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Ready for some supernatural peace in your life?

Every wife wants a strong, vibrant, romantic marriage. But it turns out, marriage can be extremely hard. Especially when we don’t have the right tools to pour healing into the relationship.

You shouldn’t have to feel alone on your journey to discover who God created you to be as a woman and wife and to experience spiritual oneness with Him fully.

You just need someone who can shine a little light on the right pathway.

THE PEACEFUL WIFE PLAN

  1. Be the hero your marriage needs by seeking Christ and your own spiritual healing in Him first. Don’t wait on your husband to change.
  2. Get rid of toxic old ways relating and receive a brand new Spirit, identity, and perspective from Him.
  3. Discover His beautiful design for you as a woman and wife and begin to live every day in His amazing spiritual abundance for you.
  4. Watch Jesus turn your painful story, trials, and relationships into something beautiful for your ultimate good and His glory that will bless you and many others.

Then be amazed Jesus empowers you to help set many other captives free so that they can come into His kingdom, as well!

You can choose to have a saving relationship with Jesus today to begin finding life-changing healing for yourself spiritually!

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What Is on Your Heart?

Now that we are catching our breath in our family and things are calming down, I’d love to check on each of you! What issues are on your heart this summer? Are there any topics you’d like me to consider writing about? I want to hear about them in the comments. Let’s try to keep the topics general enough so that they could be relatable to quite a few ladies.

Thank you so much for taking the time to answer. I appreciate all of your love, patience, and support for me and our family over the past year as we have had so many trials. I’m so excited to see all that the Lord is about to do in each of our lives!

Much love to each of you!

13 Marriage Experts Share Their Best Advice

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I’m thrilled to share that I got to be part of a panel of Christian marriage bloggers/authors on a guest post for Woman of Noble Character.

 

Check out the post:

How to Have a Thriving Christian Marriage: Marriage Advice from 13 Experts.

Our 25th Anniversary Is Today!

wedding picture

May 28, 1994 – our wedding day.

 

Today Greg and I celebrate 25 years of being Mr. and Mrs. Greg Cassidy!

Greg and April – May 28, 1994.

We had dated for almost 6 years from the time I was 15 and Greg was 16. I thought we were SO ready to be a godly husband and wife. In fact, I thought we were much better prepared than just about anyone else ever had been. We weren’t going to have conflict or problems like all those other people. Marriage wasn’t going to be hard for us at all!

The wedding went off without a hitch. It was perfect! Greg’s dad was our officiating pastor. My sister was my maid of honor. Greg’s brother was his best man. We each had six other attendants. The music was beautiful. The food was amazing at the reception. Three hundred-fifty people packed into the church to celebrate with us on that hot and humid South Carolina afternoon. Everything was like a fairy tale.

The first three days of our marriage were glorious. The honeymoon was everything I had hoped and imagined it would be!

But you know what the Bible says about pride, right?

Pride goes before destruction, a haughty spirit before a fall. Prov. 16:18

Yep. It took all of about one week of marriage before things began to get really hard. I was completely unprepared and shocked. I didn’t understand the primary purpose of marriage in those early years. And I didn’t have many tools to help me deal with so many problems and difficulties. I thought I trusted the Lord. I had received Christ as my Savior at the age of five. I knew tons of verses by memory. I only listened to Christian music. But I didn’t know how to live out my faith in real life. I was operating in my own strength, not God’s.

Today, I am grateful for everything. The good times and the hard times.

Leaving the church on our wedding day – May 28, 1994

It was through the problems we experienced in the first 14 years of our marriage that God opened my eyes to my profound need for Him in ways I had never appreciated or understood before. I am forever in the Lord’s debt for this!

He showed me that the real test of my faith was the fruit of my life. He opened my eyes to see that the fruit of my life was not the fruit of His Spirit: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, and self-control. I wanted to be all of those things and to have all of those things but I was lonely, miserable, and frustrated. I didn’t know how to get where I wanted to be. I assumed it was all Greg’s fault and that he needed to fix it. He needed to make me happy and do everything I wanted him to do. Then my life would be wonderful.

