The “Welcome Home” Plan

If you are usually home before your husband gets home, you have an incredible opportunity to bless your husband greatly every day after work.

Here’s the plan…

  • Make time each day to do 1-2 things that make you insanely happy to boost your mood and make you as joyful, content, well-cared for and wonderful as possible. ( Have lunch with a girl friend, exercise, organize a room, visit shut ins at a nursing home, spend time praying and praising God, sing praise songs at the top of your voice, slow down and savor a moment with your sweet children, take a nap, talk with a great girl friend, paint, write, play the piano, go for a walk, etc…)
  • Spend a little time making yourself look decent in a way you know your husband will appreciate.  Give your best to your man – not just sloppy sweats, pony tail and no make-up.  He doesn’t deserve scraps. Your attention to your appearance speaks of respect for yourself and for your husband.  He appreciates a little dolling up.  I’m not saying you need to be a beauty queen, but just some effort into your appearance and some feminine, beautiful clothes would be a great idea!
  • Try to clean up the main living space of the house (perfection is probably not necessary, but a bit of maintenance will be appreciated)
  • Have supper cooking and about ready if you know when he’ll be coming home – IF you know he likes supper at a certain time or likes to eat right away when he gets home. If he prefers to have about 30 minutes to himself to just unwind after work, then allow him that time and plan for supper to be ready 30 minutes after he gets home.
  • Have the children clean up their stuff and have them working on something quietly if possible. Instruct them that when Dad walks in the door, they are to smile at Dad and cheerfully say, “Welcome home, Dad!!!” They can even run and give him a hug, too!
  • Be thinking of all of your husband’s positive qualities throughout the day and thanking God for him.
  • If it’s dark outside when your husband comes home, have the porch light on for him.



  • Stop whatever you are doing!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! (safely, of course!)
  • Smile your biggest smile at your husband and look into his eyes. Treat him like he is THE MOST IMPORTANT MAN ON THE PLANET TO YOU!
  • Tell him at least one of the following things with sincere enthusiasm – “Welcome Home, Honey!!!” “I’m SO glad to see you!” “I’ve missed you!”
  • Give him a real, full-body hug like you mean it.
  • Give him a REAL kiss – not a peck. Aim for 5-10 seconds of actual lip-kissing minimum!!! Do not skimp here!

Then – get to know what your husband prefers. Some suggestions:

  • He might appreciate a glass of Coke/tea/water or something, especially if it’s hot outside.
  • Give him some time alone if he would like that, and tell the children not to bother him during that time and to keep the noise level down.
  • Offer him a shoulder rub or foot rub if you really want some extra points.
  • Thank him for going to work every day to provide so well for your family.
  • He may appreciate having your undivided attention for 10-15 minutes so he can talk with you about his day before supper.  (Send the kids out of the room for this!)  Some husbands are ok with doing this later. But when you are listening – give him all of your attention, look at his eyes. Don’t offer advice!!!!! Listen and let him know you hear him. Be supportive. Smile! Praise any quality in him that you admire as he is talking.
  • Make some of his favorite meals fairly often.
  • Keep snacks and drinks he likes on hand.
  • Be thoughtful of his preferences, feelings and opinions.
  • REALLY listen to him when he asks you to do something and make it a priority.

Some women may come home after their husbands. You can still bless your husband greatly by going to him as soon as you get home, smiling brightly at him, telling him “I am SO glad to see you!!!!” “I missed you!” And you can still give him the full-body hug and a real kiss and let him know that being with you is the best place in the world! Why on earth would he want to be anywhere but here in your arms?

So, I know some of you are thinking, “Why should I have to be the one to go to all this trouble? Why can’t HE do this for me?” Well… as wives we are designed by God to be our husbands’ helper. We are made to brighten their lives, ease their pain, add civility, beauty, companionship, friendship and harmony to their world. If you are not happy with the emotional/spiritual/physical intimacy level of your marriage, I have some great news for you!  YOU, precious wife, are the one with the power to get your marriage to the place where you want it to be! But, not to worry!! When your husband sees you treat him like this day after day, he will eventually discover that home is his favorite place to be! Your marriage cannot help but improve when you are careful to treat your husband like he is valuable, and like he is God’s gift to you – and he IS God’s gift to you! He will become a better husband as you become a better wife!  And you will have peace and joy before God knowing that You are honoring Him as a godly wife. 

