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A Big Lightbulb Moment about True Contentment


From WorthyofLove who shared about her husband’s old text messages a few weeks ago…

Wow! I just had serious lightbulb…..and your name kept popping in my head so I just know I need to share it with you! God has been working on my heart much deeper these days since I last shared in your “Share about Your Journey” post!

I became very discontented, and I started expecting things from my husband again, and things got seriously out of hand for about a month. But I did something I should have done a long time ago—I sought a counselor and began meeting with her and just trying to dig deeper into my heart. She first lead me to a book called “Captivating: Unveiling the Mystery of a Woman’s Soul” by Stasi and John Eldredge, who also wrote the book “Wild and Heart” which is all about a man’s soul.

There is one part in it that caught my eye – my spiritual eye – about how true beauty is a heart at rest and at peace in the Lord…one that trusts fully in Him and one that does not give way to fear. You already know because I’ve read it on your blog posts before 🙂 BUT, my heart SAW it for the first time reading this book and then this realization lead me to seek out also the meaning of having Christ within – having Christ as my true heart’s satisfaction – and about how He is our source of life within.

Well here I was recently, researching this and just seeking God about it – to know Him and what this means for me – when my husband decided to pick a David Wilkerson sermon for us to listen to together and he picked one on contentment! (TOTALLY GOD LEADING ME THROUGH MY HUSBAND!) We listen to it and Wilkerson starts referencing this book called “The Rare Jewel of Christian Contentment” by Jeremiah Burroughs….. it was written in like 1645, when there was a major falling apart of the Church and people losing all they owned and people were just in turmoil everywhere. This man Jeremiah heard from God and he wrote this book and so I of course found it online (FREE!), and began reading immediately.

My jaw dropped as I read over and over the message and confirmation that:

a soul which has the capacity to commune and know God WILL NEVER BE SATISFIED EXCEPT BY GOD HIMSELF!!!!!

And on and on he talks about contentment, how it is LEARNED, how Christ teaches us it and the whole while I’m thinking of you, because I know that this is what you have learned in your journey. You have learned it and it has changed you!!! And it is the key to true heart rest!!!!

So I came to this point in the book where he talks about how the devil comes to those hearts that are DISCONTENTED, and tempts them, because it is the heart that is unhappy with whatever he has, or does not have, or what he wants, etc….it is that heart that will be easily tempted to sin in order to get what it wants!!!!!

Is this not the main issue in marriages?? Pride being the first—which is ultimately (sinful) SELF-love—and it breads this discontentment.  It leads to all the strife, complaints, and just the miserable condition of the soul and heart!!!! And I thought— wow…… if women could see this! It is also in James where he talks about how when we are tempted we are drawn away by our own lusts (or sinful desires)!!


I see it now…I SEE! I was blind but now I see!!!

When I am content with having Jesus within me – satisfied with God – when I realize that yes He is the ONLY One who can satisfy my heart – I am at true rest, true peace….and I am content!:)

If you have not read this Rare Jewel book, I reccommend it to you, the Holy Spirit will confirm in your heart all the work He has done in you:)


Contentment Comes from Having Christ As LORD

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34 thoughts on “A Big Lightbulb Moment about True Contentment

  1. I have the book Captivating..excellent book. Mine is underlined and dogged eared..maybe I need to read again.

    This morning I am feeling the emotional hangover of a painful confrontation with my husband that occurred last night. It’s is a yucky feeling. I can guarantee how the morning will go…being ignored by my h.

    I have been wrestling on and off that it’s time to stop trying to fix my marriage and husband..and focus on my healing, finding contentment/ self worth in God, take care of my household, children, job, planning for my sons graduation, and leave my husband alone. I can be pleasant to him and respectful, but not expect and hope anymore that he will come back to our marriage.

    I can take care of myself and somehow sort out how to use all the mental and emotional energy exerted on healing my marriage..and direct it toward my contentment and hope in the love God has for me..and for my husband…..and let go.

    This is a very scary step.

    1. My sister bought me this book recently and I started reading it, but need to get back to it. Was just feeling led to do that yesterday, so this post is confirming that for me.

      Hope Always, I will pray for you today. It is a scary step, but you’re in the right place. 🙂

      Joshua 1:9: “Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the LORD your God will be with you wherever you go.”

      1. ContentinChrist,
        I have re-read it like 3 times, because the truths in it are so eye opening. God has spoken to me through it and has lead me on in my journey through it, combined with April’s blog, and it has gotten down to the bottom of everything for me and my life! I am so grateful! I also think it is amazing that you felt led to read it!! I see God aligning all of our stories and all that He is trying to do in each of our hearts! It is amazing!!! PRAISE THE LORD!!!!!


    2. Prayers heading your way my sister. It is a hard confusing and lonely road we are on, some days all I can do is repeat, I trust u lord, I trust u lord.

