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Why I Put My Wedding Rings Back On – a Guest Post

By a sister in Christ… I’m so thankful for her willingness to share for the first time in a post. I never get tired of hearing how our amazing God heals broken people and relationships:

Bare fingers fussed around the edges of divorce documents. Time had passed long and hollow since the sparkling bands of diamonds and emeralds had graced the ring finger of the two becoming one. I was ready for divorce. I felt done. Yet, I lacked peace.

When I’d last prayed the still, small voice had spoken into my spirit “six months.” Six months what? I’d thought. Six months until he changes? Six months until this nightmare is over? Six months until I stop crying?

I decided to meet a lawyer just to get the legal facts. I’m certain my jaw dropped when she said,

“It’ll be six months until you’ll even get to court. Maybe you want to think about it some more.”

I had felt God wasn’t working and had been thinking the dry season without visible change was His sign I should divorce. Now, I had a stirring of hope. I apologized for doubting Him and counted six months on the calendar – about the time of our vacation to the ocean. Tired of waiting around for him, I had planned it for the kids and me. I would pray about it until then and make my decision when we returned.

In the meantime, I read the book, “The Peaceful Wife – Living in Submission to Christ As Lord,” and the Peaceful Wife blog. April’s counsel was challenging: turn your eyes to Jesus. Stop making an idol of your husband. My heart was full of unbelief, anger, and unmet needs and hurt. And pride. Other wives felt the same. What sort of crazy road was this? we all wondered? Yet, the women who had gone before us were all singing the same song over our souls: turn to Jesus.

“God is sovereign, not your feelings” April would said. That struck a chord with me.

The time of the vacation arrived. A few days before leaving, we had an argument. Normally I would have been crushed. Angry. Confused. Oh, it hurt. But this time I didn’t give in to the feelings. This time I prayed. And again the still small voice reached out to me through the storm.

Put your rings back on.

When God speaks, the layers of meaning in one sentence, one word, can be endless. I knew immediately the command to put my wedding rings on was a call to fight, to humble myself before Him, to stand strong, to stop being lukewarm about my marriage. I was either all in or I was out. It was time to stop sitting on the fence and crying because things weren’t changing.

I slid the cool metal circles over my ring finger. I felt like an idiot. They were like a sword piercing my pride. He probably doesn’t even know where his ring is – if he even has it anymore. The bitter thought quickly receded, however, when in that one act of obedience I suddenly understood this moment was not about a marriage to a man, but a marriage of a woman to her God. The rings symbolized a vow I had made to my husband, but more than anything else they were an outward sign of a vow I had made to God to stand with Him as a helpmeet to my husband through life.

“I’m so sorry, Lord!” I cried out. As I repented of betraying the commitment I’d made to Him, His Spirit filled me anew. The rings sparkled and danced with life. I’d forgotten how beautiful they were. For a moment the pain of the years lifted and I was a bride once more.

What I noticed next was a prompting of the Holy Spirit to confess out loud that I wanted my marriage to work. This was difficult. Part of me wanted to be free from the hurt and humiliation. I had been encouraged by several friends to file for the divorce and move on. In my heart though, I knew I still loved him and dreamed of having our family together again. I felt ashamed at having this longing in the face of such unlikely odds. The prompting persisted, so alone in the car I would whisper, “I do want our marriage to heal, Lord. I still love him. I love our kids.”

This continued for several weeks. I watched War Room. I made a war room in my laundry room with pictures from my wedding day and each of our children. I posted scriptures and hand written prayers and simple words like Bring him home, Lord.

 I stopped fighting against the guidance of the wives who had gone before me, both in the Peaceful Wife blog and other forums He had sent my way. I let Him make changes in me. I focused on being more sensitive to the Spirit and simply got closer to Jesus. I got out of the way and God moved.

It’s taken some time, but there has been a real softening in my husband’s heart. He has apologized for the years wasted in anger. He listens to me now when I share my heart. He even tells me he loves me and I can hear in the tone of his voice it’s true.

I’ve thrown out the divorce papers and have begun to dream again.

And, yet, more than anything, my heart has the peace of a woman who has put God first, a wife who has learned (and is learning) to die to self in order to be a vessel of His goodness and redemption in another’s life. I thought I knew how to be a good wife. But I never asked Him how to be the wife my husband needed. God didn’t just want my cooperation. He wanted my submission.

Playing at the park today, I saw a woman I hadn’t seen in a long time. She looked at my rings and said “Oh, your rings are so lovely.”

As I pushed my son on the swing, the light of the sun sparkled over them as if imbued with Heavenly majesty. “Thank you.” I smiled. “I think so, too.”

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God Stopped a Wife’s Divorce Plans

The Bible and Divorce

Kristen’s Story – Being a Peaceful Divorced Wife

When Your Husband Says, “I’m Done”

Should You Strive to Keep Your Husband at ANY Cost?

Should I Stay or Should I Go?

Fully Trusting God with My Husband – Laying Down All of My Fears

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For me, fear is often a signal that the opposite of my fear is something I am cherishing more than Christ in my heart. When I see a lot of fear, I know I need to lay things before God on the altar. I also need to check my heart for unbelief in God and ask God to help increase my faith.  (I am going to give some examples of the fears I had and the idols I had at the beginning of my journey – but you can replace my fears and idols with any fears or idols below.)

I had to personally get to the place (over time after MUCH wrestling) where I could genuinely pray like this:

Lord,
I am so afraid my husband will never want to interact with me again. I am afraid he will be unplugged, unloving, and passive for the rest of our lives. I am afraid he doesn’t love me. I am afraid he doesn’t want me in his life. I am afraid he wouldn’t even notice or care if I were to die. I want his love. I want his affection. I want his attention. I want to feel secure in our marriage. I want reassurance from him. I want him to be interested in me physically. But I can’t make him do these things.

God, even if my husband never changes, even if he never loves me, even if I feel alone in this marriage – I am going to trust You.

I am going to depend totally on You for my security. No matter what my husband does. I have You and I want You more than I want my husband or anyone or anything else. He can’t satisfy me. He can’t meet the deepest needs of my heart – even if You heal us both. He is not God. Only You can meet the deepest needs of my life. No man can ever be Christ to me. I can’t put my trust and hope in my husband and his actions or inactions. I can’t put my hope and trust and faith in his affirmation of me or his affection toward me.

I am going to put 100% of my faith in You from now on – even if my husband doesn’t change.

You are my Rock. “I dare not trust the sweetest frame but wholly lean on Jesus’ Name!” I want to learn to live in the sufficiency of Christ! I want to be stable and unshakable in You whether my husband lives or dies, whether he gets very sick, whether he has an affair, whether he leaves me, whether he loves me or not… this is about You and me. It is about where I will put all of my faith and trust. It isn’t about him.

I lay down my fears. I acknowledge that I have been putting my desires for my husband above You in my heart and that is sin. I acknowledge my sin of unbelief in You, Lord. Please forgive me!!! I don’t want to live like this anymore! I am going to begin to trust You starting today even though I am afraid and have never done this before. I have spent my life trusting self and trusting other people and things. This is idolatry and it is so wrong!  I don’t want to put anything above You in my heart any more.

Help me tear out these idols. Help me build on Christ, Your truth, and Your Word alone. “I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength” (Phil. 4:12) – even if it means I am unloved, unappreciated, unwanted, and ignored by my husband. If Paul (through the power of the Holy Spirit) can be content in plenty or in poverty physically – I can be content in You whether I have lots of love and attention from my husband or no attention and love from him. My husband is not my primary provider and source of all good things. You are.

If I have You – I have everything that really matters.

I lay my husband and our broken marriage on the altar before You. Do what You believe is best with him and with our marriage in Your timing. I lay everything I am and all that I have before You. I want Your will, even if I don’t understand it. Even if it is painful. Even if it takes a long time. I grieve over my dream for my marriage and family and I lay it down before You and take my hands off of it. I lay down all of my dreams and entrust them to You. I will be content whether I get what I want or not in my marriage as long as I have You. I won’t run ahead of You anymore. I want to only do what You want me to. I only want  to please You!

Bring the most honor and glory to Yourself in our family and in my life. Beginning today, I will wait on You. I want Your will. I need Your wisdom. You are totally sovereign. You can heal my marriage. You can heal my husband. I want to stop fighting You. I want to get out of Your way so that You can work unimpeded in my husband’s life. I trust You with the results. But most of all, I want You to change ME! Transform me! Conform me to the image of Christ! Use this time of pain and trial to grow me in my faith. I don’t want to miss any of the treasures You have hidden for me in this time of fiery trial. I yield to the refining fire. I welcome Your pruning shears. You know what is best. You have all wisdom. I do not. I humble myself before You. I want to be emptied of self so that I can be full of You!

Whatever it takes.

Whatever it costs.

You are worthy of all of my devotion. You are worthy of me to give up everything and everyone else in my life. I receive that my old self is dead to this world and to my sinful nature because it has been crucified with Christ (Romans 6). I receive that I am now alive to God through Jesus and that I have Your Spirit and Your new nature and that the purpose of my life is to bring joy and glory to You. My desire is to walk in holiness, obedience, and in the power of Your Spirit. Change my heart and mind. I desire the mind of Christ, the heart of Christ, and I receive all that You have done for me on the cross, Jesus!

Show me every sin. I want to repent of it all. Show me anything ungodly I am clinging to and cherishing in my heart that grieves You. It all has to go. I want Your Spirit. I have to have You. I have to have Your presence. I have to have Your fellowship. I want total oneness with You. I want to know You more! That is eternal life – to know You! You are the only Source of Real Love and Real Life.

