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Some Conflict Is Inevitable

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We have been talking about how God does not call us to avoid conflict at all costs, and that people pleasing is idolatry. It is putting the approval of people above the approval of God. I shared verses about what the Bible has to say about people pleasing. We talked about how it is  ungodly to avoid necessary conflict and how trying to never let anyone be upset with us can be a very unhealthy and destructive way to approach relationships.

But now, I want to take us a bit deeper, my dear sisters:

Jesus tells us – over and over again – we will be persecuted if we live for Him.

We are at peace with God once we yield to Christ as Savior and Lord of all. So we are no longer enemies of God. However, our joining with Christ puts us into conflict with Satan and his forces every moment.

  • Indeed, all who desire to live a godly life in Christ Jesus will be persecuted (2 Timothy 3:12)
  • If the world hates you, know that it has hated me before it hated you. (John 15:18)
  • But I say to you, Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you (Matthew 5:44)
  • Beloved, do not be surprised at the fiery trial when it comes upon you to test you, as though something strange were happening to you. But rejoice insofar as you share Christ’s sufferings, that you may also rejoice and be glad when his glory is revealed. If you are insulted for the name of Christ, you are blessed, because the Spirit of glory and of God rests upon you. (1 Peter 4:12-14)

There were a few decades where things were pretty peaceful for believers in the Western world. We got kind of spoiled – and maybe a bit superficial and lazy spiritually in all of our prosperity and peace. The dynamics in our world are changing quickly. Let’s be willing to lay down our lives to live for God – whether that means we are willing to die as actual martyrs, or we are willing to lose our jobs for Christ, or we are willing to lose our homes, and even our families if necessary – for Christ. He is worthy of any suffering we may need to endure. Let’s pray for and seek to financially help our precious brothers and sisters around the world who are facing intense persecution.

  • The apostles left the Sanhedrin, rejoicing because they had been counted worthy of suffering disgrace for the Name. Acts 5:41
  • For whoever wants to save their life will lose it, but whoever loses their life for me will save it. Luke 9:24

Certainly, we can be willing to lose the approval of people in order to gain the approval of Jesus. He alone is LORD!

When we stand firm in Christ, we don’t have to be shaken by the hatred of the world and those who don’t know and don’t live for Christ. We can see them with His eyes and love them with His love even as they hate us. (Let’s be sure that the only reason they could hate us is because of Christ in us – not because of any sin we commit. May God empower us to live holy lives, pleasing to Himself, that will put those who oppose us to shame.) 

We are not going to fit into the world if we live fully for Christ. That is a guarantee. In fact, we CAN’T fit into the world! God says that friendship with the world is enmity toward Himself.

This is a raging spiritual war that is going on, my dear sisters (and brothers)! The bullets are flying from the enemy. The fiery darts are raining down on us. This is not a luxury cruise. It is not peacetime – no matter how much we want it to be. It is wartime. Priorities must shift dramatically in wartime (David Platt). We have an enemy who seeks to steal, kill, and destroy us, our families, our marriages, the gospel of Christ, the church, our children, and everyone on the planet. We don’t run away from the battle. We are God’s soldiers. We are to be prepared and equipped to run into the fray in response to His command!

Many people are ensnared by the enemy and have been taken captive to do his will. The things they say and do come directly from him because they are Satan’s slaves when they cherish sin and self. Those who live for the flesh/pleasure/sin are controlled by the enemy to do his bidding. Those who are controlled by God’s Spirit do His will When God draws lost sinners to Himself, He transforms their hearts, minds, and souls so that they begin to follow Him and act like Him instead of like Satan.

  • You belong to your father, the devil, and you want to carry out your father’s desires. John 8:44
  • For the flesh desires what is contrary to the Spirit, and the Spirit what is contrary to the flesh. They are in conflict with each other, so that you are not to do whatever you want. Galatians 5:17
  • Those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires. Galatians 5:24
  • Jesus replied, “Anyone who loves me will obey my teaching. My Father will love them, and we will come to them and make our home with them. Anyone who does not love me will not obey my teaching. John 14:23-24

There are only two sides.