      1. April,
        I couldn’t think of a better way to explain exactly what this is all about! And I just want to confirm for HopeAlways that it truly is worth letting go, and allowing God to change us first is really the best thing we can do! Because when our minds and hearts are changed and focused on God alone, it will not matter what happens next!!! Amen, Praying for eyes to be opened!


  2. I have been having this same light bulb moment, and finding so much more peace and joy in Christ Himself, aside from anything my husband does!

    My problems come mostly when I am exhausted, but there isn’t much I can do about that. When my husband comes home late, and I’m already in bed, but he turns the TV on and wakes me up, or he doesn’t put his c-pap on and starts snoring which wakes me because I’m a light sleeper, and then he gets angry when I wake him and tell him that he’s snoring. I feel like there is so much inconsideration there, and I am EXHAUSTED and feel like my energy and strength are depleted and it’s so difficult for me to focus on God in those moments. All I can think about is how inconsiderate those actions are and how I just want to go to sleep!

    There are times when we make plans with people, and then he decides he doesn’t feel like doing it, so we don’t, and I’m left feeling incredibly guilty because I know these other people took time out of their schedule and planned for us, but we couldn’t do the same. I realize it’s not my fault, but I also refuse to pass blame on my husband, so I know I’m looked at as inconsiderate also.

    But, I am growing in the Lord and learning more and more every day about who HE is, about His love, His attributes, His desires, His commands, His story. Focusing on Him has been the greatest thing for me! I need to continue doing that and hopefully these other things will fade away, and hopefully my lack of sleep will soon be inconsequential too! 🙂

  3. Amen! The Lord has shown me this again as I have been drawing closer to Him. Just within the last 6 months, getting back to the place of intimacy with Him I had before I got married. He truly, TRULY is our breath of life, our hearts desire, our living water! This is our greatest desire, but when we try to fill it with other things and not Him, those (other things) essentially become idols. Because we are trying to fill a void only the Lord Jesus can fill! He is SO GOOD!

    Such a encouraging post! This was the source of my marriage issues I had, I was trying to pull from my marriage to fill me, when only the Lord could do that.

  4. Thanks you so much for this wonderful blog about contentment. Never enough about this topic. One of my favorite sayings when I start thinking about myself too much is to picture what April told me once and that is to nail ourselves back up on that cross. I just love that saying and I envision it.

    Another great book I would recommend is one called Soul Cravings by Erwin McMannus. He says “Truth isn’t something you conclude; truth is something you become. If you would come to trust God, you might find yourself jumping into His arms every day. Blessings to all.

    1. Jennifer,
      I have to literally picture myself with nails sometimes and imagine nailing my hands and feet to the cross! I’m glad that was helpful for you.

      So grateful this post was a blessing. It blessed me!

      Thanks for sharing this resource.

      Much love!

  5. Beautiful, this really is so beautiful to see the Lords work in others lives. I’ve been working through a similar journey to contentment, that has seemed to be lacking lately. I’ve felt like I was under a spiritual attack, and discontent mentioned was at the head of it. Mine has led me to see that what was missing was that I wasn’t fnding Joy in the Lord. My Christian life was becoming more often a chore, instead of worshiping my God. There is a great series by John Piper on youtube called when I don’t desire God. I have been finding joy in the lord again, and it seems that contentment comes along with that. I can’t wait to read some of these books listed here!

    1. Love this so much, Sarah! Praise God that He is showing you what you were missing. Than you for sharing about John Piper’s series, too. Love him! 🙂

  6. “Thou hast made us for thyself, O Lord, and our heart is restless until it finds its rest in thee.” St. Agustine

    What a timeless truth you have shared! And it is so amazing how I have found the Holy Spirit to take me deeper and deeper into this truth as I continually surrender everything, including my marriage , to the Father.

  7. I loved this post. After many years of struggle I eventually realized that all my husband needed from me was that I smile and don’t complain. That’s it, that simple and he is completely content. Once I got that figured out, I was free to pursue my own contentment, which mostly comes from Christ. Men and women can be so different, so the idea that my husband just needed me to smile and not complain seemed so alien, foreign. I could never be content with that, but he is, my simply being content is what makes him happy.

    1. insanitybytes22.

      This is awesome. Thank you so much for this! I remember thinking Greg wanted me to just be quiet and smile all the time earlier in our marriage. I thought that was impossible. Of course, what he wanted was for me to be joyful and happy and to not complain and be negative. Joy and not complaining are what God desires for me, too. In fact, He commands us not to complain. And when we know Christ intimately, we will be overflowing with joy.

      My husband is very much the same way. He mostly wants me to be content and not stressed. That brings him contentment. Wow!

  8. ** I wrote a longer version of this comment on the post about “Things Got Worse…” from the other day. However, I wanted to cross-post my apology here, because I need to apologize to each one of you. I’ve shared more about the past few days over on the other post. Thank you. **

    Thank you, everyone, who has been praying for me. I would like to ask you to continue to pray, if you feel led.

    I would like to publicly apologize to April for my ugly attitude.