If I have my husband’s love but don’t have You, I would be just as empty as I am right now. You are my greatest need. Not my husband.

I yield fully to You as Lord of everything in my life. I release control today. I give You total control. I trust Your sovereignty, not my husband’s feelings, not my feelings, not my circumstances, and not any human wisdom. You change people. You change hearts. You change circumstances. You are sovereign, I am not. I will trust You completely from this moment on. You are my Lord. You will use all of this for my ultimate good and Your glory. That is what I want. I want Your will, even if it is painful. I want Your greatest glory in my life. Change me! Fill me. Make me more like Jesus.

Amen!

This is the place I need to be every day – where I lay down my desires, my will, my life, all that I have, and all that I fear – and that I am seeking Christ far above everything and everyone else. This is what it means to follow Christ. There are times of trials when this becomes much more difficult than other times. I know there will be many difficulties in the future where I will have to continue to lay things down and determine to trust God. This is a process and a journey. It is a continual dying to self. A daily taking up my cross and following Jesus.

  • Then he said to them all: “Whoever wants to be my disciple must deny themselves and take up their cross daily and follow me. For whoever wants to save their life will lose it, but whoever loses their life for me will save it. What good is it for someone to gain the whole world, and yet lose or forfeit their very self? Whoever is ashamed of me and my words, the Son of Man will be ashamed of them when he comes in his glory and in the glory of the Father and of the holy angels. Luke 22:23-26
  • “Anyone who loves their father or mother more than me is not worthy of me; anyone who loves their son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me. Whoever does not take up their cross and follow me is not worthy of me. Whoever finds their life will lose it, and whoever loses their life for my sake will find it. Matthew 10:37-39
  • Large crowds were traveling with Jesus, and turning to them he said: “If anyone comes to me and does not hate father and mother, wife and children, brothers and sisters—yes, even their own life—such a person cannot be my disciple. And whoever does not carry their cross and follow me cannot be my disciple. Luke 14:25-27 (The second greatest commandment is that we are to love other people. So, it is clear that Jesus doesn’t literally mean we are to “hate” our families. But the first commandment, that we are to love God with all our hearts, minds, and souls is to be FAR above our love for people. Our love for God is to be so great that – in comparison – our love for other people looks like “hate.” We cannot love our families and loved ones more than Christ. He is worthy of our highest love and devotion by a landslide!)

TWO CHOICES (This helped me so much when I was wrestling, to see what my choices really were):

1. I can choose to trust self (which is trusting Satan according to Scripture) and I can pridefully think I know best and I have control (that I do not have). I can destroy my life and my relationships with others because my flesh is in control and there is no good in my flesh.

2. I can choose to trust God and humble myself, acknowledging I don’t have the wisdom He has and that His ways are much higher than my own. I can allow God to bring healing into my life and relationships. I can empty myself of self and be filled to overflowing with all the goodness and Life of Christ!

VARIATIONS:

We can pray this same kind of prayer when we face other fears, too:

  • fears about not having children
  • fears about our children’s health and safety
  • fears about the political craziness and who will be president
  • fears about the economy collapsing
  • fears about our jobs
  • fears about our health
  • or anything else!

And we can pray this kind of prayer about any of our deepest dreams and greatest  desires. God uses all kinds of trials to help us learn to live by faith, to fully trust Him, the sufficiency of Christ, living in contentment in Christ in all circumstances, and to grow in our faith.

ADMIN NOTE:

My son has been home sick with something like the flu all week. I want to be available to him as much as possible. 🙂 Titus 2 ladies who have been on this journey for awhile and who feel led, please reach out to minister to the ladies (and men) who are hurting with prayers, love, and encouragement! I love the way everyone seeks to bless and encourage each other here! Y’all are an incredible blessing to me. 🙂

MY HOPE IS BUILT ON NOTHING LESS 

THAN JESUS’ BLOOD AND RIGHTEOUSNESS

I DARE NOT TRUST THE SWEETEST FRAME

BUT WHOLLY TRUST IN JESUS’ NAME

 

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Submission (to Christ) Means We Hold the Things of This World Loosely

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Absolute Surrender – by Andrew Murray (free download)

 

“Why Does God Not Answer Our Prayers?” – by Nikka

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This guest post is by my dear sister in Christ, Nikka, from the Philippines. You can read her post in its entirety at www.peacefulwifephilippines.blogspot.com

 

I think the problem lies not in the asking per se, but in what we are asking for, and in our attitudes and hearts, while asking for them.
The problem is we treat God as a Divine Slot Machine that dispenses coins in the form of “answered prayers”. We ask Him for something and we expect an answer pronto! When He does not give us what we want, when we want it, and how we want it, we conclude “praying” is a waste of our time. The “Machine” does not “work”! He just wouldn’t listen!

I used to throw a spiritual fit, back in the day when I did not really know Who God was and who I was in relation to Him.

Here is an excerpt from my diary dated March, 2003:

“I am not happy. I think I am actually depressed in the truest sense of the word. Will I ever snap out of it or will I forcefully do the snapping out? These months have held nothing but trials. I even feel alienated from going to mass nowadays. Stopped the daily masses or even the novenas. I still pray, yes, but it seems to me that God’s Will will prevail come what may and no amount of praying can change that. I also stopped going to mass because maybe, just maybe,
I am “bribing” God to do things I want Him to do by being overtly religious. I am trying not to overdo it but still have faith in Him. I know I can’t count on anyone but God and His Mercy nowadays.When one’s life is this messed up, only God Who created life can fix it…

I am so scared of rejection that I cannot pray to God for my particular intention lest He not listen to me and I just crumble even more. In my heart, God knows what I want and I don’t want to force Him to give it to me, so I don’t pray altogether. I’m scared that God will reject me.”

See how totally off and devoid of wisdom my idea of God was at that time?

  • I “prayed” a lot because I wanted to “bribe” God into giving me what I wanted.

and then….

  • I stopped “praying” because I knew God would not give me what I wanted anyway!

In even simpler terms, I “prayed” because I wanted God to conform to MY will, and when He didn’t do what I wanted Him to do, I threw a spiritual fit by not “praying.” Yikes! 🙁

That was not praying! That was bossing around the Big Boss. That was pure and plain as day, bullying! How dare the clay act so disrespectfully towards its Potter!!!

 

In my defense, I really didn’t know how to conduct myself towards God. I honestly thought, that was what one meant by “praying unceasingly.” I thought it was enough to just tell God what I wanted again and again and again, and He would get my drift. You know what I mean? Isn’t that what “praying without ceasing” meant? To be sooooooo persistent that even God would have no recourse but to give in to me?!

Matthew 7:8-11

8 For everyone who asks receives; the one who seeks finds; and to the one who knocks, the door will be opened.
9 “Which of you, if your son asks for bread, will give him a stone? 10 Or if he asks for a fish, will give him a snake? 11 If you, then, though you are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father in heaven give good gifts to those who ask him!

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When I was at my most controlling phase in our marriage, my “prayers” consisted of asking God to:

– change Dong’s ‘erroneous’ work attitudes
– change Dong to make him more motivated
– change Dong’s lack of direction and to show him his life path
– change Dong’s idea of providing and give him a good job
– change Dong’s bad habits
– let Dong realize how lucky he was that he was married to me!
– etc. etc.
I was greatly disappointed in God at that time because He was not “answering” my unceasing “prayers”!!!! Dong was not “changing”!!!

Little did I know (I was so prideful and spiritually blind then) that I was not really “praying” but just blabbing and yakking and pestering God all those times! All my “prayers” were just long sermons and complaints to God about Dong. Just because I could point out ALL his sins did not make ME a saint! God must have put on earphones when I would start “praying”. I could really be quite talkative. I could “pray” for hours!!!

****  (Nikka describes 5 reasons God did not answer her prayers earlier in the marriage in her full post) ****

In September 1, 2013, I decided that I would submit fully to God,
and then submit to my husband, Dong.

I repented to God and I asked for forgiveness too from Dong for my years of disrespect and prideful behavior.
We decided to take baby steps in fixing our marriage, including our God-ordained roles in the family. We are still taking it a day at a time now, but things are becoming easier as the days pass by. Our “new normal” is getting to feel normal.

Around the time I submitted to Dong, the Lord had provided for us materially, enough for me to not have to work. I was also at a period in my life when I felt that I was “done” with my broadcasting career and wanted to just focus on our home. I figured, the Lord had been so gracious and generous with me for more than a decade, and I have done everything I wanted to do as far as my career was concerned. It was time to stop pursuing my worldly ambitions, and time to start supporting my husband’s simple dreams. (Not to say that I will turn down all opportunities if and when they do arise. I will still consider them prayerfully, but with my godly priorities in mind.)
One of us had to stop. It had to be me.

The Lord could not move in our lives while I was busy chasing after my selfish pursuits.
I was too dominant and my husband was too passive.

In love, for it to be real, there must be sacrifice. The Lord had to suffer in order to save us.
He had to die in order to give us Life.

Contrary to what the world says,
one “cannot have it all.”

And after years of living for myself and for my dreams, the Lord instilled in my heart a desire so strong, I just had to follow it.
For the first time in my life…
I wanted to keep still.
Today, I can joyfully say, that the Lord has been blessing us in all aspects and areas of our lives! There is great joy and peace and love now, that was absent or lacking before, when I was still too busy pursuing my career, my desires to be esteemed and to make a name for myself, all the while, searching for hallow meaning.

  • When I gave up my life to God, I was given a new one.
  • When I died to myself, I found my most authentic self.
  • When I got to know Him through His Word, I realized who I was in relation to Him: That I was NOTHING and yet He loves me.