Let’s put our armor on each day  and connect closely with our Commander. Let’s not take the attacks of others personally but understand who the real enemy is. Let’s pray for those who mistreat us to be set free by the power of Christ and to experience the salvation and regeneration of God. Their eternal souls and destiny are at stake.

Finally, be strong in the Lord and in his mighty power. Put on the full armor of God, so that you can take your stand against the devil’s schemes. For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms. Therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand. Stand firm then, with the belt of truth buckled around your waist, with the breastplate of righteousness in place, and with your feet fitted with the readiness that comes from the gospel of peace. In addition to all this, take up the shield of faith, with which you can extinguish all the flaming arrows of the evil one. Take the helmet of salvation and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God. Ephesians 6:10-17

Life is not really ultimately about worldly things! I am writing with tears, my dear sisters. Our lives are about so much more than things like:

  • getting what we want in the moment
  • our temporary happiness
  • our feeling loved by our husbands today
  • whether we live in the house we would prefer
  • whether we are married or have children or not
  • what our husband’s feelings are about our marriage today
  • what we eat, what we drink, our appearance, or what we wear

Time is short! Each moment is a gift. I want to see us live without regrets, focusing on heavenly things not earthly things.

This is war. There are thousands and thousands of demons and angels battling over us, our families, our cities, and our countries. There is a sovereign God who is over it all. People’s precious souls hang in the balance. This world is not our home. We are strangers and aliens passing through.

Our home is in heaven! We will experience luxury, comfort, and all the emotional/spiritual intimacy we desire for billions upon billions of years when we are finally Home. Right now our job is to abide in Christ, to be filled with His Spirit, to be available for use in His kingdom, to rescue the captives, to be available to Christ to set people free from sin and the enemy.

It is true that the closer we are to Christ, “the things of earth will grow strangely dim in the light of His glory and grace” (Turn Your Eyes Upon Jesus).

We can have confidence in conflict and in persecution because we have the Holy Spirit filling us, empowering us, and guiding us. We don’t have to fear the enemy or his tactics. Let’s be vigilant and prayerful! Praise God with me that greater is He who is in us than he who is in the world! (1 John 4:4)

You, dear children, are from God and have overcome them, because the one who is in you is greater than the one who is in the world. They are from the world and therefore speak from the viewpoint of the world, and the world listens to them. We are from God, and whoever knows God listens to us; but whoever is not from God does not listen to us. This is how we recognize the Spirit of truth and the spirit of falsehood. 1 John 4:4-6

We can be bold for Christ as His Spirit empowers us and fills us. We have no good or power in ourselves. We are totally dependent on Christ. We must be absolutely submitted and yielded to His control. Then it is ALL HIM working in us. We must get rid of all self, self-effort, and self-will.

God promises that we will have trials, suffering, and persecution. He also promises to be with us through all of it and to use it all for our ultimate good and His ultimate glory (Romans 8:28-29). God’s perfect love casts out all fear (1 John 4:18).

May God open our eyes to see as He sees! May He empower us to be warriors in His kingdom to bring many to Himself. May we stop shrinking back in fear as if mere men are worthy of our fear and let us have healthy fear and awe for God alone. May He empower us with His love to overcome the evil in the world and to bring great glory to His Name! May He cause us to rise to become a holy generation, set apart to accomplish His purposes in this dark world. May He use us to rescue the perishing and save the dying. May we set aside our own agendas and desires and embrace God’s agenda, His plan, His will, His purpose, and His desires!

 

Verses about persecution

RELATED:

Do Not Expect Outside Support on This Journey

Voice of the Martyrs – information about how to pray for and support our persecuted brothers and sisters in Christ around the world

The Snare of People Pleasing

Total Submission to Christ

I’ve REALLY Messed Up – How Do I Make Things Right with God?