    I would also like to apologize to the other ladies as well. For too long I have been complaining, and dumping on everyone in my comments. The other day I was hurt (sinfully), angry (sinfully) – and I just let it spew forth. That was wrong of me, and I apologize……

    1. Becca!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

      If I could hug your neck, I would!!!:) THIS is the kind of step forward that I have been waiting for. PRAISE GOD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

      It is a LONG, LONG road ahead. There are many messed up old beliefs to wade through. But I am SO PROUD OF YOU and SO THANKFUL TO GOD for empowering you to begin to do this hard work and to turn to Him and to be open to the possibility that the old ways of thinking need to go and that it is time to rebuild on God’s Word.

      THANK YOU for your courage and humility in apologizing to everyone. I certainly accept your apology with great rejoicing and with the biggest hug for you.

      I AM praying for you and am honored to get to walk this road with you, my precious sister. I personally believe God has some really amazing plans for you – I truly believe I can see a glimpse of it already – how He desires to use you for His glory and His kingdom. But first, right now, there is just one baby step and then another as you move from the darkness to the light.

      Much love to you!

    2. Becca, So glad you have allowed God to work in your heart!!! I am convinced that you are His child, because if you were not, you would not be able to “see” anything that you’ve seen!!! I pray that your eyes will be opened and your understanding enlightened as God reveals Himself to you more and more! Just as April has taught, when we “let go” of the things we thought we could never let go of, we realize it was actually garbage compared to what the Lord wants to bestow upon us in Himself!!! 🙂 Praying for you!!!

      p.s. we ALL need Jesus every moment of every day!!! We are nothing without Him working in and through us only what He can do!!!!! You are definitely not alone in this journey!!!!


      1. ContentinChrist,
        AMEN!!!! I love it! It really is so true, our deepest trials are the times when we see God the most and he turns all of it into a beautiful thing in our hearts! Our sorrow truly turns into joy!!!! I am so happy for you! The freedom is priceless, and it is worth letting go of anything!!! So happy for you!!!!!


  9. Is there always a deeper level of “contentment” or can one reach a final point of being “content”?

    1. Humbled Husband,
      The book referenced in the article, The Rare Jewel of Christian Contentment,goes very in depth about how fully realized contentment is heaven, but that as we learn to be content on earth, it is a taste of heaven now, seeing that we have Christ within! All that is His is ours and vice versa!

      Personally, I believe that being content is simply being at rest within, knowing and trusting God, NO MATTER WHAT is going on outside of me! I imagine the degrees would consist of the more we lose, the more we gain contentment in Christ alone!


  10. Mateo,

    Scripture prohibits women from having authority over men in the church. Here is an article about that from Also, the book Recovering Biblical Manhood and Womanhood edited by John Piper and Wayne Grudem and the Danvers Statement talk about this, as well. You may also search this topic at where John Piper addresses the issue of women and authority over men in a number of posts.

    I am not aware of Scriptural prohibitions on women being a boss or supervisor to a man. But, I don’t think that was really a possibility very often in biblical times. We are, as believers, to honor those in authority over us in the government and at work.

  11. Anon M,

    You know, I agree that the Bible talks about a woman not having authority spiritually over a man in the church. And a wife is not to usurp authority from her husband in marriage. But I am not sure that a boss or government official would be a “spiritual authority.” They would not be giving spiritual direction.

    I agree that female pastors are not biblical. Or female teachers who teach men – which I try to be very careful not to do here.

    But I do want to be careful not to add anything to what the Bible says. If a queen is ruling the country, I don’t see where Christian men should not honor her authority. We are to submit to the government (Romans 13). If a man would rather not have a female boss, that is something he may decide for himself – but I am not sure that Scripture addresses that particular issue.

    Much love!

  12. To all,
    Just came across something profound that I hope will encourage!!

    Here is an excellent way of putting it, that the Lord is sufficient for every need:

    “Thus we learn by experience that the Lord is equal to every situation, that Christ has what we need. Instead of being discouraged, we carry about a spirit of victory, although we have not more strength in us than before. We are just as unable in ourselves as we have ever been. But we begin to discover how capable the Lord is, how great His fulness is in our emptiness. He is the Strength in our weakness, He is the Wisdom for our foolishness. Our resources are no longer earthly resources, they are heavenly resources in Christ.”

    This is an exert from an article written by T. Austin Sparks, that you can find here:

    His spiritual insights are priceless!!!


      1. April,
        I am excited to see what God has in store for me in this. I was very much like Moses when this starting coming about in my heart and from friends/family—my thought was- “I can not”. I am nothing without Him. I have a stirred and burdened heart for this message, and I am so thankful God lead me here to you and showed me all these things. They have been truly life changing!!!!! I pray that God will use me however He chooses, and no matter what, that His name be glorified!!! 🙂 THANK YOU SISTER!!


  13. Many thanks to WorthyofLove for mentioning “The Rare Jewel of Christian Contentment.” This book is amazing. It has helped me so much. I plan to buy copies for my friends and family. 🙂

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