I did not need to add onto myself any title or accolade.
I mattered simply because I was His child.
Jesus is ALL that mattered.
With Christ, I have EVERYTHING.

Jesus Christ died for ME.
And He died for you too.

Are you ready to hand over the reins and let Him rule in your life?

I did.

  • I am now free from all my bondages! 🙂
  • I am now enjoying a godly marriage with my loving husband! 🙂
  • I am finding purpose in my roles as wife and mother, sister, friend, daughter and neighbor…! 🙂
  • I have Christ’s peace, joy, love, strength, and hope… daily! 🙂

I still have problems. Dong and I still have problems. Who doesn’t? But they are “exciting” to have because we know that God will manifest Himself in them. He will glorify Himself through them.
Because you see, we serve a BIG GOD.
No matter how big the problem is, our GOD is BIGGER.
God never guaranteed a problem-free life, but with Him in control, every “yoke is easy and every burden, light.” (Matthew 11:30)

I cannot thank God enough for calling me by name, for opening up my spiritual eyes, for freeing me from all my bondages, and for giving me a new life.

 

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Praying for Our Husbands to Be Blessed

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Greg and April – May 28, 1994

For the first 14+ years in our marriage, I prayed for Greg a lot – which sounds very noble and godly, right? Unfortunately, my motives were so selfish.  🙁 I prayed primarily for God to make Greg be more loving, to make him pray with me, to make him be a godly leader (by my definition, of course), to make him pay more attention to me, to make him stop watching TV so much…

Of course –

  • When he did pay attention to me, I was never satisfied and always wanted more than he gave me.
  • When he did try to show love I found many ways to criticize him.
  • I condemned him as a believer in Christ for not praying with me and even questioned his salvation and spiritual maturity.
  • I argued and went against him when he tried to lead. I eventually followed 3 times when he insisted on things being done a certain way, but only after a LOT of my own arguing, pouting, sulking, telling him how wrong he was, criticizing him, berating him and trying to force him to do things my way.
  • with the TV, he was safe. He wasn’t safe with me. I was critical, controlling, condescending, bossy, prideful, self-righteous, etc…

I loved Greg VERY, VERY much. I always loved him. But what I did was NOT loving or godly at all.

As I began this journey, I realized that almost every thought in my head was sinful, almost every word out of my mouth were sinful and even my prayers were full of sinful motives. ARGH!!!!!!!! No wonder God says that our acts of righteousness look like filthy, bloody, unclean menstrual rags to Him! (Isaiah 64:6)

I desperately needed a new way to pray.

GOD TAUGHT ME TO PRAY LIKE THIS:

  • I listed out every single strength and good thing I could think of about Greg and kept adding to that list and kept it in the front of my prayer journal. I was only to think about the good things about Greg, the Philippians 4:8 things.
  • I listed out every single sin in my heart and kept adding to that list and kept it in a prominent place in my prayer journal.
  • I began to pray, “Change ME!!!!!!  Bless him.”
  • I stopped the specific prayers about what I wanted God to do in Greg’s life. Why? Well, some of the things I was praying for were “God’s will” – but my motives were wrong and I was trying to demand that God do what I wanted him to do for my own selfish reasons. So, I quit demanding things from God about Greg and just began to trust God to handle Greg without my help.
  • I started to THANK God for Greg, for his strengths, for his leadership (even before he began to lead, as I had stepped down and was WAITING and WAITING and WAITING.)
  • I sought to get rid of every sin in my life and repented from every sin God showed me.
  • I tried to absorb all that I could from God’s Word and from godly resources and begged God to help me understand Him and to know Him and to get rid of my sinful, godless, worldly ideas and to rebuild from scratch on His Word alone.
  • I prayed for God’s Spirit to fill me and empower me.

WHY SHOULD I PRAY FOR GOD TO BLESS HIM?

It can be tempting to think, “I’m not going to pray for God to bless him until he changes and becomes the husband I want him to be.”

That thought is not of God, my precious sisters!

If I love Jesus – my only motives are going to be:

  • to love, please and obey Christ
  • to bless and love others with the love of God

There really aren’t many other motives that are pleasing to God.

Jesus calls us to

  • pray for those who mistreat us
  • bless those who insult us
  • pray for those who persecute us
  • repay evil with good
  • not take revenge but leave room for God’s wrath

(Romans 12:9-21)

HERE ARE SOME WAYS WE CAN PRAY FOR OUR HUSBANDS IF OUR MOTIVES ARE PURELY TO PLEASE CHRIST AND BLESS OUR HUSBANDS:

Sovereign and Mighty Lord,

  • Draw him to yourself. Let him know you more and more.
  • Let him have Your full presence and power in his life.
  • Accomplish Your good purposes in his life for Your greatest glory.
  • Use him in your kingdom.
  • Heal the wounds of my husband’s childhood and past and use them for Your glory in his life.
  • Heal the wounds I have inflicted on my husband. Show me how I can bless him and make things up to him where I have injured him.
  • Let him be the man YOU desire him to be, not the man I desire him to be.
  • Bless his career, let him be able to use all of his talents, intelligence, abilities, gifts and experience to make the world a better place.
  • Give him Your vision, Your passion, Your dream for his life and Your desires.
  • Let him be a man after Your own heart.
  • Let him leave a godly legacy to bless all who come behind him.
  • Let him be a man who is fully consecrated to You.
  • Let him abide in You and be full of Your Spirit and Your power.
  • Tear down every stronghold of the enemy in his life, not to accomplish my will, but to accomplish Your will.
  • Give him a wife who does him good and not evil all the days of her life – and let that wife be ME!
  • Give him a wife (me) who will genuinely respect and see the good in him and who will greatly bless him.
  • Give him Your wisdom to lead our family. Thank You that You are sovereign over his life and decisions. I trust You.
  • I trust him to Your hands. You are God, I am not.
  • I trust You to be able to speak to Him, I will not try to take the place of the Holy Spirit.
  • Give him BIG faith in you. Accomplish mighty things through him.
  • Let him be the father You desire him to be. Help me to support his parenting and to make his job as a father a joy.
  • Help me to support his authority in our home and to make being the God-given leader of our family a joy.

and some things we can pray for ourselves:

Lord,

  • Convict me of every single sin! I don’t want to sin! I hate sin because it grieves and hurts Your heart. I never want to bring You more pain! I want to be clean in Your sight. Cleanse me and make me holy as You are holy.
  • I need You desperately every moment!
  • I want to be completely full of Your Spirit, Your presence, Your power, Your purpose, Your identity and Your glory!
  • Let my life count for You and for Your kingdom!
  • I don’t need anything else. I only need You. I must have You, Jesus! If I have Your Spirit and Your Word and am abiding in You, I have EVERYTHING! You are the Greatest Treasure. You are all I want and all I need.
  • I completely devote all that I am and all that I have to You. I hold nothing back. You are in charge. You are my LORD.
  • I want to obey You and please You in everything.
  • Give me the power to be faithful to You!
  • Let me be able to hear “Well done, My good and faithful servant” from Your lips when I stand before You when this short life is over.
  • Let me love my husband with Your love!
  • Let me love what You love and hate what You hate.
  • Let me deeply want what You want.
  • Let me care about Your will much more than my will. I sacrifice all that I want in order to have all that You want.
  • Flood my heart with thanksgiving and Your praises!
  • Shine through me! Let the world see Your light brightly and clearly through my life.
  • Show me where I am not obeying You. I want to repent humbly and seek Your ways and Your wisdom.
  • You have all wisdom. I do not.
  • I humble myself and get down on my face before You – in trembling and fear and reverence and awe.
  • I worship you with all my heart! You are more than worthy of all that I have to give!
  • I pour contempt on all my pride.
  • I am but dust. You are glorious and exalted! Let me decrease and You greatly increase in my life!
  • Let Your Spirit move in a mighty way in me. Draw me to Yourself.
  • Open my heart and soul to absorb all that I can from Your Word and Your Spirit each day.
  • Let me be one with You!
  • Give me Your love for others.
  • Let Your Spirit move among Your people. Send a Great Awakening in my life, my church, my country and around the world for Your glory!
  • Use me to share Jesus by Your power!
  • Send more workers into the great harvest to share the love and truth and the gospel of Christ with every person on this planet!
Leaving the church on our wedding day - May 28, 1994
Leaving the church on our wedding day – May 28, 1994

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Greg and April on our 19th anniversary – May 28, 2013

Praying in FAITH Not Fear

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Many of you know that I used to pray up to 4 hours per day on my days off earlier in our marriage (before we had children, of course!). Most of that time, I spent praying for God to change my husband. I thought I was engaging in something very godly and spiritual back then. But – now – I understand why my prayers went unanswered.

MY ATTITUDE:

My primary motivation when I prayed was FEAR. I was terrified of all the things I worried about possibly coming true. I wanted to try to keep bad things from ever happening. So, I tried to dictate to God what He needed to do in my life, Greg’s lives and other people’s lives.

My faith was not actually in God. My trust was really in myself. I didn’t actually trust God with things. I was terrified to leave them in His hands. I didn’t believe He would do what was best for me. I thought I knew what was best.

So, my prayers were actually just long worry sessions where I tried to control God and make Him do what I wanted Him to do. I was not praying in the strength of faith in Him. I was not resting in His sovereignty. I was trying to carry the weight of the sovereignty of God on my own shoulders. I was full of fear, doubt, worry, anxiety and frustration. I did not have the fruit of God’s Spirit: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control.

WHAT DOES GOD SAY?

