A Real Life Example of Respect and Submission

The pictures are actually from our trip to Myrtle Beach last summer when this story happened!

Ladies,

Here is a real life, super practical example of a situation last summer. We were leaving that morning for the beach to have a few days of vacation – my husband, our two children and myself. That morning our mini-van battery died. My husband – being the handy guy he is – jumped the van off, and got it going. I thanked him enthusiastically and suggested, respectfully and with a smile, “We have time to go by the Advanced Auto Parts Store if you want to, Honey.” He said, “No, I think we’ll be fine”- he thought the battery just got run down from having the car doors open for a long time while we were packing the car, possibly, and didn’t want to waste time fooling with the battery unnecessarily.

(Let me say here – a few years ago, I would have INSISTED that we go get a new battery. I would have DEMANDED that we replace the battery – NOW. And I would have worried constantly if he didn’t replace it.)

Well, I decided to respect my husband’s decision as the leader of the family and said politely, “Ok, whatever you think!” And I read my book and seriously didn’t worry about it.  (This is the kind of peace God has given me daily for over two years now. By the time this incident happened, trusting God and my husband and respecting them was a normal, every day thing. It was not a struggle at all by this time.  My mind and spirit had been renewed already.)

THE PLOT THICKENS

We got to the condo at the beach and my husband parked head-first in a spot in the parking garage. When he tried to crank up the van later – the battery was dead. A few years ago – I am sure I would have berated him with an “I told you to replace that battery!” lecture and a lot of attitude. But I had learned to respect my husband, so I didn’t say anything nasty. I didn’t even think anything nasty or hateful. I was totally calm and at peace. There were cars on both sides of us without owners. And there was a big island in front of our car that was probably 8 ft wide. I smiled at my husband in a pleasant way with an “I know you’ve got this covered” look and kept the kids quiet while he decided what to do. And I think I read my book some more.

AN ANGEL APPEARED!

Within a few minutes, a man came over and asked my husband if we needed a jump. He had bought extra long 12 ft jumper cables a few weeks earlier and his wife had ridiculed him for bringing them on their trip. But he insisted on bringing them “just in case.” (I’m SO glad he didn’t listen to his wife!) He was our personal angel sent from God at exactly the right moment! WOW! He wasn’t wearing a shining white robe, but I think I may have seen a bit of a halo at one point! :)

He jumped our van and my husband thanked him and went right to Wal-Mart and got a battery and replaced the old battery. I was peaceful, respectful, calm and not worried the whole time. I was not angry. I was not resentful. I knew that God and my husband had things under control and there was no reason to get upset or worry. It was not a big deal. No one was in danger at any point. My husband is a super capable, intelligent, responsible man and I believed he had things under control. And he did! I read my book. I enjoyed listening to the children play. I kept them from bothering their Daddy while he worked. I gave them some Oreos. And before long, the battery was replaced, my husband was my hero, I thanked him for taking care of the problem and we had a wonderful evening at the beach!

DO YOU SEE HOW MUCH POWER I HAD HERE? PLEASE DON’T MISS THIS!

I COULD have disrespected my husband. I could have tried to take over. I could have arrogantly told him what to do. I could have barked out orders at him. I could have fumed or pouted. I could have gotten really angry at him and created a LOT of tension between us and ruined our trip. I might have done at least some of those things in the past when I felt like everything depended solely on me.

But when God’s Spirit is in control of my heart, God can use things for my good and to show me His provision and even miracles. I would have missed out seeing God send us an angel if I would have insisted on my way – AND I would have missed out on intimacy with my husband. AND I would have set a horrible example for our children about marriage AND I could have spoiled our vacation – as much of it as I wanted to. That is how much power I have with my choices and attitudes.

WOW!

God has ways of bringing people and circumstances into our lives that we can’t predict when we are obeying Him and living by faith. Little or big miracles are waiting for those who trust Him.

What a blessing to see God provide in ways I couldn’t have imagined. And what an incredible gift to have God’s peace and to maintain intimacy, respect and connection with my husband throughout that situation that would have created a big conflict years ago. I learned quite a valuable lesson that day about the rewards of trusting God and respecting my husband.

I wonder what miracles I used to miss?

Lord,

Thank You that You take care of us when we obey You. Thank You that even if our husbands make mistakes, You can use them as a showcase of Your power, sovereignty and glory! Thank You for Your wise words to husbands and wives. Thank You for Your beautiful design for marriage. Use each of us to bring great honor and glory to Your Name in our lives and our marriages!

Amen.

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11 Comments on “A Real Life Example of Respect and Submission”

  1. DM
    July 2, 2012 at 7:58 am #

    that is not easy stuff you’re talking about…you’re talking about heart change. it’s one thing to keep quiet and bite your tongue, it’s a whole new level to not get “agitated” on the inside…I’m not telling you anything you don’t know ;-) just wanted to tell you I am encouraged. DM

    • peacefulwife
      July 2, 2012 at 8:23 am #

      DM,
      You are EXACTLY right! This is radical stuff. What I am advocating is to dig down and examine the very foundation of our faith, the beliefs we are actually living by, exposing every idol and falsehood and tearing all of that out and completely rebuilding on the pure foundation of Christ. I’m talking about living with Christ as Lord. It is extremely difficult, impossible, really, for us to accomplish this on our own. We must confess every single sin and be empowered by God’s Spirit and willing to obey Him and accept His will no matter what the consequences. Totally sold out and a slave to Christ.
      That is the only way I know how to be able to genuinely respect and follow my husband – I have to be able to first genuinely follow Christ and submit to Him!
      Great comment! Thanks for sharing!

  2. cleansedbygod
    July 2, 2012 at 11:55 am #

    Thank you very much for this. This was something which I needed to hear today. It reminded me of something yesterday that happened. I pray that I will practice it today and as long as I shall live.

    • peacefulwife
      July 2, 2012 at 12:08 pm #

      Cleansed by God,
      You are more than welcome! I pray God might be greatly glorified!

  3. Sis
    July 2, 2012 at 12:32 pm #

    Great story! I love how God has given you peace, it is reassuring to hear.

    • peacefulwife
      July 2, 2012 at 12:34 pm #

      Sis,
      I did NOT have that kind of peace until I began truly trusting God and obeying Him. I pray that others might see that they can have this same peace from God, too! Thanks for the encouragement!

  4. Denise N. Fyffe, Administrator
    July 2, 2012 at 6:35 pm #

    Reblogged this on Revealing The Christian Life and commented:
    Ladies,

    Here is a real life, super practical example of a situation last summer. We were leaving that morning for the beach to have a few days of vacation – my husband, our two children and myself. That morning our mini-van battery died. My husband – being the handy guy he is – jumped the van off, and got it going. I thanked him enthusiastically and suggested, respectfully and with a smile, “We have time to go by the Advanced Auto Parts Store if you want to, Honey.” He said, “No, I think we’ll be fine”- he thought the battery just got run down from having the car doors open for a long time while we were packing the car, possibly, and didn’t want to waste time fooling with the battery unnecessarily.

    (Let me say here – a few years ago, I would have INSISTED that we go get a new battery. I would have DEMANDED that we replace the battery – NOW. And I would have worried constantly if he didn’t replace it.)

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