My Security and Identity Is in Christ Alone!

www.radical.net – David Platt

 

 

 

30 thoughts on “Some Conflict Is Inevitable

  1. Me too! Mega fiery trial, reading Peter has made me relax and smile, yay the God perspective…thank you thank you thank you xx I can withstand anything if I keep focused on God. My husband has just been verbally abusive to me at a level never reached before, I have a strong support network, my pastor is aware and I plan to leave temporarily with my children tonight. I just don’t want to be around him when I may sin in my hurt and anger. I’ve been wondering what lesson God is trying to teach me through this and I definitely need to change in regards to submission and obedience but also perhaps he is teaching me about self respect and boundaries too. My husband massively crossed mine today.

    1. Liz,

      I’m so sorry to hear about how painful things have been. 🙁 I pray for God’s wisdom and healing for you both.

      There is a very delicate balance – it requires God’s wisdom for us in each situation about exactly what to do. When to leave. When to stay and wait. When to speak up, and when to say nothing and trust God.

      I pray for God’s intervention and for His glory in your marriage.

      Much love to you!

    2. Thank you Liz & Moon for sharing, it helps me so much to know im not alone. I’m praying lots. Things have been going well but there was an incident a few months ago with unkind treatment…and now the past is also being dragged up by an outside agency. All old wounds are exposed again and it’s partly my fault for over sharing. But my husband is not signing up to cooperate, comfort or care. Instead he’s withdrawn, angry and quoting scripture at me. I know im not perfect but just can’t battle with him anymore. I was getting close to leaving but it would split my whole family up as we gave step kids on both sides… Soooo hard, I think for now I have to stand firm and also try to stay calm as I get very anxious, thanks April for your prayers .. Xx

      1. JuR,

        I’m so sorry that things are difficult. 🙁 Do you believe you have anything to apologize for? Or do you believe that maybe this was an issue that needed to be addressed -even if it is painful for him? I pray for God’s wisdom for you and for His healing for you both!

        1. Hi April, I’ve apologised for talking to someone I barely know about him and what happened. I was trying to witness really! He struggled to accept my apology, it blew over, but then we were contacted again by ss and they spoke to my daughter. My husband is obviously upset but I do think he needs to support us and take responsibility. He says the ss are of the world and to take no notice, I said, God tells us to respect people in authority. It’s like he doesn’t care or want to face up to his previous behaviour. He’s blaming me, I wonder sometimes if I’m even doing the right thing staying with him! But he is now saved and I know God loves him.. It’s just so painful and worrying! Xx praying constantly! So yes I do think it’s an issue he still needs to address, I pray God will soften his heart and help him to be honest.

          1. JuR,

            I pray that God might use this situation to bring sin to light that needs to be dealt with – and that it might be handled wisely and that this might bring healing, conviction, godly sorrow, and true repentance. I pray for healing for each of you and for your family. I pray for wisdom for the authorities. I pray for wisdom for you. Such a painful situation for everyone, it sounds like. 🙁

            Sending you the biggest hug!

  2. Great post, and I love your blog.

    I am newly married and I wish that my wife would go to wearing skirts/dresses always. I know you have posts concerning this in the past. Any tips on how to reach her ?

    1. John Justice,

      You can certainly share why you like skirts and dresses and the things that feel feminine and attractive to you. I don’t know if she is open to hearing about that. I decided to change to all skirts when I was studying about godly femininity and modesty. My husband didn’t say a word about it. In fact, at first, he wasn’t sure about me just wearing skirts all the time.

      What helped me the most was to understand how men think and to realize that I didn’t want to put a stumbling block in my brothers’ path. When I read about how men tend to focus on the crotch area when a woman is wearing pants (especially tight pants) – I realized – YIKES! I don’t want to encourage that!