  • And without faith it is impossible to please God, because anyone who comes to him must believe that he exists and that he rewards those who earnestly seek him. Hebrews 11:6
  • Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything. If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you. But when you ask, you must believe and not doubt, because the one who doubts is like a wave of the sea, blown and tossed by the wind. That person should not expect to receive anything from the Lord. Such a person is double-minded and unstable in all they do. James 1:2-8
  • Endure hardship as discipline; God is treating you as his children. For what children are not disciplined by their father? If you are not disciplined—and everyone undergoes discipline—then you are not legitimate, not true sons and daughters at all. Moreover, we have all had human fathers who disciplined us and we respected them for it. How much more should we submit to the Father of spirits and live! They disciplined us for a little while as they thought best; but God disciplines us for our good, in order that we may share in his holiness. No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who have been trained by it. Hebrews 12:7-11
  • There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love. I John 4:18

PRACTICAL APPLICATIONS FOR ME

I MUST have faith in God, or He does not hear my prayers.

I certainly cannot have self as an idol in my heart, and pride thinking I know better than God and my wisdom is superior to God’s and a heart full of doubt and think that God will answer my prayers. First, I must genuinely repent of all the sin in my heart and allow the blood of Jesus to cleanse me from all sin (I John 1:9). It is when I am in right standing with God through Christ that I may approach God in the power of the Holy Spirit and great faith. I am committed to consecrating my life to Him and willing to obey Him no matter what the personal cost to me – seeking His will far above my own will – then I can approach the throne of God with boldness.

Bad things/suffering are tools in the hands of our loving God to chisel us and make us more and more like Christ. My greatest goal used to be to avoid suffering. “God, please don’t let Greg die! Please don’t let us get cancer! Please don’t let anything bad ever happen to our family!”

Now, I still don’t desire bad things to happen. I don’t pray for bad things to happen. But I rest in God’s sovereignty and love – knowing that everything that touches my life is permitted by God’s loving, sovereign hands for my ultimate good to be made more like Jesus Christ. I don’t want to suffer, but if I do go through suffering, I trust that God will be with me through the suffering – so I don’t have to be afraid. And, not only will He be with me – but He promises to use the suffering for my spiritual good and for His glory (Romans 8:28).

So, now, instead of praying like I used to:

  • God, make Greg love me more
  • Make Greg pray with me
  • Make Greg talk with me more
  • I HAVE to have X!!!!!!! You MUST give it to me!
  • Make Greg be more affectionate and romantic the way I want him to be
  • Greg needs to do better at making me feel happy
  • Make Greg stop watching TV. Make the TV break.
  • Don’t let Greg die on his way home from work!!!  I could never be ok if something ever happened to him!
  • I can’t trust you with this or this – I need to hold on to those things, they are really important to me.
  • Let us always have good health and have smooth sailing in every area of life
  • Make Greg be a godly man and godly leader (the way I want him to be and on my timetable)
  • Don’t let anything bad happen to us!!!!!!!!!

I pray things like:

    • God, change me! Empower me to be faithful to You!
    • Show me MY sin. I want to repent and turn from every single trace of sin that offends Your holiness.
    • I am fully Yours. I give you EVERYTHING. I trust You with every part of my life, my husband, my family, our marriage, our careers, our health, our money, our future… I want only Your will. I want your FULL and perfect will.
    • Not my will, but Yours be done!
    • I know that You know the dates of my death, Greg’s death, our children’s deaths. I know that You know every disease or major injury we will experience. I trust You with those things. I know that Your grace will be sufficient and that You will accomplish Your good purposes even in our suffering. I rest in Your great love for us.
    • You have wisdom, I do not. I trust Your wisdom, not my own. I humble myself before You and exalt You as God. You are my Lord! I give you all that I have.
    • Thank You that You will never leave me or forsake me!
    • Make me more and more like Jesus. Prune me. Cleanse me. Refine me. Purify me.
    • I want to obey You and please You more than anything!
    • I want to know You more.
    • Use me to bless my husband, family and others for Your glory no matter how they respond or act.
    • I want to be able to absorb all I possibly can from Your Word! Teach me Your ways!
    • I pray for Your will and Your greatest glory in my life no matter what the cost to me.
    • Only let me have Your Spirit, Your presence, Your power, Your Word. You are all I need!
    • I trust You with the affairs of the nations and the world, the economy, our government and everything. I know You are in control and I praise You and thank You that You will use all of the events in the world for Your glory. Even if our nation collapses or some tragedy or disaster strikes, I will trust You. My trust is not in my bank account, or in having electricity, or in our president, or the economy or my job. I put my trust only in You. If we suffer, I know it will be for Your good purposes. If we suffer, I pray for Your glory to result. I will not fear for You will be with me.
    • Draw my husband to Yourself – not to make my life better or easier, not for my selfish purposes, not to make me feel more loved – but to bless him. Glorify Yourself in his life. Empower him to be faithful to You, to be a man of God,  a bright light, in a dark and desperate world.
    • I would love to adopt children, but if that is Your will, I know You will give Greg the desire to adopt children as well, and I lay this dream in Your sovereign hands. I will be content either way.
    • Use me to teach and train our children to know You, to love You, to love what You love and hate what You hate, to trust You and to build their lives on Christ and on the Word of God.
    • Protect my family from evil and temptation. Let us avoid the snares of the evil one. Let our only addiction be Jesus Christ.
    • Set me, my husband and my children apart for Your use. Make us holy as You are holy. Use us for Your kingdom’s work. We are fully Yours.
    • This life is so short. Let me use my time wisely. Let me be faithful to You. I want to hear You say to me, “Well done, My good and faithful servant.”  I can’t be faithful to You on my own. Fill me with Your Spirit and empower me to be the woman You desire me to be.
    • Let me have the full presence of Christ and power of Christ in my life, Lord! I am hungry and desperate for You!

 

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Prayer Day – Consecration

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We don’t talk much about consecration in many of our churches today. But – all believers are to live lives that are fully consecrated to God. That is His design. That is what it means for Jesus to be our LORD. This is what the  “normal” life of a Christian is to be all about.

Quotes about Consecration and Prayer from “The Essentials of Prayer” by E.M. Bounds

“Full consecration is the highest type of Christian life…. It is the one thing at which the believer should aim. Nothing short of entire consecration must satisfy us.”

Consecration is the voluntary and set dedication of one’s self to God, an offering definitely made, and made without any reservation whatever. It is first of all the setting apart to God of all we are, all we have, and all we expect to have or to be. It is not so much the giving of ourselves to the Church, or the mere engaging in some line of Church work. Almighty God is in view and He is the end of all consecration. It is a separation of ourselves to God, a devoting to Him all that we are and have for sacred use… Consecration has a sacred nature. It is devoted to holy ends. It is the voluntary putting of ourselves in God’s hands to be used sacredly, holily, with sanctifying goals in view.

Consecration is not so much setting ourselves apart from sinful things and wicked ends. It is separating ourselves from worldly, secular, and even legitimate things – if they come in conflict with God’s plans, that He might put us to holy use… It is a separation from things questionable, or even legitimate, when the choice is to be made between the things of this life and the claims of God.

The consecration that meets God’s demands and that He accepts is to be full and compete, with no mental reservation and with nothing withheld. It cannot be partial, any more than a whole burnt offering in Old Testament times could have been partial. The whole animal had to be offered in sacrifice…. To make a half-hearted, partial, consecration is to make no consecration at all. It is to fail utterly in securing God’s acceptance.” pg 146

  • “Consecration is the intelligent, voluntary, act of the believer, and is the direct result of praying. No prayerless person ever conceives the idea of a full consecration… A life of prayer naturally leads up to full consecration. It leads nowhere else.” pg 147
  • “Consecration recognizes fully God’s ownership of us.” pg 147
  • “God must hear the Christian wholly given up to God. God cannot deny the requests of those who have renounced all claims to themselves, and who have wholly dedicated themselves to God and His service.” pg 148
  • “This act of consecrated Christians puts them ‘on praying ground and pleading terms’ with God. It puts them in reach of God in prayer. It places them where they can get hold of God, and where they can influence God to do things that He would not otherwise do. Consecration brings answers to prayer. God can depend upon consecrated Christians. God can afford to commit Himself in prayer to those who have fully committed themselves to God. Those who give all to God will get all from God.” pg 148
  • “Here is the true test of consecration. It is a life of prayer. Unless prayer is preeminent, unless prayer is foremost, the consecration is faulty, deceptive, falsely named.” pg 148
  • “Prayerless people are in His way, hinder Him, and prevent the success of His cause… Unconsecrated people are useless to Him and hinder Him in carrying out His gracious plans and executing His noble purposes in redemption. God wants consecrated people because He wants praying people.” pg 149
  • “The first great object of consecration is holiness of heart and of life. It is to glorify God. This can be done in no more effect way than by a holy life flowing from a heart cleansed from all sin.” pg 150
  • “To develop this kin dog life and this kind of heart, we are to watch, pray and diligently use all the means of grace available to us. Christians who are truly and fully consecrated, live holy lives. They seek after holiness of heart and are not satisfied without it… Without much prayer, such a life of holiness will break down.” Pg 150-151

“The consecrated soul is the happiest soul. There is no friction between a soul that is fully given over to God and God’s will. The perfect agreement of the two wills brings rest of soul, absence of friction, and the presence of perfect peace.”

Lord,

You desire each of us to be wholly and fully consecrated to You for Your holy use. Show us where we are holding back from You. Show us where we are not in total submission to Your commands and Your Word. Open our eyes to the places where our pride still reigns and our will reigns supreme in our hearts. Let us repent of every sin that offends Your holiness! Let us get on our faces before You in humility and lay ourselves at Your feet. Let us be a people who delight in consecrating ourselves to You. Let us give up all that we are, all that we have and all that we dream of and hope for and lay our lives on the altar as a daily sacrifice to You. Let us desire what You desire. Let us long for what You long for. Let us love what You love and hate what You hate.

