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Be Still

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This is my calling from God right now.

Be still and know that I am God. Psalm 46:10

So, I have pared down my schedule, my obligations, my ministry, my responsibilities – and I am just seeking Him and basking in His glorious presence. I have slowed WAY, WAY down. Β The anxiety is gone. God is so gracious to me and so very good!

I have been spending hours and hours in quiet time:

  • Reading the Bible.
  • Praying fervently and with a heart on fire for God, desperate and hungry to know Him more and more.
  • Seeking God’s face with all my heart.
  • Reading E. M. Pounds 5 book compilation on prayer. Β WOW! That is SOLID FOOD for mature believers. It is all meat. Gives me so much to think about, absorb, digest and pray about.
  • Singing His praises at the top of my lungs when I am home by myself during the day.
  • I have read everything I could find in the Bible about anxiety, worry, being still, waiting on God, and entering God’s rest.
  • I’m in a continual state of prayer and listening for His voice.
  • I am SO EXCITED and full of anticipation at all that He will do.
  • I have been thanking Him for all that He has done.

He is renewing my strength. He is filling me with His Spirit. I have His peace again. I have His joy again. He is empowering me and giving me rest. The communion with Him is SO VERY SWEET. It is what I pray that each of you might find.

I have been very conscientiously focusing more time, love and attention on Greg and our children.

This is exactly what I needed to do.

Thank you all for your encouragement, prayers, love, support, understanding and stories!!!!!

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I’d love for Β you to share! If you believe God may want you to share what you have been learning in a post here on my blog, please leave me a comment. I want wives to get to hear as many different wives’ stories at every possible stage of this journey as possible. This thing is not about me. It is about our Mighty GOD! It has to be ALL about Him. I never get tired of hearing what He is doing!

Much love to each of you!

You have GOT to watch this beautiful worship song about being still and trusting God. It will richly bless you!

This one I love to sing at the top of my voice – of course, I cry so hard, I can barely sing – but it is glorious!

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38 thoughts on “Be Still

  1. Awesome song!!! Your experience resonates so much with what I have gone through the past few months, April!

    Wanted to share a quick read that I came across recently called the Stillness Manifesto. It is a free e-book that has some great, scriptural tips to help you learn to be still before the Lord, (You’re required to sign up to receive updates on this person’s blog to get the free e-book, but you can always unsubscribe later if you don’t want to remain on her mailing list.)

    So glad to hear your peace has returned and you are basking in the beautiful presence of Jesus!

    Heather (HisHelper)

    1. HisHelper,

      Me, too!!!

      I missed God’s peace! I don’t like not having it one bit!!!!!

      That sounds really interesting about the Stillness Manifesto. Thank you for sharing!

      Much love to you, my sweet sister! πŸ™‚

  2. Psalms 46:10 is the verse Yah used to still me and get me to realize that I really didn’t know Him!!! What happened then was me making Him truly Master(Lord) of my life. And then learning what it really means to be His disciple according to what He says to be His disciple. And that was after being a three times a week church goer AND part time youth paster!!! Needless to say, my life turned upside down!!! πŸ™‚ now ,I was seeking what He wanted and not what I wanted…. Yahuwah (Abba) is good!!! Praise Yah that He showed me ‘why do you call me lord (Master) and don’t do what I say’ and ‘you honor me with your lips, but your heart is far from me’ applied to me!!! Just wanted to share that little bit of my testimony because that verse has special meaning to me. Thx, Rick

  3. I was completely overwhelmed yesterday, there were so many things pending on my list to do.. My daughter was unwell, so while taking her to the doctor.. I missed on work so I had to work till 9:00 PM, while back home.. My mind was full of thoughts… I went to meet the director of the college in the afternoon amidst my busy schedule where I was seeking a job as an associate which I think will reduce my work stress unlike the corporate job I have… I’m just unable to manage myself.. I was crying God Im not capable enough.. I just dont know what to do… My job is stressful, house is untidy, my mom complains, I feel guilty of making her take care of my daughter, everything is in a mess! I decided not to talk much to my husband, because I have a history of disrespecting him during such times…

    I just prayed and laid down at 11:30 PM and this morning there was so much peace which I dint understand… I just left everything into Gods hands… I dont know whats in store for me, I know I fail but I wanted to trust God with my life and when I came and opened the blog I found todays post “BE STILL”

    It’s beautiful how God talks to me!!