      And, I also realized how much more feminine I felt in skirts and how it seemed to cause my husband to feel more masculine when he was around me. I have been wearing skirts now every day (except for when I run) since March of 2009. I personally love it. I used to always wear jeans or pants. But I have no intention of returning to those things now.

      Not sure if any of this is helpful or not.

  3. This is a war. There is so much victory for satan especially in our own homes sometimes, and especially when things are going well.

    This morning my husband argued with our son because he wouldn’t get up early enough for school. He wasn’t very nice and it got physical as it does with men and teen boys battling testosterone. In our family this is a rare to nil occurrence. I got in the middle so things wouldn’t get worse because i felt bad for my boy who was just tired.

    My husband is a Christian and loves God. I made the mistake of calling him a hypocrite this morning after the incident because even though I felt it it was not nice to say. I noticed today on my bill that my husband has phoned his brother several times a day and sometimes talks to him for half hour or much longer every day. Although his brother is not a bad man, I wonder if he’s influencing my husband to be ‘tough’ I can only go with my gut on this as his brother is not a man of character, he’s very immature, and yet, my husband calls him more than me and has long chats.

    I find this strange. But leave and cleave doesn’t apply here i guess.. My heart hurts for my teen son who saw me intervene and was more concerned for my wellbeing than my husband.

    I’m sorry to over share, my heart still aches at seeing the broken mirror on the floor, my sons hurt, my daughters hurt at watching and my husbands ugliness just because his son didn’t wake up early enough these days.

    1. Moon,

      Yikes! That did not go well at all. 🙁

      Is your son okay? Do you believe you are all safe?

      If you believe you are all safe… I wonder if your husband might respond to a soft, gentle approach like, “Honey, I know that you love our son and want what is best for him. I know you want him to be up for school on time. That is a good thing. I know you want to be a godly dad and a good influence. I know your heart toward our son and your intentions are good. I also know that you are a better man than what happened this morning. I was wrong to call you a hypocrite. I was very concerned about you and our son. I want him to get up for school, too. And I want us all to be safe.” And possibly, “What do you believe we can do to move on and heal as a family?”

      I pray that God will prompt you with exactly what to say and when and how to say it. The book Sacred Influence by Gary Thomas has some powerful, beautiful examples of wives handling their husbands’ anger in productive, godly ways.

      Did your husband apologize?

      Praying for wisdom for you and your husband and children as you seek to heal from this sad incident.

  4. Amen, April! Our hope is in the Lord and we know how the story ends! King Jesus is on His throne and He has already won the war. We are called to use our short time here to be hands and feet for the Lord by loving others deeply and serving them, especially our husbands!

  5. Thank you April, he didn’t apologize but I’m sure he will. I appreciate your prayers. Also, I am concerned of a spouse that calls their sibling several times a day and speaks at length, especially men. It seems a bit immature and I wonder if that in itself is not a good thing even if it doesn’t interfere with his nuclear family or work.

    1. Moon,

      I’m glad you believe he will apologize. You may not have to say anything. He may already be convicted.

      I vote to let him spend his time as he feels is best. He is a grown man. But if you need something or would like him to be more involved in the family -I believe you can ask for that respectfully and with a pleasant approach without dictating to him that he “shouldn’t” be so close to his brother. Does that make sense? 🙂

  6. Thank you April for this perspective changing message. May the Holy Spirit help me live for the glory of God and the things of this life grow strangely dim. It really is strange when things that you have always been interested in don’t hold the same attraction. Praise God for that as its not me, but Him in me and I hadn’t thought about that until now.

    1. Charli,

      You’re most welcome, my dear sister! I think as God allows us to see with His eyes and His eternal perspective, we can see conflict from a spiritual warfare standpoint – the angels, the demons, the eternal consequences – and suddenly, our priorities completely change.