The fruit of my life for a long time was fear, worry, anxiety, control, pride, self-righteousness, complaining, arguing, negative talking, resentment, a spirit of offense, and bitterness. The way I lived didn’t match up with what I said I believed.

We were in a big old mess. If the Lord didn’t intervene 10 and 1/2 years ago, we would not be where we are today. I have no doubt, without God’s help, we would be in a much bigger mess by now, and our children, too. The road we were travelling down was destructive and toxic for all of us.

But God…

He opened my eyes first and pulled me out of that nasty pit. For the first time ever, I saw the enormity of my own sin (the ways I fell short of God’s holy standard of perfection – Rom. 3:23). I mourned over my spiritual condition in mortification and horror (Matt. 5:4). Then I stopped demanding that God change my husband and began begging Him to change me.

I yielded my life to the Lordship of Jesus and decided to really trust Him to have control rather than trusting myself to try to make everything happen like I thought it should.

He set me free from the lies, messed-up thinking, and chains that were choking me. Slowly, the Lord began to heal me first. Then, over the years, He worked in Greg and started to heal our marriage. How can I ever give Jesus enough praise and glory for these miracles?! 🎉

 

I am thankful today.

  • Thankful for God’s grace for us.
  • Thankful for Him illuminating His wisdom for us in our marriage.
  • Thankful for His Word.
  • Thankful for His Spirit.
  • Thankful for His promises.
  • Thankful for His faithfulness.
  • Thankful for His beautiful design for men, women, marriage, and families.
  • Thankful that, in Christ, we don’t have to continue on and on living as slaves to habitual sin.

I want everyone to get to experience the salvation, healing, and abundant spiritual life Jesus provides! That is the greatest desire of my heart! He is the only source of real peace, joy, fulfillment, and contentment. Not a husband. Not marriage. Not children. Not romance. Not earthly happiness. Not religious rules or rituals. Some of these things are good things. But without the Prince of Peace, Jesus, being on the throne of my heart, they will all leave me empty.

When we are walking and living in right relationship with Him, He transforms our hearts, minds, and souls. He pours His healing power through us and changes our desires, thinking, and the way we interact with others so that we can become more and more of a blessing to everyone around us. Not because of our own wisdom, strength, or goodness, but because of His Spirit and His Word working in us.

We will still have to deal with the sinful nature as long as we are on this earth, but in the power of Jesus, He can help us to crucify our old self and we have the ablity to choose each moment to yield to Him so that He can help us live in the power of our new nature, the Holy Spirit. As long as we live on earth, the Lord will continue to refine, prune, and purify us. He will humble us and help us grow spiritually as we trust Him, love Him, and seek Him wholeheartedly. Then, one day in heaven, we will be glorified with Him and completely set free from any influence from our sinful nature and temptation. What a wonderful day that will be!

Jesus is truly the key!

Anything good in me is totally from Him.

I am amazed that 25 years have sped by so quickly already. My prayer is,

“May God be greatly glorified in each of our lives, in our marriage, and in our children’s lives! May our marriage point people to the Gospel and to Christ Jesus!”

I pray the same for each of you, precious sisters and friends!

UPDATES

  • Good news, we finally finished working on Greg’s parents’ house to get it ready to sell and just put it on the market this past week! We praise God for this! My prayer is that this home might be a wonderful blessing to a new family and that they will make many memories to cherish there for many years to come.
  • I’m still enjoying my new job with my brother and my parents. They are thrilled I am there. I am ecstatic to be there. I know I am where I need to be. I still have a LOT to learn, of course. But hopefully I will grow to be more and more useful. I want to be a blessing to them, my coworkers, and our customers.
  • I am adjusting to my new schedule and increase in work hours pretty well. The kids and I have a new balance for the chores and priorities at home. They are taking on additional responsibilities as they are definitely old enough to do so and very capable.
  • Our son, our daughter, and myself are each experiencing several medical issues. Some could involve potential surgery. So we are praying for wisdom in dealing with these things.
  • We have had some additional trials recently about which I can’t elaborate right now. Thankfully, they have been much smaller than the issues we faced last year. The bigger trials really put the smaller ones in proper perspective!
  • I continue to pray and seek the Lord for His direction and vision for me for ministry moving forward. Things have been rather crazy. I’m hoping it will be calming down a bit now with one house from the estate finished. I know God will show me His path for me as I wait on Him.
  • I have needed some extra time to allow the Lord to restore my soul and to help me tend to my family in this season. Thank you for your patience, love, encouragement, and support!

Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God;

I will strengthen you, I will help you,

I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.

Isaiah 41:10

More Good Things to Come

We have so much more to learn, and we will keep learning every day as long as we are on this earth. I’m excited to see the adventure that is to come.

Can’t wait to see all that the Lord has in store for each of us as we continue this journey together!

 

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ARE YOU DEALING WITH TRIALS, TOO?

This past year has been the most difficult and painful of our lives. But God is STILL VERY GOOD! He is with us and He is able to take all of the good and bad and use it for our ultimate good and His ultimate glory (Rom. 8:28-29), in fact, that is His promise to us as believers in Christ. Check out the principles we have learned from Scripture to help us in the midst of problems and difficulty.

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Finding Real Joy in the Midst of a Painful Trial 

“My Husband Doesn’t Spend Enough Time with Me”

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Almost every wife experiences this at some point or another. Your man is busy with other things and you really want to connect with him. Sometimes he may not have a choice about how busy he is due to work, a crisis, an illness, or another emergency. Other times, he may spend a lot of time hunting, fishing, spending time with friends, renovating the house, watching TV, playing guitar, running, playing sports, or playing video games.

It’s easy as a wife to feel upset in such a scenario. Really upset. Ignored. Unimportant. And unloved.

For many wives, we value verbally and emotionally connecting with them and spending significant time together each day. That desire to be with our husbands is a good thing.

We feel secure and loved when we feel like we have priority in their schedules.

The desire, itself, is not the problem. How we deal with this desire is what is important.

The Temptation

It’s easy to listen to the smooth voice of the enemy when we feel like our husbands aren’t spending enough time with us and to begin to make negative assumptions and accusations like:

  • He doesn’t love me! If he loved me, he would make time for me.
  • He’s a jerk!
  • He should want to spend time with me as much as I want to spend time with him or he is wrong.
  • Our marriage is doomed.
  • I should probably just leave if I am such a low priority to him.

When we feel unloved, we will be tempted to react in the flesh.

“We are most tempted to sin when we are sinned against,” (Gary Thomas says, in “Sacred Marriage”). And I would add to that, even if we simply feel sinned against or assume we are being sinned against, we are more tempted to sin, even if we are not actually being sinned against. Sometimes, it can be difficult, at first, to discern this important difference.

There are a lot of things that could be going on when we feel unloved:

  • Our husbands may simply have a different love language. They really are showing love in their own ways, and we aren’t feeling or receiving it.
  • Our husbands may have different personalities and different needs/desires for alone time/recharging/hobbies than we do. For example, introverts tend to need a lot more time to themselves to recharge than extroverts. It doesn’t mean that the introvert hates his/her spouse when he/she needs some time alone. Introverts can love their spouses deeply but still need some time to pull away alone. Honestly, we all need some time alone to spend with God and to get our bearings.
  • Our flesh may be weak at the moment, which makes everything seem much worse – Our hormones are going crazy, we are sick, we are exhausted, or overwhelmed. Sometimes our emotions can mislead us and are not always trustworthy.
  • We may simply have a misunderstanding because we assume our husbands should think/feel/react just like we do and/or act like women. They may actually love us and there may not even be a real problem. It may just be that we have different perspectives, paradigms, ways of connecting, and expectations.
  • We could be sinning in some way. We may be idolizing our own happiness. It is possible that we could be sinning in some way with our motives, with our thoughts, we could be believing lies about God, our husbands, or ourselvesWe may be idolizing our husbands. We may be codependent, expecting our husbands to be responsible for our spiritual and emotional wellbeing that are really our responsibility.
  • Our husbands may feel disrespected by us and have an unloving knee-jerk reaction to what we did to them. Or we might both feel hurt by each other in some way.
  • Our husbands may be unable to spend more time with us because of obligations they have. If they have no choice about having to be at work a lot, being deployed, being sick, being injured, or having to do a lot of work on the house that must be done, they may be trying to take good care of us and the family.
  • Our husbands may be stressed and may need a bit of time to recoup.
  • Our husbands may be depressed or overwhelmed about something.
  • Our husbands may truly have wrong priorities. They may be abdicating their responsibilities as husbands. Maybe they really have a TV or video game addiction. Or maybe they really are being selfish.

