The Cure for My Compulsion to Control – Part 2

We are continuing a series that started earlier this month: The Pain That Pushes Us to Try to Control The Cure for My Compulsion to Control – Part 1 Once I see that God is God and I am not and I begin to rebuild my thinking on His Word and truth alone, I am …

The Cure for My Compulsion to Control – Part 1

Photo by Ashton Mullins on Unsplash Last week I shared about how we can develop a compulsion to control other people, situations, and the Lord in this post. I thought I “had to try to control” other people and situations. I truly believed it was my responsibility and that everything would be a disaster if I …

The Pain That Pushes Us to Try to Control

Photo by Civalias Kune on Unsplash In my experience with women who feel they have to be in control of situations and other people, there is usually some level of trauma or hurt in her past. The level of trauma can vary. But usually something happened that caused her, as a young girl, to develop …

Surrendering the Burden of Controlling My Husband – by Shannon Popkin

I am so excited to have Shannon write a guest post today as we celebrate her new book releasing this month! I hope you will check it out – it has been such a blessing to me. If you tend to struggle with wanting control, this is the book for you, my precious sister! —————- …

Control Girls and Family Christmas – by Shannon Popkin

A guest post by author Shannon Popkin: I’d like to call a pre-Christmas huddle. Calling all the women in the family please. Can we huddle up for a moment? I’m calling this meeting because I think there are some hurting women among us. There are some mothers of adult children and mother-in-laws who feel unloved …

"Placing My Higher Sexual Appetite under God’s Control" – a guest post

I appreciate both wives today sharing their stories about this difficult topic. So thankful for all that God is doing in our midst! Whether I am the higher drive spouse or the lower drive spouse at the time – God calls me to learn to be more selfless, giving, patient, respectful, and understanding. He can …

Prayingwife Stops Trying to Control and Begins to Trust God

I am so excited to share what God is doing in Prayingwife’s heart. I know you will be blessed and encouraged, too: Wow! I have wanted to comment since yesterday (on Godlywifetobe’s Step 2 post)! I was blessed to be spending some much needed adult time with my husband – just him and I! We …

Fear Fuels Our “Need” to Control

  FEAR is a major part of our motivation to grab for control as women. We are afraid we won’t be loved. We are afraid we aren’t secure in the relationship. We are afraid we will be rejected. We are afraid we aren’t good enough. We are afraid we aren’t beautiful enough. We are afraid …

Do We Try to Control Our Husbands’ Jobs?

  Nikka and Dong     1. FROM AN ANONYMOUS WIFE who had been very upset her husband had been working six 12 hour days a week (at a very labor-intensive job) for over two months and wanted more time with him: The craziest thing just happened!! My husband just walk in and said he …

Learning to Respect and Give up Control is a Process

  Learning to Respect and Give up Control is a Process.   I am taking a bit of a blogging vacation while our children are on spring break this week. This post, by Nina Roesner (author of The Respect Dare) is one of the best I have come across about what to expect on this …