Make us a holy people. Let us die to our sins and crucify our old sinful nature with Christ on the cross, dying to ourselves. Let us live for You alone. Let us seek Your purposes and Your glory alone. Let us give ourselves fully to You. Let us be people of fervent, passionate prayer. Let us be people of great faith in You. Change our hearts, O God! Cleanse us of our filthy sin and make us holy in Your sight by the power of Your Spirit. Let us be still and allow You to do Your work in us. Let us experience Your victory over sin. Let us walk in the Light as You are in the light. Let us have fellowship with You and with each other.

Let us delight in being more and more like Jesus. Let us delight in suffering, knowing You will use it to make us more holy. Thank You that trouble is Your servant to make us more mature and complete and prepared to do Your will. Let us long for holiness. Let us long for Your presence, Your Spirit, Your power and Your Word. Let us hunger and thirst for Your righteousness.

We trust our husbands to Your holy, loving, sovereign hands. We trust our children to You. We trust our own lives to You. We lay everything before You. We hold nothing back. We desire only what You want and Your will in our lives. Make us into a godly generation. Let us leave a holy legacy for those who come behind us by Your Spirit working through us. Let us love You more than life itself, more than our husbands, more than our children, more than anything on this earth. We desire You alone! Let us only have Your Spirit, Your presence, Your Word and Your love and we have EVERYTHING! You are all we need. We will find our contentment, our peace, our hope, our joy, our acceptance, our purpose, our LIFE in You alone. We submit to You as LORD of all in our lives. We belong to You. We were bought with a great price. We are not our own anymore. We will trust You, not ourselves, from this moment on. Teach us Your ways. Let us love Your Word. Fill us with Your Spirit. Let us become the women You desire us to be!

Our prayers for ourselves, our husbands, our children and our sisters in Christ here on this blog and their husbands and children and for Your church around the world:

  • Let there be a Great Awakening by the power of Your Spirit sweeping in our midst!
  • Let us all wholly consecrate ourselves to You.
  • Remove all the worldliness in us.
  • Give us a deep hunger and thirst for Your presence, Your Spirit, Your power, Your Word and the things of heaven.
  • Let us be people of fervent prayer.
  • Empower us to live holy, obedient lives for Christ.
  • Send us as laborers into the harvest for Your kingdom.
  • Cleanse us of our idolatry, unbelief, pride, rebellion, stubbornness, disobedience, self-righteousness and every trace of every sin by the precious blood of Christ.
  • Give us unshakable and great faith in You, Lord!
  • Set us on fire with passion and desire for You alone.
  • Let us be Spirit-filled people, and let the fruit of Your Spirit be evident in our lives every day, in our marriages, at work, with our children, with our coworkers, with our neighbors, at church and everywhere we go.
  • Let us be godly, Christlike people.
  • Refine our faith. Purify our motives.
  • Let us be concerned about You and Your priorities, not ours.
  • Let us die to our old self, crucifying our sinful nature with Christ and burying it with Him and let us put on our new nature in Christ.
  • Let us love one another with Your love.
  • Let us respect and honor one another.
  • Let us fear You, God and tremble before You.
  • Let us fully submit to You as LORD.
  • Let us be unconcerned with worldly things.
  • Let us be about Your business.
  • Equip and prepare us for spiritual battle and warfare.
  • Let us love You more than anything by FAR in this life. Let us hunger for Your Word and Your presence.
  • Let us repent from every sin, turning completely away from it and turning to You.
  • Let us be sensitive to Your Spirit.
  • Give us Your Spirit of unity.
  • Let us pray together in one accord.
  • Give us Your love and compassion for others – for our brothers and sisters in Christ and for the multitudes who are lost and dying apart from Jesus each day. Our mission is urgent. Let us not get distracted by things that are unnecessary and insignificant and unimportant.
  • Let us forsake materialism, greed, heresy, lies and every form of idolatry.
  • Let us leave a godly legacy for our children.
  • Let us begin to understand GRACE more and more and let us extend it to everyone around us and let us live in the power of God’s grace.
  • Let us rest in Your sovereignty in total faith and trust, allowing Your perfect love to cast out every fear and doubt.

In the Name, power and will of Christ!

Amen!

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Man is looking for better methods.

God is looking for better men.

Man is God’s method.

The Power of Prayer – by E.M. Bounds

QUOTES BY E.M. BOUNDS – “The Necessity of Prayer” (a reverend during the Civil War in America in the 1800s)

  •  Praying that does not result in right thinking and right living, is a farce. We have missed the whole concern of prayer if it fails to purge character and correct conduct. We have failed entirely to apprehend the virtue of prayer if it does not bring about the revolutionizing of the life. In the very nature of things, we must quit praying or our bad conduct. Cold, formal praying may exist side by side with bad conduct, but such praying in the estimation of God is no praying at all. Our praying advances in power only as far as it corrects the life. Growing in purity and devotion to God will make and be a more prayerful life.
  • The gift of the Holy Spirit in full measure and in richer experience, depends upon loving obedience: “If ye love Me, keep My commandments,” is the Master’s Word. “And I will pray the Father, and He shall give you another Comforter, that He may abide with you for ever.” 
  • If any should complain that humanity under the fall is too weak and helpless to obey these high commands of God, the answer is that through the atonement of Christ humanity is made able to obey. The atonement is God’s “Enabling Act.” In regeneration and through the agency of the Holy Spirit, God works in us and bestows sufficient enabling grace for all that is required of us under the atonement. This grace is furnished without measure in answer to prayer. So at the same time God commands, He stands pledged to give us all the necessary strength of will and grace of soul to meet His demands. Since this is true, we are without excuse for our disobedience. And we are highly at fault for refusing or failing to obtain the necessary grace by which we may serve the Lord with reverence and godly fear.  Those who declare it to be impossible to keep God’s commandments strangely overlook one important consideration. That consideration is the vital truth that states that through prayer and faith our nature is changed and we are made partakers of the divine nature. Also, that all reluctance to obey God is taken out of us, and our natural inability to keep God’s commandments because by our fallen and helpless states is gloriously removed. By this radical change that is worked in our moral nature, we receive power to obey God in every way and to yield full and glad allegiance. Thus we can say, “I delight to do Thy will, O my God.” God removes the rebellion that is part of our natural person, and blessedly gives us a heart that gladly obeys His Word.
  • There is no denying that unrenewed people with all the disabilities of the Fall upon them cannot obey God. But to declare that, after one is renewed by the Holy Spirit, has received a new nature, and become a child of the King, he cannot obey God, is to assume a ridiculous attitude, and to display, moreover, a lamentable ignorance of the work and implications of the Atonement. Unquestioning and perfect obedience is the state to which the person of prayer is called. “Lifting up holy hands, without wrath and doubting,” is the condition of obedient praying. Here inward faithfulness and love, together with outward cleanness, are put down as coexisting requirements of acceptable praying.
  • Obedience can ask with boldness at the throne of grace, and those who are obedient are the only ones who can ask in that way. Disobedient Christians are timid in their approach and hesitant in their supplication. They are stopped by reason of their wrongdoing.
  • Obedience follows love, and prayer follows obedience.
  • Righteous Christians are obedient Christians. They can pray effectively, therefore, and can accomplish great things when they go to their knees… Prayer is not a mere form of words… The doing must be behind the praying. It is the constant doing of God’s will in daily life that gives prayer its power, as our Lord plainly taught.(matt 7:21-23)
  • If you have an earnest desire to pray well, you must learn how to obey well…. If you desire to pray to God, you must first have a consuming desire to obey Him. If you want free access to God in prayer, then every obstacle of sin or disobedience must ben removed... Those who have never wept concerning their sins, have never really prayed over their sins…. Until (the stage of unquestioning obedience) is taken, prayer for blessing and continued sustenance will be of no use…. Nowhere does He approve sin or excuse disobedience…. Obeying (God’s commands) brings blessing, disobeying them brings disaster.

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Ladies,

Pray fervently, with great desire for God above every desire for anything else in life, with persistence, with patience, asking God to change YOU and laying your life before Him as a living sacrifice each day.

Lord,

We lift up Your Holy Name! We exalt You alone. We praise You for Who You are!!  We thank You for all that we have – everything we have is a gift from Your generous hands. Help us to remember all that You have done for Your people and for us specifically in the past.  Let us see and confess and repent of every sin that offends Your holiness.  Empower us to walk in total love, submission, faithfulness and obedience to You by Your Spirit. Empower us to be women of fervent, effectual prayer. Let Your will and Your glory be done in our lives. Let us be Spirit-filled, godly women who dramatically impact this world for Your kingdom – not by our own might or strength, but by Your power. Give us Your Spirit of unity among ourselves and in our marriages and churches. We lift up our husbands and children, that You might work in their lives for Your purposes to be accomplished, for Your will to be done in our homes and for Your greatest glory in our lives and in our families’ lives, in Your church and in the world.  Protect our families and husbands and marriages from evil and from temptation.  Use us, our husbands, our marriages and our families to shine for You and to draw many people to Christ. Change us radically to be faithful disciples of Yours! Give us new hearts, new spirits and new minds. Make us more and more like Christ!