Let’s be sober and aware of the enemy’s schemes here, sisters!

Acting in the Flesh Leads to Long-Term Damage

If we allow our sinful natures to take over, we will approach our men in destructive ways that sabotage the very intimacy we crave with our husbands. And – when we make negative assumptions and embrace unfounded accusations – we are very possibly believing lies, not truth. We are opening the door to the enemy to gain a foothold and create division and strife where there may not even truly be a problem. That is tragic!

Every wise woman builds her house,
but a foolish one tears it down with her own hands.

Prov. 14:1

Yes, it may be tempting to act in the flesh in anger, to lose my temper, to cry, to scream, and to give full vent to an ocean of negative emotions. It is tempting to let my thoughts and fears run wild and to get rid of any filter on my mouth. But even if the worst case scenario was true about my husband, me acting without any self-control is only going to make things worse, not better.

I may think, “If he could just know how much it hurts me that he isn’t spending time with me, he would change his mind and spend hours with me being loving, romantic, and sweet to me, pampering me and showering me with attention, affection, and conversation. The louder I am, the more upset I am, the more I cry, the more I scream, the more I insult him, the quicker he will rush to apologize and make everything up to me.”

“He needs to know how upset I am!”

But does he really need to know this?

Does he really need to see me have an unholy tantrum? Does he really need to see me at my absolute worst? I may think, “Well, I need the freedom to be myself with my husband.” But what I am really saying if I say this is, “I want the freedom to be my old sinful self. I want the freedom to destroy my husband and marriage.”

Let’s stop a minute and seek God’s wisdom.

God calls me (and all believers) to crucify my old sinful self and to put on my new self in Christ. He calls me to act in the power of the Holy Spirit and to pour His Life and healing into my relationships. He gives me freedom from sin and freedom to walk in His holiness, divine love, and godly strength. He gives me the freedom to bless and build up my husband and marriage.

What do I want long term?

  1. To tear my husband down and to repel him?
  2. To inspire him to want to spend more time with me and build him up?

These are two very different goals which would require two completely opposite approaches.

There is a high price to pay for indulging in my sinful flesh.

If freak out, react in fear, try to control him, scream, argue, act like a prosecuting attorney, rant and rage for a long time, insult him, hate him in my heart, stomp around the house, slam doors, make demands, and/or pitch a fit, what messages am I sending to my husband?

Here are some things he might think:

  • She is not emotionally stable.
  • Wow, she has no control over her emotions and temper.
  • She’s scary.
  • How am I going to feel safe around her or trust her now?
  • The last thing I want to do is reward her right now by doing what she wants after she just treated me so badly.
  • I feel attacked.
  • Why would I want to spend more time with someone who treats me like this?
  • I feel completely overwhelmed by her negative emotions, like I am drowning and need to get to land ASAP.
  • This doesn’t feel like love.
  • The corner of the roof is looking more and more appealing.
    • Better to live on the corner of a roof than to share a house with a nagging wife. Prov. 21:9
    • A quarrelsome wife is like the dripping of a leaky roof in a rainstorm; restraining her is like restraining the wind or grasping oil with the hand. Prov. 27:15-16

It’s not worth it.

A few minutes of allowing the flesh to spew unchecked can cost weeks or months in my relationship. Rebuilding trust after something like this takes a long time. A husband will back away for his own emotional/spiritual safety if I act like this.

A Better Way

When we find ourselves seething with resentment, unfounded accusations, bitterness, and negative assumptions, that is not a good time to talk to our husbands.

Yes, our emotions are screaming that we should RIGHT NOW! But God’s Spirit will prompt us gently to go pray and spend some time with God before we make a mistake we will regret.

Connect to the Right Power Source

Emotions are important, but they are simply indicators on our dashboard. They let us know something may be wrong. But they are not THE source of absolute truth. We need to pay attention to our emotions and examine what is behind them. But we don’t want to be slaves to our emotions. They are not always accurate.