    Love
    Vinodhini

    1. Vinodhini,

      It is hard to be still in our culture and busy lives today. But how we NEED that time to be still and soak in His presence! I obviously need that time with Him DESPERATELY on a daily basis. I’m so glad this blessed you!

  4. April:
    You are such a blessing. I am happy that you have found “peace.” I love you so much and thank God for you. Isn’t it a reflection of the power of your ministry that my marriage can be in the “hopeless” (in the flesh) state it is in, and I still find so much joy from it (your ministry)? I can’t wait to see what God has in store for me. I am happy that you are bonding with your family.
    P.S. I have been wondering — what is the feedback from your extended family (parents, twin sister etc.) re your ministry? Are you aware if they tune in frequently? (Of course, you don’t have to respond, it just crossed my mind a few days ago) Love you! πŸ™‚

  5. April,

    I’m so happy God has helped you overcome your anxiety!
    I’ve also been struggling with some of the same things as well and I’ve found that complete immersion in His word and prayer is the BEST medicine!

    He is such a powerful God!

    Have a blessed day!

  6. This is where I struggle. I’m a mother of two children and I work outside the home part time. I can’t find that quiet time or the motivation to find it or whatever it is I need to do. When I’m alone it’s after the kids are in bed and I’m TIRED. I can’t concentrate and read and sit and ponder and pray for an hour. I can’t concentrate at that time. In the morning I’m racing around getting us all ready for school and work (I’m a teacher).

    Anyone have suggestions or a pep talk for me?

    1. Godlywifetobe,
      Pray for God to give you the strength, passion, drive and deep hunger and thirst for His presence and His power. He can give you the energy!!! And He can help you carve out the time. Maybe you can’t do an hour – but beg God to help you carve out all the time you can! πŸ™‚ He has an amazing way of being able to fill you with energy you wouldn’t otherwise have had.

    2. Godlywifetobe, I understand this season of life! When my children were younger I was not able to spend long lengths of time in Bible study or quiet time. But, there is something to be said for going about your day being aware that you are in the presence of the Lord, walking in His Spirit.

      I used to type out very short Bible verses and tape them at the stove, over the kitchen and bathroom sinks, and keep a Bible in each bathroom so that I could quickly access scripture and meditate on it throughout the day. Also, playing scripture put to music not only helps create a wonderful atmosphere in your home while you are getting everyone ready in the morning, or cooking dinner, or driving in the car, but it also helps you to effortlessly hide the Word in your heart. The Lord can then bring it to mind as you go throughout your day. I HIGHLY recommend the CD series Hidden in My Heart (http://www.scripture-lullabies.com/) It is scripture sung as lullabies. This is in no way just for babies going to sleep!–It is so peaceful and beautiful! (You will hear samples playing on the website.)

      Even if you wake up 5 or 10 minutes early, or stay up a few minutes late to spend time with Jesus, I think you will find yourself recharged spiritually. You are saying to Him, “Jesus, you are more important to me than sleep. YOU are my joy, my strength, and my delight….more than ANY other priority in my life.” I am certain He will honor that sacrifice, and you just might find yourself desiring to carve out even more time to spend time with Him!

      With Love in Christ,

      Heather (HisHelper)

      1. Thanks Heather I’m going to try waking 10 mins earlier and even just reading one scripture and meditating on that. Like my counsellor said I don’t need to sit for an hour and journal and sing and read and pray lofty prayers, God will meet my where I am and knows my heart is for Him.

    3. Godlywifetobe,

      How my heart goes out to you! I remember looking at my six-month-old daughter one day (I also had a two-year-old son, my husband’s grandmother living with us to take care of, part-time work, my mother a few miles away who needed help, and a huge old house to heat with a wood stove) and just then, at that moment, remembering myself, remembering who I was. I was 21 years old and I felt lost to the needs of the larger world. Our responsibilities can be so enormous and almost overwhelming that we can forget to recharge–with private time, study, prayer, attending at least a little each day to whatever it is that gives US joy. We cannot forget who we are, and that our relationship with God is what gives us the strength and the wisdom to do everything else me must do.