Make us women of utmost gratitude to You for all You have done for us. Let us be women of obedience to Your Word.  Let us show our love by our joyful and cheerful desire to obey Your every command. Flood us with Your power and Your Spirit. Make us people of fervent prayer.  Make us useful for Your kingdom.  Set us apart for Your purposes. Continue to sanctify us more and more and make us more like Christ. Regenerate our spirits, Lord.  Let us learn to access the overwhelming Grace You make so readily available to us! We can do NOTHING apart from You!

We trust You to provide for our daily needs. We will be content with what You provide for us. What we need most is the Living Water of Your Spirit. If only we can have You, Your presence, Your Spirit, Your Word and Your power in our lives – that is all we need! Open up our hearts. Show us any ungodliness. Cleanse us from every trace of sin, rebellion, pride, self-righteousness and disobedience. Make us holy as You are holy. Empower us to shine brightly for You in our homes, for our children, in our jobs, in our churches, in our neighborhoods and anywhere in the world that You might desire to send us.
Purify our motives constantly, Lord. Work through us for Your will and Your glory. Speak Your truth through us to a dark and dying and thirsty world. Let Your truth alone be proclaimed here. Change the world through us by Your power, Lord. Reach the lost through us. Disciple other women through us. Save marriages by working through us. Heal families and raise up a godly generation for Your purposes and Your glory.
Let us find all of our contentment, purpose, fulfillment, joy, peace, strength, hope, faith and identity in You alone!

Not our will, but Yours be done!

In the Name and Power and Will of Christ,

Amen!

 LADIES:

If you are not currently reading anything in God’s Word, I encourage you to start in John, then Acts and Romans. 🙂  Feast on God’s Word every day. Listen to it in the car. Read while you eat breakfast. Meditate on God’s Word. Fill your mind with it. Pay careful attention to the things God commands us to do and let’s get to work doing God’s will together in the power of His Spirit.

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Prayer Day – Praying with Respect

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ADMINISTRATIVE NOTE:

I am going to be unavailable for emails through this coming Monday.  Thanks for your patience and understanding. 🙂

You are welcome to fast with me as we pray today for our marriages and marriages of believers around the world and as we pray for God to send a Great Awakening and powerful move of His Holy Spirit to draw many to Himself.  This world so DESPERATELY needs Jesus!

PRAYING WITH RESPECT FOR GOD

The first respect issue we must properly understand is that we must approach our holy, omnipotent, sovereign, omniscient, righteous, mighty God with trembling, reverence, fear and awe.

  • Has not my hand made all these things, and so they came into being?” declares the LORD. “This is the one I esteem: he who is humble and contrite in spirit, and trembles at my word. – Isaiah 66:2
  • But I, by your great mercy, will come into your house; in reverence will I bow down toward your holy temple. Psalm 5:7
  • Therefore let us be grateful for receiving a kingdom that cannot be shaken, and thus let us offer to God acceptable worship, with reverence and awe, Hebrews 12:28
  • The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge. Proverbs 1:7
  • The Lord opposes the proud, but gives grace to the humble. James 4:6

If I approach God flippantly, or disrespectfully, as if I have the right or position to order Him and command Him and as if He must submit to me – I am not approaching God with a proper spirit of humility and contrition. 

I must rid myself of every trace of pride and humble myself, realizing Whose presence I am in and my actual relationship to God.  He is holy, powerful and wise.  I am none of those things.  I must see myself as tiny, weak, foolish and powerless next to this AWESOME God.

The only proper position for me to assume before God is to be on my face in reverence before Him.

I have no rights to demand anything of Him.

I have the duty, responsibility, blessing and joy of surrendering and yielding all of myself to Him, being fully submitted to Him. Now I seek His will, not my own.

PRAYING WITH RESPECT FOR MY HUSBAND

Instead of bringing a long list of demands/commands to God for Him to zap and change my husband to be what I want him to be, I humble myself and only approach God with reverence for God and respect for the position of God-given spiritual authority my husband has over me.

I go THROUGH my husband’s authority over me, I don’t try to go around it anymore.

  • I thank God for my husband.
  • I praise Him for my husband’s strengths.
  • I thank God that He is able to use even my husband’s weaknesses/sins for my ultimate good, to make me more like Christ.
  • I do not complain to God about my husband, but rather, I lift my husband up, asking God to give him godly wisdom, divine protection,  God’s direction, God’s power, God’s spiritual blessings and God’s favor.
  • I stand in the gap for my husband against the enemy’s attacks.
  • I speak highly of him to God.
  • I am on my husband’s team and God’s team.
  • I do not look down on my husband, but recognize that we are of equal worth and value before Christ and that we are equally sinful on our own at the foot of the cross.
  • I see him as a fellow traveler on this road who has his own journey to make towards God – and I desire to bless him on his journey, not to set any stumbling blocks before him.
  • I see my husband through God’s eyes of GRACE.
  • I have access to God’s forgiveness and mercy for myself, and I allow my husband access to forgiveness and mercy from me.

Then my prayers of faith open the floodgates of heaven to accomplish God’s will, His purposes and His glory in my husband’s life in God’s power and in His timing.

Another way to show respect for our husbands’ God-given spiritual authority over us as we pray is for us to cover our heads as we pray in accordance with I Corinthians 11:3-16.  When I discovered this New Testament practice it was such a help for me – a tangible way to remind me to have the proper attitude before God. I needed ALL the help I could get with learning to respect Greg and God. Respect and biblical submission does not come naturally to any of us – it sure didn’t for me! You can read about when I wrestled with this passage here.

PRAYER FOR TODAY

Lord,

We praise and magnify Your holy Name together. You alone are God, there is no other. You alone are sovereign. You alone have all wisdom. We come together to praise You and to tremble in awe and reverence before You. You are worthy of our highest praise. You are worthy of our greatest devotion and sacrifice. You are worthy of our obedience. Make us a holy people, set apart for Your purposes and Your glory!

We lift up ourselves as wives and our fellow wives to You, Lord.  Transform our hearts, minds and souls by the power of Your Spirit and Your Word working in our lives. Let us become the women You command us to be as Your disciples. Make us more and more like Christ! Open our eyes to any sin and let us humbly repent. Flood us with the power of Your Spirit. Let this generation rise up to become a godly generation by Your power. We are in DESPERATE need of Your power in our lives and in our midst! We can do nothing apart from You, Jesus. Cleanse us. Stir Your people with Your Spirit. Bring a Great Awakening this year among Your people around the world that we might cast off worldliness and ungodliness and sin and that we might live holy lives that please and honor You.

We lift up our husbands to Your throne room in heaven, Lord! We stand in the gap, pleading that You might remove and tear down every stronghold that is in their lives and our lives and in Your church around the world. Free people from the power of Satan and sin. Let our men become the men of God You desire them to be. Let them hear Your voice and have willing hearts to submit themselves fully to You. We trust You to draw them to Yourself without our help. We are not the Holy Spirit. You are! You don’t need our verbal prodding or coaching or preaching. Help us to live out godly lives by Your power and help us to obey I Peter 3:1-2 when our husbands seem far from You.  Let us get out of Your way so that You can work without us making things more difficult for our husbands spiritually. Use us to bless our husbands. Let us have gentle and peaceful spirits. Let us respect our husbands in ways that are meaningful to them. Let us honor them and learn to understand their perspective. Let us do what is right and not give way to fear. Let us put all of our power and strength behind our husbands and all of our trust in You. Give us the power to be meek – to have our strength under control and bridled – to be used for GOOD  – for GREAT GOOD in our husbands’ lives instead of destruction. Give our husbands Your wisdom and direction as they seek to lead our families and represent Christ in our homes. Let us make their assignments from You a joy. Use us to teach our children to honor and respect their fathers. Help us to build up the authority of our husbands and our children’s fathers. Help us to set a godly example of biblical submission to Christ and to those in spiritual authority over us – our husbands, pastors, church leaders, bosses at work, government leaders, etc.  Help us to have a friendly facial expression with our husbands most of the time and a pleasant tone of voice. Help us to stop the nonverbal disrespect of eye-rolling and making hateful faces and sighing in frustration. Change our hearts! Let us see the good in our husbands. Help us to focus on the Philippians 4:8 things and not complain or argue.  Let Your will be done in our marriages and our families as it is done in heaven. We completely submit ourselves to You, Jesus!

In the Name and power of Christ!

Amen!

IF YOU WOULD LIKE TO LEAVE A PRAYER OR REQUEST IN THE COMMENTS – YOU ARE WELCOME TO!

I would ask that we keep the prayers and requests about marriage and about the gospel being spread to the world.  Thank you so much!

Praying for Your Husband so that God Will Hear

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I used to pray earlier in our marriage – A LOT.

Sometimes I would pray for 4 hours at a time multiple times a week.  Seriously.

I thought that I could clearly see my husband’s faults and I would pray and pray that God would change him. I would beg God to let us pray together as a couple.  I would pray for God to cause my husband to lead spiritually (the way I thought he should, of course!). That is CLEARLY God’s will, right?

And then when it wouldn’t happen by that night, I would be angry.  Literally.  No answer in 8 hours?  That was unacceptable!  I had prayed for God’s will.  I was dumbfounded.

Why on earth wasn’t I seeing answers to my prayers?

1. I CHERISHED SIN IN MY HEART – A LOT OF SIN

If I had cherished sin in my heart,

the Lord would not have listened.  Psalm 66:18

Unfortunately:

  • I got hung up on being resentful.
  • I was awful at forgiveness.
  • I had let a root of bitterness grow into a full-fledged evil tree in my life.
  • I was rebellious against God’s Word – to forgive, to not be bitter, to submit to my husband, to respect my husband (even though I didn’t realize I was disrespectful and controlling)…
  • I was committing idolatry (wanting MY way, wanting to be in control, wanting to feel loved, expecting my husband to be Christ to me).
  • I was overflowing with pride.
  • I was VERY, VERY worried and anxious every waking moment – I did not trust my husband and I did not trust God.  I only trusted myself.
  • I was self-righteous – I thought I was so much more spiritually mature than my husband.