God’s Word and His Spirit are always dependable.

It can be so helpful to journal our feelings and lay out our issues before the Lord. He can help us identify temptations and wrong thinking. He can give us wisdom we need to approach our husbands in productive ways. He wants us to tap into His Spirit for our power source and not try to be godly wives in our own strength.

Depending on the Holy Spirit

If we are believers in Christ, we have the Holy Spirit. He is the only One who can completely meet the deepest spiritual and emotional needs of our hearts.

He can even give us the ability to respond with patience, gentleness, kindness, and self-control even when our husbands truly are wrong. And God can give us His wisdom and perspective to realize what is true when we feel unloved, but our husbands really do love us. He can talk us down off of the cliff so we don’t drop a nuclear bomb in our marriage and destroy it when all we had to do was respectfully share our desires.

No matter what our husbands do or don’t do, we can respond in the wisdom and power of the Spirit of God, if we are yielded to Him.

Our husbands are much more likely to respond favorably to us if we respond in the power of the Holy Spirit – with self-control, gentleness, kindness, and respect.

I also like to change up Philippians 4:12-13 a bit for this situation: 

The original:

I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. I can do all this through him who gives me strength. Phil. 4:12-13

My version:

I know what it is to not feel I have enough of my husband’s attention, and I know what it is to have a lot of his attention. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether I feel loved in the moment or not, whether I am getting what I want from my husband or not. I can do all this through Him who gives me strength.

Some things that draw my husband to me:

  • My peace and joy in Christ.
  • My genuine smile and pleasant, friendly tone of voice.
  • My consistent ability to be a safe place for him emotionally.
  • My asking for what I desire respectfully.
    • Lots of times, that is all we need to do. It really is that simple.
    • “Hey, Honey, I’d love to spend some time together sometime today.”
    • I will often see much better results if I focus on asking for what I would like in a positive way, rather than getting upset about what I don’t like.
  • My understanding and patience when he truly is in a situation where he can’t be with me as much as I would like.
  • My willingness to encourage him to do some things he enjoys sometimes, even if it is without me, as long as it is not sin. We all need some time to ourselves, time to work on hobbies, time to develop our talents, or time to connect with other friends. Different people have different needs for recharging by themselves.
  • Sharing my feelings in a humble, direct, vulnerable way calmly and without blaming him.
  • My spiritual maturity to respond with poise, self-control, dignity, self-respect, and respect for him, even if I don’t get what I want every time.

Or, we may be able to join our husbands in what they are doing and bond that way:

  • Sit with him quietly while he is working on a project around the house, smile sometimes, get him some drinks/snacks.
  • Cuddle with him in a friendly way and read a book while he watches TV or plays video games.
  • If he is open to it – go hunting with him, watch a TV show with him, ask him to teach you to play his favorite video game so you can play, too.

 

NOTE – Please keep in mind that if you have been reacting in the flesh rather than in the Spirit for a long time (months or years), your husband is going to probably need quite a bit of time to feel safe with you emotionally again. He will need to see over many months that this new approach is permanent and it is not just another manipulation attempt. Try to be patient with him even if you feel he is not very supportive as you change. Most husbands will feel a bit gun-shy and skeptical for a time until they really become convinced that these beautiful new changes are real.

Here is my YouTube video on this topic.

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How have you learned to handle times when you want more of your husband’s time and attention in productive ways? We’d love to hear the wisdom God has given you.

Is God speaking to you about this subject? We’d love to hear your thoughts and insights.

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What Topics Are on Your Heart This Year?

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Ladies,

What are some topics you’d like to see me cover in the coming year? I’d love to hear your suggestions and thoughts.

Some areas we have covered in the past:

 

You may have some other general topics on your mind that we haven’t covered. Or maybe you’d like us to revisit an older topic with a new spin? Let me know what you would like to see us discuss in the comments! And also, if you have a story you’d like to share as a possible post about how the Lord has worked in your life and/or marriage, I’d love to hear about that, as well. You can either share this in the comments or on my Contact page.

 

Much love to each of you!

