11 Reasons We Can’t Afford to Skimp on Thanksgiving and Praise to God

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I will praise the name of God with a song; I will magnify him with thanksgiving.

Ps. 69:30

The more I know the Lord and the more I see of His goodness, character, and love, the more I spontaneously desire to praise and thank Him. It is a natural outpouring that results from understanding who God is and acknowledging all of the innumerable blessings He has given me. Truly, it is the only appropriate response for me as a believer in Christ to my kind, loving, generous, gracious Creator, Savior, and Lord.

Of course, some days praise and thanksgiving comes more easily than others. But whether I feel like giving praise and thanking God or not, there are many good reasons that I want to live a continual lifestyle of praise and thanksgiving to the Lord. Thankfully, this is a choice of the will that I can make no matter how I may feel in the moment.

11 reasons I want to enthusiastically embrace praise and thanksgiving every single day:

  1. God alone is worthy of all of my praise and thanksgiving.
  2. God calls me, and all believers in Christ, to praise as a vocation – here on earth and in heaven.
    • God created people to praise and worship Him. (Isa. 43:21, Eph. 5:19, Heb. 13:15)
    • I am most joyous, fulfilled, and satisfied when I choose to live out my divine calling and purpose from God.
  3. It is God’s will for me to live in continual thanksgiving and praise. 
    • An attitude like this puts God and my problems in proper perspective and grows my faith.
    • God commands me, as a believer in Christ, to live in thanksgiving and praise because it greatly blesses me, it is an appropriate response to Him, and it honors Him. (Ps. 50:14, Ps. 99:5, Isa. 42:10, 1 Thess. 5:18)
  4. My praise for and thanksgiving to God align me with His good purposes and His will for my life and His kingdom.
    • I agree with God about His goodness and His wisdom when I praise and thank Him. (Col. 3:17)
    • This attitude paves the way for me to walk in joyful obedience to the Lord.
    • My praise and thanksgiving allow God to shift my desires to match His own and to soften my heart to His will.
  5. My praise and thanksgiving to the Lord help to transform wrong, sinful thinking.
    • It is part of allowing God to renew my mind. (Rom. 12:2)
    • When I am boasting in God, I am not boasting in myself. God opposes my human pride but gives grace to me when I am humble. (James 4:6)
    • I acknowledge that He is God and He has all the rights of being Lord and I do not. I learn to lean on His wisdom rather than my own human wisdom. (Prov. 3:5-6)
    • I learn to develop an eternal perspective rather than a temporal one – to see how God will use all things for my ultimate good and His ultimate glory. (Rom. 8:28-29)
    • Praise and thanksgiving are a huge part of how we take our thoughts captive for Christ. (2 Cor. 10:5)
  6. God inhabits the praises of His people. 
    • My praise attracts God, makes Him feel welcome, and draws me closer to Him and Him closer to me. (Ps. 22:3, 1 Pet. 2:9)
  7. My praise and gratitude to God create a spirit of faith and trust in me. (Prov. 3:5-6, Heb. 11:6)
    • As I see God for who He really is and all that He has done, I realize I have no reason to fear, unbelief, doubt. My fears melt away as I grasp His greatness and as I taste His goodness. (1 John 4:18)
    • When I remind myself of God’s faithfulness in the past, I see that He will also be faithful in my current and future circumstances. (Ps. 42:6)
  8. Thanksgiving is how God instructs us to approach Him in prayer. 
    • God hates my grumbling/complaining/arguing because it is a clear sign of unbelief and lack of faith.  (Num. 14:27)
    • God responds graciously to my gratitude, trust, and faith. (Phil. 4:6)
  9. Demons feel very unwelcome when there is praise and thanksgiving to God going on. 
    • My praise and thanksgiving to the Lord is a spiritual weapon. As I sing praises to the Lord, evil spirits flee. (1 Sam. 16:23)
    • Sometimes trials come from the enemy to test my faith – just like with Job – to prove that I will turn against the Lord and stop praising Him if I suffer temporarily in this life. (Job 1:9-12)
    • May I never give the enemy of my soul any occasion to mock the Lord! But may I continue to praise God and trust Him no matter what may happen here on earth, knowing He is with me and He is for me and that no weapon formed against me shall prosper! (Isa. 54:17)
    • When I stand on God’s Word and proclaim His truth and praise out loud in faith in Jesus, demonic opposition cannot stand against me. I don’t have power against demons/Satan in my own strength, but in the Name and power of Jesus, I can resist the enemy with the truth about God and the truth of God’s Word. (James 4:7)
  10. Praise and thanksgiving are powerful spiritual prescriptions for depression, discouragement, anxiety, and fear.
    • When David wrote the Psalms, he poured out his heart, burdens, trials, and heavy emotions. Then he always reminded himself to praise God, even when he faced humanly impossible circumstances and his very life was in jeopardy. (Ps. 42:5)
    • It is impossible to continue to feel depressed, defeated, lonely, or discouraged when I set my eyes firmly on the Lord in all His glory and I see His goodness, love, and provision for me! God is infinitely greater than my circumstances and other people.
  11. My sacrifice of praise and thanksgiving to the Lord open the floodgates of heaven to countless blessings:

