One of Your Most Powerful Gifts As a Woman


A smile costs you nothing, but it is such an incredible blessing to those around you. You may not see your own facial expressions, so it is easy not to think about them much, but those around you definitely notice them.

This week, I’d love to challenge and encourage you to:

  1. Seek to give your brightest, most glorious smile to your husband and children when you first see them.
  2. Every time you walk in the room and one of your family members are there, smile at them.
  3. When your husband or children are talking with you (and it is not something sad or really serious), smile a genuinely friendly smile at them. 

You don’t have to have lipstick or makeup on. You don’t have to have perfectly white or straight teeth to do this. You don’t have to have any special talent and it doesn’t take much time at all.

All you have to do is just share that glorious smile of yours with your family.

As believers in Christ, we have more about which to smile than anyone on the planet. So we don’t have to fake a smile, thankfully. If you aren’t feeling up to smiling much, spend some time singing praises at the top of your voice to the Lord when you are by yourself in the car or at home doing chores. As you focus on God’s character and all of the countless blessings He has given to you, you may realize you have a lot to be thankful for.

Receive God’s radiant smile and love for you. Do you realize that He rejoices over you with singing (Zeph. 3:17)? How beautiful and precious is that!?

If you are feeling overwhelmed on this journey, take a break. Rest in God’s love for you. Receive His goodness, His truth, and His healing for your soul. Focus only on thanksgiving and praise for awhile. Find your joy in Christ Jesus. Think about Philippians 4:8 kinds of things, which is God’s will for all of us as believers:

  • Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things. Phil. 4:8

That is the most powerful thing you can do. As you draw near to Him, Your heart and soul will heal and shine. After He has filled up you to overflowing…

Radiate that glorious smile of yours to everyone in your family!

You are the “heart” of the home. You get to have a huge impact on the emotional and spiritual temperature in your family. I want to see you set the atmosphere to warm, safe, welcoming, and loving. Yes… your smile has that much power! And even if there is a lot of tension in your marriage and your husband can’t hear words from you right now, as you smile at him – you are showing him you are a safe place, that you have the joy of Christ in your heart, and that you have good things to give to him when he is ready to receive them.

What a priceless gift this will be to those you love. You may be shocked at what happens as you simply share this beautiful asset of yours with those you love.


Smile at your family without any expectations of anyone doing anything for you in return. Then let me know what happens as you focus on blessing your husband and children with your beautiful smile this week, my precious sisters. As you think about good things, and as you focus on smiling – does anything change in your walk with Christ, your own feelings, or your relationships?

  • A joyful heart is good medicine. Proverbs 17:22
  • Those who look to him are radiant. Psalm 34:5
  • Rejoice in the Lord always. Philippians 4:4


There are many benefits to you personally when you smile – even a number of health benefits. Check out this article!

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I would like to issue you a little challenge this week, my friends!

Whenever you go in the room where your husband is –

please smile at him.

  • Not to change him.
  • Not to get any specific results from him.
  • Just to bless him.

Stay close to God.  Be in His Word daily.  Lay your life fully before Jesus and give yourself 100% to Him as The Lord of Your Life.  Let His joy flood your soul as you seek to obey Him and please Him and as you are overcome with gratitude for all He has done for you.

Let that joy shine and radiate from your face. 🙂

Rejoice in the Lord always, I will say it again, REJOICE!  Philippians 4:4

If you really want to go crazy with this challenge – hum happily around the house.  Or sing.  Sing praise songs to God!  Hum praise songs.  Allow God’s joy to overflow from your heart and change the expression on your face.

Bless your husband with some REAL smiles this week.

You probably have NO IDEA the power your smile has over that man.  When you are genuinely happy – for whatever reason – he feels like a success as a man and as a husband.  It draws him to you.  It is PLEASANT to be around someone who is happy and smiling.

Maybe even bless your children with some real smiles, too!

Let me know how you do! 🙂


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The Power of Your Smile and Facial Expressions


Just like we talked about the power of your tone of voice with your husband (and your children) – SMILING and having PLEASANT FACIAL EXPRESSIONS are extremely important tools as you seek to honor God and build up your husband and bless your marriage and family.  (If you haven’t read it, check out the CHALLENGE I have issued for wives this past week about doing everything without complaining or arguing – Philippians 2:14)


In fact, I had one wife who wrote to me and said that all she did was just focus on smiling around her husband – for no particular reason – and she also watched her tone of voice.  She wasn’t even necessarily talking TO him – she was often talking to the cat.  But she used a sweet, friendly little tone of voice with the cat in her husband’s hearing.  And she smiled at him whenever she happened to look at him.

It was pretty interesting. She said that there was a HUGE change in his demeanor almost immediately towards her that day.  He was much more gentle, patient, kind, loving and friendly to her, too.


If you work in retail – you are probably trained to smile and greet your customers right away.  I was – especially at Walgreens.  We were supposed to look up and smile at new patients that walked up to the counter within 10 seconds of their arrival.

Some retailers actually train their employees to smile even when they are talking on the phone.  You would think that it wouldn’t matter if you smiled when you talk on the phone – but it changes the tone and friendliness of your voice!

Go ahead, try it!

No one is listening. 🙂  I’ll wait.

Why do retailers do this?  Because when employees smile, customers feel that the employees are friendly and the customers feel that the employees actually care about them.

We had a story posted in the break room at Walgreens written by a cashier for the company.  She was challenged to smile more. She thought it was kind of a dumb idea – she didn’t think she looked angry or mean or anything most of the time.  But she decided to try smiling more at all of her customers to see what happened – and she was shocked.  Most (not all) of the people smiled right back and her job actually became a lot more pleasant.  She also won the loyalty of many customers just because of her willingness to smile.


  • You can’t change your husband.
  • You can’t make him like you.
  • You can’t make him love you.
  • But you can smile at him, respect him and be kind to him.

But here is the catch.

 I want you to smile at him because you love and honor Christ – not because you want him to be friendly and loving back to you.

Husbands are pretty sensitive to manipulation.  If you only smile at him so that he will love you more – that will NOT WORK.

But if you just sincerely smile as a way to show your love for Jesus and just to bless your husband – Jesus counts whatever you do for your husband as if you do it for Him – you realize that right?  If you give a drink of water to the least of these in My Name, you have done it for Me.  And if whatever you have not done for the least of these, you have NOT done for Me.

So, if you smile at him – just because you are showing your love for Jesus  and you want to bless him – expecting nothing in return – it might just get interesting to see what God might do with your little sacrifice of smiling and having a friendly expression on your face – in your own life, in your relationship with Him and in your other relationships.  We will leave the results up to Him!

You can’t control your husband – but you can influence him for good or for evil.

You can choose to scowl at him and look at him with fire, anger, resentment, contempt, and disgust.  That will crush his soul.

Or, you can choose to have  a friendly and pleasant facial expression, smiling at him whenever you can.

Note – if you just found out he cheated on you or something – I am not saying you need to smile then.  You can be sad and feel your grief in a situation like that.

I am talking about just a normal day – let’s try the FRIENDLY LOOK challenge today!


Then – let me know what happens! 🙂

Here is a Youtube Video about Advanced Self Control 6 minute video



As you grow in Christ and His Spirit fills you up with His joy – your smile will be uncontainable.  You will have to smile because you are so full of the joy of the Lord.  Seek to be filled with His Spirit! Ask Him to show you any sin that might have grieved His Spirit so you can repent and then ask Him to fill you with His unspeakable JOY and PEACE. 🙂  No one will be able to take your smile away when the source of your joy is Jesus!