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Portia’s Story – Winning Him Over without a Word

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This is a wife who has JUST started learning about how to stop disrespect/control and has been learning to be respectful in the last week or two.  I love her story!  Thank you so much for sharing, Portia!
Now that sometime has passed I wanted to share with you what happened a couple of days ago. My in laws came to visit before my dh  deployed.
BACKGROUND: I’ve generally always had some conflict when his folks are around because hubby treats me poorly when his folks are around.
This time
  • I smiled alot
  • I cooked
  • most of all I was QUIET.

When hubby said something mean, I was quiet. When he made fun of me, I was quiet. When his mom made off handed remarks, I was quiet. Quiet,quiet,quiet! Now I did quietly stick up for myself but

my attitude was totally different.

His parents left early Tuesday I wished them a farewell, cleaned the house, and again not a word of complaint.
Then a miracle!
The next day hubby pulled me on his lap while I was cleaning (no fussing from me even though I hate when he does that). He gave me a kiss and told me he loved my spirit the past weekend and he likes me a lot (LOL). I kissed him back and then I was QUIET. He didn’t say anything else at first, but he released me to finish cleaning following me from room to room.  I still said nothing when…

suddenly he grabbed my hand and apologized for being mean to me around his parents! Then he told me he wanted to quit smoking and dial back on drinking.

It was like getting three presents instead of one!
I am soooooo happy!!!!
And I have an interview for a job on Monday. I am praying that G-d continue to humble me and if it is His will to bless me with this job that I receive it, but only so I can HELP my husband with bills. I will not puff up with pride and put my job before my husband. I will ask that you pray for me. I’ve changed so much in a short time and I never, ever, ever want to grieve G-d’s spirit like I was. How wicked my heart was! I am tearing up typing this because had it not been for your obedience to G-d I would have continued to tear down my house like a wicked woman. Oh how my heart aches that the fruits that I was producing was not the fruit of the Spirit. May G-d bless you and keep you!
This wife is in, “the quiet phase” right now – learning to stop her disrespectful words and working on using her words for good – to give life instead of death.
It is not always necessary for a wife to say nothing in this kind of situation – but sometimes it is very wise.  I believe that this wife was being sensitive to the Holy Spirit.  That is the most important thing!
She didn’t have to say anything – her respectful (not resentful) silence allowed her husband to clearly hear God’s voice.  WOW!  God’s Spirit is TOTALLY capable of convicting people of sin without our help.  Our obedience to God’s Word is the most “helpful” thing we can do.  It gets us out of God’s way so He can speak to our husbands in a more powerful way.
God’s wisdom is infinitely higher than our own.  When we are willing to do things His way – it is an amazing adventure!  You never know what surprises He has in store!
Wives, in the same way submit yourselves to your own husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, when they see the purity and reverence of your lives.Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight. For this is the way the holy women of the past who put their hope in God used to adorn themselves. They submitted themselves to their own husbands, like Sarah, who obeyed Abraham and called him her lord. You are her daughters if you do what is right and do not give way to fear.  I PETER 3:1-6
A Challenge For the Ladies – Let’s Not Complain or Argue Anymore!
God Understands Men – This is a brief explanation of why God’s commands to wives whose husbands are far from Him in I Peter 3:1-6 works on men!

15 thoughts on “Portia’s Story – Winning Him Over without a Word

  1. This is such a tangible way that God fulfills His Word; Thank you for sharing Portia and KUDOS to YOU sister!!

    I’m doing the happyfeet dance with YOU!

    1. Robyn,
      Doesn’t Portia’s story just give you chills!?!?!? Our God is ABLE! LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE THIS! I just can’t help but praise God after hearing a story like that. 🙂

  2. I am not as far along as this lady. But yesterday I was able to call myself out and apologise for disrespectful behavior. I need to work on being humble.

    We are just starting out and his work week is less hours than mine right now. I know this is because his skills are not as in demand as mine are right now, so it will just take him longer to work up senority and get permanent full time employment. It’s not his fault but that doesn’t stop me from accusing him he isn’t trying and coasting along on my hard work. But I appologized right away and admitted that I am jealous he doesn’t have to work as much. Not much i know, but it is nice to see some changes in myself.

    1. Lynn,

      I am so proud of you for apologizing and for recognizing that humility is a beautiful and godly quality that is extremely necessary to being the wives God desires us to be.

      THANK YOU for apologizing and for seeing what you are doing. That is the first step!

      I am very excited to see what God has in store for you. Please keep us updated. 🙂

  3. An eye opener. Am going through the same phase and I feel God spoke to me through this write up advising me what to do. God bless u !!!

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