April

Last Day for Early Bird Pricing for the Online Women’s Conference That Starts Tomorrow!

We all want to make 2019 our best year, ever. There is an amazing women’s conference, with topics of interest for ALL women, that starts tomorrow – January 4th and goes through January 9th, 2019.

Get lifetime access to over 90 expert speakers’ videos and over 170 video sessions!

The first day of the conference, there will be about 25 videos just about marriage. Each day has a unique topic:

  • marriage
  • parenting
  • finances
  • home-making/home organization
  • meal-planning
  • goal-setting
  • Christian faith
  • self-care
  • health/fitness
  • simplification/minimalism
  • family life

Today is the LAST DAY FOR EARLY BIRD PRICING! 

Early bird pricing is $15. Once the conference starts on January 4th, pricing is $20 per ticket.

Check out over 90 expert speakers and over 170 videos on a wide range of topics of interest to all women.

Each day will have a theme.

January 4th, there will be over 25 videos available about marriage. Including an exclusive video of mine, called, “Becoming a Peaceful Wife.”

With your ticket, you also get access to about $800 worth of online discounts and freebies! Like…

  • free booklets with prayers for your children
  • free “cheat sheets” with ways to teach your children about biblical financial principles
  • free booklets with scriptures to pray when you are worried and overwhelmed
  • free decluttering your home planners
  • free downloadable devotionals
  • free printable scripture wall art
  • free guide on preparing your teen for college
  • 75% discounts on a time management course
  • a deeply discounted price on one of my Kindle books (more details if you sign up)!

It only takes a minute, or less, to register for the conference.

A New Year, Your Best Year: 2019 Conference for Moms

Let me know if you have any questions.

 

Here is a helpful list of all of the marriage videos that will be offered for the conference January 4th:

Living out your Faith in your Marriage and Parenting by Bridget Childress: Daily we have the chance to impact those in our lives with our faith. In this workshop we will cover ways to keep our spiritual cups filled with practical applications for our marriage and our motherhood journey.

Five Ways to Avoid An Argument by Cheryl Carter: In this session participants will learn five ways to avoid an argument by enhancing their communication skills with their spouse. Come and learn how to express your deepest thoughts to your partner and have a meaningful dialogue. Even those who have been married for a long time will enjoy this practical session.

Bridging the Money and Marriage Gap by Danielle Tate: Are you trying to figure out how to keep your family on track financially but struggling to get your spouse on board? Maybe they are uninterested, passive, or just plain don’t care, but it could be more than that. Learn strategies for stress-free money conversations with your spouse plus ways they can get involved without overwhelming them.

Romance for the Exhausted by Hal & Melanie Young: How do you find time for romance when you have kids? And work? And everything else? The littles get up at the crack of dawn and the older kids won’t go to sleep at a decent hour. Even if you had time, how can you find the energy? Don’t let the busy-ness of this stage of life turn the two of you into co-workers and roommates instead of best friends and lovers. In this session, Hal and Melanie, parents of eight, will share ideas that will help you find romance in the midst of the exhaustion!

Your Marriage and Your Kids by Hal & Melanie Young: Does your marriage affect your kids? You bet. It affects them profoundly. It impacts their security, their identity, and their sense of worth. Beyond that, our marriage toolkit will be the one our kids reach for in their own marriages. Come get some new tools for your box and learn five ways to tune up your marriage to make it even better for you and your children.

Marriage Secrets From 40 Years by Kathie Morrissey: Marriage is God’s design, but the devil is out to destroy marriages, so we have to be purposeful and intentional about working on our marriage. Learn secrets to make your marriage not only last through the years, but also thrive.

Laughing Again in Your Marriage: How to Communicate with Your Spouse When It Feels Like You’re Speaking Different Languages by Micah Klug: When was the last time you really laughed with your husband? (I’m talking belly aching laughing)! With so much stress and pressure trying to balance your work, kids, the house (just to name a few things), the last thing you want to do is put your relationship with your husband on the back burner. Micah wants to share with you the same method she and her husband use to communicate together to eliminate misunderstandings, avoid arguments and contention, and really laugh together (and sometimes at each other) so you can rekindle your marriage and prioritize the relationship you have with your husband.