      The goal is no longer to “win” a little fight and get our way about something. The goal is to defeat the enemy in the power of Christ and to set captives free, to proclaim the gospel of Christ, to live out His love/truth/wisdom in holiness and to hear His praise when this life is over. It changes everything when we are abiding in Christ and living in His Spirit’s power. Now, conflict is not something to fear. I mean, we don’t go purposely trying to start conflict – but when it happens, we can trust God to empower us to respond and we can trust His sovereignty to prevail even when things look like they didn’t “go right.” We can rest in Him and trust Him to work all things for our ultimate good and His glory. We can pray for those who mistreat us that God might bring them to Himself and radically change them, too. We can see each conflict as a test that will strengthen our faith and help us learn to trust God more.

      Much love!

  7. It’s so hard for me to know when I am right if there is conflict with my husband. Example, I want my mom to visit and he says its unreasonable for me to need to see her more than a couple of times a year. I don’t know if he’s right that I’m wrong to want to see her more often or if he’s the one being unreasonable.

    1. Anna,

      I don’t think there is a “right” or “wrong” with how many times to see your mom. Different people have different ideas about what is “normal” for visiting, emailing, or calling family. Your mom is really far away – so there is a lot more to visiting with her than just riding across town which would definitely affect how often would be “reasonable.”

      This is something that can be discussed – each of you can share what you believe would be appropriate. You can certainly pray about it, too. You aren’t wrong to want to see your mom. He’s not wrong for wanting to limit how often – especially considering the financial strain it would cause. You are both right. 🙂 Now, it is just a matter of negotiation and grace.

  8. HI April,
    This post came in a timely manner. Things have definately improved however, we got into a huge argument last night. I feel so defeated and want to give up. I long for my husband to be supportive and more open with communication, especially now that I”m newly pregnant again. He has still not agreed on any time frame when he would be open to moving back in together. However, we are seeing a new counselor and she got him to agree to negotiate on 2 months or less. I’m grateful to hear this.
    My frustration comes when I’ve been bending over backwards and completely out of my comfort zone for months in order to make him feel “safe” and comfortable with me. I have completely put my own needs on hold. It has gotten to the point where I am hesitant to even bring up anything because I don’t want to rock the boat. This weekend, he had agreed to spend the night (I simply requested this, did not demand). However, when the time came…he simply just said that he wasn’t going to stay that night.
    The next morning, I still text him to thank him for helping set up the Christmas decorations. He responded and also reitorated that he didn’t feel like that night was the right time to do a “sleep over” but that he would give me a head’s up next time. This is where things go wrong…
    I asked if he could elaborate and he repeated that he just didn’t FEEL like it was the right time.
    I explained that I would like to understand where he’s coming from and it would be helpful if he could tell me what his reasons were so that I would be aware if there was something that I did or something else that was going on, etc.
    Long story short, this conversation continued later last night and I emphasized that I wanted to understand where he was coming from but at this point, he said that I was “badgering” him and only because I did not like his answer, I was trying to force him to change his answer. Am I completely wrong here?? He became very irritated and upset and even told me to “shut up” at one point. He continued to throw insults out as he walked out. I followed him (i probably should not have done this) and the argument continued. By this point, I’m in tears and again explained that my main objective was to try to understand HIM.
    This leads to my next concern. Any time that I’m upset (tearful), my husband completely shuts down and does not show any kind of empathy. In fact, he says that it is not his responsibility that I feel upset and that this needs to be “self-governed.” Although I agree that we are all responsible for our own feelings, is it not a fair expectation to want our husbands to comfort us when we are upset? This is particularly disappointing because it is very seldom that I’m “emotional” or tearful because of his reaction.
    I’m so confused and hurt by this and now wonder if this one incident is going to be used to reinforce why he doesn’t want to live together. Sometimes I feel like the expecations are way too high and I can’t live up to what he wants me to be.

    1. Novembergirl,

      I can certainly understand why you are feeling upset and frustrated. ( But – congratulations on your new pregnancy!)

      I doubt that probing and trying to have a big long conversation about why he doesn’t feel ready to spend the night is going to be productive at this point. I think this is a man who is going to resist anything he perceives to be as pressure from you – even if you don’t intend it that way.

