Why I Wear Skirts Daily – Part 1

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This is a pic of me today – just what I happened to be wearing – it is pretty typical of what I usually wear.  I know.  It’s August and I am wearing long sleeves.  That is because I am allergic to the sun!  If I could have my arms in the sun without breaking out – I would wear short sleeves – so that is not a modesty issue for me!

GROWING UP

I used to always wear jeans and t-shirts as a teenager and even as an adult on my days off of work. At work I wore khakis.  I never paid much attention to clothes. Clothing seemed superficial and not very spiritual to me.  I didn’t pay a lot of attention to my clothes or anyone else’s. I was most interested in my clothes being practical and fairly inexpensive. When your clothing allowance is $20/month in high school – frilly, fancy, pricey clothes just didn’t seem like a necessity.  I had always dressed pretty modestly because I was way too embarrassed to dress immodestly. I guess it could be possible that I may have inadvertently been immodest at times because of clothes not fitting properly, but it was definitely never intentional.  My clothing was not particularly feminine. My husband had asked me several times, even in high school and college when we were dating if I would dress up a little more often. I didn’t really see the point. But sometimes I would wear dresses for him or when I worked at various pharmacies. Then I hurt my lower back very badly the summer we got married and I couldn’t wear fancy, girly shoes anymore. It seemed ridiculous to wear tennis shoes with dresses or skirts, so I just stuck with jeans all the time.  Walking was a much bigger priority than fashion for a long time.

FEMININITY

In March 2009, I was studying about godly femininity. I read a book that talked about playing up my femininity to increase the chemistry and attraction in marriage. It talked about that the greater the contrast between masculinity and femininity in the relationship, the greater the attraction and connection. That sounded strange, and maybe interesting, but I wasn’t very convinced.

I told my husband about the book and how it recommended wearing skirts and dresses a lot. I laughed about it.  (I still didn’t understand how visual men were at the time.) And he said, “Well, do you feel any different when you wear skirts?” And I said emphatically, “NO!” Back then, I only wore skirts or dresses on Sundays and took them off as soon as possible after I got home!

THE EXPERIMENT

I decided to do an experiment and wore skirts daily for 1 week. Hmm. I DID feel different – much more feminine, softer, less masculine. Maybe there was something to this dressing femininely thing that I had been missing. By this time, my back was stronger and I found feminine shoes that were comfortable and didn’t leave me in pain. I can’t do high heels, but that’s ok!

I also realized that it was a gift to my husband for me to look my best – to fix my hair in a way that he loved, to wear something beautiful when he got home from work.  I used to just do jeans and a ponytail and no makeup.  Now I put a some effort into wearing my hair down most days (and keeping it long – that is how he likes it the best) and wearing a little makeup.

I began to truly cherish my femininity!  I finally saw what an incredible gift from God I had!

Growing up, I did not feel very feminine – EVER. I didn’t have a curvy feminine figure or a teeny waist. I still can wear a girls’ size 14 top and have to buy my undergarments in the little girls’ section. On the plus side – it’s a lot less expensive that way! I am just very small, and I used to think that made me less of a woman somehow. I didn’t seem to “measure up” to the world’s standards of beauty – that was for sure!  Thankfully, my husband was always VERY accepting of me and never had a problem with my shape and size.  But when I started wearing skirts/dresses that week – for the first time in my life, I FELT like a girl. I felt feminine – and I discovered the power of my godly femininity! I LOVED IT! WHO KNEW!?!?

WHO HAS THE AUTHORITY IN THE MARRIAGE?

I also began realizing that the skirts/dresses were a GREAT tangible reminder for me as I learned respect and biblical submission that I did not “wear the pants” in the family. I changed my wardrobe as I was studying godly femininity, the influence of feminism on our culture and modesty. I also had a little girl who was getting bigger and I started really thinking about what version of femininity I was projecting to her. What did I want her to believe and embrace about femininity? What messages was I sending? I thought about that a lot, and I decided that, for me, dressing in a feminine, modest way was a WIN all the way around.

