We can learn to be thankful for the rain and see the beauty even in a storm. Without storms and rainy, cloudy days, we would be living in a desert!
(From Rev. Harold Weaver’s marriage class, “7 Basic Needs of a Wife, 7 Basic Needs of a Husband” – posted with his permission.)
VI. A HUSBAND NEEDS A WIFE WHO IS GRATEFUL FOR ALL HE HAS DONE AND IS DOING FOR HER.
Developing gratefulness is an important Christlike characteristic for everyone to acquire.
- We can never learn how to be properly grateful until we are able and willing to exchange our personal expectations for God’s expectations for us. Ps 62:5 “My son wait in silence for God only, for my hope is from Him.” A wife’s gratitude makes a husband feel successful at his greatest responsibility of supporting his family.
- Personal expectations can destroy gratefulness because when we receive something, it is usually less or different from what we expected to receive. Sacrifice your personal expectations to God! IF there are no expectations, then there is no disappointment!
- Gratefulness results in contentment; which is a positive witness to the world of a wife’s happiness and acceptance of her husband’s provision. I Timothy 6:6 “godliness with contentment is great gain.” Contentment is a byproduct of godliness and relationship with God.
- To gain contentment regardless of our circumstances is godly. This can be aided in two important ways as stated in Colossians 3:1-2 and Philippians 3:7-8.
- Gratefulness can also be increased when we realize that God can use all things for our good (Romans 8:28-20). Therefore, a wife can be grateful for things that she might otherwise become discouraged over. Rest and accept the sovereignty of God where you are.
- Gratefulness can be most effectively developed when you learn to acquire a spirit of gratefulness and not just express gratefulness for individual situations. All things are loss compared to the value of knowing Christ! I gladly lose them all for the sake of gaining more of Christ (Paul) When we give God what we have, He gives us what He has! The world calls resignation “contentment” but it is of the flesh, “I’m going to be content if it kills me!” Be sure you have the right treasure and that you are focused on that treasure (in heaven).
A wife’s gratitude and lack of pressure on her husband gives him the freedom to pursue his interests as he feels led.
A wife’s gratitude increases when she understands her husband’s priorities. Wives and husbands will have different priorities, duties, responsibilities and perspectives, that is how it SHOULD be!
A wise leader will give a list of his issues and list them in order of priority so that those who follow his leadership will know what the biggest priorities are – whether that is in a meeting in a bank or a husband with a wife.
We also exalt in our tribulations. Tribulations >> perseverance >> proven character >> hope (Romans 5:3)
Look for good even in difficult situations! Don’t rush to get away from the lessons God has for you in tribulations.
Develop a matrix of gratitude to interpret and filter all life events, then you will be better able to see good coming from seemingly negative circumstances.