NOTE – Trials are a signal to me that I need to greatly increase my praise and thanksgiving to the Lord to allow much more of His Spirit, wisdom, and power to flow into my life and circumstances. My response when under any kind of spiritual attack or warfare must include much praise and thanksgiving to the Lord!


Make a joyful noise to the Lord, all the earth! Serve the Lord with gladness!

Come into his presence with singing! Know that the Lord, he is God!

It is he who made us, and we are his; we are his people, and the sheep of his pasture.

Enter his gates with thanksgiving, and his courts with praise! Give thanks to him; bless his name!

For the Lord is good; his steadfast love endures forever, and his faithfulness to all generations.

Psalm 100



How has God revealed these truths to you in your own walk with Him?


Bible Study Tools definition of Praise

Why Is Praising God Important? by www.gotquestions.org

What Does It Mean to Praise God? by www.gotquestions.org

What Does the Bible Say about Thankfulness/Gratitude? by www.gotquestions.org

What Does the Bible Say about Ingratitude/Unthankfulness? by www.gotquestions.org




I don’t often quote Dr. Phil. But he has a saying,

“What I fear, I create.”

This is so true!

  • If I fear being alone, my desperation to try to make my husband be with me will repel him
  • If I fear not having control, my attempts to control others will push people and God away from me
  • If I fear not having children, I may pressure and push my husband so much that he decides he can’t stand the thought of having children with me
  • If I fear not being popular, I may try so hard to be popular, that I lose a lot of friendships
  • If I fear being unloved, I may be so desperate to try to get my husband to affirm me and build me up that I come across as a black hole and unending pit of need instead of being confident in Christ. I can actually make it much harder for him to love me when I make “feeling loved by my husband” or my husband into the most important thing in my life (an idol).

Proverbs describes the same concept this way:

As a man thinks in his heart, so he is. Prov. 23:7

  • If I think I am unloved and assume my husband hates me – I will create that very situation many times because I will approach him with resentment, bitterness, assumptions that he has evil motives towards me, disrespect and a desire to control and change him.
  • If I think I am unpopular – my thoughts and fears can cause this to become reality because I will approach people with suspicion and fear instead of the love and joy of Christ.
  • If I think I am a failure – I will act like a failure, my fears of failure will paralyze me, and I will easily become a failure. My fears become a self-fulfilling prophesy.
  • If I think I am unworthy of love – I will act like I am unworthy of love instead of believing and accepting what God says about me and how much God loves me.

Fear is unbelief in God. Fear is the opposite of faith. We have fear when we are trusting ourselves not God.

Without faith, it is impossible to please God. Hebrews 11:6a


** If you have experienced severe trauma, anxiety, PTSD, rape, being molested, sexual/physical abuse – you are going to probably need some outside help to be able to work through your fears – and it may take some time. That is ok! Please don’t stop taking any of your medications, but talk to you doctor and maybe prayerfully consider finding a godly mentoring wife/mentor/Christian counselor to help you. 🙂 I am not writing specifically for women who have been victims of abuse or who are dealing with addictions in their marriage or who are experiencing uncontrolled mental health problems. If you are in one of those categories, my blog may not be a good fit for you.