MODESTY

Then I also started studying about modesty. The more I learned about men and how they think and how visual they are – the more I realized that modesty is a REALLY BIG DEAL! Or – it should be. So many of us as women are wearing things that are going to possibly make our Christian brothers stumble. Now, each person is responsible for his/her own sin. I can’t MAKE a man sin visually in his mind. I am not responsible for what he does with his thoughts. He is totally responsible for what he thinks and if he lusts in his heart. But I can definitely encourage him to fall. That was a big shock to me on many levels. I didn’t think I was a temptation to any men because I was focused on the “flaws” that I perceived – so I never really thought modesty was that necessary for me. I think a lot of women think things like, “I’m too old.” ”I’m too big.” ”I’m too small” ”I have splotchy skin” ”I have a pudgy belly” – “so I don’t have to worry about being modest. No one is looking at me.” That is actually NOT true! Men look at all shapes and sizes and we all, as women, have a responsibility to dress in a way that does not bring attention to our bodies. I am responsible to God and to my Christian brothers for what I wear and for what my daughters wear!

Shaunti Feldhahn’s book, “For Women Only” has a lot of really helpful information for women to help us understand the struggle some men go through. There is a spectrum for men – some struggle almost constantly with visual temptation, others don’t struggle as much. But even if it is only 10% of men who struggle with seeing women dressed in skin baring or clingy clothes – I believe that it is time for us as believing women of God to be more responsible about how we dress and how our daughters dress. I like her comparison – it is similar to the way that some people would struggle with being in a room with a big chocolate cake all day. There are some who could be in the room and not be very tempted. But there are other people who would be ready to eat the whole cake within a few minutes if seeing it and smelling it.

I believe we might each need to go through our closets and our daughters’ closets, maybe even this week – and really pray over each item and decide to honor God by what we and our daughters wear in public. And I pray we might be sensitive to the temptations of the men around us and not purposely wear things that might cause them to stumble into sin. I personally check in with my husband and ask him his opinion about whether something is modest or not. Or you may be able to check with a godly, modest wife from church about her opinion. My general guidelines are to avoid low-cut tops, sleeveless shirts with armholes that reveal too much, sheer things, super tight clothing, a shirt that allows my midriff to show if I bend over, skirts above the knees… But these are not rules – they are my personal convictions based on what I understand to be tempting to many men.

To be continued tomorrow! …  For part 2, read here.

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I try to wear my hair the way my husband likes it best whenever possible.  And I enjoy looking my best for him.  I also love embracing being a girl and realizing that I don’t have to try to “man up” anymore and carry all that weight of the whole family.  That is VERY freeing for me!

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64 Comments on “Why I Wear Skirts Daily – Part 1”

  1. freshvision
    August 21, 2012 at 8:26 am #

    Beautiful!

  2. Joe
    August 21, 2012 at 8:46 am #

    April, My wife loves your outfit! She has the same views regarding this post, and you both have the same style!

    Joe and Lisa

    God Bless you and your family!

  3. Joe
    August 21, 2012 at 9:13 am #

    April, side note (sorry) Lisa would love to where you bought this outfit.

    Joe

    • peacefulwife
      August 21, 2012 at 10:15 am #

      Joe and Lisa,
      This is probably going to be a shocker. The shirt is from Victoria Secret! I bought it online because it was one of the only companies I could find that has size XS shirts like this. Their crew neck t-shirt style shirts are the only thing I buy from them. But the weight of the fabric is heavier and the quality is better than what i have found elsewhere.

      The skirt was from Good Will. I think I spent $3 on that one.

      • joedean1969
        February 20, 2013 at 12:18 am #

        April, really sad news to report. Lisa and I are getting a divorce. Please pray for us during this process.

        • peacefulwife
          February 20, 2013 at 6:46 am #

          Joe,
          OH NO!!!!! :(
          Would lisa be willing to talk with me?
          May I add you and Lisa to my prayer team’s prayer list today?

          • peacefulwife
            February 20, 2013 at 11:25 am #

            You may want to check out the post on Greg’s site today http://www.respectedhusband.wordpress.com

          • peacefulwife
            February 23, 2013 at 12:01 pm #

            Are you ok?
            Lord,
            I lift up Joe and Lisa to You and ask for You to draw each of them to Yourself and ask for healing for this sacred covenant. We Ask for Your wisdom, Your will and Your greatest glory. Please empower Joe to love Lisa as Christ loves the church and gave Himself up for her.
            In the Name and power of Christ,
            Amen!