How to Help Your Spouse When You Have No Idea What to Do by Michelle Huddleston: Do I speak, or should I remain silent? Surely I can fix my husband, right? I expect him to… and the list goes on. If you find yourself in a spot where your spouse needs help but you have no idea what to do, Michelle wants to share four proven ways to keep your helping from hurting.

Marriage Goals: The Why and How by Mike & Carlie Kercheval:  Don’t let another day go by without setting goals for your marriage. In our workshop we will show you: why goal setting should be at the top of your priority list as a married couple, what goals you should be setting, how to get started, and how to stay motivated when you don’t meet your goals.

Meaningful Talk – How True Connection Can Transform Your Communication in Less Than a Second by Keith Dorscht: Every marriage and family experiences communication problems. There is a scientific solution that begins working in less than a second. As a psychotherapist Keith Dorscht has successfully used this technique 1000’s of times to re-open, repair and strengthen lines of communication. When this approach is practiced the brain is able to travel through a three-step process that ultimately ends in compassionate responses and interactions.

Becoming a Peaceful Wife by April Cassidy: April thought her husband was the one causing all the problems for over fourteen years of marriage. If only he would change like she wanted him to, everything would be great! Was she ever shocked to discover that there were things on her end of the relationship she needed to work on, too. In this workshop, April will share a bit of her story with you and some easy, practical tips she’s learned that you can begin to apply today to strengthen your own marriage. Once you begin to learn this new “language,” you may be amazed at how much more peace you both have.

Early Bird Registration Is Going On Now for Next Week’s Online Women’s Conference!

I am so excited to officially share with you A New Year, Your Best Year: 2019 Conference for Moms!

This conference has tons of wonderful sessions for ALL women – singles, marrieds, and moms!

Join us as 95+ expert speakers (including two exclusive sessions done by myself!) present over 175 practical and encouraging workshops to help you make 2019 your best year ever! Thousands of women “attended” online last year, and this year is going to be even bigger!

The engaging and dynamic workshops will encourage and equip you in the following areas of your life:

  • marriage
  • parenting/motherhood
  • goal setting
  • planning/time management
  • health/fitness
  • finances/budgeting
  • household organization
  • homemaking
  • meal planning/prep
  • faith
  • simplification/minimalism
  • family life
  • self-care
  • and more!

There will be about 25 videos sessions released each day from January 4th through the 9th.

This unique conference is 100% ONLINE {yay for no travel costs or logistics to deal with}. This means you can watch and learn from your home {or anywhere that you have internet access}, in your pajamas, at a time that is suitable for you! Attendees also receive LIFETIME access to ALL conference workshops! This means that you don’t have to feel stressed or pressured to watch as many workshops as you can right now! Watch what you want, when you want, and know that your workshop videos will never expire!

 

Did I mention that we have EXPERT speakers?! If you are looking for encouragement or practical ideas to help you achieve your goals in 2019, then look no further than A New Year, Your Best Year: 2019 Conference for Moms. Our speaker line-up includes nationally {and internationally} known speakers who have made television appearances {Rachel Martin was on the Today show!}, written numerous books, spoken at conferences across the world, encouraged millions of women on their blogs/social media platforms, taught courses, and more!

Check out this list of amazing workshop titles and descriptions.

As if all of that isn’t great enough, all conference attendees receive a digital swag bag valued at over $800 which is stuffed full of tools to help you make 2019 as wonderful as you hope it will be! Swag bag goodies include:

  • planners
  • budgeting forms/ financial planners
  • meal planners
  • health/fitness trackers
  • courses
  • eBooks
  • exclusive discounts on dozens of products
  • and more!

Conference attendees also receive automatic access to an exclusive online conference community group where you will have direct access to the speakers, fun and fellowship with attendees, receive amazing door prizes, and the chances to win prizes valued at THOUSANDS of dollars!

Sounds amazing, right?! This conference totally sounds like exactly what you need to make 2019 different than all of your previous years!

The conference officially kicks off on 1/4/19, but early bird registration {and the lowest price!} is happening right now! You can purchase your conference registration TODAY through 1/3/19 for only $15!! That price point is crazy low so it will be affordable for ALL women! If 2019 is the year that you will get your life in order, sign up for A New Year, Your Best Year: 2019 Conference for Moms today before the price goes up!

