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Many women feel unfairly compared by men to fake, air-brushed, fantastical bodies of women in the media. They fear that no man would ever be able to love or be attracted to a “real woman” without plastic surgery, smoke-and-mirrors, professional make up artists, and Hollywood magic.
Men are often being unfairly compared by women to fantasy, as well. But the comparison is a lot more subtle – at least to women.
I’d like to throw some light on this issue. But I need some help from the gentlemen, especially. You are welcome to answer any or all of the questions. (Ladies are welcome to answer, as well. 🙂 It’s also fine if you want to ask your husbands and share their answers – if they are ok with that, of course!) And, please keep in mind, gentlemen, I am unable to approve comments from the manosphere, per my husband’s request. Other men’s comments, I may accept.
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Let’s have a discussion! How do chick-flicks, Hollywood, love songs, boy bands, Disney movies, and romantic novels/erotica portray masculinity in fantastical ways that are far from reality?
1. In what ways do romantic books/songs/movies portray men emotionally that do not accurately represent how men think or feel in your opinion?
2. In what ways do romantic books/songs/movies portray men verbally that do not accurately represent how men express themselves?
3. What romantic expectations – or expectations of men – do these forms of media create in women that are difficult for men to meet in real-life relationships/marriage?
4. What things seem the most unrealistic about the male characters who are romantic leads in romantic movies/songs?
5. Have you ever seen a romantic movie where you thought that masculinity was portrayed in an accurate way? If so, what was it that seemed authentic in the portrayal to you?
6. What unrealistic expectations of men or what unrealistic romantic expectations do you find that women have (even if not from romantic media).
7. What things are romantic to men?