  4. christianmomatwork
    August 21, 2012 at 9:47 am #

    Lovely post! I have never read this topic put this way before. I wear skirts/dresses for church and special occasions, I’m not much of a fan of them, mostly for comfort issues. I am a size 18 (which I am working on), and have trouble finding skirts/dresses that are flattering and don’t cost a small fortune. I do try to select clothes that are more feminine, but if I could wear capris and a tshirt every day, I would be thrilled. Reading your post from the angle of femininity has encouraged me to rethink how I look at this topic, and I will be putting a lot of thought and prayer into this in the days to come. Thank you for a thoughtful approach to this topic! I also appreciate your words on modesty. I am so saddened by how girls and women dress today. Some have no idea what they do to the males around them. Even more sadly, many do realize it and use it to their “advantage”. I’m looking forward to Part II !

  5. christianmomatwork
    August 21, 2012 at 9:49 am #

    Lovely post! I have never read this topic put this way before. I wear skirts/dresses for church and special occasions, I\’m not much of a fan of them, mostly for comfort issues. I am a size 18 (which I am working on), and have trouble finding skirts/dresses that are flattering and don\’t cost a small fortune. I do try to select clothes that are more feminine, but if I could wear capris and a tshirt every day, I would be thrilled. Reading your post from the angle of femininity has encouraged me to rethink how I look at this topic, and I will be putting a lot of thought and prayer into this in the days to come. Thank you for a thoughtful approach to this topic! I also appreciate your words on modesty. I am so saddened by how girls and women dress today. Some have no idea what they do to the males around them. Even more sadly, many do realize it and use it to their \”advantage\”. I\’m looking forward to Part II !

  6. Mary Johnson
    August 21, 2012 at 10:10 am #

    May I ask what book you read? I’ve been praying about this for a few months, I’ve been wearing more skirts to.
    I have two young daughters so I would love to read this book!
    Thanks

    • peacefulwife
      August 21, 2012 at 10:20 am #

      Mary,
      I knew someone would probably ask me that. And I am having a hard time remembering what book it was! I know there were two books at the time. I think that one may have been The Women Men Adore and Never Want to Leave by Bob Grant (an e-book). He doesn’t specify that he’s a Christian. I believe most of his work supports the Bible’s commands about marriage. But I also later read more about godly femininity in the book Feminine Appeal by Carolyn Mahaney and other books that described the importance of looking your best and playing up feminine features to increase attraction in marriage. I hope that is helpful!

  7. Sis
    August 21, 2012 at 10:15 am #

    It is very freeing not to have to “man up” anymore. I’m kind of liking it!

  8. sarah
    August 21, 2012 at 1:21 pm #

    Perhaps you could share your favorite places to shop?

    • peacefulwife
      August 21, 2012 at 1:38 pm #

      That is coming in Part 2! Tune in tomorrow, Sarah! :) Thanks for the comment!

      • Joe
        August 21, 2012 at 9:24 pm #

        April, thanks for the info on where you bought some of your clothes. It did shock us to know that the dreadful secret known as “Victoria Secret” actually carried something I’d wear (I’m replying for Joe, nice to meet you, I’m Lisa, a working-on-being-a-peaceful-wife) I want to personally thank you for being a role model for ALL Christian Sisters everywhere! It’s been so hard for us to meet like-minded couples since we recently moved. Hope we can share ideas about modest fashion (near and dear to me) and homemaking in the near future.

        Lisa Dean

        • peacefulwife
          August 21, 2012 at 9:57 pm #

          Lisa,
          What a pleasure it is to meet you! Yes, I was sure that would be a shocker! :) I had to go get it out of the dirty laundry hamper to be sure – but I was pretty sure that was where that particular shirt was from. I also buy some t-shirt type shirts at Target – but it is so hard to find XS sizes, that it doesn’t always work out. Wal-Mart is where I do my grocery shopping, but they never have XS sizes at all. I do sometimes buy clothes from the girls’ department – they tend to be fairly modest and fit my shape well – but I don’t always want pictures of Hello Kitty or Hannah Montana on my shirts for some reason!

          You are going to probably love my post tomorrow! I am going to share some websites that might be helpful.

