How to Use This Site

1. Most of my basic posts about disrespect, respect and biblical submission are at the top of my home page.  Those are good places to start learning about how to become a godly Christian wife who pleases Christ and blesses her husband.  I know that the things I talk about will probably sound foreign at first, even to many Christian women.  We have strayed so far as a culture in recent generations from God’s Word and His design for us as women and wives that we don’t even realize that even those of us who believe we are strong Christians are often not living according to God’s commands for us.  Many of us have never seen a wife respect her husband or honor his leadership.  Many of us have never seen a godly man leading his family in a loving way.  

All I ask is that you compare what I say to God’s Word – the Bible – and open your heart to whatever He wants to say to you.  You are the one who will reap the benefits and blessings of God when you obey Him and live a life that pleases Him and are full of His power. 🙂

2. I also have a search bar on my home page and you can search almost any topic imaginable about godly femininity, following Christ and becoming a godly wife.

3. You can also look at the right hand column on my home page and find categories and click on those that interest you.

4. You can scroll through the Blog Timeline at the top of my homepage and find a chronological listing of post titles.

5. I have a YouTube channel,  “April Cassidy,” if you learn better by listening/watching than by reading.  Sometimes it is helpful to hear examples of a disrespectful vs. respectful tone of voice and to see disrespectful vs. respectful facial expressions and body language.

I believe this is the calling God has given me – to share the treasures of heaven that He has shown me that radically transformed my life and my marriage (and hundreds of other women’s lives and marriages) for the better.  I can’t keep God’s wisdom, design and healing power to myself.

You are welcome to leave comments for me to address on any post.

How I pray that you might seek to love Jesus Christ with all your heart, mind, soul and strength and experience the peace, joy and spiritual riches of heaven that He generously gives to all who completely devote themselves to Him.

My views and beliefs line up with the Gospel Coalition


My Demon

The Voice in His Head – by My Husband

Replacing the Tapes in My Head

The Key to Contentment

What Is Attractive/Unattractive to Husbands

Respecting Our Husbands as Fathers

Respecting Our Husbands Around Extended Family


Spiritual Causes of Depression and Anxiety

How to Pray for Your Husband So That God Will Hear

The Stages of This Journey

Dying to Self

The Biggest Problem in Our Marriages and in Our Spiritual Lives 

The Peaceful Wife Respect Dare Supplement 

I Want to Be My Husband’s Biggest Priority

A Wake Up Call for Wives-  Our Husbands are HURTING, Too!

An Interview with My Husband – Understanding a Passive Husband’s Mindset



Giving Up on My Dream for My Marriage

I’ve REALLY Messed up – How Do I Make Things Right with God?

Walking in Faith Instead of Control

Handling a Controlling Mother as a Team

Trying to Find Security in All the Wrong Places

Roots of Insecurity, Sinful Jealousy and a Desire to Control

The Only True Foundation for Security is Christ

The Frustrating Quiet Phase

Only the Prayers of Those Who Are Consecrated to God Are Powerful and Effective

I’m Right, I Should Be in Control


Why Do I Have to Change First?

Are You Just, Um… Well, Better Than Him?

He Doesn’t Deserve My Respect

How Men Think

Men and Emotions

Inspiring My Husband’s Leadership

I’m Tired of Being the Leader in Our Marriage

Why Won’t My Husband Lead?

Why Won’t He Protect Me From His Family?

He Won’t Talk to Me

Nikka’s Heartbreaking Interviews with Her Formerly Passive Husband – 1st interview, 2nd interview, 3rd interview

My Favorite Marriage Books

Do Not Expect Outside Support

Expectations are Premeditated Resentment

A Challenge to Stop Arguing and Complaining


Tone of Voice

My Wife Would Bless Me If…

Being a Peaceful Separated/Divorced Wife

A Wife Analyzes Her Journey 13 Months In

Can a Wife Overdo Biblical Submission?  – by Nikka


David Platt’s Sermons

John Piper’s Sermons