, but supports me prayer wise and financially a lot. We don’t spend time together and this has put a strain on me. Time and time again, I have tried to walk out of the relationship, but, It’s like GOD won’t let me. I have tried to make him understand the E.D. is no big deal to me, I have bought him loads of Christian and secular books on the issue. I have showered him with affection, still ,he is stuck to his cocoon! I discovered your blog actually after a week of intensive prayer and fasting on the issue; I must say there is change in me, after dutifully following the classes offered in your two blogs, and even with N, I see some changes. Am trusting GOD for a miracle of N getting out of his self- imposed jail. Meanwhile I continue following my lovely classes in peacefulgirl/wife blogs. I covet your prayers.

    Warm Regards,

    JAKI K. MWITI

    1. It is wonderful to meet you, Jaki!
      As a pharmacist – I have seen many men who suffer with ED and how incredibly emasculating it is for them and how embarrassing it is to seek help. I know that you are trying to help him. But giving him all that information could be perceived by him as more of an insult than help. Men only like to be helped if they ask for help, in general. Showing him your faith and confidence in him is much more likely to give him courage and strength to face this issue, in my view.

      Thankfully, there are many drugs and devices that can greatly help ED today. I would suggest letting him approach you and letting him initiate contact – and if he does – please do not mention the ED topic. If he pursues you and wants to marry you – you can tackle this challenge together – but he will have to decide to seek treatment himself. The more you try to make him get help, the more he will likely resist and also feel like less of a man around you. Does that make sense?

      I’m proud of you for working on respect and he sounds like a wonderful man. I pray for God’s greatest glory in your walk with Him and your relationships!

      Thanks for sharing!

  3. This entry makes me sing the song “he’s able he’s able I know God is able….my God is able to carry me through!!” Whew! It’s a great feeling to know our Heavenly Father knows our stories from beginning to end and that he walks beside us all the way! What a blessing it is to be a child of the Kings

  4. don’t know where on this blog to ask this. My husband does what his father did to his mother for 60 plus years; he does what his two brothers do to their wives. It is talk, yell very unkindly even in the simplest interactions. For 29 years I have not responded in kind. What I do is say nothing or give that biblical soft answer. He (they) are able to talk humanly to other people but to their wives, they don’t. The soft answer or the no answer has not stopped the verbal bullying. Any suggestions? I do cry al;ot.

My grandmother is on hospice and won't be with us much longer (11-30-16). I will get to comments when I am able to but I need to be with family right now. Thanks for understanding.

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