  9. Susan
    September 4, 2012 at 11:07 pm #

    April I just came across your website tonight and I just love your post. I too wear skirts and feminine tops everyday. Have been wearing them for three years now and will never go back to wearing jeans and t-shirts. It is true, you do feel more feminine in a skirt and top rather then pants. My problem though is finding tops that will fit me, I am a tall woman, 6’0″ and most of my height is in the upper torso. When I go shopping I usually have to go with an XL, they can be a little too loose though but a Large is too tight and I can barely get it around me when I try it on. Skirts I have no problem finding.

    Susan

    • peacefulwife
      September 6, 2012 at 11:31 am #

      Susan,

      It’s great to “meet” you!

      Yes – tops are a struggle for me too. Clothes shopping as a woman can be quite a challenge! Skirts are so much fun. I’m glad you enjoy them, too. :)

  10. Chelsea
    February 18, 2013 at 3:57 pm #

    Sometimes i feel so alone in dressing femeninly and modestly, it’s really great to know that there are other women who share my convictions and want to please the Lord in the way that they dress!
    And peacefulwife, thank you so much for sharing on this topic, i just found this blog a week ago and i have already been so blessed by what i have read!

    • peacefulwife
      February 18, 2013 at 4:20 pm #

      Chelsea,
      You are so very welcome! You may want to check out my Youtube channel “April Cassidy” – I have a 15 minute “class” on Modesty there, too. :) I hope to hear a lot more from you! :)

  11. Chelsea
    February 18, 2013 at 9:34 pm #

    I went online and found your youtube channel, this is going to be a great tool and resource! I can’t wait to tell all my friends about this channel and blog!
    Thank you so much!

    • peacefulwife
      February 19, 2013 at 7:58 am #

      Chelsea,
      You are so very welcome!

      • Rhoda
        June 25, 2013 at 5:04 pm #

        I am really loving you and your blog. Modesty and decency in dressing has been a major problem for some women. I was privileged to be brought up in a church and home which emphasised modest dressing so it’s quite normal wearing skirts. I have never worn jeans trousers but skirts and feminine African wear.

        • peacefulwife
          June 25, 2013 at 9:22 pm #

          Rhoda,

          It is so wonderful to meet you! I pray that God’s church will embrace modesty again. thanks for the comment! :)

  12. Sharon Starkey
    July 16, 2013 at 8:48 am #

    Hello April,
    Discovered your WONDERFUL blog very recently. I have been married for almost 30 years (most of them not so good). Praying and hoping I can become the surrendered wife for my husband….I know there are no guarantees….but I’m going to start trusting the Lord AND my husband, as I should have a long, long time ago.

    I love the idea of wearing skirts everyday for all the reasons you listed! Do you or anyone have thoughts or ideas on a feminine version of a skirt to wear while doing small farm chores?

    God bless you April,
    Sharon

    • krystlew3
      April 18, 2014 at 7:26 am #

      Hello! I saw your comment & wanted to say that I have a friend who gardens in maxi skirts because she says they are cooler out here in TX lol. Just in case you were still looking for ideas :)

      • Sharon Starkey
        April 18, 2014 at 11:31 am #

        Thank you very much for sharing that idea!

  13. SamanthaM
    August 8, 2013 at 1:46 pm #

    My husband always says “I don’t care” when I ask him how I should wear my hair or “you look fine” if I ask him about my clothes. It’s hard to tell if he really doesn’t care or if he just doesn’t want to feel like he’s telling me what to do. I want to know what he likes but I also don’t want to be annoying or pushy about it. Any advice on how to find out what he’s really interested in when it comes to my appearance?

    • peacefulwife
      August 8, 2013 at 2:46 pm #

      What did he like when you were dating? :)

  14. nina
    September 11, 2013 at 3:33 pm #

    My husband is supposed to be a christian and BEGS me to wear trashy clothes in public. He wants me to wear shorts so short like daisy dukes and to wear low cut tops. He acts unsatisfied when I cover up and seems to enjoy “showing me off” to others. I feel pressured by him to wear skimpy bikinis and I always feel like a piece of candy he’s parading around.Its amazing how different some peoples lives are. He grew uo in a christian home and claims to be a believer today, He has no bearing fruit though and constantly seems to try and shake off what little fruit I have left.

