I thought I would bless him by doing a bunch of laundry while he was out in the evening.
Now, I think there’s something else that came to my awareness through this.
Maybe I’m doing these things to bless him, yes, but also with not exactly expectations, but hopes that he’ll notice and feel badly about how he’s treating me. I should be doing the laundry for Jesus! 🙂 To honor Jesus by blessing my husband and being respectful and submissive despite my husband’s actions, without expectations or even hopes for any change. This is hard! It’s hard not to hope for things to get better and not to think about how maybe if I do certain things it will help make things better. How do I keep myself from thinking like that instead of focusing on Christ? I guess just by constantly examining my motives and repenting when they’re not exactly pure.
Anyway, I was still thinking on all this when my husband called! He asked how our son was, who has a cold, but that seemed a bit odd to me. He doesn’t usually call without a specific reason.
Then, he said he was sorry! That he didn’t mean to freak out at me, but was just really frustrated that all his clothes were still wet.
It’s a good thing he couldn’t see how shocked I was! An apology was the last thing I was expecting! I thought at best, it just wouldn’t come up again. I thanked him and apologized again, trying not to defend myself, but just saying I was trying to be helpful and I didn’t mean to overload the dryer and cause him so much frustration.
This precious sister of mine is in a DIFFICULT situation. BUT – she sees with God’s eyes now. She sees how this argument was a chance for her to discover a bit more of her husband’s pain. She sees how God used this painful situation to help her uncover her true motives and to refine her faith. AND – she sees how when she obeys God and seeks to honor and please Him alone, He is able to speak to her husband – even though his heart is distant and hard right now.
Please join with me in praying for this couple – for his salvation and for her to be strong in Christ and to be the godly wife and missionary God calls her to be “without a word” who can win him by the respectful and chaste way she conducts her life. (I Peter 3:1-2).
I appreciate her willingness to share. This is a LONG, LONG journey. But God has grown my friend’s faith by leaps and bounds. She has SO MUCH MORE of Jesus than she has ever had in her life. She is even experiencing God’s peace and joy in the midst of this fiery trial many times. It is a difficult battle – she knows that her husband is not her real enemy. And she faithfully stands in the gap to pray for God’s best for him and for God to open his eyes that he might experience the abundant life, peace and joy that Jesus offers to him.
This friend is such a blessing to me. I can’t wait to see all that God has in store for her!