The way you welcome him when you first see each other after work sets the tone for the rest of the evening. It is the WIFE who really has the power to set the emotional temperature and tone for the whole family. Your smile, acceptance, welcome, receptivity and pleasant facial expression and voice determine the feelings of everyone in the family!  Please use your power to build up your husband and children! You can use your power to be negative, critical, sarcastic, and nasty and you can destroy the souls of your loved ones. Or you can use your words and emotions and verbal talents to affirm, encourage, love, respect and welcome your husband and children. It seems simple, and it is. It works. This welcome home routine helps you build a healthy pattern for your marriage and your family. I pray that you might give it a try and be a wise woman who builds her house!!

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6 Comments on “The “Welcome Home” Plan”

  1. Daniel P. Robertson
    March 15, 2012 at 5:08 pm #

    This is a sure way to make your man feel like a king!

    Ladies, I know it might not seem fair for you to do all of this. Sometimes, it will seem impossible given everthing you have to do throughout the day, especially if you have little ones running around and clinging to your legs all day!

    But what I can say is that if you do this, he will reciprocate in kind by showing your more love and affection (99% of men, anyway).

  2. Dianne
    November 8, 2014 at 8:13 am #

    This is wonderful advice. Thank you. I am not married yet,but I cannot wait to honour my future husband. We women are our man’s glory, therefore it would only be fitting to honour him in the ways described above :)

  3. ochokandelikas
    January 2, 2015 at 9:01 am #

    You have two kids. You probably send them off to school and do all your chores and have your fulfilling part-time career. You have no idea what it’s like to have 8 kids, homeschool all of them, except the oldest which is in college, and have to clean and cook. I also help my husband with his work when he needs me to. And he has the nerve to send me a link to this article because I didn’t have his dinner on time last night. I do everything I can… Even give him sex 2-3 times a week. Whenever he wants. Yet, I’m not good enough. I’m a crappy wife. I have tried doing all these things and he has the nerve to send me this. I can you imagine if I sent him something like this on how to be a peaceful husband? im not a controlling wife like you. I never have been. I know how controlling women destroy men. I saw it growing up. And I have to be directed to your site to read this? Unbelievable! What else do I have to do to satisfy this man?

    • Peacefulwife
      January 2, 2015 at 10:00 am #


      It is a pleasure to meet you!

      I understand why you are making assumptions about my life – even though they are not all true. I can also appreciate that you have a LOT on your plate right now. And you are right that I don’t have experience with homeschooling or having 8 kids. That would be quite a bit to handle.

      The truth is that I would love to homeschool my kids and not work at all outside the home. My part time career is not “fulfilling” in my mind. In fact, I have been praying for years about being able to quit pharmacy for a variety of reasons. My husband desires me to work part time – so I do. My husband does not want me to homeschool my kids – so we send them to public school because that is what he believes is best. If we could have had more children, I would have loved to have more children – but we are unable to. I would love to adopt children. My husband is not interested in adoption at this time. I am trusting God with that. I accept that my situation is in God’s hands, and I am content if this is His will for me at this time. I am very thankful to get to be with the children we do have as much as I am and I am so thankful for my husband.

      I’m really sorry that you feel like your husband doesn’t think you are good enough because you didn’t have supper ready on time. My husband is pretty laid back and doesn’t get upset about things like that. I can understand that if a husband sends a wife a post like this, it would probably not be well-received.

      I’m glad to hear that you are not controlling. That is awesome!

      Would you like to talk about what is going on a bit more? I am so sorry that you are hurting right now.

      Much love to you! Sending you a huge hug!

      • Peacefulwife
        January 2, 2015 at 10:36 am #


        Perhaps your husband doesn’t feel that you are a “failure as a wife,” but is just simply asking for things to change a bit around supper time? Perhaps he is just saying that something like this might bless him and make him feel extra loved and appreciated? I wonder if that might be possible?

      • Peacefulwife
        January 11, 2015 at 8:40 pm #


        I hope you are feeling better!

        I also hope your family, homeschooling and marriage as well as your relationship with God are fulfilling. Those seem like the most rewarding things in the world to me. :)

        Where I find my fulfillment is Christ primarily – but also my family, marriage, and ministry.

        Much love to you!

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