We all have fears. But the key is to hash through them and to determine that if God is who He says He is, then He is bigger than my fears and I can trust Him even if He were to allow my worst fears to happen. That takes some time to process – it sure did for me. But what freedom and peace when I laid my fears at God’s feet and decided to trust Him and throw away my fears!

Fear is not an innocent emotion – it is a theological declaration of what we believe to be true about God and ourselves. It declares to us and everyone around us that we do not trust God, we do not believe God is who He says He is and that we are not claiming God’s victory, power, promises and His Word.

Our God, the God of the Bible and the universe is SOVEREIGN. There is NOTHING over which He has no control. He is OMNIPOTENT, OMNISCIENT and SOVEREIGN.

  • Satan can do nothing without God’s permission.
  • People have free will. Our husbands can and will sin against us at times. AND at the same time God is sovereign.  God promises that He will use ALL things for the good of those who love Him and are called according to His purpose. Romans 8:28-29. Yes, my husband may hurt me, leave me, cheat on me or who knows what else … but my God will never leave me. And my God is able to use even the most awful trials and sin that touch my life to accomplish His good purposes to make me more like Christ and to bring glory to His Name. So I can’t lose. I have to win. I ultimately will always win when I am in Christ, because nothing can separate me from His love for me! He will never leave me nor forsake me. As long as I have Jesus and His Spirit and His power and His Word – I have everything! And if my husband does sin against me, God is able to empower me to respond in His strength and to extend grace and He may use that situation to draw my husband or maybe even many hundreds or thousands of people to Himself one day for all I know!
  • Suffering cannot hurt me in the end. God promises to use it to accomplish His purposes to refine my faith, to purify and prune me, to make me more fruitful for His kingdom. He gives me the GIFT of sharing in the “fellowship of the sufferings of Christ.” Suffering and troubles are God’s servants in my life. He will use them to chisel and mold me to be more and more like Jesus. So, if God permits something painful to touch my life, I win and God wins.
  • If God is for us, who can be against us!!??!?! He who did not spare His own Son, but gave Him up for us all – how will He not also, along with Him, graciously give us all things? Romans 8:31

Fear is a powerful weapon of Satan. He LOVES for us to be paralyzed by fear.

All of the controlling wives I know, myself included – were motivated by FEAR to control. When we have idols, our motive is fear –

  • Fear that God will not give us what we REALLY want if we trust Him.
  • Fear that God will hold out on us and not give us what is truly best for us.
  • Fear about how we can possibly prevent all the potential bad things we worry about.
  • Fear about how we will be able to force things to happen the way we think they should (as if we are sovereign instead of God).

For God does not give us a spirit of fear, but a spirit of power, of love and of a sound mind. II Timothy 1:7

Fear is never from God. NEVER. Not the kind of fear we are talking about here. It is always from the enemy or from our sinful nature. It springs from lack of faith and unbelief and mistrust of God. That is why the Israelites didn’t obey God and take the promised land. They were afraid. God was VERY angry with the entire generation because of their unbelief and allowed them all to die in the desert and wander for 40 years and He refused to allow any of them to enter into His promised land and His rest because of their unbelief and lack of faith in Him.

This is VERY SERIOUS stuff.

We cannot build our lives on fear and live for God. It is impossible. We have to choose one or the other.

The only fear God commands us to have is fear of Him.

The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge. Prov. 1:7

This is a reverent awe and trembling before God because we understand how powerful, great, mighty, sovereign and holy He is. We NEED that kind of fear. But the other unhealthy, sinful fear has to go when we have proper fear of God.

Here is a passage from I John 4 – this is a summary of the entire Christian walk and what God intends for it to look like:
7 Dear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God. 8 Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love. 9 This is how God showed his love among us: He sent his one and only Son into the world that we might live through him. 10 This is love: not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as an atoning sacrifice for our sins. 11 Dear friends, since God so loved us, we also ought to love one another. 12 No one has ever seen God; but if we love one another, God lives in us and his love is made complete in us.

13 This is how we know that we live in him and he in us: He has given us of his Spirit. 14 And we have seen and testify that the Father has sent his Son to be the Savior of the world. 15 If anyone acknowledges that Jesus is the Son of God, God lives in them and they in God. 16 And so we know and rely on the love God has for us.