      I think it is possible that it may be wise to accept his decisions as his decisions and to not push. VERY difficult for a wife, YES!

      I’m not saying he is right. I’m just saying, the more he feels pressured and pushed and interrogated, the more he will feel repelled.

      I’m very glad that the counselor is involved and that she got him to agree to a relatively short time frame. That is awesome!

      What does your new counselor suggest that you do?

      How is your walk with Christ going?

      How are you doing with the pregnancy hormones?

      Here is what I can tell you – most husbands, as they feel more and more safe and less disrespected, less attacked, and less pressured – and as they feel more and more respected and honored (over a long time) – tend to become more sensitive to their wives’ feelings, needs, and concerns.

      I can’t guarantee it.

      But what I can guarantee is that as you are totally filled up with Christ, you can be stable, content even, joyful, and peaceful no matter what your husband does or does not do. And you will not feel that need to push and pressure and get him to give you a guarantee.

      I wish that he continued on with what he had agreed to – and spent the night. I don’t know his motives. I don’t know if he is truly wrestling or feeling unsafe or disrespected and wounded – or if he is just controlling and insensitive and trying to bring about insecurity. I don’t know. I know that most wives would assume a lot of negative things in such a situation, but I also know that we women tend to misunderstand our men quite a lot and we tend to assume evil motives when there are none. My prayer is that God might give you and your counselor more insight into this. It’s possible he is just very wounded and that there was some red flag that made him feel too smothered or pressured before he said he decided not to stay. Do you recall a moment when his countenance shifted or a moment of tension?

      If he tends to be a rather controlling man, this whole thing can be a bit more difficult in some ways.

      My prayer for you is that you might learn that Jesus is enough. Seriously. He is. And that you might be totally content in Him. That is the best course of healing for you individually and for your marriage. But the healed marriage is just a side effect of Jesus abiding in you overflowing in your life. The main thing is to enjoy, cherish, love, and adore Jesus and to focus on intimacy with Him. Does that make sense?

      Sending you a huge hug!

  9. April,
    Thank you for taking the time to respond and give words of encouragement. If I think about it, there was a very small “spat” that was had earlier in the day so it may be possible that he was already a little irritated? I guess I just wished he could be honest and open about it if that were the case but I realize that I have no control on whether he is going to share this type of information or not.
    I guess I just feel overwhelmed at times and like I’m under a magnifying glass of scrutiny and any time I don’t reach the bar, I have failed to show that I’m trustworthy in his opinion. This is exhausting.
    Our new counselor specializes in more of emotional focused therapy which I think will be helpful. She encourages me to practice “femine talk” so I’m glad that she has similar views on husband/wife roles. We’ve only seen her once so far.
    The biggest challenge throughout this whole ordeal has been not being able to express my own needs. There are times that I just want to scream, “You are the one that had an emotional affair!” but I know that is sinful; even the thought is sinful but it is something that I have a hard time with. Sometimes the pain and loneliness is hard to bear.
    I know that I have to focus on getting fulfilled by Christ but I would be lying if I said it was easy. Never feeling truly loved by my parents left me with wounds that makes it so much harder when I don’t feel loved by my husband. I know there may be more hormonal challenges during pregnancy so I’m trying to stay aware of that. I don’t think that my husband is a bad person or that he just wants to control me…so at least for that, I’m grateful. I just don’t want to completely lose myself in this process to the point where I don’t feel like I have a voice.

    1. Novembergirl,

      Sometimes, what seems like something “small” to a wife can feel much bigger to a husband. Not sure if that is what is going on? (and vice versa, as well, of course)

      Is your new counselor a believer in Christ? 🙂

      You are not wrong to think about that what your husband did was sinful. There is such a thing as righteous jealousy and righteous anger. But it is important not to look down on him as if you are more holy than he is – realizing humbly that you have plenty of sin in your own life, as well.

