A Man's Perspective on "When a Husband Can't/Won't Lead"

Here is a comment about handling the issue of a husband’s seemingly reluctant leadership in marriage from Daniel P. Robertson. This was his response to my post “I want to follow my husband.  What if he doesn’t lead?  How Can I Inspire His Leadership?” 

What should a wife do when her husband can’t or won’t lead?

April, I think you hit the nail on the head with this. Most men find it difficult to lead their wives because of many of the reasons listed here. How is a man supposed to provide strength and leadership when every time he tries he gets shut down?

Most men love their wives, which is why her criticism is the hardest to take. The problem is, she’s often the greatest source of criticism in his life. It can be very wearing on a man’s sense of worth.

Ladies, if you want your man to lead, it’s time to hand over the reigns.

And men, realize that your wife (usually) isn’t TRYING to disrespect you. Criticism is her way of communicating a need that she has.

Her most important need is love, which in most cases you can show her just by listening to her and showing empathy. Once you’ve done that, try to find out if there is some other need she has, as well