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God and My Husband AMAZE Me!

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Those of you who have read my story know that I used to be a pretty controlling, disrespectful and dominating wife for the first 15 years or so of our marriage.  I didn’t do it maliciously.  I wanted to be a godly wife.  I actually believed I WAS being the BEST Christian wife.  I didn’t see my pride, disrespect and sin at all.  I thought I “had” to be in control.  I thought my husband “wouldn’t” or “couldn’t” lead.

Wow.  Was I wrong.

I began learning about respect and biblical submission 4 years ago.  And the changes in myself, my husband, our marriage and our family have been nothing short of miraculous.

AN EXAMPLE FROM THIS WEEK

I decided to do a Bible study on Matthew 18 with our children one morning when they were out of school this week.  We talked about what Jesus says to do when someone does something wrong to you – how you go to that person in private first.  Then if they don’t repent, you bring another person or two with you to talk about what happened.  For them, that would be a parent or teacher in most cases.

Our son started talking about things that had happened with a boy that past week that we didn’t know about.  I was NOT pleased when I heard about how our son handled things.   But I knew this was a huge opportunity for him to learn about respect, repentance, forgiveness and having godly relationships.

MY HERO

Ways my husband displayed godly leadership in our family just in this one evening

1. When my husband came home, he took our son to our room and had a long talk with him.

I am SO thankful for my husband’s godly influence on our children and his willingness to discipline, teach, instruct, correct, rebuke, love and hug them.  A father’s influence PROFOUNDLY impacts children, keeps them on the right path in life, protects them from evil, protects them from poor decisions, and helps them learn to make wise choices.

2. He encouraged our son to come to the table and eat afterwards.

There had been a lot of tears – but my husband wanted our son included in the family dinner time around the table and showed our son that we loved and accepted him and want him in our family.

3. I called my husband and asked him for help – and he came right home to help me.

When my husband went to help his parents for awhile, and I was having trouble getting our daughter to bed and getting our son to focus on finishing his homework, and it was getting to be past time for our son to get ready for bed. 

By that point, I had been trying to get our son to do his homework assignment so many times during the day and was getting frustrated.  The more I tried to get him to do his work, the more distracted he seemed to be.

My husband stepped right in, took over with our son – and had him writing his assignment in no time.

4. My husband stopped me.

After I got our daughter to bed, I came in the great room – and my son started asking about having a snack.  Again.  He had asked me about a snack 6 other times and I had told him, “AFTER you finish your homework.  IF you have time.”

I was losing my patience.  I started to lecture my son…

And my husband stopped me.

He said firmly but gently, “He’s getting his work done.  Don’t mess with him right now.”

And I stopped mid-sentence.

Soon afterwards, our son was done with his homework.

HALLELUJAH!  I am SO thankful that my husband is willing to direct me if he feels I am doing something counterproductive.

5. My husband let our son have some time to be affirmed and loved.

We let him sit with us and we cuddled with him and my husband listened as our son excitedly shared about a new toy he had gotten.  There were hugs and smiles.  It was wonderful.

Then our son went to bed.

6. My husband cuddled with me and asked me what was wrong.

All I could do was cry!

I had so many doubts about myself as a mom that day.  Am I teaching our children enough about God and His ways?  Am I being too hard on them?  Am I disciplining them enough?  Am I having enough fun with them?  Am I teaching them enough responsibility?   Am I allowing them to be too spoiled or too polluted by the world?

Sometimes being a Mama is overwhelming.

7. My husband listened compassionately to me.  (I kept it brief!)

8. My husband willingly prayed for us and our children when I asked him to – and it was such a sincere, heart-felt, faith-filled prayer.  Wow!

I felt SO MUCH BETTER after he prayed.  I was able to look again at God’s sovereignty over our family.  I was able to put down some of the mental/emotional/spiritual weight that I had started to carry during the day.  I felt connected to my husband and safe and protected and cherished.  I felt thankful for his leadership and guidance for our family.

God’s peace flooded my soul again.

WHAT A MIGHTY GOD WE SERVE!

Years ago – none of these things would probably have happened.  I was way too disrespectful and controlling back then.

I would have taken over and run the whole show myself and my husband probably wouldn’t have been involved at all.

PRAISE GOD that He showed me His ways!!!!!!!!!! I am in awe of God and all that He has done in our marriage and family.  And I definitely THANKED my man for his godly leadership and for praying with me and for being such a wonderful dad and husband.  I’m SO proud of the man he is!

WIVES

Do you have stories you would like to share about how God has used your husband to lead in your family?  You may post them in the comments. I would love to use them in a post or on FB anonymously. 🙂

 

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6 thoughts on “God and My Husband AMAZE Me!

  1. Loved reading about your husband, off topic but it’s been on my mind, do you think wives can go too far with respect? Is there a point where wives make husbands into a kind of god that is too much?

    1. Sis,
      YES YES YES! Women can and do make gods of their husbands. They even do it when they are disrespectful – in that they expect their husband to make them happy and lay all the responsibility for their own fulfillment on their husband’s shoulders – instead of depending on Christ.

      The human heart is an “idol factory.” We can make idols out of ANYTHING. We can make respect an idol. We can make not wearing makeup an idol. We can make reading our Bible for 30 minutes per day an idol. We can make ANYTHING into an idol that we set our hearts on instead of Christ. Yes.

      That is definitely a concern.

      The key is to keep Christ WAY, WAY above everything else! And to show respect for our husbands out of our reverence for and love for Jesus. Our husbands are humans, not deity! 🙂

    2. PS – some other idols I have seen related to our husbands are:

      – our husbands’ sexual purity
      – our husbands’ visual purity
      – our husbands’ thought lives
      – our husbands’ behavior

      We want to control these things sometimes and make these ideas a larger priority than our intimacy with and obedience to Jesus.

  2. My husband has taken over the girls homework. I’ve spent months attempting to get them to sit at the table and complete their assignments. In a matter if weeks my husband has them completing assignments, focused on their reading, getting rewards for their reading and cleaning the kitchen table when they are finished their work. All without the attitude or slick comments I got. I see them trying and wanting to do better. At times, I am a little jealous. But in the end I compliment him for his areas of strength and The Lord is allowing me to accept my areas of weakness. I’m learning how we compliment one another.

    1. My husband is MUCH better with my son – getting him to do his homework. I am SO thankful that he is willing to plug in. I am just no where near as good at that as he is. Glad that you are thanking and appreciating your husband’s gifts! Thank you for sharing!

My grandmother is on hospice and won't be with us much longer (11-30-16). I will get to comments when I am able to but I need to be with family right now. Thanks for understanding.

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