      I too, felt utterly exhausted at the end of the day, as I’m sure nearly every wife here did when she had small children. But one day when I was staying with my much older sister for a few days, she woke up up in the middle of the winter at 5:45 to “visit” and have coffee about an hour together before any of the kids were up. She said she arose early every day like that for just HER time. She practiced classical guitar during that time, read, and studied. I enjoyed that morning time with my sister more than I can say! I was able to reconnect with another adult, my sister that I dearly loved. When I went home I started getting up early every morning too–no matter how early it had to be!–and it made all the difference in my life. I felt far more in control of everything I had to do. In later years, I added fervent prayer to the morning, and that made everything ten thousand times better!

      It might not seem to make an sense, but try getting up very early, about an hour before you awaken your kids. God really will give you the strength you need!!! Another thing that I’ve seen online that might be of great help is the website flylady.com. She has excellent suggestions for creating routines and home organization that go a long way in helping busy women find inner peace and “finally love themselves.”

      Even with work and children, you can do this! I love all the other suggestions others made too, that of setting boundaries, etc. I will keep you in my prayers, my dear sister. Please keep us up to date here on how things are going. Much love to you!

      1. Thanks for your love and suggestions. I’m going to try waking about 10 minutes earlier and start small. I tend to put way too much pressure on myself so I will start small πŸ™‚

    4. P.S. I’m a teacher, too, and totally agree with Kelly that teaching can be exhausting. Our family needs us, the needs of our students are endless, and we try so hard to fill them! Add to that the burgeoning demands of the political system. . . . I had to find ways to make teaching less consuming, especially when I found myself reading students’ papers and providing detailed feedback while I was sitting beside my Christmas tree. I began grading fewer papers. Another teacher shared that she kept students’ papers in individual folders. Then, when they had written three, she allowed them to choose the one they wanted her to grade. Practice is the key, and classroom discussions about the other two was helpful to the students. Would doing something like this in whatever type of subject/age group you teach help give you more time at home?

      1. Great that you found something to work for you!
        I’m the head of a preschool so I don’t have marking but I do have admin type things I do or think about at home and as we know 4-5 year olds demand our whole attention emotionally, verbally, mentally, spiritually and physically πŸ™‚

    5. I also have to wake up early to have my time. Otherwise in the evening my head is full of the day from work and home. By 7am I’m either on conference calls, putting out fires at work or someone at home needs something, has an appointment to go to or something.. Waking up early also puts my head in the right place to deal with how noisy our lives get..

      Gail

  7. Kelly, Your experience is VERY encouraging. It makes us all realize that with God’s spirit all things truly are possible! There is nothing that we can’t overcome with his help. Love to you!

  8. Just an observation but Ive noticed your emotions seem to swing from one intensity to another. Being still before God also applies to our emotions not just our actions. My husband always use to tell me, You don’t have to feel everything your feeling. Its too much and that alone wears you out. Be slow and steady,dont swing up or sink so low. So in My peaceful wife journey and my peaceful life journey I am being still too in my emotions. Not having an emotional response to anything but just observeing Gods hand in my life and letting it rest upon me as I rest under him.In my thoughts,emotions,behaviors and relationships I will be still and know that he is God.I like the other thing you wrote about ,praying scriptures. That’s a good idea.

    1. HI Marie! Thanks for that reminder: ” Being still before God also applies to our emotions not just our actions. ” and for sharing what your husband said to “Be slow and steady, don’t swing up or sink so low.” I have a problem staying at middle so I am mostly on either ends of the spectrum, but have a
      “problem” staying at center. What you said was a great reminder that keeping still also meant stilling my excitable heart! Especially since I am no longer feeling depressed and have not been since my conviction and conversion, when the Lord freed me from my bondages. πŸ™‚

      Your reminder to April applies to me. I am not good with moderation. God bless you!

      Love,

      Nikka

        1. I awoke at 1am last night from a dream. In the dream I saw myself playing out a situation my husband and I are in right now.( It could become a legal issue if were not careful. It really depends on how we handle it and that we let the lawyer deal with it completely and we just sit back and shut up. An issue with a tenant who is disrespectful and irresponsible and has crossed our path. Its not a big thing ) In my dream the cops came to the house because my mouth was out of line and person said they felt harassed. I made all kinds of excuses to the cop. Then he pulled his gun on me and pointed in my face and said NO to my excuses and said…You have an anxiety disorder. I said yes sir and started to cry.
          Well I woke up . Im sitting there in bed and I realize all this anxiousness in me leads me to behave in certain ways that are seen as disrespectful, unprofessional, haranging, out of line. God doesn’t want to hear all my excuses why I am the way I am. I started this respect journey and Ive learned why I act the way I do and that’s fine but God doesn’t want me to be stuck there. He wants me to discipline my flesh and do it now. Hes told me this before but now hes shown me that if someone put a gun to my face I would have no trouble controlling myself at all because it becomes life or death. Well sin IS about life or death and he wants me to choose life. God wants me to understand that he knows what Ive been through in life and he will heal my wounds and hold me BUT its not an excuse to be disrespectful and I can discipline myself if I make it about life and death. The words from your mouth have great power. If you cant speak words that lift others then don’t speak at all. But the self control is there for me, its a fruit of the spirit and I ,must exercise it before something bad happens because of my lack. Your words can bring trouble on you, destroy relationships, make you look like a fool, make you a bad example to your kids ect. I am suddenly greatful that my husband is a man of few words.