God is love. Whoever lives in love lives in God, and God in them. 17 This is how love is made complete among us so that we will have confidence on the day of judgment: In this world we are like Jesus. 18 There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love.

19 We love because he first loved us. 20 Whoever claims to love God yet hates a brother or sister is a liar. For whoever does not love their brother and sister, whom they have seen, cannot love God, whom they have not seen. 21 And he has given us this command: Anyone who loves God must also love their brother and sister.

The only motives God wants to fill our hearts and minds are:
1. deep, wholehearted, absolute love for Him
2. genuine godly agape love (godly, I Corinthians 13:4-8 love) for other people.

Everything else has to go.

Fear cannot live where God’s love lives. It has to flee. The more we know God, the more we see we have no reason to fear – because greater is He who is in us than he who is in the world. And the more we understand His sovereignty (which is a HUGE key I was missing for decades), the more we understand His power, His purposes and that He is in control and He WILL make all things work together to make us more like Christ and to bring Himself glory – and those are our goals, too. We can’t lose when we completely surrender to Christ! We get HIM!!!!!! He is all we need!

My goal is not to avoid pain. This life will have pain – guaranteed. My goal is to seek to absorb every drop of goodness and learning I can from the trials and pain and to grow closer to Christ and more like Him as I suffer.

Worry – Part 3


This is part of a series on worry.  Check out Part 1 and Part 2 if you missed them!

I think about Jesus’ life and the example He gave for us of living by faith in God.  He knew for years (well, literally, He knew for all eternity) that He had come to die on the cross.  He knew exactly when it would happen.  He knew exactly what would happen.  He actually planned the details before time began.  He knew how awful it would be physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually.
I think it is amazing that He only began to seem to really experience the psychological/spiritual weight of what was coming the night before His crucifixion.  He didn’t worry the whole 33 years of his life.  He didn’t freak out.  He didn’t obsess.  He didn’t try to bargain with God.  He didn’t choose the most comfortable route.  He didn’t shrink from total sacrifice.  He asked God to allow the cup to pass Him, but said, “Not my will, but Yours be done” – the essence of biblical submission!
He had talked about how His death would happen many times during those 3 years of ministry – not that the disciples understood Him.  But it was not until that night,  several hours before He was arrested, that He began to pray so intensely that He actually was sweating blood (which has happened to other people, by the way, under extreme stress).
It’s easy to think that, “Oh, well, Jesus was perfect, He is God – so it wasn’t a big deal for Him to go through all of that suffering.”  But He was human!  And He was holy and sinless.  He was God.  And He was willing to experience death and endure His own great wrath for our sin so that we could be spared from His wrath.  What kind of insane love is that!?!?  It is unfathomable that anyone could love us that much – but the sovereign, holy God of the universe?!?!?!  That is mind blowing crazy!
I think the most horrifying thing for Him was bearing all of our sin on Himself and losing that precious connection with His Father for a time. He became sin, Who knew no sin.  Jesus and God were One – they had NEVER been separated before.  I don’t think we can truly appreciate the scale of the weight of the sin He had to carry for us.  To go from complete holy perfection to ” bearing the awesome weight of sin.  Every bitter thought, every evil deed crowning His blood stained brow” to “take the blame, bear the cost” so that “we stand forgiven at the cross.” ( One of my favorite songs, The Power of the Cross – by the Gettys).
He did that for us.  He bore the weight and strain of the sin of every person and swallowed the grave and death in victory on our behalf.
And to think, He didn’t worry about all that was to come.  He KNEW what was coming.  We don’t know.  We sometimes think we know – but we don’t know what is ahead.  Only God knows that.
Laura Doyle describes in “The Surrendered Wife” that

A woman can either try to have control in her marriage or she can have intimacy.  They are opposites.