I didn’t just have a 2X4 in my eye, I had a FOREST. 🙁

I needed Jesus and His blood and forgiveness infinitely more than I had ever previously imagined!  Turns out that I am a wretched sinner in total desperation for Christ!  I really didn’t “get it” before!

2. I WOULDN’T FORGIVE, I CHERISHED RESENTMENT MORE THAN INTIMACY WITH CHRIST

Unforgiveness is a really big deal to God.  He counts it as a major sin.

If you forgive men when they sin against you,

your heavenly Father will also forgive you.

But if you do not forgive men their sins,

your father will not forgive your sins.  Matthew 6:14-15

3. I DID NOT HAVE PROPER RESPECT FOR GOD AND THE GOD-GIVEN AUTHORITY OF MY HUSBAND

I really believed in my heart that I knew better than my husband. And I lived as if I knew better than God, too, because I did not respect my husband’s God given spiritual authority over me and when I prayed to God about my husband.

I was disrespectful about my husband to God. I was trying to control God, too!  I treated God with the same disrespect and attempts to control that I used on my husband.  I was demanding and prideful to God, Himself.  I thought if I prayed hard enough and long enough, God would do what I wanted Him to do – He owed me.  Wrong!

As soon as God showed me my sin of disrespect and pride, I quit focusing on trying to change my husband and trying to control everyone around me and God and began focusing on all that God wanted to change in ME!  It turns out, there was more than enough sin in my own life to keep me VERY busy for a long, long time – despite my long-held (quite erroneous) beliefs that I was nearly perfect, always right, and knew better than everyone else what needed to be done in any given situation.

4. I WAS EXTREMELY PRIDEFUL

God opposes the proud, but gives grace to the humble.  James 4:6

God opposed me before.  My arrogance and pride was sky high.  I don’t know if pride is measurable, but, if it was, surely I was getting close to the limit of what is humanly possible.

I prayed with a spirit of judgment and criticism and condemnation against my husband.  I was just like the Pharisees.  I looked down on my husband instead of praying with humility and seeing the depths of my own sin clearly and seeing how much Jesus has forgiven me.

Now – I know God hears me.

And even more importantly – He allows me to hear HIM!

Many of the things I was praying for years ago were God’s will. I still pray a lot of the same things now that I used to. But now – I see prayers answered every day!  Not all of them have been answered yet – and that is ok.

Now, I trust God’s timing and His sovereignty to do what is best for me, my husband and His glory, by His power and in His timing.  Now – I see miracles happening and mountains being moved. Now I see the power of God unleashed and working in me and my husband!  And it is AWESOME!

The difference is that now – GOD has changed me by His power working in me to be:

  • PATIENT – If I have to wait until I am 80 years old and things don’t change until then, I am ok with that.  I wait on God’s timing and trust His wisdom and timing are much better than my own.  I used to be one of the most impatient people EVER.  But I have learned that when you wait on God – there will be  a lot of waiting.  The waiting on His timing is important, and He has plenty for me to do and learn in the meantime.  So, I wait – and I praise Him and serve Him while I wait.
  • HUMBLE – I totally get that I do NOT know better than God and that I very likely do NOT know better than my husband.  My own wisdom is foolishness, and God’s wisdom is wise.  I do NOT know best!!!!!!!! I am open to the idea that God will use my husband to lead me even when I don’t agree and can’t understand.  I don’t insist on my own way.  I don’t make demands.  I make respectful requests, and I understand the proper chain of authority:  God>Christ>my husband>me.  I don’t try to go around my husband’s authority to get what I want from God if my husband won’t give me what I desire like I used to.  I know that my husband can’t keep me from God’s will if I am obeying and trusting God.  And I also know that if I am rebelling against God’s commands for me as a wife, I can’t be in God’s will!
  • RESPECTFUL – I understand that God put my husband in spiritual authority over me. I trust God to use my husband to lead me and guide me. I respect the position of “husband” as the leadership position in our marriage (ordained by God in Ephesians 5:22-33) and yield to his leadership willingly and cheerfully. I know that I cannot be disrespectful of God’s agent of spiritual authority over my life and receive God’s blessings on my marriage. I trust that God can and will use my husband to accomplish His will – whether my husband is close to God or not. I thank God for my husband’s authority over me to protect me and care for me and I thank my husband frequently for his leadership and authority over me. I began thanking him for being the leader and authority in our marriage WAY before he began to lead.  I stepped down and waited as long as it took for him to be able to take the helm.  I didn’t rush him.  I didn’t take over when he didn’t move.  I waited.  A LOT.  And I waited patiently and cheerfully with great faith in God and in my husband.  One thing I did early on in this process was read I Corinthians 11, and began covering my head out of respect for my husband’s authority over me when I pray.  It’s not popular today to do this, I totally get that.  But it reminds me to have the proper respectful attitude towards my husband’s authority over me and towards God – and I need that!  I need all the help I can get with having a respectful attitude towards my husband and towards God.  I believe God honors our obedience even when no one else seems to be obeying Him.
  • STILL – I don’t try to make things happen the way I think they should anymore. I don’t insist on my way. If my husband makes a decision I disagree with, I tell him my position respectfully. I tell him my feelings. I pray about it. And I accept it and wait with great anticipation to see what God will do.  I am not panicking and freaking out  and trying to force things to happen the way I think they should.  God has given me a calm, peaceful, still spirit.  It is AMAZING!!!!!  I LOVE the power of His Spirit working in me and would do ANYTHING to have Him filling me up!!!
  • GRATEFUL – I thank God for everything I can think of! I thank my husband for everything I can think of, too!  Every day.  All day long.
  • JOYFUL – I love God with my whole heart! Obeying His Word has given me the most joy I have ever experienced in my life! I didn’t have joy when I was being disobedient to God’s commands for wives.  I look to Him for my strength, purpose and joy now – not my husband or my marriage.
  • PEACEFUL – I truly live in God’s peace daily now. This is all His power and His Spirit at work, it’s not something I can do on my own. I trust God. I trust my husband. I trust God to work through my husband even when my husband makes mistakes. The pressure is off. I rest in the love of God and the love of my husband. I know that I am not in charge, and it is a HUGE weight off of my shoulders!  I am not stressed anymore!  I am not worried anymore!  I am not lonely or despairing anymore.  THANK YOU, LORD!  I praise You for what You have done in my life!  SO many miracles!  I can never repay You, Jesus!
  • OBEDIENT – I desire to obey God in EVERYTHING. I have a willing spirit to obey Him and please Him. And I am cooperative with my husband’s leadership. I don’t rebel against his ideas or direction. I do know that if my husband asked me to do something that went against God’s Word, I would have to respectfully stand up to him and refuse to follow him. But so far, that hasn’t been an issue.
  • FULL OF PRAISE – I praise my husband.  I praise God.  I sing in my heart happily all day every day.  Just like God inhabits the praises of His people, I believe that husbands inhabit the praises of their wives.
  • SURRENDERED TO THE LORDSHIP OF CHRIST – I constantly check my heart and soul for any idols, and ask God to convict me – because I know that I can be so blind to sin.  I ask God to show me anything I am putting above my love and devotion for Christ. I am ready to tear anything out that is in that holy place that belongs to Him alone.  It has to go – without mercy – even good things cannot be in that place.  I MUST seek Jesus first WAY above everything else.   I lay down my own desires, my will, my wisdom, my purposes, my plans and my dreams and seek God’s will, His wisdom, His desires, His glory and His purposes.

WHAT INCREDIBLE CHANGES GOD HAS MADE IN ME!  I AM IN TOTAL AWE!

When God changes our hearts and we take off the old sinful self and put on the new woman we are in Christ – and are full of His Spirit and power – WOW!  THEN, we want to pray for God’s will, not our own.

And God purifies our motives.  It’s SO easy to have double motives or impure motives.

 Motives matter to God!

I must do the right thing for the right reasons to honor my Lord.  When my heart and motives are pure in His sight, and His Spirit is filling my life to overflowing, He hears and I can rest assured that He will answer my prayers for His glory and to accomplish His purposes in His timing.  There is no better place to be in all the world!

Lord,

I pray that other wives might find this freedom to live in Your peace and joy, too!  I pray that You might break the shackles of resentment, un-forgiveness, pride, idolatry, rebellion and anything that offends Your holiness.  I pray that we as wives might repent and seek You with our whole hearts!

I pray that we might learn to respect the leadership and authority of Jesus first and then also that we might learn to respect the God-given authority of our husbands.   Let us taste and see how good You are!  I pray that each precious wife who reads this might live in a spirit of humility, repentance, reverence and patience in Your presence and that they might see Your power at work in their marriages, too, for Your great glory!  I pray for Your will to be done – not our own.  We trust You with the outcomes – but we lay ourselves at Your feet and long only to know You and to obey You.

In Jesus’ Name,

Amen!

Praying for Your Husband so that God Will Hear

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I used to pray earlier in our marriage – A LOT.

Sometimes I would pray for 4 hours at a time multiple times a week.  Seriously.

I thought that I could clearly see my husband’s faults and I would pray and pray that God would change him. I would beg God to let us pray together as a couple.  I would pray for God to cause my husband to lead spiritually (the way I thought he should, of course!). That is CLEARLY God’s will, right?