      This is NOT easy. Not at all! I think it may be the hardest thing many of us ever face. The goal is to lose your old sinful self and to be your new self in Christ. Does that make sense?

      How is your time with God going? 🙂

      There are probably some very serious wounds that need healing from your childhood that would also help you with your marriage, as well. Will your counselor be helping you with that?

      Much love to you!

    2. Novembergirl, I just wanted to say I really understand how you feel, so many things you have said that I can relate to and I’m sure other wives too. Losing our voice, not expressing feelings, thoughts, emotional needs etc, trying to gain his trust… All stuff I still deal with 3 years into this journey! Things do go so much better when im getting things right! It only takes me saying one little thing that is prying, questioning, moaning/complaining and my husband is not happy about it. I really feel it’s better to be quieter, and not jump in with saying anything before we’ve thought about it for a while, but I find it really HARD! Keep going and stay close to the Lord. Much love to you and all the best with your pregnancy xx

      1. JuR,

        There is definitely wisdom in praying about something before just blurting things out. That is for sure!

        When a marriage is very strained – it is difficult in that first year or so, especially. There are times when God asks us to put our needs on the back burner. Then there are other times we need to speak up. This requires incredible sensitivity to the Holy Spirit in each situation. It also requires great sensitivity to our own emotions and hormones, as well.

        I have some posts about dealing with PMS that may be helpful with pregnancy hormones, too. Respecting a husband during separation is EXTRA challenging. Respecting a husband during pregnancy is EXTRA challenging. Having both things together at the same time would be kind of like an extreme respect bootcamp. Almost like training for the “Navy Seals” of being a respectful wife. But I can tell you this! If you are able to cling to Christ and learn this stuff during this kind of challenge, you will have a very firm foundation for being a godly wife that will serve you quite well in the challenges of the future and as you teach other women in the future – which I believe God may have in store for you one day – Novembergirl. 🙂

        Much love!

        Thanks for reaching out to Novembergirl, JuR! 🙂

        1. April,
          Thanks for articulating this. It helps just knowing that someone understands how truly HARD this challenge is. I know that God would not put me in a position like this unless it was for a purpose. I’m gaining more understanding on this. But using the “navy seals” is a great analogy and I feel better in knowing that I’m not necessarily being “dramatic”. 🙂
          I needed this encouragment this morning and am so grateful for you all!

      2. JuR,
        Thank you for the encouragement. One of the reasons I love this blog is that I do not feel alone on this journey. It is difficult to get support from women in my life because they don’t understand my desire to be a godly wife. I do go through ups and downs but ultimately, I know God has a plan. I feel myself stretching beyond my comfort zone…sometimes to the point that I think I’m going to lose my sanity! But reading a lot on the subject, following this blog, and working on my relationship with Christ has been my remedy.

        I agree with you in that it is better to stay quiet for a LONG time, especially when you’re new at this (which I am!).

        Thanks again for reaching out, I really do appreciate it! God bless!

  10. I just need to ask for prayer please from those who will read this comment and feel led. I really need it. I need God to soften my heart and give me courage to speak and do my part to heal our relationship. I also need to to see my Lord as the only One who will ever fulfill me and for some reason, I can’t seem to get this message fully (even though in my heart of hearts, I know it to be truth).

    Please pray for me. Thank you.

    1. Jennifer,

      I will pray for you right now!

      I have a post on this topic, if you are interested… http://wp.me/p6xLFb-2nR

      Sending you a huge hug! Praying for God to illuminate any unbiblical, destructive thinking and to help you tear out any idols if necessary – and to help your faith grow by leaps and bounds and to learn the sufficiency of Christ.

      I pray for God’s wisdom for you to know what He would have you to do. I pray for healing for you, your husband, and your marriage.

      Do you feel like you need to talk a bit more about what is going on?

      Much love!

My grandmother is on hospice and won't be with us much longer (11-30-16). I will get to comments when I am able to but I need to be with family right now. Thanks for understanding.

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