    • peacefulwife
      September 11, 2013 at 6:55 pm #

      Nina,

      From what you have shared on another comment – it is clear that your husband is far from God right now. Men who are addicted to porn and strip clubs and worse :( are living in the power of the flesh and sinful nature and trying to please their flesh. That is his motivation to show you off.

      I believe a godly wife is commanded by God to honor her husband’s leadership and to respect him as her husband – but she is not required to give blind obedience or to respect sin. If her husband asks her to sin or condone sin – she must firmly resist.

      Jesus said, “You will recognize them by their fruit.”

      Galatians 5:19-26 is a very good “fruit test.”

      I’m so sorry things are very difficult right now! I am praying for you!

  15. Rachel
    November 10, 2013 at 4:09 pm #

    Hi April. Thanks so much for this post. This is such an important topic. I have some questions for you:

    My heart is toward modesty, though I have never felt the strong conviction to wear only skirts. However, my husband does not like it when I wear modest clothes, and he likes me to dress “sexy”. I’ve tried telling him that certain things are best left for the bedroom, etc., but he won’t hear it. He thinks I should be “cute for him” all the time, which by his definition means skin tight jeans with thong underwear and a low cut top. He also condones spaghetti strap tank tops and short shorts in the summer. This really bothers me.

    He isn’t really a believer, which I believe plays into this a lot. He will say he is a Christian if asked, but he doesn’t live like a believer and will not let himself be under the authority of the Bible or listen to wiser, more mature Christians when making decisions.

    He thinks I am being dumb when I try to dress more modestly, and takes it as a personal attack when I dress “frumpy” (aka, not revealing enough for his tastes) instead of “cute.” I don’t think I am being frumpy. I believe that there are more than enough clothes that are cute and fashionable without showing off parts of me that are better left hidden for the most part.

    We have 1 daughter so far who is 8 (and sons too) who is a mini-me. It is very flattering, but also a huge responsibility. I have asked my husband on occasion how he would feel about our daughter wearing the particular outfit he is asking me to wear when she is 14 in a room full of 17 year old guys. I feel like that should get his blood pressure up and let him realize what I am saying, but it doesn’t really work. He says he just won’t let her dress like that, and I’m saying that she is looking to me for an example and that I am giving her a bad one.

    I’m really not sure what to do. I have really been seeking the Lord on this. I want to honor my husband, and I want him to find me attractive, but I feel so uncomfortable with the way he expects me to dress. Both as far as my walk with the Lord and what I am portraying to other people, and also because of my sweet daughter following in my foot steps.

    To put this out there, I used to dress and act in ways that I am now ashamed of, even for a while after my husband and I met. I used to use my body as a way to gain attention from men. Obviously the Lord has worked in my heart and my mind and I no longer do that. My husband has said many times that he is upset that I used to dress sexy for “those guys” and now I’ve “let myself go” now that I’m married. I think he equates covering more skin in a tasteful way with letting myself go and not caring about my appearance because I’m no longer interested in being “sexy” outside of the bedroom.

    I would love any advice you, April, or anyone else can offer me. I am trying so hard to honor my husband in this area, but I don’t know how when it seems that he is asking me to dishonor God.

    • peacefulwife
      November 10, 2013 at 8:56 pm #

      Rachel,

      Great to meet you!

      This is a tough topic! The fact that he isn’t a believer explains it – and he most likely enjoys showing you off. But, you have legitimate concerns especially with your 8 year old daughter watching you. And, I believe that you are right that it would honor God for you to dress modestly.

      There is a study that was done at Princeton university, maybe in 2008 or so? That looked at CAT scans of men’s brains when they looked at pictures of women in bikinis vs. women who were modestly dressed. For some of the men, not all, but some, the area of the brain that lights up to recognize “a person” did not light up right away with the pictures of women in bikinis, but the area of the brain that lights up for “tools” did instead. It was not like that for the pictures of women modestly dressed.

      I think you could pull up that research or talk with him about your concerns about other men imagining you naked and how that creeps you out and how you want to honor your body and your marriage by saving certain parts of yourself for him alone.

      Some women wear special sexy things under their modest clothing and flash their husbands with that before they leave to go somewhere to give him something to think about.

      It is definitely something to continue to pray about. But until his spiritual eyes are opened by God, he is not going to understand the need for you to dress modestly. Christ is his primary need.