And then when it wouldn’t happen by that night, I would be angry.  Literally.  No answer in 8 hours?  That was unacceptable!  I had prayed for God’s will.  I was dumbfounded.

Why on earth wasn’t I seeing answers to my prayers?

1. I CHERISHED SIN IN MY HEART – A LOT OF SIN

If I had cherished sin in my heart,

the Lord would not have listened.  Psalm 66:18

Unfortunately:

  • I got hung up on being resentful.
  • I was awful at forgiveness.
  • I had let a root of bitterness grow into a full-fledged evil tree in my life.
  • I was rebellious against God’s Word – to forgive, to not be bitter, to submit to my husband, to respect my husband (even though I didn’t realize I was disrespectful and controlling)…
  • I was committing idolatry (wanting MY way, wanting to be in control, wanting to feel loved, expecting my husband to be Christ to me).
  • I was overflowing with pride.
  • I was self-righteous – I thought I was so much more spiritually mature than my husband.

I didn’t just have a 2X4 in my eye, I had a FOREST. 🙁

I needed Jesus and His blood and forgiveness infinitely more than I had ever previously imagined!  Turns out that I am a wretched sinner in total desperation for Christ!  I really didn’t “get it” before!

2. I WOULDN’T FORGIVE, I CHERISHED RESENTMENT MORE THAN INTIMACY WITH CHRIST

Unforgiveness is a really big deal to God.  He counts it as a major sin.

If you forgive men when they sin against you,

your heavenly Father will also forgive you.

But if you do not forgive men their sins,

your father will not forgive your sins.  Matthew 6:14-15

3. I DID NOT HAVE PROPER RESPECT FOR GOD AND THE GOD-GIVEN AUTHORITY OF MY HUSBAND

I really believed in my heart that I knew better than my husband. And I lived as if I knew better than God, too, because I did not respect my husband’s God given spiritual authority over me and when I prayed to God about my husband.

I was disrespectful about my husband to God. I was trying to control God, too!  I was demanding and disrespectful to God, Himself.  I thought if I prayed hard enough and long enough, God would do what I wanted Him to do.  Wrong!

As soon as God showed me my sin of disrespect and pride, I quit focusing on trying to change my husband and trying to control everyone around me and God and began focusing on all that God wanted to change in ME!  It turns out, there was more than enough sin in my own life to keep me VERY busy for a long, long time – despite my long-held beliefs that I was nearly perfect, always right, and knew better than everyone else what needed to be done in any given situation.

4. I WAS EXTREMELY PRIDEFUL

God opposes the proud, but gives grace to the humble.  James 4:6

God opposed me before.  My arrogance and pride was sky high.  I don’t know if pride is measurable, but, if it was, surely I was getting close to the limit of what is humanly possible.

I prayed with a spirit of judgment and criticism and condemnation against my husband.  I was just like the Pharisees.  I looked down on my husband instead of praying with humility and seeing the depths of my own sin clearly and seeing how much Jesus has forgiven me.

Now – I know God hears me.

And even more importantly – He allows me to hear HIM!

Many of the things I was praying for years ago were God’s will. I still pray a lot of the same things now that I used to. But now – I see prayers answered every day!  Not all of them have been answered yet – and that is ok.

Now, I trust God’s timing and His sovereignty to do what is best for me, my husband and His glory, by His power and in His timing.  Now – I see miracles happening and mountains being moved. Now I see the power of God unleashed and working in me and my husband!  And it is AWESOME!

The difference is that now – GOD has changed me by His power working in me to be:

  • PATIENT – If I have to wait until I am 80 years old and things don’t change until then, I am ok with that.  I wait on God’s timing and trust His wisdom and timing are much better than my own.  I used to be one of the most impatient people EVER.  But I have learned that when you wait on God – there will be  a lot of waiting.  The waiting on His timing is important, and He has plenty for me to do and learn in the meantime.  So, I wait – and I praise Him and serve Him while I wait.
  • HUMBLE – I totally get that I do NOT know better than God and that I very likely do NOT know better than my husband.  My own wisdom is foolishness, and God’s wisdom is wise.  I do NOT know best!!!!!!!! I am open to the idea that God will use my husband to lead me even when I don’t agree and can’t understand.  I don’t insist on my own way.  I don’t make demands.  I make respectful requests, and I understand the proper chain of authority:  God>Christ>my husband>me.  I don’t try to go around my husband’s authority to get what I want from God if my husband won’t give me what I desire like I used to.  I know that my husband can’t keep me from God’s will if I am obeying and trusting God.  And I also know that if I am rebelling against God’s commands for me as a wife, I can’t be in God’s will!
  • RESPECTFUL – I understand that God put my husband in spiritual authority over me. I trust God to use my husband to lead me and guide me. I respect the position of “husband” as the leadership position in our marriage (ordained by God in Ephesians 5:22-33) and yield to his leadership willingly and cheerfully. I know that I cannot be disrespectful of God’s agent of spiritual authority over my life and receive God’s blessings on my marriage. I trust that God can and will use my husband to accomplish His will – whether my husband is close to God or not. I thank God for my husband’s authority over me to protect me and care for me and I thank my husband frequently for his leadership and authority over me. I began thanking him for being the leader and authority in our marriage WAY before he began to lead.  I stepped down and waited as long as it took for him to be able to take the helm.  I didn’t rush him.  I didn’t take over when he didn’t move.  I waited.  A LOT.  And I waited patiently and cheerfully with great faith in God and in my husband.  One thing I did early on in this process was read I Corinthians 11, and began covering my head out of respect for my husband’s authority over me when I pray.  It’s not popular today to do this, I totally get that.  But it reminds me to have the proper respectful attitude towards my husband’s authority over me and towards God – and I need that!  I need all the help I can get with having a respectful attitude towards my husband and towards God.  I believe God honors our obedience even when no one else seems to be obeying Him.
  • STILL – I don’t try to make things happen the way I think they should anymore. I don’t insist on my way. If my husband makes a decision I disagree with, I tell him my position respectfully. I tell him my feelings. I pray about it. And I accept it and wait with great anticipation to see what God will do.  I am not panicking and freaking out  and trying to force things to happen the way I think they should.  God has given me a calm, peaceful, still spirit.  It is AMAZING!!!!!  I LOVE the power of His Spirit working in me and would do ANYTHING to have Him filling me up!!!
  • GRATEFUL – I thank God for everything I can think of! I thank my husband for everything I can think of, too!  Every day.  All day long.
  • JOYFUL – I love God with my whole heart! Obeying His Word has given me the most joy I have ever experienced in my life! I didn’t have joy when I was being disobedient to God’s commands for wives.  I look to Him for my strength, purpose and joy now – not my husband or my marriage.
  • PEACEFUL – I truly live in God’s peace daily now. This is all His power and His Spirit at work, it’s not something I can do on my own. I trust God. I trust my husband. I trust God to work through my husband even when my husband makes mistakes. The pressure is off. I rest in the love of God and the love of my husband. I know that I am not in charge, and it is a HUGE weight off of my shoulders!  I am not stressed anymore!  I am not worried anymore!  I am not lonely or despairing anymore.  THANK YOU, LORD!  I praise You for what You have done in my life!  SO many miracles!  I can never repay You, Jesus!
  • OBEDIENT – I desire to obey God in EVERYTHING. I have a willing spirit to obey Him and please Him. And I am cooperative with my husband’s leadership. I don’t rebel against his ideas or direction. I do know that if my husband asked me to do something that went against God’s Word, I would have to respectfully stand up to him and refuse to follow him. But so far, that hasn’t been an issue.
  • FULL OF PRAISE – I praise my husband.  I praise God.  I sing in my heart happily all day every day.  Just like God inhabits the praises of His people, I believe that husbands inhabit the praises of their wives.
  • SURRENDERED TO THE LORDSHIP OF CHRIST – I constantly check my heart and soul for any idols, and ask God to convict me – because I know that I can be so blind to sin.  I ask God to show me anything I am putting above my love and devotion for Christ. I am ready to tear anything out that is in that holy place that belongs to Him alone.  It has to go – without mercy – even good things cannot be in that place.  I MUST seek Jesus first WAY above everything else.   I lay down my own desires, my will, my wisdom, my purposes, my plans and my dreams and seek God’s will, His wisdom, His desires, His glory and His purposes.

WHAT INCREDIBLE CHANGES GOD HAS MADE IN ME!  I AM IN TOTAL AWE!

When God changes our hearts and we take off the old sinful self and put on the new woman we are in Christ – and are full of His Spirit and power – WOW!  THEN, we want to pray for God’s will, not our own.

And God purifies our motives.  It’s SO easy to have double motives or impure motives.

 Motives matter to God!

I must do the right thing for the right reasons to honor my Lord.  When my heart and motives are pure in His sight, and His Spirit is filling my life to overflowing, He hears and I can rest assured that He will answer my prayers for His glory and to accomplish His purposes in His timing.  There is no better place to be in all the world!

Lord,

I pray that other wives might find this freedom to live in Your peace and joy, too!  I pray that You might break the shackles of resentment, un-forgiveness, pride, idolatry, rebellion and anything that offends Your holiness.  I pray that we as wives might repent and seek You with our whole hearts!

I pray that we might learn to respect the leadership and authority of Jesus first and then also that we might learn to respect the God-given authority of our husbands.   Let us taste and see how good You are!  I pray that each precious wife who reads this might live in a spirit of humility, repentance, reverence and patience in Your presence and that they might see Your power at work in their marriages, too, for Your great glory!  I pray for Your will to be done – not our own.  We trust You with the outcomes – but we lay ourselves at Your feet and long only to know You and to obey You.

In Jesus’ Name,

Amen!

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