          1. Marie,

            WOW!
            That was quite a dream and God has shown you some powerful truth!!!!!

            You are exactly right – God can give us the power to have self-control and He can give us the ability to stop disrespecting other people and to stop worrying and being anxious and sin is a life and death thing. God absolutely wants you to choose life!

            Thank you for sharing this! πŸ™‚

  9. Thank you so much for your ministry. You have helped me, as a husband, address my wife’s sin objectively in many different ways. She is in process and I am beginning to see some changes. I know she is trying to be more submissive and for that I am grateful. We have a long way to go but your blog has given me hope for a better marriage.

    I have worked in full time ministry for over 20 years and know how the ministry can burn you out. It begins when we substitute our ministry activity and success for our intimacy with the Lord. It is easy for us to rationalize the time devoted to ministry at the expense of self and family because it is for the Lord and for the people we are ministering to. This stress and anxiety actually draw us away from the Lord and rather than serving out of an overflow of our relationship with Him, we start ministering in the flesh more and more. The ministry then becomes much more burdensome because His Spirit is not working through us. Then we can get resentful and cynical of the ministry and the people we are ministering to. Eventually our walks with the Lord become dry and we can become depressed. It is a downward spiral that doesn’t end well. Once you reach full burn out, it takes years to come back and feel normal again.

    I know this cycle because I experienced it after 10 years of full time ministry. Minerth-Meier clinic has a book called Beating Burnout. It may be out of print but I read it after I was completely burned out and saw myself in the pages of their book. They said that people in ministry and the helping professions are particularly susceptible to burn out.

    All of this is to say, TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF! ! ! It is much better to serve the Lord for a life time at 80% than to go 120% for 5 or 10 years and gut your relationship with the Lord, your husband and children. The Lord created us with limits and with the need for physical, emotional and spiritual rest. That is why He gave us the Sabbath. Remember, Jesus needed rest and would often pull away from the crowds to spend time with the Father even though the needs of the people were great.

    There is another good book called “Margin” by Dr. Richard Swenson. I know a ton of people who were helped by that book.

    1. Thank you so much, Joe!!!! I definitely need to take more breaks and get more rest. And – this has to be all God. In my own strength, nothing I have to offer is of any value at all.

  10. Thank you for this post, April! I would like to focus on “being still” during lent. Although I just generically call myself a “Christian” now, when I was growing up I went to different churches that observed lent. And I still love the idea of eliminating distractions and focusing on Jesus. I don’t know yet what that will look like for me, but I will use this post for ideas. Hugs! πŸ™‚

  11. Hi April, I came across your blog around two weeks ago and know that God directed me here. Thank you for your testimony and wisdom! I’m excited to start The Respect Dare on March 1st and know that God is already working on my heart. I’m already questioning why I think or say certain things to my husband. Have you ever heard of the Scripture Lullabies CDs? The music is so peaceful. They have a song called “Be Still and Know”. You can find it on YouTube. I think you would enjoy it as well. Thank you for writing such inspiring posts!

    1. freedomfromthorns,

      It is wonderful to meet you!

      You may want to check out my supplement to the Respect Dare – it is at the top of my home page. πŸ™‚ I can’t wait to see what God has in store for you!!!!

      That music sounds beautiful! Thanks so much for sharing! πŸ™‚

  12. God has been showig me to slow down and analyze stuff before I rush to do it, not being hasty but slow to speak,wrath, and quick to listen to His answer, and quick to praY before I make moves, just slowing down, takes work.

My grandmother is on hospice and won't be with us much longer (11-30-16). I will get to comments when I am able to but I need to be with family right now. Thanks for understanding.

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