      Check out this post about Spiritual Authority – we are to honor those in authority over us, even our husbands/bosses/the government if they are unbelievers as long as they are not asking us to clearly violate God’s Word. If they are asking us to clearly violate God’s Word, we must obey God rather than men.

  16. Julie
    November 30, 2013 at 9:45 pm #

    Hi, this was a good post to stumble across. I guess I just wanted to express some frustration and see if anyone had any ideas. My husband and I are both committed Christians, both raised in Christian homes where modesty is important, and we are both modest – always have been. I kind of have an opposite problem when trying to appear pleasing to him. He has never commented on what I’m wearing from the time we met till now – aside from saying that I look nice or pretty in a very general way. No preferences given on specifics. He only comments on what I’m wearing when we’re in moments that are intimate and just-between-us. Nothing regarding outer, daily clothes. I have wavy hair that I keep between shoulder and chin length mostly B/C it gets too frizzy, time consuming and expensive to use hair products to keep it nice when it’s long. Since I’m short and more thin, really long hair overbalances my height and actually hurts my head too. I asked DH from time to time when we were dating how he liked my hair, and he said to wear it how I liked it and was comfortable with it. Other guys I dated years ago before I met him would comment on clothes, describe specific things they like and gave a definite preference for long hair and play with my hair, all of which made me feel special and feminine. Thinking that my husband ‘must’ secretly like long hair, I actually wore it down on our wedding day even though I hated it. I would actually like to know what DH likes so I can please him and connect on this level as a feminine being. I think I really long to be admired for my femininity. Is it possible that he really has NO preferences? I am really frustrated. Regarding makeup, he can rarely tell if I am wearing makeup or not and only when I am wearing it with eyeliner B/C he can see the line. Otherwise, he says he really can’t tell the difference. Kind of makes me want to give up.

    The frustrating thing about all this is he is quite a big sports fan. He might notice what I was wearing if it broadcast a real-time update from ESPN, but I wouldn’t really feel feminine. How can he be so into so many different sports from both countries we’ve lived in and go on and on and on about endless details regarding them and not have any real preferences regarding his wife’s appearance? I mean, I live with him full-time and love and really appreciate him, and no one in professional sporting circles either knows or cares about him personally.

    Is there something I’m missing? Is he just absent-minded? Is it possible that this is just who he is and I just have to create my own femininity and admire myself – which makes me cringe to write?

    I feel really stupid writing this and hesitated to send it B/C it’s so about me, and I don’t want things to be all about me. I do realize it affects how I see myself as a woman, as a person and how I am connected to DH emotionally and physically.

    • peacefulwife
      November 30, 2013 at 10:06 pm #

      Julie,

      I think that this is an important issue! Thank you so much for your comment. :)

      Sometimes husbands seriously don’t have preferences, or don’t want to appear to be dictatorial or overbearing, or know that their wives will want to do what pleases them, and they don’t want their wives to feel pressured.

      Most men, from what I understand, love long hair on their wives. But – there are exceptions.

      My hair is frizzy, too. I have been surprised how much using olive oil helps! But – that may just be my hair. :)

      I am sure you would like to honor your husband’s preferences if possible, and would love for him to admire your femininity.

      Some men don’t really notice a lot of details. My husband can’t really tell if I style my hair or not. He doesn’t seem to see the frizz somehow? I am not sure why that is.

      These may be things that just don’t matter a lot to him. Some husbands are not as “visual” as others. Or some aspects of your appearance may not be that big of a deal to him, or he may feel like that is your decision to make, not his.

      You can occasionally ask him questions about preferences, but for now – I would take his answers at face value and assume he would say something if he really liked your hair or makeup a certain way. One great thing about men that aren’t super picky about hair and makeup and clothing is that they tend not to be very critical either. That is a huge blessing!

      I hope this helps!

      • krystlew3
        April 18, 2014 at 7:36 am #

        My hubby also likes my hair longer (I had a very short boys cut through high school & he HATED it!) but my hair is also frizzy, please tell us what you do with olive oil that helps! Thanks!

        • peacefulwife
          April 18, 2014 at 8:51 am #

          Krystlew3,
          My hair gets frizzy, too. I apply olive oil after I wash and condition my hair instead of pomade. Or sometimes, I apply it to my hair when is is dry. Only to the part that would be in a ponytail, not near the scalp. :)

          • krystlew3
            April 18, 2014 at 9:25 am #

            I’ve never heard of doing that, I’ll have to try it! Thanks!