Sign up is super fast. I was able to do it in about 30 seconds.

Click here to learn more and register now!

 

How the sign up process works:
1. Visit the website and purchase a conference pass.
2. After the sale processes, a thank you page appears letting attendees know that the conference officially kicks off on 1/4/19 and that you will receive an email that day with access information.
3. On 1/4/19, attendees will receive an email with a link to access the conference along with instructions on accessing the swag bag and conference community group.

 

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Join Me for a HUGE Online Conference for Women – Jan 4th-9th!

I’m doing something new and exciting this coming January 4th-9th, and I would love to invite you to join me.

I am taking part in my first online women’s conference!

It’s called…

A New Year, Your Best Year: 2019 Conference for Moms

I love this because you can watch the sessions you are interested in at your own pace from the comfort of your home (or your phone) when you have time. Almost none of us have time to spend a weekend or a week away from our families, responsibilities, and jobs to go to an amazing, uplifting women’s conference. What could be better for busy women today than a conference that caters to our schedules and one where we can attend from home?

This conference is for women in every life circumstance, not just moms.

There will be over 175 different video sessions available to those who purchase tickets with over 90 expert speakers.

  • Early bird tickets are $15
  • Regular tickets are $20

Those who buy tickets will have lifetime access to these exclusive videos on a variety of topics:

  • Goals: 14 sessions from various speakers
  • Faith: 24
  • Marriage: 11
  • Organization/Homemaking: 10
  • Health/Fitness: 11
  • Simplification/Minimalism: 4
  • Planning/Time Management: 19
  • Finances: 10
  • Parenting/Motherhood: 36
  • Self-Care: 20
  • Meal Planning/Prep: 7
  • Family Life: 11

Some topics are Christian faith-based, others are not.

I will have two exclusive video sessions during the conference:

  • Becoming a Peaceful Wife
  • 5 Keys to Real Peace with God

You can watch the videos as they are scheduled online the week of January 4th-9th and interact with the various speakers in real time. Or you can watch the videos later and enjoy them as you have time.

AND…

There is a digital “swag bag” for each attendee valued at $800!!

Here is the link to the link to sign up where you can find out more info about the classes and speakers. Snag the Early Bird price by registering before January 4th!

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Early Bird registration begins December 26th and runs through January 3rd!

 

Hope to see ya there! <3

 

 

Taking a Break

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Ladies,

I just want to touch base with you and let you know that I am planning to take a break from online ministry for the next 3-4 weeks. I want to be able to focus on the Lord and on learning all He has for me to learn personally during this time of grief. I also want to focus on my husband and our children as they are processing a lot of very tough things and I want to be there to support them and pray for them as much as I can.

Our kids have more questions than ever about spiritual things. They are both believers – but I know God wants to help them go much deeper during this time. And they have really important questions with which all of us, at some time or another, must wrestle. This is a very good and necessary thing! It is in the most painful times that we are most open to spiritual growth.

I am excited about what God is doing in us all and what He will do through these trials. I don’t want to miss out on any blessing He wants to share with us in this time of trial and grief.

We will be celebrating Christmas without my Grandma and without Greg’s parents for the first time. That will be very, very different for all of us. And then both children have birthdays soon after Christmas. I want to be fully present and able to enjoy all of the wonderful blessings we DO have even though there will be sadness this year, too. And I want us to be able to hash through and express our grief in healthy ways.

We also have a lot of practical things to attend to regarding Greg’s mom’s estate, as well. I want to support and honor Greg and be the wife he needs right now in this incredibly difficult season.

I thank you all for your prayers, love, and support. You are amazing!

May the Lord help us all to slow down and to really focus on what is most important in His eyes in these last few weeks of 2018 and into 2019. May we align ourselves with His heart and His priorities. May we be ready to grow and to be receptive to all of the refining and pruning God has for us so that we can grow stronger in our faith and shine more brightly for Jesus. May He continue to bring about a Great Awakening in His people all around the world and may He bring a huge harvest into His kingdom in these last days!

Much love and Merry Christmas!