If you choose one, you can’t have the other.
If I place myself as being in charge of the marriage and try to control my husband – I repel him and lose intimacy.  The price I pay for trying to control him is emotional/spiritual and maybe even physical intimacy.  God designed him to be the head, the authority, the leader (I Corinthians 11:3)  So, unless he is Spirit-filled,  he will either unplug and go passive or he will become angry if I try to control him or usurp his authority.  A wife does not gain intimacy with her man by attempting to be an authority over him.
The parallels with our relationship with Christ are so amazing.
For me to experience real intimacy and relationship in my marriage, my husband MUST see my faith in him as a man, my trust in him, my genuine respect for the good that is in him right now (even if he never changed), and he must hear my praises for him.  THAT is how a woman draws a man to herself.
By God’s design, the wife represents the church and the husband represents Christ in marriage. (Ephesians 5:22-33)
It’s a similar scenario in our relationship with Christ.  I either choose to try to have control over God and my relationship with God (placing myself in the place of God – saying I am god.  I’m in charge.  This is all my responsibility.  So I need to worry and fret about it, using all my wisdom, strength and power to try to make it all work out) or I can have faith and trust in Him.

I must decide, will I place my trust in myself, or in other things or people on earth – or will I place my trust squarely in Christ Jesus as my LORD?

Without faith it is impossible to please God, because anyone who comes to him must believe that he exists and that he rewards those who earnestly seek him.  Hebrews 11:6
The only time a believer in Christ would seriously need to be afraid – is if God was not with him/her.  That is what worry really is – I am picturing the future without God and without His power.  I am trying to figure out how I will handle things and what I will do in my own power without God being there at all.  Worry means I am trusting myself and that I don’t believe God will be there with me.  Jesus had to face the terrifying reality on the cross of being separated from His Father, God.  But we do NOT have to face life apart from God’s presence, help, power, wisdom, guidance, direction and comfort.  HOW AWESOME IS THAT!!!!?!?!
If God is for us, who can be against us?  He who did not spare His own Son, but gave Him up for us all – how will He not also, along with Him, graciously give us all things?…
Who shall separate us from the love of Christ?  Shall trouble or hardship or persecution or famine or nakedness or danger or sword?…
NO, in all these things we are more than conquerors through Him who loved us.
For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers,
neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.  Romans 8:31,43,35,37-39

We have God’s promise that:

“Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you.” So we say with confidence, “The Lord is my Helper; I will not be afraid.  What can man do to me?”  Hebrews 13:5


Philippians 4:4-8

Psalm 46:1

I John 4:18

Matthew 6:25-34

I Peter 5:7

I Peter 3:3-6  – godly femininity is about having a gentle, peaceful, still spirit that does what is right and does not give way to fear.  We can be like that because all of our trust and faith is 100% in Christ!  Then His Spirit fills us and we have His supernatural peace so we don’t have to freak out or try to frantically make sure things all work out “right” as we see it.  We trust that our holy, loving, sovereign God is working out all things for our ultimate good (to conform us to the image of Christ) and for His ultimate glory. (Romans 8:28)


Scores of people… have positioned their lives on a religious road that makes grandiose promises at minimal cost. We have been told all that is required is a one time decision, maybe even mere intellectual assent to Jesus, but after that we need not worry about His commands, His standards, or His glory. We have a ticket to heaven, and we can live however we want on earth. Our sin will be tolerated along the way. Much of modern-evangelism today is built on leading people down this road, and crowds flock to it, but in the end, it is a road built on sinking sand, and it risks disillusioning millions.Biblical proclamation of the gospel beckons us to a much different response and leads us down a much different road. Here the gospel demands and enables us to turn from our sin, to take up our cross, to die to ourselves, and to follow Jesus. These are the terms and phrases we see in the Bible. And salvation now consists of a deep wrestling in our souls with the sinfulness of our hearts, the depth of our depravity, and the desperation of our need for His grace. Jesus is no longer one to be accepted or invited in but one who is infinitely worthy of our immediate and total surrender..You might think this sounds as though we have to earn our way to Jesus through radical obedience, but that is not the case at all. Indeed, “It is by grace you are saved, through faith – and this not from yourselves, it is the gift of God – not by works, so that no one can boast” Eph 2:8. We are saved from our sins by a free gift of grace, something that only God can do in us and that we cannot manufacture ourselves.But that gift of grace involves the gift of a new heart. New desires. New longings. For the first time, we want God. We see our need for Him, and we love Him. We seek after Him, and we find Him. and we discover that He is indeed the great reward of our salvation. We realize that we are saved not just to be forgiven of our sins or to be assured of our eternity in heaven, but we are saved to know God. So we yearn for Him. We want Him so much that we abandon everything else to experience Him. This is the only proper response to the revelation of God in the gospel.