  17. geogypsy68
    January 3, 2014 at 8:17 am #

    Thank you for your time and caring ;) I am the wife of a missionary,we are in Africa and PNG, and I have experienced some of these things myself , I appreciate what you are doing…

    • peacefulwife
      January 3, 2014 at 9:13 am #

      Geogypsy68,
      It is wonderful to meet you! :)

      I pray for God’s power, His Spirit, His wisdom, His victories and His greatest glory in your marriage, your family and in your mission work with your husband. May He tear down the strongholds among the people you serve and may He open their eyes to His saving truth. How I pray that they will find His abundant life.

      Sending you a HUGE hug my precious sister!

      • geogypsy68
        January 3, 2014 at 9:33 am #

        Thank you so much for your words of encouragement ;) It is wonderful to meet you also ! One of the things I miss is female fellowship, so I am thankful that my LORD lead me to your blog…
        My husband was born on the mission field in PNG and was called to be a missionary when he was 20…
        I met him when I was only 13 Yrs old and he was 20 , so I just had a girly crush ;) and the last time I saw him I was 16 and he was 23, he was going to the mission field in PNG and we ran into each other whilst he was on his way to the airport , he ask me to marry him and go with, however I was too young and so I stayed behind, but I never forgot him..I never saw him again for 25 yrs, and I was looking !! we were reunited in april 2010, we were married 6 mts later and 2 weeks later I was in Africa …a yr after that we spent 100 days in the jungle of Papua New Guina and I hiked to villages that a white woman had never been to ;) Its been a real adventure…
        I know that if we wait on the LORD, HIS plan for us is better than anything we can even imagine on our own…Be still and wait on the LORD…

        Your Sister in CHRIST,
        Sherry

        • peacefulwife
          January 3, 2014 at 9:45 am #

          Geogypsy68,

          WOW!
          That is an amazing story. 25 years apart!??

          I can’t wait to hear more about your marriage and your life. May God richly bless your walk with Him! You are most welcome here, my new friend! :) We will walk this road together.

      • geogypsy68
        January 3, 2014 at 9:45 am #

        WOW, I just read your home page about yourself , very touching…it brought tears to my eyes, thank you for sharing…

  18. Joycelyn Mckay
    March 12, 2014 at 12:31 pm #

    I love your site and agree with you totally! I too wear skirts because it is what my church teach abd what I believe is pleasing to god.PRAISE THE LORD!

  19. Michelle
    April 2, 2014 at 12:36 pm #

    What a beautiful, encouraging story. Thank you for sharing.

    • peacefulwife
      April 2, 2014 at 1:10 pm #

      Michelle,
      You are most welcome. it is great to meet you! :)

  20. krystlew3
    April 18, 2014 at 7:17 am #

    I just wanted to share because I know you like to get other hubby’s opinions, when I dress up for any occasion besides church the reaction I get is, “Do I need to put on something nicer?” from my hubby lol.
    We are both jeans & tshirt people & I have asked him several times over the past few years if he would like me to wear something besides jeans and tshirts for him, and his response is always, “do you want me to wear something besides jeans and tshirts?” So that’s my hubby’s opinion :)

    • peacefulwife
      April 18, 2014 at 8:49 am #

      Krystlew3,
      Thanks for sharing! Yes, different husbands have different preferences. :)

  21. Victoria
    May 18, 2014 at 4:47 pm #

    I love your hair, the way you dress, your views on modesty, everything! I’m very with you.

    • peacefulwife
      May 18, 2014 at 9:25 pm #

      Thanks, Victoria! I feel so much more feminine than I ever did in my life. I love it!

  22. ~Haley*
    July 19, 2014 at 11:20 pm #

    I love this post! I have been struggling with the thoughts of “skirts all the time”, for a few weeks now! It finally clicked! Thanks so much!

    • peacefulwife
      July 21, 2014 at 8:04 am #

      Haley,

      Aw! That is my little girl’s name. :)

      You are most welcome! Glad it was a blessing.

  23. ~Haley*
    July 19, 2014 at 11:21 pm #

    Reblogged this on Distracted Pastor's Wife Being Called Momma.

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